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[ - ] I'm a fairly anxious person. I don't worry about money, jobs, the future, but I do worry about the safety of my loved one, esp my kids. I've been more open about it recently and it seems like every mother I mention it to tells me they are on prescription anxiety medication. These are people I've never thought of as anxious. Is this extremely common? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:13 AM Flag
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Yes very much. We own a chain of pharmacies and we dispense more anti-anxiety meds to women. Very common and nothing to be ashamed about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:16 AM Flag
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I guess I don’t want to judge - if they really need it, by all means. But I work really hard to keep my anxiety and just general messy human-ness in check (meditation, journaling, exercise, eating clean— all things I don’t necessarily want to do when I wake up in the AM but that I know are key to keeping me grounded/mentally healthy) and I get annoyed when “so many people” just pop a pill... what percentage would you say? Why do so many of us need to take drugs just to feel at peace / normal? Why don’t we work on changing the root cause, which is all this rampant materialism/ achieve”ism” culture that doesn’t honor “less going/ more being”. Whatever, I’m just venting... my dh is a high anxiety “doer/achiever” and tries to shame me for my behavior [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:35 AM Flag
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^ less doing / more being [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:36 AM Flag
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Excercise is a great outlet to help anxiety but sometimes it does not help everything for some. There is a genetic component as well. Quite often those who suffer from anxiety will often say that other family members suffer from it as well or that they suffer from other conditions such as depression as well.. Some people have a prescription and seldom use it. Some patients take it to ease their mind so they can sleep better. There is no shame. Controls are monitored very closely by prescriber and pharmacist so that abuse can be detected easier, but that is not what you are referring to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:58 AM Flag
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OP here. It is interesting to find out that so many of my fellow moms are on anxiety meds. I've been open about my anxiety for a long time. It is hard not to be because it is really part of who I am as a mother. But for years I just got blank looks when I mentioned it. (Usually in a light way, "I'm a bit of a worrier...") Now suddenly all these people who never mentioned anxiety are telling me that they are on meds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 11:02 AM Flag
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Overprescribing is wrong but glad you pharmacy owners are making a good living. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 05:45 AM Flag
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I don’t have the balls to talk about openly.. silently suffering here! Can you pls recommend one or two of the medications? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:41 AM Flag
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Each person reacts differently to each medication. You may have to try out a few before you find the right fit. This should be discussed with your MD. Some commonly prescribed Benzodiazepines are Alprazolam (Xanax) and Lorazepam (Ativan) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:51 AM Flag
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np--Benzodiazepines are associated with an increased risk of Alzheimer's. Talk to your doctor, not a stranger on an internet chat board. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 07:03 AM Flag
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[ - ] My older brother is dying of cancer and I am helping my sil care for him and I'm just so sad that he won't see his DD marry and have children, that he and I never travelled alone together, and that his death marks what likely will be the beginning of my 8 siblings passing away (though of course I could die, I am much younger than them). Prolonged deaths are so undignified. I am sorry that he has to live through us helping him wuth the most basic tasks. I am sorry for his pain. I am just sorry. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:04 AM Flag
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I am so sorry for you and your family. I can only imagine how hard it all is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:10 AM Flag
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You are a good person and a nice sister. He is lucky to have you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:11 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:23 AM Flag
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Living through this is such anguish for all. So sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:16 AM Flag
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This made me cry. I am so sorry for you and your BIL and SIL. I helped my Mom as my Dad died of cancer and it is so hard to see them decline slowly and painfully. It is so wonderful that you can help your SIL and I hope you all find peace in the coming days. Big hug [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:48 AM Flag
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I remember you from posting over the weekend. I’m sorry you and your family are going through this painful time. I hope you and your siblings and SIL are able to stay close and help DD feel incredibly loved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 04:46 AM Flag
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His DD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 04:46 AM Flag
[ - ] Where can I get a Golden Retreiver puppy that is not from a puppy mill and doesn't cost a ton of money. I don't care if it's pure bread, but I'd prefer a puppy to full grown. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 02:58 AM Flag
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If it's not purebred, then it's not a Golden Retriever, it's a mix or a mutt. I don't know if what you want exists, because typically if someone is breeding their Golden, they are going to get the going rate for puppies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:45 AM Flag
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It isn't possible. There are some full grown retrievers that you can find at specific breed rescues but they are usually give up because of behavioral issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:49 AM Flag
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You go to a respectable breeder. Plenty of those [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 04:01 AM Flag
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Look for rescue of this breed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 10:03 AM Flag
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Mennings in MN. They are scale breeders and do most breeds. Not a puppy mill in that they are open to the public, licensed by the state and have an on-site veterinary clinic, grooming, dental. If you're philosophically opposed to the idea, perhaps not for you, but their dogs are healthy and not abused. They ship across the US. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 11:57 AM Flag
[ - ] Tonight is the third time this summer that my bedroom has been full of bugs when I go to bed. I can't figure out where they are coming from--they are way too big to fit through screens and I closed all of the windows anyway. This only happens when DH is in the city and I know he thinks I'm nuts but I just found a cricket in my bed! We've never had this problem before and it's making me feel a little crazy. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 02:54 AM Flag
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through the vents? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:04 AM Flag
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Where is your DH coming from? Maybe they are hopping into his suitcase or maybe he leaves windows or doors open [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:50 AM Flag
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No, these are big fat country beetles and crickets and moths that are somehow getting into my bedroom. They only come out at night and I don't see them anywhere else, even in rooms with the lights on. I'm guessing there's a loose screen somewhere but I've checked everything. It's just weird that they only show up when I'm alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 11:14 AM Flag
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Does your dh leave lights on make noise etc and you don’t? I would think about what changes when you are alone (obviously it’s quieter). Does he lie in bed before bed? If you can’t figure that out and test run him not doing those things then I don’t know what else to say other than he is oblivious to bugs and doesn’t notice or he is effing with you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 11:37 AM Flag
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I've tried to be really careful and open the same windows, turn on the same lights, etc. I don't think that's he messing with me. I honestly don't see the insects when he's home. And I'm not hallucinating--this morning I found all of the bugs I squashed last night. I was so freaked out last night that I looked up bugs as a sign of haunting. (Which I know is totally ridiculous!) I'm going to vacuum all of the windows and check all of the storms and screes today and hope for more restful night tonight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 12:08 PM Flag
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You're being gaslighted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 05:48 AM Flag
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Full? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 11:38 AM Flag
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I killed a cricket, 3 moths, and a dozen brown beetles the size of a jelly bean. I didn't bother with the countless smaller things buzzing around the lamp. Just the big ones that landed on me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 12:10 PM Flag
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The first time it happened I moved to the guest room after killing 40+ beetles. I just couldn't deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 12:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Do your friends/acquaintances ask you to ask your DH for favors? Someone I know (not a friend) asked me to request a relatively big favor from my DH. DH and she barely know each other, they maybe exchanged 5 words over the years. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 02:51 AM Flag
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Ew, no. she is rude and I would respond, "Sorry, I don't ask my husband to do favors for acquaintances." Others may have more gracious ways to get the same message across but personally, I would be offended by the ask and have no problem responding in kind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 02:55 AM Flag
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Yes, and also family (nieces, nephews). DH works in corporate for a major hotel chain and I feel like I don't hear from some people until they want to plan their vacation. .. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 02:56 AM Flag
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I would say sorry they are really cracking down on discount or free rooms for family or friends. Done . Youdont owe her anything else. Or just lie and say I asked he couldn't help [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:51 AM Flag
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Wow what type of favor? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:17 AM Flag
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Ballsy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:38 AM Flag
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What did you tell her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:38 AM Flag
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I volunteer my dh to help friends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 11:37 AM Flag
[ - ] West elm calls this color “acorn.” Are there any other words you would use? It surprisingly hard to find acorn wood elsewhere. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 02:24 AM Flag
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acorn is a nut not wood, so you won't find it. That color looks like wood of a fruit tree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 02:27 AM Flag
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That looks like what is called “maple” in vintage MCM furniture. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 02:34 AM Flag
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acorns come from oak trees [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 02:38 AM Flag
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It's a color. Likely cheap pine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 03:30 AM Flag
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From the West Elm site: It is kiln-dried solid eucalyptus wood and engineered wood with an Acacia wood veneer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.19, 11:05 AM Flag
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