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[ - ] Have been looking at country homes in NY state. I am concerned that the travel time is too long from NYC and also it may be a little too much isolation. Anyone have thoughts on a suburban home on an acre or two instead? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:19 PM Flag
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I'd rather drive four hours for a weekend away than commute one hour twice a day. [ Reply | More ]
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We live in NYC, we are just looking for a weekend get a way. [ Reply | More ]
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it's getaway [ Reply | More ]
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Where are you looking now? [ Reply | More ]
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You're not from NY, are you?! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] if you are not connected or an alum, what are your chances for St Anns? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:13 PM Flag
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Is this for K? I am interested too. [ Reply | More ]
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all of it. nursery / K etc. I love the place, my child is a natural fit. But I dont have anyone we could call .. [ Reply | More ]
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Isn't it a weird school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Not a troll. My dd has an annual banquet for her sport where they give out awards, etc. Every year I offer to buy the tickets for another mom & daughter to take my daughter. Tickets are $55 but it's worth it to me because those things are like 3-4 hours of absolute torture, the other mom & daughter would be going anyway, and we only live a few miles away. I'm in my mid-50s if it matters and I've just checked out of doing all the things I don't want to do anymore. If it helps, they're not mother-daughter bonding experiences - mostly the girls hang out with each other and the moms are all left to talk and not get drunk, because we all have to drive the hour back home. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:09 PM Flag
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is there a question in here somewhere? sounds like a good plan to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:11 PM Flag
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How old is your DD? [ Reply | More ]
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12 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:17 PM Flag
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So can't you just drop her off and pick her up? Why does she need a chaperone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:20 PM Flag
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Does your daughter care? Totally not my style but you do you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:14 PM Flag
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She doesn't care that much. I think sometimes she likes that I'm not there. She tells me about the things she wants me to go to. BTW in return she also gets to not go to all the things she doesn't have to necessarily go to. Like my SIL's 98 year old grandmother who just passed in the nursing home. I'm not making her go to the wake or the funeral. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:18 PM Flag
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How does DD feel about you not being there but paying someone else to take her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:14 PM Flag
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I 100% believe this mom wont have a relationship with her dd when she's an adult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:16 PM Flag
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I'm op. That's almost not optional since my dd is SN and might not ever live independently. We'll see. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:19 PM Flag
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This sounds weird to me (not like you are a bad mom but like there is some kind of depression or social anxiety that you are not addressing) but I can't pretend to know what the relationship with your dd is like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:21 PM Flag
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OK tell the truth - you're describing someone you know, right? Like your SIL or some neighbor you aren't crazy about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:22 PM Flag
[ - ] My 9 yo is going to a birthday party for one of his closest friends. It's a joint party with his brother, who is 2 yrs younger. I really like the mom and our boys adore each other. Do I need to get a small gift for younger brother in addition to one for friend? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:04 PM Flag
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Sure. Why not? Can be something small like Pokemon Cards, a few Lego mini figures, something like that. But, yes, that would be nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:06 PM Flag
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I would [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:11 PM Flag
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I don’t think so. I have been to a few joint birthday parties and never even knew they were joint birthday parties until I got there. The younger dc will already be getting plenty of his own gifts. I know you like the mom, but I’ve never met any mom who thinks, “wow, my dc really could have used more bday gifts!” Seems like the problem is always too many gifts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:14 PM Flag
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op - you are so right but, of course, now I feel compelled and am running out to get something. Party is tonight. ugh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:16 PM Flag
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I would. Definitely [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Know of anyone who had a bad case of food poisoning, recovered in ~ 24 hours, then became lactose intolerant? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:57 PM Flag
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I had bad stom virus and it took almost a year of cutting certain things from my diet (coffee, etc) for it feel 100% [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:08 PM Flag
[ - ] What's the point of these women's marches? Serious question. Why "women's"? Is trump particularly anti-women? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:54 PM Flag
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If they were serious, they would have march when Weinstein was busted [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:56 PM Flag
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Trump loves women including that comically big breasted porn star [ Reply | More ]
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how can a 'pussy' be a symbol of strength & defiance? did girls think this thru? it's literally a soft, yielding, defenseless, vulnerable hole that is designed to be penetrated brutally by the appendages of the opposite sex. it's also malodorous and disease prone, and just generally pathetic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:56 PM Flag
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Hi Jared! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:00 PM Flag
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yikes....self-hating woman, or misogynistic man? [ Reply | More ]
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lol! best description of a vagina I've ever heard [ Reply | More ]
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The call that saved urbanbaby http://i.imgur.com/6TcIqL1.jpg [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:58 PM Flag
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OP: I am honestly asking. I am a liberal. I just don't understand them. If it's against trump in general ( which I agree with), why "women's"? If it's about Trump's personal misogyny, should have happened during Clinton too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:59 PM Flag
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OP: uhm. Ok thanks. Point? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:07 PM Flag
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Why is the Women's "March" in January? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:01 PM Flag
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Because it was the day after the Inauguration last year, which is in January. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:07 PM Flag
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The March has something to do with Trump? He doesn't seem to know (source: @realDonaldTrump): Beautiful weather all over our great country, a perfect day for all Women to March. Get out there now to celebrate the historic milestones and unprecedented economic success and wealth creation that has taken place over the last 12 months. Lowest female unemployment in 18 years! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:08 PM Flag
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Looks like RUSSIAN TROLLS are mad about US marches. LOL [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I am American and I am a liberal and a democrat. I am confused about the point of the marches and why they arefor women specifically. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:16 PM Flag
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Sort of agree. I’m all for the marches but Trump (as awful as he is) hasn’t imposed any laws that would hurt women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:16 PM Flag
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I am embarrassed by these marches. Pointless and whiny. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Feeling sick and will send husband out for chicken soup somewhere. Best place on UWS? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:51 PM Flag
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The call that saved urbanbaby http://i.imgur.com/6TcIqL1.jpg [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:53 PM Flag
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HI RUSSIAN TROLL FARM! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:06 PM Flag
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Two great President’s enjoying their burgers & fries! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone else here taken the plunge and had a conversation pit installed in their house/apt? I'm loving the conversations DH and I are having with our guests lately. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:48 PM Flag
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Is there something about your living/sitting room that isn’t conducive to having conversations? Also, I feel like it would hurt your resale value when the trend passes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:50 PM Flag
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The pit makes everyone feel like they're sitting on a lower level than the rest of the house, so they naturally become more talkative. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:52 PM Flag
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Huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:54 PM Flag
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Is it a privacy thing, then? Most of our best conversations take place around my kitchen island. My friends are normally pretty talkative, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:55 PM Flag
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Wtf is that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:51 PM Flag
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The call that saved urbanbaby http://i.imgur.com/6TcIqL1.jpg [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:53 PM Flag
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this makes sense to no one here. [ Reply | More ]
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You guys sound nerdy and dull. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:53 PM Flag
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We had a dropped living room. Loved it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:13 PM Flag
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Is that an east coast expression? I am from California and we call it a "sunken living room." I have never heard of a "dropped living room." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:17 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a friend with 2 non verbal autistic sons. She was crying happy tears today bc her 9 yo son articulated a consonant sound for the first time ever. I am so thrilled for her, but I just don’t know how one lets go of the bitterness and is able to still find joy in life when ones children will never live independently, etc. Is she just a dynamo of a person? Or is there something I can do to try to hone that in myself? I go to church, try to practice gratitude, etc but I still feel such envy of others, anger at bad things I have dealt with, etc 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:34 PM Flag
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you would be thrilled if it were you too. [but yes, regular gratitude practice should help you appreciate victories in your own world.] [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:38 PM Flag
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Some people are naturally laid-back and have good perspective and don't waste time wondering why other people may sometimes have more than them. However, I think almost anyone with a no-verbal 9 yo would be overcome with happiness if this happened. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:45 PM Flag
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Your friend's problems should put yours into perspective. Some people are just better at gratitude & happiness though. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow what a tough situation... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:47 PM Flag
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what she is doing that you are not is she is not comparing her son- or herself- to anyone else. His victory is his, not in comparison to anyone else. You need to judge yourself based on you, not others. Good goal- and good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:48 PM Flag
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Thank you. I think that the wisest saying is that “comparison is the thief of joy” but it sure is hard to abide by! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:52 PM Flag
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When you are thrown into a situation like this you probably find strengths you never had and it becomes the norm- your everyday life. If also imagine that moods go up and down. Isn’t there some crazy stat that 80%of marriages with a SN child ends in divorce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:55 PM Flag
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Yes. My brother actually has profound sn, but my parents also had two typical kids as well, which helped. It was extremely challenging for them nevertheless, and there were a lot of moments where my parents hated each other. They always worked through it, but divorce was the norm in the disability community [ Reply | More ]
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I was watching this one youtube vlogger dad who has a child with severe disabilities. Mom had a late-term undetected placental abruption and the baby didn't get oxygen. After a year + of vlogging he did this video that I watched this morning that tells the story of how the delivery and first years unfolded with all the problems their daughter had ... and in the end he says he even surprises himself when he realizes he probably wouldn't change anything because the whole experience has changed their whole family and everyone around them for the better. They are kinder, more grateful for the ordinary, and they wouldn't want things to have changed because they love her the way she is, because that's who she is. Here's the link but if you're click averse, the vlogger is Dan Seitz and the title of the video is HUDSYN'S STORY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z4TlB9xJdGk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:03 PM Flag
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I will check it out when I get home. Thanks. I know my parents would have given anything to be able to go back in time and to had a typical child, even though they adore my brother. I am amazed at people who maintain such a noble perspective [ Reply | More ]
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I don't know that it's noble. I have a SN daughter so I kind of regularly gravitate to these videos. I also have a beloved SIL and BIL who have an only who is physically healthy at 9 but who has autism to the point where he has a really hard time communicating. You can say Merry Christmas!+name to him but he won't notice you or respond. He does get very excited about toys. He got a big shark toy this past holiday at the big family gathering and he was obsessed with it the whole day, making it attack people, and when he got a reaction he would laugh his head off. It's not nobility so much as accepting the circumstances around you with grace and the ability to adjust, because it doesn't help anyone to stop and give up when your child depends on you that much more. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] lol, prankster drives Oscar Meyer 'wienermobile' into middle of 'women's march' 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:33 PM Flag
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You are easily amused. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:46 PM Flag
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Lmao [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:50 PM Flag
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Holy shit, I actually won that one year in a sweepstakes. You can rent it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:04 PM Flag
[ - ] do you know any women that had kids with a black men? How many are still in their kids lives? I know a few. Just looked them up. Not one even looks like they have any kind of contact at all with the man. Another weird thing I noticed was that all of the men seem to have dropped off of the face of the planet. No online presence at all. Where do these guys go? Wtf are they doing all day? Why do they seem completely content not being a part of their child's life? 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:25 PM Flag
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sounds like maybe those guys are in prison [ Reply | More ]
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I would believe this but I know people in prison. They have smart phones in those cells and are all over social media. [ Reply | More ]
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why do you know people in prison. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:33 PM Flag
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1+ [ Reply | More ]
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I'm Mexican. Some of my relatives are in gangs or got tied up with the wrong crowd. [ Reply | More ]
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lol. no you aren't. [ Reply | More ]
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hey you were just a white woman down below. what gives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:38 PM Flag
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You don't know how easy it is to go to prison these days. They were not heavy in the gangs but got snitched on for non violent drug crimes. Shame, really. [ Reply | More ]
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no I do not know how easy it is. [ Reply | More ]
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haha. you remind me of the land shark in the old SNL skit. "candy gram, ma'am." same voice too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:40 PM Flag
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that fact that you know guys in prison means you associating with not the most upstanding citizens. I do associate with upstanding people and I can't even begin to list all the great black dads I know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:37 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:40 PM Flag
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I know three that are either married or in stable long-term relationships with the guy. These are middle class families. Lower class men of all races run away. [ Reply | More ]
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Personally no but i am peripherally aware of lots of examples. The kids never look like mom and the dad is never in the picture [ Reply | More ]
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two from my high school. Both unmarried, father out of picture. One dropped out of college and now tends bar, one doesn't work (probably collects disability for being fat). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:27 PM Flag
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girl I went to high school with moved to Florida shortly after graduation and got knocked up by a spook. She had prole face but an amazing body, truly 9/10 ass. Has gone downhill significantly since birthing a half breed. She moved back up north after having the kid. Spook is nowhere to be seen on her social media, tthink he might be in jail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:28 PM Flag
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HI OP YOU FREAK [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:33 PM Flag
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spook? WTF- go on now and march your ignorance in a Trump rally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:38 PM Flag
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You are such a sad & racist troll. Your post are identifiable, you know.. good luck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:44 PM Flag
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If I had to guess, these may be the work of Jared S. Baumeister, our resident MRA troll. [ Reply | More ]
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Of course I know black men who are involved fathers. What an absurd assumption. It seems you are generalizing about an entire culture based on your limited few contacts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:33 PM Flag
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OP is sad race troll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:34 PM Flag
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Is this possibly the word of MRA/race troll Jared S. Baumeister? Attorney at Baumeister & Samuels PC: http://baumeisterlaw.com/Jared_Baumeister_bio.html Author for the Unz Report (race baiting site): http://www.unz.com/article/is-emma-sulkowicz-telling-the-truth-do-facts-matter/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:39 PM Flag
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What an ugly man, inside and out. [ Reply | More ]
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how does anyone find such drivel [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:49 PM Flag
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Ewww! Just gross. [ Reply | More ]
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I despise this loser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:52 PM Flag
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Obama seems to be an outstanding father. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:34 PM Flag
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He's not black. He's as white as he is black [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:56 PM Flag
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While that's true, he identifies as black because that's what we do in our society currently. I agree, it's completely stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:06 PM Flag
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Your comments are cringeworthy and racist. Think about your own life, not the lives of distant acquaintances. Maybe doing some volunteer work will get your mind off this. [ Reply | More ]
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But are they wrong? Black men do not often stick with their families. Show some data that suggests otherwise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:44 PM Flag
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Its a poverty thing, not a race thing. I think its best if YOU try going to an actual library- like at a college- and getting an education in factual research. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:50 PM Flag
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Nope. Run the data with fathers in the same income band but of different races. Black fathers of all income levels are less likely to marry or even live with the child than their white or Asian counterparts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:54 PM Flag
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I'm sorry you are friends with trash people. Birds of a feather..... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:37 PM Flag
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This is racist and absurd. I know many wonderful black husbands and fathers. I know several bad white husband’s and fathers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:37 PM Flag
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Yes I personally know three white women married to black men. All are married. All are first marriages. All the women, and the men,have graduate degrees. All live in manhattan. All have kids in TT, two are at Hunter. Of the men, two are radiologists earning over $400K, the third is an attorney. This is the most racist post I have seen for a while. You are a living POS. [ Reply | More ]
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The plural of anecdotes is not data. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:44 PM Flag
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and your posting above is ? [ Reply | More ]
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The op was specifically asking for anecdotes, not data [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:53 PM Flag
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Thank you, so much, for shutting OP down [ Reply | More ]
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This is a stereotype. Plenty of white men leave their families high and dry. The ones with money just have to pay afterwards, like our President. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:05 PM Flag
[ - ] DD in private K (not TT), loves school, doing well. We just had our second child and continuing private is going to be a stretch. Zoned school is mediocre but basically fine. Has anyone here pulled their kid out of private and transferred to public? I don’t want to ruin DD’s life, but we’d be less stressed if not paying for private. She’s a smart, anxious, and shy kid, if that makes a difference. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:21 PM Flag
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Apply for FA. You've had a change in circumstances and might qualify. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:22 PM Flag
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Op: already have FA. Still going to be a stretch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:25 PM Flag
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Move to a good public zone; keep DD in private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:48 PM Flag
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We are pulling ours out of TT in a higher elementary grade than yours. It will be fine and smart to do now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:19 PM Flag
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Uh, I would totally try to make private work. If she’s smart (and anxious) she needs a challenging environment with understanding teachers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:19 PM Flag
[ - ] How about Emily Blunt on cover of Vanity Fair? She used to be borderline homely. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:06 PM Flag
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I've never seen a picture of her where I'd say she was homely, but I think she's more of a handsome woman than a pretty one. She's still extremely attractive. I was impressed that I accepted her performance in Young Victoria even though she was completely physically wrong for the role. [ Reply | More ]
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she has always been gorgeous [ Reply | More ]
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IMO homely is a step up from what I've always thought of her - nondescript. She is someone I have selective face blindness for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:16 PM Flag
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NP: +1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:34 PM Flag
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NP: I have that same selective face blindness for Sienna Miller. I know that she's "attractive", but I can't remember what she looks like even when I'm looking right at a picture of her. Bryce Dallas Howard and Even Rachel Wood too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:36 PM Flag
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NP Same here, I can't remember what any of them look like, but I think Emily Blunt is beautiful. I remember what she looks like. She was beautiful in Devil Wears Prada even though she was made up to have so much eye make up and be evil looking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:14 PM Flag
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She's a knockout with the right makeup hair and clothes. She's plain old attractive most of the time. She's never been homely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:25 PM Flag
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NP: Strongly disagree. She's one of those women that the fashion magazines, etc have spent a lot of time telling us to believe that she is gorgeous. She's not. Or at least wasn't. She looks like an ostrich. That said, she's talented, funny, I'm sure she's kind, probably very intelligent. All of that should be enough. But somehow it's a crime if she isn't considered a great beauty? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:33 PM Flag
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but we all are knockouts with professional, hair, makeup and photo editing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:41 PM Flag
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Homely? Post your photo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:32 PM Flag
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Wasn’t she unattractive in Devil/Prada to contrast her Anne Hathaway’s beauty? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:34 PM Flag
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Did I just read Anne Hathaway and Beauty in the same sentence? Talk about homely... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:43 PM Flag
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She was beautiful in that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:17 PM Flag
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she's beautiful in real life. i see her in brooklyn occasionally and she looks gorgeous, especially with lighter hair. [ Reply | More ]
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I'd buy this. I'll bet she's beautiful in person. Especially considering she probably has the best hair and skincare, etc. Next to the average mom on the street she probably glows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you do a house addition considering the following facts? The house is just fine, but some additional space would be great. Right now 2500 sq ft, would add a second floor so all together it would be about 4500 to 5000 sq ft, which is the size of almost all newly built houses in the area. Construction cost would be about half the price per sq ft compared to purchasing a newly built house. So if we were to sell, we would make a profit. What do you think? 58 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:04 PM Flag
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I can't imagine needing more than 2,500 square feet. I wouldn't care that the neighbors all have 5,000. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:06 PM Flag
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The size is important when OP wants to sell her house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:10 PM Flag
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Doesn't seem worth the trauma of a big construction project. But then I'm never moving again, so I can't say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:13 PM Flag
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OP. I want to sell the house eventually and if I can sell it for $600 per sq ft, yet it will only cost $200 to build, I think it’s worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:27 PM Flag
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^ these numbers are just approximations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:27 PM Flag
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$200/sf is really inexpensive. I don't believe that number at all. We were looking at buying a house that wasn't finished on the inside. A divorce happened in the middle of it all and construction stopped. We were quoted at least $500+++/sf to finish the interior of the house, depending on finishes. Where is this house? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:46 PM Flag
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Not in NY or anywhere close. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:47 PM Flag
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^ and no one pays $500 per sq ft on construction and/or interior where I live. You could buy an entire house, completely new with top of the line finishes for $380 where I live and that includes the land, which itself would be $800k for 10,000 sq ft. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:49 PM Flag
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As I said, the numbers are approximations and $200 is the very high end. I could have it done for $100. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:50 PM Flag
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Neither was the house where we were quoted at least $500/sf for interior finishes only. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:50 PM Flag
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NP. If it wasn’t a high COL area, you were ripped off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:53 PM Flag
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We didn't buy the house, so we weren't ripped off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:56 PM Flag
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Well, I don’t know. Maybe the estimate was inaccurate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:57 PM Flag
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We got 4 estimates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:09 PM Flag
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Then it’s very different from where you live. Where I live, I can get a brand new house, plus the land it sits on, for $380 per sw ft. A d this would be a very beautiful and well done house, up to code and resilient. Maybe you live in a higher COL area? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:22 PM Flag
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NP. There was a mom on the other day who did a 4 bedroom, 3 bathroom second floor addition for $150k a few years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:52 PM Flag
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no. 2500 with awesome finishes and good layout is perfect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:06 PM Flag
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OP. We have family visiting often and for long stretches and they don’t have a place to sleep. Right now one DC has to vacate their bedroom for weeks at a time. Very annoying and unfair to DC. There is no garage, which is a problem too. Also, I would love to have room for a home gym, right now my spinning bike is in the kitchen. Speaking of the kitchen, it is very small. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:09 PM Flag
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Stop inviting people to move in with you for weeks at a time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:13 PM Flag
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oh. I wouldn't have family visiting for weeks at a time. home gym lol lady. construct away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:14 PM Flag
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NP. Cleaning lady in the house - calling others “lady”, lol! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:15 PM Flag
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whatever. cannot relate to someone who thinks a home gym is a reasonable thing to spend money on. I prefer my club [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:17 PM Flag
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If you can’t relate to other people, why even post here? Go enjoy your 650 sq ft apartment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:19 PM Flag
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I have a 3k sq foot house, would prefer it a bit smaller tbh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:20 PM Flag
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Right... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:23 PM Flag
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believe what you want. totally your right. I wouldn't lie about something so basic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:25 PM Flag
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a lot of Americans have a mini-Manor mentality. lord of their environment. spend away! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:26 PM Flag
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It would be a nightmare livijg through construction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:10 PM Flag
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That would only take 6 months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:11 PM Flag
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Second floor = attic renovation only? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:19 PM Flag
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There is no real attic right now. They would have to add a second floor. I know it’s possible but I am not sure whether it’s the best way to add space. The other option is to build out. I have a meeting scheduled with an architect next week - it took forever to book this appointment, and now I can’t make it there so DH has to go alone. I could have made all the other appointments that they rescheduled. I am curious to hear what their thoughts are though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:22 PM Flag
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You only have a 10,000 SF lot. You might not be able to build out. Depends on the building envelope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:12 PM Flag
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I never said I have a 10,000 sq ft lot. My lot is bigger. I was talking about the lots with new houses that are being sold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:15 PM Flag
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Again, it depends on the building envelope. This exists for every house, no matter the lot size. Sometimes you just can't build out due to restrictions. You'll find out as you do your research. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:22 PM Flag
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Can’t you just build a guest house? Sounds like a nightmare to live through. You’d have to rent an apartment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:23 PM Flag
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We can build an addition to the side, but it wouldn’t add that much space. As I posted above, we have an appointment next week and I am curious to hear her thoughts. 2500 is just a bit too small. While I don’t think we need 5000 sq ft, it’s not bad to have additional space. I don’t really know though 3500-4000 would suffice I guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:25 PM Flag
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You would have to remodel the entire lower floor as well. If you add 2500 on the top, you'd have to reconfigure the rooms on the ground floor so they are of a decent size. Larger kitchen, larger family room, etc. I assume you'd move the bedrooms upstairs, so the rooms that used to be the master bedroom and other bedrooms would become something else. This is a massive project and I would not get involved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:28 PM Flag
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OP. Yes, the downstairs floor plan would be reworked but only as far as it concerns the kitchen, laundry and dining rooms. I think the rest is ok the way it is. I would love the laundry room upstairs and enlarge the kitchen to include the former laundry room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:30 PM Flag
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You will always have a less desirable house than someone who built the house from the beginning knowing that it would be 5,000 sf in the end. Your bathrooms and closets would be too small, for example. You'd have weird, small rooms relative to a house that was planned properly from the get go. Nope. Wouldn't do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:32 PM Flag
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The bedrooms and bathrooms would be upstairs. The current house has an open floor plan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:35 PM Flag
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But there are walls for bedrooms and bathrooms, a living room, dining room laundry room, etc. on the ground floor. You would have to tear virtually every wall down on the ground floor and put in proper sized rooms when you move all of the bedrooms to the top floor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:37 PM Flag
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Most of them are sheetrock. Very few weight bearing walls. Those would stay of course. The house was renovated before we bought it and it has a modern feel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:41 PM Flag
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You seem hell-bent on doing this, so why even ask? Enjoy! Oh, and don't be surprised when the true cost is triple the estimate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:42 PM Flag
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I just think your concerns are not really an issue for me. The concerns I have are the statics of the house, the cost and the reward. Tearing down Sheetrock is easy, and the house already is kind of modern. Fwiw, i have heard of coat overruns but never of having the estimate triple. You don’t sound like you have given this any though or have any experience in this, which is ok, because I am just asking an anonymous board... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:46 PM Flag
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You sound bitchy. I'm collapsing this post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:51 PM Flag
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Houses with second stories added always end up looking like crap [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:30 PM Flag
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Not if you hire a good architect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:31 PM Flag
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My concern is that the estimate seems cheap. We have been involved in a lot of renovations and renovating often costs more than just doing something from scratch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:37 PM Flag
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^ for example, most recent, just to add a br, and reconfigure two existing beds and baths, multiple architects gave us quotes of 200k+ (and this is in flyover with cheaper costs). We ended up moving to a house that was 200k more and had the 4th br already, plus more updated main level [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:12 PM Flag
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Hmmm, I will have to wait and see what the architect says. We had a contractor/builder over who quoted us $180k to 300k depending on finishes. We’ll see! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:17 PM Flag
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For all those who say that a second floor addition always looks crappy, check this out: https://i.pinimg.com/originals/a8/9b/1d/a89b1d2fb8b513fc5cc51f56854f5672.jpg [ Reply | More ]
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Watch the current episodes of this old house.. next-gen house in Newton. Addition to the current house, permits show 500k budget [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:59 PM Flag
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OP. What channel is it on? A builder gave us an estimate of $180k-300, depending on finishes. I am curious to hear what the architect says. But from what i year from others, $500k seems unrealistically high. But I could be wrong, or so could the contractor be. Who knows, until I talk to the architect. The one good thing is that permits in my city are cheap and they let you do any design you want. In the city that starts a few blocks away from us permits are expensive, take forever, and they even have minute rules for fences. Go figure! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:06 PM Flag
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Adding a second floor is a nightmare. Just do an addition with guest room and bath, maybe a screen porch or library. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:13 PM Flag
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OP. Actually my aunt did this 10 years ago and she said it was hard but they continued to live in the house. It took 6 months. She’s very happy with the house now. Her DH is an architect though. I didn’t feel it was right to ask them how much they paid, but I know for sure that it wasn’t 500k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:18 PM Flag
[ - ] How much does a new in-house counsel make in NYC after spending 5 years or so at a biglaw firm? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 08:58 PM Flag
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About 250k. [ Reply | More ]
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all in or just salary? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:02 PM Flag
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NP: all-in. Step down from biglaw at same experience level. Could be higher in finance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:09 PM Flag
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No, not this. Lower salary than a fifth year for sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:20 PM Flag
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In house pays less [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:21 PM Flag
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200k all in [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:20 PM Flag
[ - ] I think opioids should be taken off the market. If it weren't for them we'd still have Tom Petty and Prince performing and making music. Not to mention the hundreds of non-famous people who are dying each year from addiction to these pills :( 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I agreed. But not just for the famous. Some people had surgery, was prescribed the drug, and that's it. They were so addicted to it. No way out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 08:52 PM Flag
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So innocent people have to suffer excruciating pain to keep pop musicians alive? [ Reply | More ]
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op: as you can see in my post, I also mention all the other, non-famous people who are dying from overdoses. For years and years people used other things to deal with pain, and perhaps something safer could be developed. Opioids have been proven to be highly addictive and destroy lives. Not worth it in my opinion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 08:58 PM Flag
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^the drug Fentanyl, which Prince overdosed on, is supposed to be 50 times stronger than heroin. I don't think anybody needs to be taking something like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:00 PM Flag
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That is not your decision. Come back here when you are dying of cancer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:03 PM Flag
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op: *sigh*.....I'm not "anti-pain relief"! I'm simply saying that this method of pain relief appears to cause more damage than it helps. Are you not aware of the huge crisis going on in this country right now with people overdosing repeatedly while taking these drugs, completely unable to live a normal life? Let's find a better way to manage pain, is all I'm saying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:06 PM Flag
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Different diagnosis. We are definitely being sacrificed by the pharmaceutical industry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:14 PM Flag
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Maybe it should only be available in hospitals or for people who are actually dying of cancer. What do you think, PP? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:18 PM Flag
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^ of maybe every RX should be reviewed independently to ensure only needy people get it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:18 PM Flag
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I was prescribed Percocet after my c-section. I was to take it as needed every 4 hours. Tjeu gave me bottle full. I took it one for the first 2 days and then montrin. It was a bit painful but mostly totally fine. They over medicate people. This needs to stop. [ Reply | More ]
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This. I got a c section in a European country and got NO opiates. All I received was some piddly shit acetaminophen for a couple days. People need to toughen up. Np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:45 PM Flag
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People don't get hooked on opiates after C-sections, it's more like after debilitating accidents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:06 PM Flag
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I had very brutal ortho surgery, but only got oxycodone for 5 days. No refills. Step down to Tramadol, which worked fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:06 PM Flag
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Why ruin it for everyone else? I’ve had multiple surgeries, been prescribed opioids every time, helped me tremendously and I never got addicted. Those people would find something else to be addicted to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:25 PM Flag
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op: that's fortunate for you that you didn't, and most likely there was a limit on your prescription. Many people find ways to continue getting more (and especially for people with chronic pain), and as they build up a tolerance to it they need to keep upping the dosage. All I'm saying is can't they develop some safer, less addictive pain medication? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:27 PM Flag
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np: I see your point but I actually don't think all heroin addicts would end up using something else, it is uniquely addictive. Also, opiates are arguably much harder to quit than other drugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:07 PM Flag
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Stupid. Let’s just ban alcohol and everything else then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:25 PM Flag
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op: ugh, I guess there aren't many people on right now who have read the many articles written about the uniquely addictive effects of these drugs. Alcohol and cigarettes aren't something that are prescribed by doctors for a specific need; they are completely optional. Let's not compare the two please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:28 PM Flag
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You sound insufferable [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:51 PM Flag
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op: and meanwhile I feel like the people on this thread who are being willfully obtuse on this subject are the insufferable ones! Ah well, I'm going to carry on with my evening....enjoy the rest of your weekend! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 09:53 PM Flag
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IA with you but you are asking for trouble by coming here and announcing, "Here is my controversial opinion!...YOU CAN'T DISAGREE WITH ME, YOU IDIOTS!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.20.18, 10:09 PM Flag
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