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[ - ] I still feel like that aziz ansari thing was like the hard line between generations. I couldn't find a single woman in my generation or above (x) who thought what he did and how it was reported deserved a place in the #metoo conversation - but so many gen z women in particular were fully team anonymous aziz hater. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:11 AM Flag
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i always try to respect different views in these complex topics but was so interesting to me what a generational line was drawn here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:12 AM Flag
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Totally agree. I’m 48 and was definitely of the opinion that being a douche bag doesn’t make you an assailant. Also strongly believe we all have responsibility for our side of sexual negotiations. My 16-year-old DD saw the younger/millennial point of view. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:16 AM Flag
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46 here... and I actually didn't even think he was a douchebag in the situation. It just seemed like awkward sex with poor communication between two nerds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:19 AM Flag
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^two *consenting* nerds [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:20 AM Flag
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I'm 50 and agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:24 AM Flag
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I agree. I'm a Millennial and while I think what he did was gross, it sounded like many Saturday nights of my young 20s. Frankly, if he wasn't a well-known figure, it would not have even been noteworthy. Obviously, I hope for better for my younger counterparts than what I endured, but I do think it trivialized the conversation a bit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:19 AM Flag
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And the OR from above and that’s exactly right, it trivialized the conversation about assault and consent because it wasn’t about those things. Or rather it conflated two that are really different. How to handle a date when you’re not sure you want to have sex and are feeling a bit pressured is something that probably 100% of women can relate to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:23 AM Flag
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Unfortunately what I've noticed with Gen Z/the tail end of Millennials is that they don't want to parse through gray areas to deal with uncomfortable realities. For example, I've read a few studies which show that they tend to think emotional safety is more important than free speech, so it's incumbent on the rest of the world not to say potentially offensive things rather than on the individual to learn how to deal with things they disagree with. In this case, they think it's incumbent on all men to not do anything to potentially make them uncomfortable, rather than on the individual to learn how to get out of uncomfortable situations. In an ideal world, sure, you would say "I don't want to do that" and the man would stop, but in the real world, you HAVE to learn how to navigate those situations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:42 AM Flag
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np Banera Group has excellent research on this. Yes, they're Christian motivated, but the data and presentation is fabulous. Their results show that Gen Z don't like to deep think, and avoid confrontation, so I'm not sure it's about emotional safety > free speech, as much as it's pleasant, even shallow, friends with everybody > deep think > confrontation. The key, according to the research, to engage is to listen to the Gen Zer, to find an opportunity to highlight an inconsistency in their logic, that's the only chance of a deep thought for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:46 AM Flag
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PP: Very interesting. I'll have to check it out! I don't want to disparage a whole generation, most of whom are still not even in college yet, but it does sound useful to understand how they think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 04:03 AM Flag
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I agree, and had someone say that they don't believe in generational stereotypes because they feel it's more reflective of anybody at that life phase, which makes sense to me too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 04:31 AM Flag
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I think it was just an expose of a gross guy but not a rapist. A guy who objectifies women who you think is cute and cuddly. And I think it was a white women’s wake up moment like whoa these guys who fawn all over us and get good grades and are these cuddly funny teddy bears have penises!! and expectations other than just the honor of being in our presence and telling us how beautiful we are and that we are goddesses! I better warn the sisterhood! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:32 AM Flag
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I mean whites women thought it was fine that AA liked R Kelly who actually did rape underage black women and dedicate a lot of his routine to him but the second AA got fresh with a white girl instead of just supporting a pedophile, suddenly it was a problem. Lol. White “feminists”! Gotta draw the line somewhere, huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:35 AM Flag
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I didn't think his situation was anything like the other situations. She sounded upset with her own choice and took it out on him. Maybe he's a lame sex partner but nothing seemed criminal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:58 AM Flag
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(I'm 55 and I'd have told my dd this too if it happened to her) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:59 AM Flag
[ - ] Have you had Microneedeling? Did it work? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:58 AM Flag
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The derm I see for Botox/injectables (not the one I see for important things like cancer screenings) is always pushing it on me, but my esthetician says not to go for it and that it can damage the skin in the long run. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:17 AM Flag
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What does the esthetician recommend besides retin-A,etc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 04:42 AM Flag
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Yes. Yes. Realselfreviews is a better site than UB for this. HTH [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:47 AM Flag
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+1 on RealSelf [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 04:24 AM Flag
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[ - ] interviewing at a job i really want. however it's with a company who are unfamiliar with my field and just operationalizing it and getting some aspects confused. Do i explain or will that seem condescending and cost me the role? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:52 AM Flag
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You can do this with confidence not condescension. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:54 AM Flag
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have been working on an email for hours attempting to not sound condescending but slightly unclear what they do and do not know and worried that i may be telling them things they know and that in itself is condescending [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:58 AM Flag
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Imo this kind of thing is too tricky in email where your tone may be misunderstood. Cam you discuss In person, or at least video conf or call [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:01 AM Flag
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what does "operationalize" mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:55 AM Flag
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just launching that part of their company. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:56 AM Flag
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If they don't understand the role and don't want to know more about it, trust me, you really don't want the job. I would explain it in a non-condescending way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:56 AM Flag
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i know. but i do want it bc my current job is AWFUL. and this one is great wl balance ad nice people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:58 AM Flag
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Then don't blow it by answering questions they have not asked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 04:24 AM Flag
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Don't explain the operational details. Just clarify your contributions, and how those skills and experience are easily transferrable to this new job. They don't care about your old job so don't waste precious interview time on that and risk confusing or boring people. All they care about is whether you can do this new job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:58 AM Flag
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I would not say a thing. Every textbook may teach things a bit differently. You can do it your way once you have a job, but telling your interviewers, of 'the company' that they are wrong in not called for at this stage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have an affair and not regret it? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:45 AM Flag
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Me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:52 AM Flag
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Why not? Would love to hear your story [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:55 AM Flag
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It was a fun fling. After a while, OM decided he wanted a committed proper relationship. I didn't, so we split. I was sad for a while but overall no regrets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:59 AM Flag
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was he married? assuming your DH did not find out.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:00 AM Flag
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No he was single at time. Now engaged. I was and still married. DH had no clue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:05 AM Flag
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Interesting. I had more of an emotional affair with a single guy, started to turn physical and he freaked bc he didn’t want to wreck my family., [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:11 AM Flag
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Yes. Someone at work. It lasted several years. tapered off when he wanted to leave his wife and wanted me to leave my dh. I didn't;t want to do that (my dcs were young, his were much older - one in college). then he got involved with someone else. I was furious and sad at first, but then realized it was for the best. believe it or not, we are still good friends and still work together. my dh and his dw never found out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:20 AM Flag
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How often did you sleep together over those several years? How did you ensure your DH didn’t find out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:37 AM Flag
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me. I lost 25 lbs, never looked or felt better. Wonderful man, I still love him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:20 AM Flag
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What happened, why did it end? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:36 AM Flag
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me. he is amazing and we had amazing sex and now we are amazing friends. I am still in a crappy marriage though... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:26 AM Flag
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Why not leave and be with him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:32 AM Flag
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How long has it been going on? Were you friends first and then got physical or vice versa? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:36 AM Flag
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How would those of you who have had affairs feel if you found out your DH had cheated too? Would you feel you deserved it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:35 AM Flag
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I have not had an affair but as I get older I find relationships much more grey then I did when I was younger. If DH had a fling, I’d likely chalk it up to mid-life crisis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:49 AM Flag
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+1. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 04:25 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone with an anti social high school dc? Struggling here and not sure how to help. It’s taking a toll on our family bc dc is becoming a bully at home with his sister. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:40 AM Flag
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Hs teacher here-does he have a few good friends at school? I have a few painfully students. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:43 AM Flag
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Painfully shy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:43 AM Flag
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That’s my dc. Very shy. Quiet. At home he plays video games and occasionally pops up to be mean to his sister. It’s bad. We are constantly looking for things to engage him, hobbies, classes etc. but little interests him other than video games and watching sports [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:48 AM Flag
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Pp-as long as he has friends and is social, I would not worry. I am thinking about a few students who I have taught in the past whose parents were concerned with your same concern . Their grades were good to excellent. They moved on to great colleges and are doing well. Not everyone is meant to be an extrovert. Puberty is a rough period. All will be ok. Best wishes to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:51 AM Flag
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Nope. Kids he chats with at his table but that’s mostly it. He does seem to be on some group chats with them though, which I find a little hopeful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:46 AM Flag
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Are there any coding clubs or LAN parties for teens he can join to meet other kids who share his interests? Or maybe a part time job at a Game Stop or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:56 AM Flag
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I don't understand the connection between anti social and bullying sister. Is he frustrated and lonely, or just dick and therefore cannot make friends? Or is he socially incapable? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:03 AM Flag
[ - ] Spinoff-When do you get home from work? DH? Do you eat dinner together? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:29 AM Flag
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DH works 3 days a week and comes home around midnight. Those days we do not eat together, the other 4 we do. I am home by 3pm everyday so I prepare dinner those other days and eat with the children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:32 AM Flag
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Me, 5:15. DH, 7:30-8. I usually wait to eat with him. On weekdays we eat mostly soups and salads. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:34 AM Flag
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Me: 7:30ish 2 nights, DH: works form home. We eat together not he nights I get home at 7:30, usually something I cook not he spot, or made the night before to eat the next night. The other nights, either I get home too late to join for dinner, or kids have sports that go late so they eat a quick meal when they get home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:40 AM Flag
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We all eat together at around 5:30 (little kids). Dh gets home by 5 or so, I work out and am home by 3. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:41 AM Flag
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PT, not out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:42 AM Flag
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5:00, me. DH, 5:30 but he picks up the kids. We usually eat together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:47 AM Flag
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OP of that post. I usually get home around 7:30 but almost always have to do work until 10 or 10:30. DH gets home at 10. No DCs yet (when would we find the time?) but we both know this is not sustainable for when we have them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:55 AM Flag
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wahm with a somewhat unpredictable schedule. occasionally have night meetings. kids have school sports fall/spring after school and club practice 2x/week. DH home b/t 6:30-7:30. If all four of us can eat together, great. If we can't get all four, then we try to group up as best as possible though I will not have the kids hold dinner if DH is travelling and I am getting home late - unless they want to wait. They have a lot of school work and sleep is as important as eating together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:01 AM Flag
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5 and 6:30. We eat together with DCs every night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:04 AM Flag
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I get home between 4-4:30, DH works from home. We eat dinner together nearly every night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:08 AM Flag
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Divorced. Home between 7/7:30 pm...eat with DCs every night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:51 AM Flag
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Me: 5:00, dh: 7:30. We eat together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 04:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Question for the non cruise-averse only, if you please. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:25 AM Flag
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Would you ever book an inside stateroom to save money? Booking a cruise for DD and me. We usually get an exterior room with verandah, but we could save a thousand bucks almost with an interior room. Not sure if I would find it creepy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:26 AM Flag
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PS It does have a closed circuit tv screen showing a live view from the bow, so that kind of simulates a window (but can be turned off at night). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:27 AM Flag
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I would spend the extra on non interior room. Sounds really claustrophobic to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:28 AM Flag
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Wouldn’t bother me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:28 AM Flag
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I always thought rooms with balconies are dangerous for people with young kids so we pick rooms without them. Assuming you will be spending most of the time outside of the room,I don't see an issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:29 AM Flag
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It's fine. The only thing you're doing in your room is sleeping or having sex. It keeps you out enjoying the cruise and not holed up in your room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:05 AM Flag
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Seconding [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:47 AM Flag
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We always get a balcony room. We spend plenty of our downtime in our room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:30 AM Flag
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The last time I cruise was the first time I got a balcony and specifically for my less able bodied Mom who wakes up slowly in the morning, doesn't like to be rushed, doesn't like crowds, and loves her quiet time and coffee. I don't know that I'll ever return to a room without a door or window that opens now! I loved it too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:48 AM Flag
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Here's where we've landed on this as frequent cruisers - 3 or 4 night cruise, inside is fine. You'll be scrambling to get in all the things you want to do, and you'll probably never use the balcony. 5 or more nights, go for the balcony. The pace will be slower, and you'll find you have more time to chill out and watch the water (which is wonderful!). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:35 AM Flag
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This is a good point, thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:58 AM Flag
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I have done both. Prefer inside room to encourage getting out more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:36 AM Flag
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It doesn’t bother me, and I am super thrifty. But DH gets creeped out with no window so we usually get a balcony room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:41 AM Flag
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I did it when I was relocating to England for grad school. I was broke. It's rough being in darkness all the time. It throws you your circadian rhythms in the morning. You won't spend any time in your room, but it is very difficult to judge what time it is in the morning. Spend the extra thousand and have a nice balcony that you can enjoy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:50 AM Flag
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Thanks all. FWIW I used the balcony most on our first cruise, but at that time I was a very early riser and DD was not, so I would sit out there in the morning waiting for her to wake up. Haven’t used it much since then, but I do definitely like to have it when pulling into port etc. Still thinking it over, but I appreciate everyone’s taking the time to chime in (and not with “eww cruises”). Good night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:05 AM Flag
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you're welcome :) I also appreciate that UBers were kind and polite too. Trolling and neggers just derail and detract from this site, not useful to anyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:49 AM Flag
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I've done both. Didn't mind the inside room as much as I thought I would. Unlike a hotel room, you really don't spend a lot of time in your cabin, even with a balcony. And at night, you don't even notice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:11 AM Flag
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Went on a week long cruise last summer and the balcony was literally my favorite part. Loved sitting out there reading every morning - and then went out at night to watch the moon. So relaxing. For me, worth every penny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:19 AM Flag
[ - ] Any tarot moms on? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:25 AM Flag
[ - ] S/O puppy post. I am considering getting a "divorce dog" for the kids. Kids and I have always wanted a dog. DH has always been against it. I plan to file for divorce in the next few months (for many many reasons that have been discussed on UB over the years). Has anyone ever gotten a puppy to help ease transition for dcs during divorce? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:25 AM Flag
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YES! It was the best thing I could ever have done for dcs and ME! Dcs love our dog and it gave them something to focus on while dealing with the many post-separation/divorce. And more importantly, I love having the dog when dcs are with their dad. Kept that initial loneliness at bay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:43 AM Flag
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Me too. Best thing I did for my ds. A good friend followed suit a month or so later after seeing how beneficial it was for my ds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:41 AM Flag
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Guess I'll present the other side of this? Ex got a dog. At first said it was the kids' dog. So the dog would go back and forth with the kids. But the dog had behavior problems, that all kinds of training and devices would not resolve, when it got to the point of eating off of tables and kitchen counter tops, peeing on furniture, and attacking the cat, I said look either one parent or the other has to keep the dog, this back and forth thing isn't working. My ex wasn't too keen to hear that. Then I got the dog groomed and the ex hated the grooming job and I never saw the dog again. Which is when I learned it wasn't the kids' dog but the exes. Which explained why the kids never took care of the dog! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:52 AM Flag
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FWIW the ORs above sound like more better dog owners than my ex, so please only get a dog if you would get a dog for yourself anyway, and know you're a great dog owner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:53 AM Flag
[ - ] DH just walked in the door 5 mins ago (around the time he typically gets home). It came out he and another guy on his team had gone to the home of a third guy on his team to drink/smoke after work. Then he plopped down on the sofa where I was finishing up my own work and turned on Game of Thrones that we just watched this weekend. These are all married men in their 30s and 40s. Is it too much to ask that when you aren't working on a live project, you don't stay out until 10pm? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:23 AM Flag
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It’s ok every now and then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:24 AM Flag
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I know this might be common on UB, but I could not stay in a marriage like this. My dh is home at 5:30 every night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:25 AM Flag
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what time are you home? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:25 AM Flag
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Around the same time, 6pm the latest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:27 AM Flag
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Op: Even I’m not home at 5:30 every night. If I’m home before 7, I almost always have to get back online to do more work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:35 AM Flag
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So this. I want a partner. Not a frat boy with a paycheck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:42 AM Flag
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In his defense, I generally would not call him a frat boy with a paycheck. His work does demand long hours, and I generally understand that as mine does as well and I do not have the same discipline as him to keep grinding out work when I know someone is home waiting for me. That's why I find this particularly disappointing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:15 AM Flag
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What is your issue though? I mean if you’re home doing work isn’t it nice to have the quiet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:25 AM Flag
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We spend maybe a total of 10 awake hours together during the week. I get plenty of quiet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:37 AM Flag
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I'm confused. Your dh typically gets home from work at 10pm? Or he typically hangs out after work until 10pm? Or was this a one off? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:27 AM Flag
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He typically is at work until 10pm. I wouldn’t say this is a one-off, but it’s not every day either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:34 AM Flag
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so on this particular occasion he wasn't at work, but was instead hanging out. seems ok to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:44 AM Flag
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Wow. You women on here are really sad sacks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:55 AM Flag
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why? whenever I can, I meet friends for drinks/dinner after work. dh isn't allowed to do the same thing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:21 AM Flag
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Hanging out with the guys doing nothing is more fun than going home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:30 AM Flag
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DH gives heads up when he needs to stay out late - work or leisure. I do the same. We always coordinate. He tries not to do more than 2 late nights in one week (not every week). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:41 AM Flag
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No. It’s not. That’s awful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:43 AM Flag
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Are you upset that he was out with friends, or that he didn't;t immediately engage with you when he got home? Seems like it worked out fine since you were working while he was out anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:45 AM Flag
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I can always find work to do, I would have managed my time better if I knew he could have been home earlier. Plus he plopped himself down right where I was doing work when we have a TV in the bedroom where he could have gone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:58 AM Flag
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Does he get to blow off steam [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:49 AM Flag
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Yes. I would just appreciate a heads up. I eat dinner alone 5, sometimes 6 nights a week. I understand work can't be helped, and I wouldn't tell him no, he can't go out, I would just like to know when he's working and when he's out. [ Reply | More ]
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Seems like a red flag to me. He usuallu has to work late, then on the rare night he does not, rather than being all happy to come home early he stays out anyway? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:02 AM Flag
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The guy who had them over is a senior guy and DH said it was all in the name of "networking" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:08 AM Flag
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It's disrespectful of you not to talk about his schedule for the week. Dh has afterwork things he likes to do--a class, cigars with the guys and sometimes a show. But we make our week calendar each Sunday or he'll call me. I hate hanging around in limbo thinking--is he coming home, should I cook for myself? You should be annoyed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:57 AM Flag
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Thank you. I’m not annoyed that he went out, per day, but I have talked to him about this before. Just let me know, so I’m not at home feeling guilty while you’re out having beers and a joint. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 04:28 AM Flag
[ - ] Any kitchen appliances that are must haves or game changers for you? Any that you never use? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:16 AM Flag
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We never use our Kitchenaid-15 years later [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:17 AM Flag
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Funny, I was given one under protest and use it way more than I expected to. Today in fact! [ Reply | More ]
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I am not a baker and never gave it much attention. Give me ideas! [ Reply | More ]
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Actually today I used it to grind veal — I also have the grinder attachment. But I make a lot more cake than I did before I had it, that’s for sure. And it’s nice to be able to make freshly whipped cream very quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:28 AM Flag
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PS We’re not fat, truly — but DH thinks he hasn’t had dinner unless there was dessert. Small portions! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:29 AM Flag
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Pp-i don’t have a sweet tooth but sometimes feel like I should suck it up and bake something for the kids once in a while. I have the meat grinder attachment too. I am off for a couple of days so maybe I will dust it off the thing in the next few days! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:34 AM Flag
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Np. Are you happy with a grinder? I’m considering Kitchen aid and a decent grinder would justify the counter space [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:50 AM Flag
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Yes, very. I started grinding my own beef, and it really makes a much juicier burger, . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:59 AM Flag
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Oh good to hear! I sometimes see it on sale for around $200 - does it sound like the one you have? I’m not big on baking so really need it once in a while [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:06 AM Flag
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Never thought a rice cooker was worth it until I bought one. Perfect rice each time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:17 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:01 AM Flag
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Garlic mincer. Wonder why I did not buy one sooner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:18 AM Flag
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Holy cow I need this. Did not know it was a thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:20 AM Flag
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Love my terra cotta garlic baker. Always charred the garlic before I had it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:21 AM Flag
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I can't eat roasted garlic. Love it, but in recent years, garlic gives me toxic gas that just won't quit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:55 AM Flag
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I have an instant pot that I’ve used once in over a year if having it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:21 AM Flag
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Crock-Pot! Great during the winter. I come home to dinner that's already made and smelling wonderful. Also you can prep, freeze and just dump the stuff in there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:23 AM Flag
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We registered one, the returned it. 2 kids later, we bought one and it helps for lazy days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:27 AM Flag
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Love my cuisinart food processor but extra bowls of different sizes are a waste. Should have gotten more basic one with just one large bowl. Love my kitchen aid but I love to bake. If you don’t, it’s a waste of money and space. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:24 AM Flag
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I just replaced my Cuisinart after 30 years and found the same one. Couldn't live without it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:39 AM Flag
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I use my Vitamix and instant pot pretty often [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:50 AM Flag
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I am still using the immersion blender that DH's sister gave us as a wedding gift 21 years later. I make soup all the time and many recipes call for it. Used it today in fact. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:53 AM Flag
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I’ve been meaning to buy it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:07 AM Flag
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Love mine! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:52 AM Flag
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Ice maker [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:54 AM Flag
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Breville Smart Oven. I only use my regular oven now for the holidays, day-to-day is all done in the Breville. Also, love the basic Nespresso machine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:03 AM Flag
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I use my Ninja almost daily [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:24 AM Flag
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I like my microwave to reheat things fast. Never use my pressure cooker or slow cooker. Stove and oven are must haves too. Coffee maker too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:59 AM Flag
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I use my immersion circulator and immersion blender all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 05:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Favorite ethnic cuisine beyond Italian, Mexican, Japanese? Name a favorite dish 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:09 AM Flag
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Greek for us. It is very similar to what we cook at home, Croatian mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:15 AM Flag
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Ethiopian is very good. We don’t eat it often, but it is very flavorful. I usual get the vegetarian platter with injera. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:19 AM Flag
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LOVE Ethiopian! I get the veggies plus lamb and chicken. Delicious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:22 AM Flag
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Vietnamese- pho. Brazilian- churrasco. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:21 AM Flag
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love a good pho [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:12 AM Flag
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Middle Eastern. Everything is good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:22 AM Flag
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Korean, Bulgogi and the seafood pancakes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:22 AM Flag
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Love Ethiopian, Mediterranean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:43 AM Flag
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Indian curry of most any kind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:43 AM Flag
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Vietnamese...Green Papaya Salad or Burmese...Tea Leaf Salad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:44 AM Flag
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Spanish..Paella [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:46 AM Flag
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Indian - rogan josh or boti tikka masala [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:46 AM Flag
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American-Southern: love biscuits and sausage gravy, and also fried chicken and pancakes, followed by fried chicken and waffles. Wash it all down with a sweet tea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:05 AM Flag
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Thai, anything except pad thai [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:12 AM Flag
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All of the above, especially Indian and Ethiopian. Love Malaysian too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:14 AM Flag
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Filipino - arroz caldo, Salvadorean - pupusas [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:55 AM Flag
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Chinese: rice cakes with preserved vegetables and pork. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 04:00 AM Flag
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Creole- loved gumbo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 04:08 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you have the ability to whip up a meal with a few ingredients in the house? If yes, what is one example of something fast and quick? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:08 AM Flag
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Tell us what you have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:09 AM Flag
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Op-my pantry, pantry, dry foods are full of all types of beans, legumes, rices, pasta. Shrimp, chicken breast in the freezer. My spice rack has every spice imagineable. We have garlic, onion, potato, carrots, celery, ginger always in the house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:13 AM Flag
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Made this today. It came out so good.https://www.skinnytaste.com/red-lentil-soup-with-spinach/ Just looking for new ideas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:13 AM Flag
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Hi,I replied bellow. See, beans take forever to cook and you should soak them overnight. I'm lazy and forgetful, so things like beans and chickpeas) you can cook a ton, divide in small containers and then freeze them. You can cook a bigger batch of rice and leave it in the fridge for a few days, it's a good side. This way all you really have to worry about is the meats and veggies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:19 AM Flag
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We freeze a lot. It is a time saver! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:41 AM Flag
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Baked breaded chicken with whatever veggies I have on had. If I have a pack of ground beef/turkey, that's usually taco meat. I always have stuff to make guacamole to go with it. Any meat can be chopped into small pieces, tossed around in a frying pan with onion, Vegetables you have on hand, some soy sauce. That's my quick "Asian inspired". Pasta obviously with down greens on the side. My motto is everything tastes better roasted so thats my usual go to. I also always have big batch of quinoa already ready, just microwave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:15 AM Flag
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Chicken, rice pilaf and whatever vegetable is in the fridge [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:15 AM Flag
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+1. We always keep frozen veggies in the fridge so even if we're out of fresh produce we have a complete meal on hand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:17 AM Flag
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^in the freezer, that is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:18 AM Flag
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Armenian mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:18 AM Flag
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Stir fry (meat of some sort, vegetables, noodles or topped over rice). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 04:01 AM Flag
[ - ] What breed of dog should I get? Requiments: non-shedding, hypoallergenic, good with kids, trainable/intelligent, able to deal with being alone all day while I am at work, doesn't need too much exercise. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:06 AM Flag
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We have a Maltepoo who is all those things and she is freaking fantastic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:09 AM Flag
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Seriously, look in shelters/rescues! We have two rescues who both fit that to a T. One is (we think) a morkie) and the other is some sort of labradoodle type thing. They are the best, plus bringing them home when they are young but not puppies saves you a LOT of headache in training [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:17 AM Flag
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Amen! People overlook rescue/shelter dogs because they think they are all German shepherd/pitbulls, which aren't automatically bad dogs, but the way. There are amazing young dogs in shelters that are already trained and can grow with your family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:31 AM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:43 AM Flag
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Yes! So many good, healthy young dogs end up in shelters because people do things like get their kids "divorce dogs" (see above post), or otherwise get their kids dogs when they don't want to deal with them and end up dumping them. The dogs don't always acclimate well to the shelter environment and sadly, many get put down. It's tragic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:52 AM Flag
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I'm op pf the divorce dog post. I grew up with dogs, I want a dog and dcs want a dog. we always have. not sure how that makes pulling the trigger during divorce as a recipe for the dog to end up in a shelter. The only reason we don't have a dog already is bc DH is adamant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:24 AM Flag
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Fair enough. But surely as a dog lover, you know that plenty of people get dogs in situations such as yours to appease their kids and then the dog ends up in the shelter. Of course, if you personally want the dog, not just for your kids, then I am sure that will not be the case for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:44 AM Flag
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West highland terrier [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:25 AM Flag
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A cat. Seriously. What you want is not a dog [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:44 AM Flag
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agree, or a rabbit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 04:00 AM Flag
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Portuguese water dogs are perfect for kids with allergies. And they are trainable and darling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:44 AM Flag
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and can't be left at home all day, and very little exercise overall [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 04:01 AM Flag
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Who is going to let the dog out while you are at work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:56 AM Flag
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My morkie (yorkie/maltese) is all of that. I'm very sensitive to dogs and this one doesn't cause me any issues. She does bark a little and is territorial when people are in hallway--that's her annoying feature. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 04:02 AM Flag
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*She gets walked 2x a day and otherwise uses a wee pad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 04:02 AM Flag
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*sorry--also b/c I have allergies I couldn't get a rescue dog b/c I didn't want to rehome a pet if an issue came up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 04:03 AM Flag
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We got an Australian labradoodle. Fantastic. Non shedder, great with kids and other dogs, smart and overall delicious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 04:20 AM Flag
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Oops, needs exercise though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 04:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Visiting Dartmouth with DS and Lordy, literally e erroneous here looks like the child of upper middle class or higher comfort and wealth. So much butter blonde hair, camel hair coats, just americas most privileged offspring. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:02 AM Flag
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^ "literally everyone" is what it was supposed to say [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:03 AM Flag
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Alum here with a DS who is a current student. Just FYI Dartmouth practices need blind admissions and more than half the students are on financial aid with a huge admissions push for first generation college students and URM. What you are describing was correct 30-40 years ago, but really not any more. It's an amazing place to go to school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:10 AM Flag
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Didn’t the OP just describe your DS, the current student? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:14 AM Flag
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My DS is not blonde and certainly doesn't own a camel hair coat nor would he be caught dead wearing one, but LOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:17 AM Flag
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“It’s not like that AT ALL” says the mother of one of America’s most privileged [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:23 AM Flag
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more than half is not so much when it comes to financial aid. And you can be on financial aid and still be paying 50K a year for college.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:32 AM Flag
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Dartmouth is amazing for many reasons, but racial diversity is not one of them. Even today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:33 AM Flag
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I went to UNH over in Durham and Dartmouth frat boys would literally bus us over to party and pay us each $50 to come party with them. We called it the "sorostitute bus." Anyways... lots of binge drinking going on that campus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:00 AM Flag
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It's New Hampshire so it's going to look that way. Try Columbia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 04:06 AM Flag
[ - ] Highly intuitive mom here. Tell me a little about yourself, then ask me anything. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 01:59 AM Flag
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2 dcs (3 and 5), not originally from NYC, 41, kind of type a, naturally super anxious and financially ambitious but currently haaating high stress job and can't find another one. any advice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 03:19 AM Flag
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late 30s, living in a hotel, husband gave me a divorce letter, we're in couples counselling, I don't know what to do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 04:02 AM Flag
[ - ] Had sex all day long with boyfriend.. now it’s hurting even to sit down .. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 01:44 AM Flag
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Isn’t it your bedtime? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 01:50 AM Flag
[ - ] Is this an eating disorder? My mom is now 60yo but has always had the preferences of a 5yo when it comes to food. Extremely limited palette. Mostly beige foods, plus chocolate milk and cake. No veggies except lettuce in Ranch. Only fruit is banana. Will never, ever try new food, or ethnic cuisines (not even Mexican or Indian). 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 01:33 AM Flag
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She sounds like my Uncle Chuck. Not an eating disorder — he’s just Irish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 01:37 AM Flag
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I was thinking Jewish [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 01:53 AM Flag
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Sounds like my FIL. I don't think variety was really available when they were younger and now the ship has sailed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 01:59 AM Flag
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And like my parents - they were children during WWII and food was rationed. Fruits & veges were rare, unless you grew them yourself and spices were impossible to find. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:33 AM Flag
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Orthorexia [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:03 AM Flag
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... i don't think that word means what you think it means [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:26 AM Flag
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She has a very unsophisticated palate. She has disordered eating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:16 AM Flag
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That's basically me. Aside from getting laughed at for occasionally ordering off the children's menu, my eating has no effect on anyone else. In fact, I often describe my palate as being similar to the average preschooler. No big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 02:38 AM Flag
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No because it likely doesn't impact her health. My FIL never ate fruit or veggies. Only meat and carbs. Lived to 93 and never had any medicines (no hbp or high cholesterol) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.19, 04:03 AM Flag
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