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[ - ] Dumb question, but can my local dry cleaners clean an upholstery-weight table cloth? Or does it need to go someplace special? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:38 PM Flag
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I don't think I would want dry cleaning chemicals around food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:43 PM Flag
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But you put dry cleaning chemicals on your body every day ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Any good recipes for a plain pasta salad that a picky 3 year old can bring for lunch? I think the standard Italian dressing to toss the salad in will be too much, but I’m trying to figure out what I can use instead that won’t clump up and can be eaten cold. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 07.20.19, 08:31 PM Flag
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Penne, olive oil, a little lemon, grated parmesan [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:35 PM Flag
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np. this. I just made a cold pasta salad from a box and the dressing was clearly just powdered ranch & parmesan that they wanted me to mix with mayo for the dressing. it was mild and worked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:42 PM Flag
[ - ] I need a pair of pants I can wear out to nightclubs, with good pockets that will hold cash, passport, and hotel key. I have two pairs of Title Nine pants that have multiple flat, deep, zipped pockets, but they are way too casual. Have you seen anything I can go drinking and dancing in, and not have to carry a purse? (They're for winter - New Year's Eve, etc.) 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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Why would you not just wear a cute little purse? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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Because then I have to keep track of it all night while drinking, dancing, seeing friends, cabbing between bars and clubs... It's just easier to tuck what I need into flat pockets and go have fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:33 PM Flag
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No I mean a really little one, you could wear cross body and dance in. https://www.racked.com/2016/12/16/13902550/small-crossbody-bags-for-going-out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:36 PM Flag
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I don't want to carry a purse. I didn't ask for purse recommendations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:39 PM Flag
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NP you need a small flat purse you can wear crossbody. Or a wristlet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:36 PM Flag
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Two, possibly three, or more things wrong with your line of thinking, imo: (1) stuffing cash, cards and passport into a pants pocket is going to ruin the line of the pants, you'll look bulky and awkward, (2) Going out to crowded places with cash and your passport in your pocket, and you drinking, just seems to make you vulnerable to pickpockets, very unwise, (3) pants to a nightclub? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:32 PM Flag
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1) The pants I have from Title Nine work perfectly for this and do not look bulky. The pockets are shaped and positioned to avoid bulking. Also - a passport, some cash, and a keycard are not bulky. 2) When a pocket is flat, deep, and possibly even zipped, no, pickpockets don't have any easier a time. You think a purse can't be stolen before you know it's gone? 3) Yes, of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:38 PM Flag
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A mini crossbody purse won't be stolen while you're wearing it, sis [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:39 PM Flag
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It can be cut off and ripped away in under a second. And I don't want to carry a purse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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And the pants you have are too casual. US passports are quite large; I really can't imagine a pair of pants nice enough to wear out would also have deep pockets and zippers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:42 PM Flag
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Plus, in a nightclub, when you've been drinking, you think you're going to notice every time someone brushes against you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:43 PM Flag
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Yes, they are too casual, which is why I asked for a more appropriate version. My passport fits very nicely in my Title Nine pants and does not show at all. Imagine a well-made pair of pants with pockets made to purpose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:43 PM Flag
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Sounds like you need some Hammer pants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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lols If only I could carry them off... :-D [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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Can't touch this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:44 PM Flag
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Do you have a good tailor? You could probably find pants with good pockets from the good department stores, and then have them tailored to a more "clubbing" shape. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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Good advice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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+1 Or just take your TN pants to a tailor and ask for an evening version. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:42 PM Flag
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This is even better advice! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:44 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:44 PM Flag
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I do - thanks for the idea! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Is there anything you can do to stop fabric from fading in sunlight? Doing some deep cleaning (inside to beat the heat) and am noticing how much things have faded. Lucky enough to have south-facing windows, but oof... 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:30 PM Flag
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Window tint that filters UV rays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:32 PM Flag
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np: This. In FL where we lived we had a film installed on our windows (it was also to protect during mild hurricanes). It had a UV barrier to prevent fading on fabric/rugs etc. It also made our house cooler. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:46 PM Flag
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Blinds. DH is a librarian and we live in darkness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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funny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:08 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm heading to the Hamptons for the weekend and got my host three free botox sessions. I know she gets Botox (she told me) so I thought this would be cute. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:30 PM Flag
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Ok. Sounds like a good thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:46 PM Flag
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I would be totally offended by that gift [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:13 PM Flag
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If I did Botox and was close to the friend, I'd think it was thoughtful, actually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:20 PM Flag
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I get Botox, but I prefer to go to my MD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:39 PM Flag
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I do think it t might make the gift awkward if you didn't buy sessions at her own doc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Can someone help me figure this out? When I was in college I fell in love with a guy who broke my heart. Then after graduating, similar thing happened (around age 24). I am 32 now and have not felt sexually attracted to any guy since then. Sometimes I feel something for women. Am i gay? Asexual? I am so confused. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:07 PM Flag
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You're the only person who can answer that question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:08 PM Flag
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This. Try dating women and find out! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:09 PM Flag
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Do both and then you’ll figure out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:10 PM Flag
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Even better! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:14 PM Flag
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Yep, if you’re confused, earn through experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:18 PM Flag
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Sorry, learn, but earn works too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:20 PM Flag
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Does it matter? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:47 PM Flag
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The only way to know for sure is to date both sexes and see. You might be bisexual. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone here bought a condo for their aging parents or inlaws? How did it work out? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:03 PM Flag
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No but my mom did for my sister. You want to figure out whose name it will be in and what you do with profit when you sell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:39 PM Flag
[ - ] I am 35 and single. Should I bite the bullet and go for sperm donor? I still feel so young! but I know my eggs are aging... 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:55 PM Flag
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Only if you have a lot of money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:57 PM Flag
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I am about to start medical fellowship (3 years). I don't have a ton of money now but my salary will increase. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:58 PM Flag
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Then no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:01 PM Flag
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Enough money to raise children on your own and pay for all of the housekeeping and childcare you will need while you keep up your medical career? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:02 PM Flag
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nobody "needs" housekeeping. wtf? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:03 PM Flag
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She will, when she doesn't have a partner to do half of it, and she's working full time and keeping up with a toddler. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:05 PM Flag
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LOL you are clueless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:05 PM Flag
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She's clueless because she knows how many hours of work it takes to raise a child and keep a nice home? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:07 PM Flag
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+1 Read all of the posts on UB by women who are married and still can't get it all done. No thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:06 PM Flag
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She will if she's working FT as a doctor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:10 PM Flag
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Whatever, housekeeping is a trivial cost compared to the rest of the costs of raising a child. But I am sure OP can cover the money part..it is the time part that is really relentless. I cannot imagine not having anyone else to help get everything done and give me the occasional break, plus in general just would not want to do this on my own, but obviously many do. OP is there any way you can put your energy into finding a partner? I get that you are busy, but you will be WAY busier as a single mom, maybe better to go on some dates now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:08 PM Flag
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yes just do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:59 PM Flag
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do it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:03 PM Flag
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Do you want kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:06 PM Flag
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Yes, very much so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:06 PM Flag
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How many? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:07 PM Flag
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2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:07 PM Flag
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The internet is huge. Find a doctor who decided to have kids on her own, and ask about her life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:09 PM Flag
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I wanted the career, but then kid #1 was accidentally conceived 2 months after wedding.... then #2 was conceived 2yrs later so #1 could have a sibling... then, just as focus started turning back to career again after almost 5 years hot-and-cold, #3 was accidentally conceived. and by that point, not only was it just that I had a new baby all over again, it was the juggle between the 3 that really did me in. #3 is now about to turn 4 and I'm 41. the career thing is staring to look more and more like a pipe dream. dh travels about 50% for work and very busy otherwise trying to get to his 20mm mark so he can throttle back by 45.... soooooooo not everyone can have it all..... you get to be a dr! that's awesome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:55 PM Flag
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Exactly how do two educated people "accidentally" conceive? It sounds like you wanted 1 and 3 but wanted an excuse for what you had to quit to have them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:18 PM Flag
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Do they need to be biological? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:08 PM Flag
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What will your hours be like in your fellowship? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:21 PM Flag
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I met my DH at 35 and had DC in my 40s. But that's just my story... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:27 PM Flag
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Same. I met DH at 39 and had 2 DCs in my early 40s naturally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:51 PM Flag
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Too young. Just know that your options in a partner may be limited due to a decision like this. You need to choose which is more important and it's too young to make that choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:50 PM Flag
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Not yet. But really try hard to date. It will be easier to find someone if you limit yourself to 2-3 must-haves. Consider seriously anyone who has those 2 (or 3) qualities. And give yourself a cut off date. 39 is good. You can freeze eggs, now, too, just in case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:56 PM Flag
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I would date really hard in the next two years and put it out there you are serious about a family. I met a guy at 35 and he was serious about having a family and now I'm pregnant and we're engaged. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:53 PM Flag
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Freeze your eggs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:10 PM Flag
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Can you still do that at 35? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:22 PM Flag
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(FWIW I donated eggs at 35 too, but not everyone health and fertility are like that.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:23 PM Flag
[ - ] I have read so many articles on women in their 50s being able to successfully reinvent themselves, earn a good salary, be happy... I am not in a good marriage, no job for the past 3 years, no money of my own. I have been trying so hard for the past 18 months at least to figure out what I can still do, how I can again be independent, able to leave a dysfunctional marriage and hopefully still make it on my own w dc... but I sit hours on my pc applying to whatever is available here in "flyover" and it's very little... achieving nothing and getting more frustrated and lonelier by the day. I have a few ideas for an independent business, but no funds for marketing or professional guidance... and dh does not support anything I want to do. I don't know, I feel I still have a lot to offer, but unless I lived in NYC again, or at least a "real" city with more opportunities, there are not many options. Sorry, I guess I just need to vent. It's like being a goldfish in a little bowl... I keep going around in circles and cannot find a way out. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:48 PM Flag
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What's your background? There are a lot of remote opportunities. How many dcs and how old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:51 PM Flag
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op- my background is primarily communications (worked the private sector and also not for profit in NYC and Europe) I also worked in television earlier in my career (tv production, anchor) I am a good writer, speak 2 foreign languages. Also open to being an executive assistant at this point, if I could at least earn a decent salary. I have one dc 13. Cannot take on something where I would be constantly gone or where travel is involved, because of dc. Thanks for asking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:56 PM Flag
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Sounds like you have a lot of good experience. I think you'll be selling yourself short if you take a executive assistant job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:01 PM Flag
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op- thanks, maybe you are right. But at this age it's so easy to loose confidence... Sometimes I really wish I could move back to NYC, but unless I found a very good job I could never afford rent. Then I start thinking about working long enough to have some sort of social security and that brings additional worry. Thanks for the link above [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:16 PM Flag
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Seconding [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:12 PM Flag
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Try powertofly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:11 PM Flag
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I’m 56 and life has been good. Continue in my law stuff but have a great group of artist friends and we continue to do projects. The kid years were hard but it’s a huge relief to be out of caring for people 24/7. Can now focus on other things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:53 PM Flag
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op- happy for you. I did not have a "network" of friends and family since my mid 20s and had to take care of myself, went through a divorce with a small child, still working full time, but never making a lot of money. Then met my current dh 9 years ago, I thought I had found the love of my life, caring, charming, solid background, funny, loving etc... then as soon as he convinced me to leave my job and move with him (after we married) he completely changed and showed his true colors... It has not been good since then - and I am truly trying hard to still build something for myself and dc, but most of all to gain some happiness, which I think I deserve. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:00 PM Flag
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You do deserve happiness, OP!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:02 PM Flag
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OR: I don’t have a built in network either but had to put in the work to get one. It takes work. My family, who I still live, are religious fan antics and I can’t rely on them. I found friends through common in tests and work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:07 PM Flag
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Fanantics [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:09 PM Flag
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And interests, not tests! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:15 PM Flag
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I can relate. Do you have children together? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:12 PM Flag
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OP have you posted before..you live in flyover and really want to leave your DH but no family except maybe for ex DH? I remember your posts (if you) and am sorry you are still in this situation. Can you move? Apply to be a college instructor (media) or get a basic job in corporate communications? Do you have any kind of finance background (so you could work in investor relations?). The market is pretty good right now and you will not get any younger..may be time to grab a job even if you have to move. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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Sadly I think there's a few of us on UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:13 PM Flag
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i immigrated to US in my late 20s, came to NYC, rented a room in Brooklyn, got low paying job. It was the happiest time of my life. Now i have much more but still miss those days for some unexplained sense of freedom i used to have. You won't be able to re-invent yourself, OP, until you find yourself in this free fall. Just get a ticket to NYC and the rest will follow... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:53 PM Flag
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She's a mom with a young teen. And already twice divorced. TBH if you can't leave, and your DH doesn't support you working, spend this time investing in yourself. Get into therapy, twice a week, and fix whatever brought you to now two divorces. Also please know that DCs aged 13-20 are the hardest years on marriage. There's hope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Latest letter from camp reveals that one of DD’s friends is being kicked out of camp because of multiple arguments with other campers. Anyone heard of such a thing before? It surprises me, because the camp isn’t completely full, so I assumed they would value having another body in a cot. The contract says the parents don’t get a refund, but she was a returning camper and presumably won’t return next year. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:43 PM Flag
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No one wants a camper with behavioral issues - they don't get easier to handle as time goes on. Multiple arguments is the story your dd is getting. Likely the real story is more serious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:46 PM Flag
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Why don’t you just say it: I giggle when people fail! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:48 PM Flag
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Perhaps there's another issue behind the expulsion and "argumentative" is a euphemism [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:50 PM Flag
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OP Fwiw we visited last weekend and witnessed the aftermath of one argument, with kicked-out girl storming off and someone else crying and being comforted. After that DD told us KOC tends to pick figts with people. DH wondered if she caused trouble deliberately because she wants to go home. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Power just went out. Anyone else? Westhampton 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:43 PM Flag
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All good here. Perpignan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:46 PM Flag
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oh god [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:47 PM Flag
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SO sorry that happened to you! Hope it's restored soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:51 PM Flag
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Thanks - me too! Are the Yankees still ahead? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:54 PM Flag
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If you can post on UB can't you check on that too? Anyway, GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:11 PM Flag
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Haha I realized that right after I said it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:34 PM Flag
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lol! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:16 PM Flag
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It’s back! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:32 PM Flag
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I'm legitimately relieved for you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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Thanks. I was a little worried there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:12 PM Flag
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+ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:17 PM Flag
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Phew! Also: Go Yankees! [ Reply | More ]
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:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:38 PM Flag
[ - ] moms who are travel planners, I am starting my business as an independent consultant for itineraries for one specific country (that I know well). I have most things planned out, but I would love to get your input/advice as regards purely the business side of things: any waivers that you recommend. I have contacts in the country but not people working for me directly, do you find that this activity is something you can pretty much manage alone (so far I had been doing this as a side hustle but decided to turn into my full time job as I have to relocate following dh on a new career move). Major drawbacks? would truly appreciate your input. Thanks in advance! 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:12 PM Flag
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What country? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:42 PM Flag
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Italy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:50 PM Flag
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Thanks. Sorry, was just curious. Wish I had advice to offer. GL!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:04 PM Flag
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NP I'd be open to booking through you? That said, business wise, you'd be better off launching a platform like tour radar or similar where individual guides hang their shingle with you, and you collect a fee from both sides - ie me and the local guide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:43 PM Flag
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We don’t take advice from planners. Want to go where there aren’t people who rely on sane. Advice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:45 PM Flag
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Advice: You'll go insane [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:03 PM Flag
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Why, because I don’t hang out with all the monument chasers and strivers. Would rather die insane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:16 PM Flag
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Nope. It's because you "want to go where there aren't people who rely on sane" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Feeling lonely, this might be partially middle age but still not sure what to do. I am an only child, elderly ill mother and my father died long ago, rocky marriage, and am feeling estranged from some close family members, it is also harder with friends a few falling outs with people over the past few years, and most of us our too busy with kids, work, life etc. not sure how I got here and feel alive, sigh- started therapy a few weeks but am not sure I will work. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:54 PM Flag
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Would you be feeling this way if the marriage wasn’t rocky? Are you treating the problem or a symptom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:05 PM Flag
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It certainly makes it worse it is where I spend the most time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:12 PM Flag
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(1) Yes (2) Not sure, how to know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:15 PM Flag
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Hi op- I am you. My parents and sibling live overseas. Mom has developed Alzheimers at only 66. Now 74 and rapidly declining with my dad taking care of her full time and other issues... I have no family or close friends here (no longer live in NYC) and my marriage is not good at all. One teenage dc, I am 50 and feel very lonely. Tried volunteering, have been actively looking for work for over a year but the market where I live is very limited. Anyway, trying to stay positive but really miss having a good friend who understands. And at this age it's not easy to meet new people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:16 PM Flag
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np. I am convinced it's difficult to find truly good friends at this stage in life because everyone already has so much on their plates. I honestly have no time to help anyone else with their special needs child, bad marriage, sick relatives. I don't have enough hours in the day. When I do get free time I need it strictly for me so I don't go crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:38 PM Flag
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Sorry OP - I am you except single so no rocky marriage but no prospect of a relationship either. Plus, I have a tween who thinks everything I do is stupid and wants no part of going out to the things I'd like (like farmer's markets etc). I am considering going to Orange Theory this afternoon to distract myself with a new hobby, get endorphins up, and have some adult interaction. How old are your dcs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:17 PM Flag
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Op hi everyone, thanks for the support- I have on DS age ten, so the tweens are coming. I am thinking of trying Orange Theory too. I am going to try more exercise too, therapy, trying to stay positive every day, but am feeling a bit beaten down now.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:48 PM Flag
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Orange Theory is a great idea, but then, I'm considering the same too haha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:16 PM Flag
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I'm not in your situation but do feel lonely. It's hard but you can't let yourself sink into it. You have to fight it by staying busy and positive. Do something you like to do that is consuming. Get out and exercise (although today is really hot). Organize your closet and throw away crap. Read a trashy novel or binge watch Poldark. Go forward knowing this will pass and don't miss an opportunity to make a new friend. I'm not someone who reaches out much but I've been doing this and it works! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:42 PM Flag
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Another only child here with aging parents and I get it. My marriage is fine - but we have toddler twins, so it's not as though our home life is easy or peaceful. I'm not particularly close to other family members. Have a nice circle of friends, but as you said, we're all busy (plus most have moved to the suburbs and that's not our plan). I do try to remember that there are many ways to live a life and to find things that make me happy. But I wallow, too, and I carry around some sadness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:42 PM Flag
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56 year old divorced mom who remarried. I feel the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:44 PM Flag
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I wish we could somehow all connect... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:50 PM Flag
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I think we do, here on UB :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:53 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:16 PM Flag
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Me too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:56 PM Flag
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38 year old that immigrated for DH. He's divorced, 3 teens. FML I'm actually really sad that there are so many unhappy UBers, I'm sorry :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Moms who are originally from Greece or know the country well: I am helping my sister plan her daughter's honeymoon there. She has never been. They decided to go in September, so that leaves us w limited options I guess and not much time to plan... I was wondering if any of you have good advice to share: cute places, hotels, restaurants, places to avoid etc. Any and all feedback is much appreciated! I am doing on line searches but of course would value first person knowledge. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:46 PM Flag
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Is the mother going on the honeymoon with her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:49 PM Flag
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no, of course not. But my niece is crazy with last minute organizing for the wedding and other things, so we offered to step in to plan her honeymoon. I am originally from Europe but never traveled to Greece. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:50 PM Flag
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op- thank you for the link! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:00 PM Flag
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Santorini would be my first choice and The Katikies hotel in Santorini is great. Paros is a less touristy option - but I don’t have a hotel suggestion. If she wants something on the mainland the four seasons Athens just opened and there is an Aman resort - not in Athens - but down the peninsula. Both look amazing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:00 PM Flag
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op- thank you! Will look it up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:07 PM Flag
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We went to Crete. It's super low-key and gorgeous. We had almost no plans other than a hotel reservation for the night we got there and a car reserved to pick up the following day. You fly into a pretty blah town, but the big archeological site (the labyrinth!) is close and the museum is very cool. Then we drove all over to tiny beach towns and slightly larger more interesting (but still pretty small) "cities" Very easy to wander into guest houses, hand over a passport and some cash and have a charming room for a couple nights, then move on. It was such a relief to just hang out together and explore with nothing to plan or have to answer to. We didn't have a huge wedding, but it's still a little stressy so the time was so nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:32 PM Flag
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op- this is helpful, thank you. I will do some research on Crete. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:41 PM Flag
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Np. Lived in Greece for a year. Agree Crete is a great choice if not a lot of time to plan. There is plenty to do, beautiful beaches, etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:52 PM Flag
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Santorini [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:52 PM Flag
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Not Santorini. Too. Many. Tourists. Swarms of thousands from cruise ships disembark daily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:08 PM Flag
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In september it is much less touristy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:13 PM Flag
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Good to know. It is beautiful. Hard to go wrong in the Greek Islands, I guess [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:15 PM Flag
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I went in early October. It was still very, very touristy. Absolutely heaving with people. It doesn't let up until late October. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:27 PM Flag
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Patmos, where John the Apostle wrote the Book of Revelations. Beautiful and not overrun https://www.cntraveller.com/gallery/patmos-greece [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:26 PM Flag
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Tacky. Husband is responsible for honeymoon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone worry when things are finally OK (or dare I say, good?). After the past few years or some major health issues, parental deaths, and unemployment things are "normal" again. But I still jump every time my dad calls thinking it's going to be bad news. Every unknown number is a potential problem. Every letter is going to be doom and gloom. It's hard to transition from everything feeling like an emergency to everything feeling good again. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:45 PM Flag
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It's natural, and it's also a coping mechanism that you can unlearn. I think goal-oriented, short-term therapy might really help you deal with it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:57 PM Flag
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Mild PTSD likely. My son was very sickly as a child and we cringed anytime he got a cough or acted sick bc we knew he could end up hospitalized. It took us a long tome to get over his health scares. I'd think maybe see a therapist if you really feel you can't shake this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:09 PM Flag
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I have a friend who had very good results with EMDR therapy for her PTSD. Eye-movement desensitization and reprocessing. Check into it and see if you think it might help. In lower manhattan, and she found a therapist who took her insurance (aetna) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:48 PM Flag
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preemie? ivf? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:53 PM Flag
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wrong thread? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:08 PM Flag
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preemies from ivf have much more health issues [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:49 PM Flag
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OR: no the opposite--postterm with no amniotic fluid left (dry birth). He has asthma and severe allergies (not saying it was birth issue) . But the first 5 years were doozies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:00 PM Flag
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I just take each day as it comes whether we’re in the weeds or were ok. The last two years were relatively good, now my dh is having many health problems again. I’m just focused on what I need to do now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Finance moms, are you sick of this industry? I’m an associate making under 100k and feel like we are all being driven to the brink. No downtime and all being watched. My friends are being laid off left and right, I need a new career. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:33 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.20.19, 05:41 PM Flag
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When your only exposure to the professional world is finance, biglaw and your clients, it’s hard to appreciate but you are in it for that exposure/experience/brand and the opportunity to be one of the few who does make it to the bigger roles, deals and bonuses. You may be a grinder but you have no responsibility other than to show up and do that. It might be that it’s not for you but aside from the friends who land at start-ups/growth companies that hit, your alternatives hover in the zone of 50% of the hours for 50% of that pay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:49 PM Flag
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Your problem is that you see yourself as a finance mom, not a woman with a finance career. Move somewhere less expensive and get a low-key job that lets you parent more, as it is obviously where you see yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you stay at a friend’s country house with DH if the only sleeping area left was a “bunk room”? I’ve been to the house before and it’s a very adult space and well-done (built in bunks, nice decor, etc.) but dh and I would be in separate twin beds. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:23 PM Flag
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I would really want to have to see and/or impress these people [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:24 PM Flag
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I would. This seems like a silly deal breaker if others wouldn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:25 PM Flag
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Why wouldn’t I? Are you resenting the fact that someone else got the nicer guest room? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:25 PM Flag
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+1 unless you feel like this demonstrates your rank in the pecking order among professional connections in a way you do t want it to, it seems like NBD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:51 PM Flag
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No. My time is precious. This is slumming and I ain't got no time for that. ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:25 PM Flag
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You could share a twin bed, for at least part of the night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:26 PM Flag
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I’ve slept on the cold hard ground so I wouldn’t have a problem with this. Add the fact that DH and I haven’t slept in the same bed in years and this sounds like luxury. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:26 PM Flag
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If the hosts were nice enough to let me know in advance that the bunk room was where I'd be bunking, why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:36 PM Flag
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Lucy and Ricky slept in twin beds ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:10 PM Flag
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Is it just you guys in the bunk room? Is there a private bath? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:14 PM Flag
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100%. I don't even understand the question. I sleep better in my own bed so it would be treat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:52 PM Flag
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My DH would not stop complaining, so I would not go. I would stay in a comfortable hotel or not go at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:07 PM Flag
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Sleeping in twin beds not an issue. But if you feel like you are getting the short end of the stick, or a last minute invite, then I'd prob skip it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 08:06 PM Flag
[ - ] How do I get oil & vinegar out of my cotton shorts? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:06 PM Flag
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Try saturating the stain with Lestoil and washing on hot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:10 PM Flag
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People still buy lestoil? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:14 PM Flag
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Only us messy salad eaters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:23 PM Flag
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Teehee [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:43 PM Flag
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Talcum powder works wonders on oil stains. Maybe talcum powder/ baking soda to soak up the oil and then wash it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:13 PM Flag
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Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:20 PM Flag
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or spot treat with detergent and rub the area to break down the oil. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:22 PM Flag
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Dawn dish soap can help as a pre-treat (b/c it's made to break down oil). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:25 PM Flag
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Dawn dishwashing detergent [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 05:39 PM Flag
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Dishsoap + baking soda + hydrogen peroxide. I make my own stain spray with 1:1 hydrogen peroxide and dish soap. Dawn is good but I don’t care for the smell so I use Castile soap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:38 PM Flag
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Shout [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 06:56 PM Flag
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+1. But I admire the puck of the DIY OR above you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:12 PM Flag
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^pluck not puck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:24 PM Flag
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corn starch and dish soap [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.20.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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