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[ - ] At what age do you start thinking about 1st floor living...like having your master on the 1st floor to avoid stairs? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:18 AM Flag
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Depends. I’m 56 and DH is 70 and we still climb subway stairs. The age will be when neither of us can accomplish, and we are young compared to others who can do it. Good grief, there are probably 90 year olds who are in better shape than me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:25 AM Flag
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OP: that's what I'm thinking too...but I'm making housing decisions. I live in a place where everyone jabbers on about preparing for 1st floor living. But I'm early 40s! Feels early to make real estate decisions based on that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:29 AM Flag
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OMG, you’re a kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:35 AM Flag
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My mil is 92 and takes train to penn station than public transportation to Lincoln center at least once a month [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:35 AM Flag
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OR: yes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:36 AM Flag
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The thing is, you can never be sure how long that will last. Life takes unexpected turns. Many 70;yr olds are not so agile. If you have the resources to move quickly if you become impaired, it doesn’t matter so much. If changing housing will be more of a problem, you need to plan ahead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 02:05 AM Flag
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OR: eh, we take it as it comes. The privilege of being privileged and living in the first world. Every day I thank the stars that I made it home without being hit by a bus (which is a real concern because sometimes I’m thinking about shit and not paying attention to my surroundings). Tomorrow I could find myself without legs. 30 years from now I could still be bitching about the bus schedule. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 02:29 AM Flag
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In my 30s and love my ranch. It's so nice to be able to run through the whole house to clean, do laundry, whatever without the up and down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:33 AM Flag
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Research shows that people who live in houses with stairs (and use them often, daily) live longer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:16 AM Flag
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My parents are 62 and 74 and they are planning their next home to be one floor living. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:45 AM Flag
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54 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:00 AM Flag
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I'm used to it since I grew up in a CA ranch house and later owned one. DH and I are planning to make sure we have a first floor bedroom when we retire. I'm also planning on making sure the tub/shower/kitchen/entry are accessible in the future retirement house. Even without stairs my elderly parents are having some challenges now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 02:21 AM Flag
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Having stairs is really really good for you. But I don't have stairs (California ranch) and we only looked at one story houses. But that was because it will be less expensive and/or easier for us to do repairs/have repairs done, plus second stories get so freaking hot here. Just really too hot IMO. I used to live in much colder climate and having two stories and a basement was great there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 03:43 AM Flag
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I would want a room on the first floor that could be made in to a bedroom if needed, just because if injured or recovering from surgery, it is much easier to not negotiate stairs But if I wanted a two story house, I wouldn't buy a two story house with a first floor master because I do think that the stairs are important to keep us healthy and all the living space upstairs would be wasted if I no longer had kids at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 03:46 AM Flag
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Um, isn't this just living in an apt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 04:07 AM Flag
[ - ] Cheapest place to get houseplants? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:09 AM Flag
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If you’re in NYC, start with the plant district. To be honest, though, the best purchases were from local supermarkets in Brooklyn where you just bought outside the store and they flourished with care. I even got a free plant from DD’s school that is thriving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:22 AM Flag
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Ikea. Of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 02:03 AM Flag
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Whole Foods has sales and those prices are good. Plant district as good prices if you look but the problem is transporting it. Home Depot also has good prices on some stuff but you have to be choosy. I’ve also bought plants from TJ and they’re thriving. I would give away some of my succulents if anyone asked me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 03:33 AM Flag
[ - ] Need manhattan venue for cocktail party for 50th birthday. About 50 guests and not too expensive. Tia. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:53 PM Flag
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Bottino [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:10 AM Flag
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Any Irish pub with an upstairs/back room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:15 AM Flag
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Churchill's on E28 between Park and Mad has a nice option upstairs. El Parador on E34 between first and second has a good downstairs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:50 AM Flag
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Bacaro [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 03:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Would you/have you put your parent in a retirement home? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:41 PM Flag
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No and no but I’m not from here and it’s not a thing in my culture [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:44 PM Flag
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I am from here but it's still not a thing in my culture. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:47 PM Flag
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But who would care for them if you live here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:42 AM Flag
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Do you mean a nursing home? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:45 PM Flag
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Yes, somewhere that other people look after him/her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:46 PM Flag
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I have not but would if I felt it was necessary (hopefully it won't get to that point). It's not ideal but when someone has advanced health problems they may need round the clock supervision that can't be provided in the home of a lay person with a job. Ex., I've heard of many instances of elderly people with dementia wandering off and getting lost. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:49 PM Flag
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Exactly this. My dad is 80 and still in reasonably good health but I don't know if he can stay in his house alone for too many more years. Trying to figure out an option to keep him at home/move in with me, but need to explore all options depending on how things go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:03 AM Flag
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I've done that. Was right thing to do for us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:51 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:58 PM Flag
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I think I would try in home care before that. It would depress them horribly if I did that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:55 PM Flag
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To add because my post is confusing: it would depress them to be in a nursing home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:15 AM Flag
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Not if I can afford the alternative. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:59 PM Flag
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My grandparents are still in their homes. If they become too ill to live at home, I guess they would move. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:47 AM Flag
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Yes. My father wanted to live as independently as possible for as long as possible, and he wanted to stay in the city where he lived with his partner, rather than moving ~100 miles away into one of our homes. He lived in an apartment with some support for 3 years before he "graduated" into full assisted living. He has parkinson's and has required progressively intensive care, including help bathing, using the toilet, etc. and he didn't want any of us to have to do that. Living at home would have required round the clock private nursing, which wasn't practical in any of our situations. He is definitely safer where he is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:47 AM Flag
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No, they were lucid to the end and strenuously preferred to stay in own home. Managed with increasing amounts of home care, by the end it was 24/7. So grateful I was able to honor their wishes. Not that there was a choice, since they were lucid and thus legally entitled to make their own choices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:48 AM Flag
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assisted living, yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:53 AM Flag
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Fil passed a little over a year ago. Mil just moved into a senior housing center. Seems like everyone there is mostly healthy. I posted last thanksgiving that she asked to live with us. That wasn’t an option and she was complaining of being lonely. Dh helped her get settled into this retirement community. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:06 AM Flag
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We didn't. We got an aide then a set of aides (24hr care). It was kinder for FIL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 02:48 AM Flag
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My father was bed bound for a decade before dying and he was mostly at home. Died at 64. My mother rather be dead. She’s 79 and has really taken a turn in to old age in the last couple years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 03:23 AM Flag
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My father needed round the clock nursing care at one point, and daily PT and OT. If he had stayed in someone's home or in his swanky independent living apartment (seriously $8k+ per month in mcol area), he would never have recovered. Instead he recovered and now lives in another swanky facility. These places are gorgeous and have so much staff on site. The food is good, and his new place doesn't really have a ton of memory care patients and isn't geared for memory care, so he likes it better. It is like living in a four star hotel. He is fine. He can't live alone and he sure as hell doesn't want to live with any of his kids or siblings. Ha ha. He has high speed internet and reads and watches netflix and goes down to the dining room... he is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 03:55 AM Flag
[ - ] OK call me intensely frugal, but I just found two #10 envelopes that I'd run through the meter at the office back in 2017. 46 cents worth of postage, waiting to be used. Can I still mail something in these envelopes? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:14 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:20 PM Flag
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you would have to pay the difference to however much the stamp is now but yes, you can use them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:23 PM Flag
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You can probably trade them in at the post office and for a few cents get current stamps but you'll likely lose the envelopes and I don't know how much two number 10s are worth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:24 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:19 AM Flag
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ILY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 03:56 AM Flag
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Just add tgge additional postage to reach the 2019 rate, which i just looked up --55 cents [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Have time for a movie this weekend. If I can only see one, and am considering the following, which would you suggest I see first? Ad Astra; Hustlers; The Goldfinch. tia 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:05 PM Flag
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I wanted to see the goldfinch, but it got bac reviews. I assume you've already seen once upon a time in Hollywood? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:06 PM Flag
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Oh thank you!! I almost forgot about that one. That should be tops on my list. A friend saw Goldfinch by the way and said it was long but not boring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:15 PM Flag
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Once Upon a Time in Hollywood was LOOOOOONG and pretty boring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 03:01 AM Flag
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I couldn't even get through the book. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:11 AM Flag
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Goldfinch is actually very good. Not sure why the reviews. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 02:41 AM Flag
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HUSTLAS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:11 PM Flag
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Thanks J Lo. You can sit down now. And cover your goddamned abs, ok? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:15 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:20 PM Flag
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Ha! My sister and I watched it together (we grew up close to where she did so we love/support her) and my sister said "her ass deserves an Oscar nomination." And later "this is the jole JLo's ass was born to play." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:28 PM Flag
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^role, yikes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:31 PM Flag
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OMG that's so funny! I'm definitely seeing it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:32 PM Flag
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Just saw Dontown Abbey, great if you are a fan of the show [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:56 PM Flag
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I said "hustlas" above but I liked Downton Abbey just as much. Different movies with different friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:05 AM Flag
[ - ] What's up for the weekend, ladies? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:58 PM Flag
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Dh is away with friends (yearly trip planned months in advance) and I'm home with a sick toddler. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:48 PM Flag
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Sports, sports and more sports. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:51 PM Flag
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+1 and birthday parties [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:05 AM Flag
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as little as possible it's been a rough week [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:20 AM Flag
[ - ] WOHMs - what is your evening routine (if you have one or have time for one) when you get home to help you relax? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:41 PM Flag
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I’m a lifelong artist and make stuff for productions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:47 PM Flag
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And it looks like a lot of people here are drinkers so strike my post as irrelevant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:28 AM Flag
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On Fridays, wine. On Monday through Thursday, thinking about wine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:51 PM Flag
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haha I totally get it. I'm trying to find a non-wine routine (and a non-thinking-about-wine routine). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:56 PM Flag
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lol so true. Motherhood should come with a wine club subscription [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:24 PM Flag
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Do you mean pre or post bedtime? I dont usually unwind till after. Cooking helps me. Or read/watch something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:30 PM Flag
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Pre bedtime. My ritual has been wine as soon as I get in the door. So far, I've cobbled together the alternative schedule: change out of work clothes and lie down on bed as soon as you possibly can once getting through the door. Rest with eyes closed, phone off, TV off, until you feel a second wind (or hunger). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:34 PM Flag
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I didn’t have alcohol this week and it actually was good. But I do similar — lay in bed and unwind and let kids play together for a little before I step in. If dh is traveling I might use the time to eat my dinner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:47 PM Flag
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I don’t get to relax until after 9. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:06 AM Flag
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What about cannabis capsule? If you’re trying to sub wine. I change clothes too, go for a jog with the dog, or even 15 minutes on a treadmill can help [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:27 AM Flag
[ - ] S/O of the school communications always going to moms - what do you think about moms texting or calling you for everything even though DH is the one who does pick up and drop off? I am very unreliable when it comes to forwarding info to my husband. It’s much better to text him directly about these things. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:38 PM Flag
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That was me. I just sensed my women friends were more comfortable coordinating play dates etc. through me vs calling my husband. Does your husband mind? So often there are multiple rounds of calls as kids get sick or plans change. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:45 PM Flag
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It could be a "respect for other people's relationships" thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:46 PM Flag
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I will never get this. No one is going to steal my DH. I am not that insecure... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:01 PM Flag
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I don't think someone is capable of "stealing" my husband, but that doesn't mean that women haven't been inappropriate, sometimes in front of me. I don't care how secure you are, inappropriate behavior is disrespectful. Before you twist my words, I'm not saying that texting someone's husband to discuss a playdate is inappropriate/disrespectful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:15 PM Flag
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^This is a silly example, but we're friends with a neighbor at our country house. He found out dh wasn't going to be there this weekend, but I would be with dc. He texted dh to say please let your wife know that if she needs anything, I'm happy to help. If he texted me directly saying that, I can see how dh would have thought it was inappropriate, even if he's older. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:17 PM Flag
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But that’s not what I meant. I meant totally normal pick up assistance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:47 PM Flag
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I know, I said it was a silly example. We're not yet at the age where pick ups happen, but I can see how some women might see a boundary there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:51 PM Flag
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I text whoever I see the most. If it’s the dad then I text the dad. I will say, if I know both parents equally, I generally will choose the mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:12 PM Flag
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I'm texting the moms sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:28 PM Flag
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Is it so hard to text two people at once? I text both parents if I have all the info. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:31 PM Flag
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Why don’t you respond “can you text him directly” and provide his #. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:49 PM Flag
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I would start a new text thread with all 3 of us and mention that in the original text [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Helping a URM friend who lives in D5 with middle school applications. They're hoping their DD will get into Columbia Secondary School for Math, Science and Engineering. Its a public 6-12 school. This is NOT CGPS. Website says that they'll need to apply and then find out in December if she gets an invite to take a test to get in. Putting aside the ABSURDITY of this process - does anyone have any intel into this exam? We want to help her DD prep starting now. She got 4s on her fourth grade exams. They have no funds for private. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 09.20.19, 10:23 PM Flag
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OP: It blows me away that this school can pull from multiple districts... No wonder there aren't great schools in D5. Anyone who can will leave. "Students who live in or attend public or charter school in Districts 3 (priority given to students who live or attend school above 96th street), 4, 5 or 6 can apply for 6th, 7th or 8th grades. Students who go to independent or religious school and live in one of these districts can also apply." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:28 PM Flag
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Why does it matter that she's an URM? Not asking in a contentious way, just curious. Ds is really young so I'm clueless about middle school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:45 PM Flag
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np-this is a Vlad post. Please don't take the bait [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:53 PM Flag
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What does that mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:05 PM Flag
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np: Reference to posts that seem to be planted by trolls with an agenda, possibly Russian trolls - they post here sometimes. I don't think this is that, though. The European troll posts are more like: "URM friend's dd is getting auto admission to excellent school. My dd is getting nothing. Why do libs and Dems think this is okay?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:08 PM Flag
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Op: oh jeez. Sorry. I regret mentioning it. I hope that’s not a massive distraction. There is are NYC public schools that set aside seats for kids (who must meet the academic standards!) giving priority to public housing & other factors. This family happens to be low income but not in public housing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:12 PM Flag
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Does the family qualify for free lunch? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:30 PM Flag
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np: Reference to posts that seem to be planted by trolls with an agenda, possibly Russian trolls - they post here sometimes. I don't think this is that, though. The European troll posts are more like: "URM friend's dd is getting auto admission to excellent school. My dd is getting nothing. Why do libs and Dems think this is okay?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:08 PM Flag
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I mentioned it because some schools give priority to students in particular categories. This isn’t meant to be a flaming or trolling post. But genuinely wondering if anyone knows anything insider about their admissions process, which has changed in the last few years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:04 PM Flag
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Interesting, I wasn't aware that public schools within NYC did this. I always wonder about ds (who again, is very young) because I'm an URM, visibly so, while ds, who has a white father, looks very white. He looks a lot like me but his skin color/hair texture is all dh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:22 PM Flag
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No, de publics DO NOT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:44 AM Flag
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I thought all NYC public middle schools had to get rid of these types of tests/screening processes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:31 PM Flag
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Not all, yet. Let's see if they come for District 2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:47 PM Flag
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They have. Keep up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:58 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:45 AM Flag
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Link to actual announcement? All I've seen is a comment here about "Someone I know says this is going to happen". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 02:02 AM Flag
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This isn’t a test you can prep for. It’s a long test (3 hours) that covers math, ELA and engineering/creative thinking (ie what would you build using the objects in this picture to create a process for recycling). CSS is a STEM school so students need a strong math foundation. Your friend should go to one of the open houses to learn more about the admissions rubric. They invite 150 kids each from D3, D4, D5 and D6 based on test scores, grades and attendance. Then top 100 scorers on the CSS exam are offered a spot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:39 AM Flag
[ - ] I haven't been on UB in forever. When did UB start forbidding posts because they're political? I just got my post deleted but I think it's probably a good idea to keep politics out. Did it just get ugly so they said no more? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:17 PM Flag
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Which post was that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:19 PM Flag
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I don't want to say or this post will get deleted! I'm just curious because in the old days there were a lot of political discussions. Some got nasty but some were interesting. I suppose it's not really on-topic for UB's board but I'm surprised it's a quick delete. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:22 PM Flag
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It’s because no matter how much you think your post is an innocent discussion, trolls are waiting to post their racist and bigoted links and comments. I suppose UB took an all or nothing approach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:25 PM Flag
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Got it. It could get nasty even in the day but it's too bad it got worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:28 PM Flag
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There are safe(r) spaces on www.reddit.com/politics [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:56 PM Flag
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"They" don't say much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:24 PM Flag
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Yeah, I've had some parenting/school posts perceived as political deleted - not because of my own comments, but because the crazy troll pops up with their pre-canned list of ten racist articles. It's like they have a news update on UB set to certain terms and then they magically pop up to spam the thread with trash. It's too bad, because I really enjoyed the semi-political content from other parents, even when we respectfully disagreed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:45 PM Flag
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That's exactly what they have, though. I have posted some very vanilla shit that gets attacked. The twisted part is that it's part of the attack to get you used to feeling like "big brother is censoring you" ... so the OP foreign cunt who is posting this is just working the other side of the coin [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:58 PM Flag
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Pretty much they all get deleted. Even if you start out with good intentions, these types of posts turn ugly very quickly. A lot of other people will flag the post to the moderator. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:33 PM Flag
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Someone threatened a lawsuit for allowing racist posts so they upped their game. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:12 AM Flag
[ - ] Have budget for only one, which one to choose for my birthday? 1st option, dinner with DH and DC at a michelin star restaurant. 2nd option, a gorgeous statement gold ring with multi-gemstone at a great discount price. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:13 PM Flag
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General Topics 09.20.19, 10:15 PM Flag
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For me, the ring. You will have it forever. My dc would not appreciate a michelin starred meal. I love good food but am happy at a mid-priced restaurant; some of the most expensive meals I have ever had have not been among my favorite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:15 PM Flag
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This. Some of my favorite meals ever have been cheap but delicious. I've only done michelin starred places three times, but each time I felt like an impostor. Not only because it was so fancy, but also because the food wasn't amazing and I think my tastebuds aren't as delicate as they need to be for places like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:23 PM Flag
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1st option [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:16 PM Flag
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Eat at home, have a picnic on the living room floor, wear comfy clothes and laugh a lot. Maybe your DC can contribute to making dinner and that will be a memory for them. Ring will be a fun piece to have forever! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:25 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:51 PM Flag
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Get ring, get kid and DH to make you dinner together at home, even if it is carrot sticks and frozen fish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:46 PM Flag
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Get the ring. You can love it and then it’s something to leave to your dc who will love it because it was yours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:55 PM Flag
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Ring. Post a picture! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:42 AM Flag
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op: thank you. I ordered the ring! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 03:30 AM Flag
[ - ] My 5.5 year old used to have one of those crazy memories that many (most?) toddlers have. We read often and he has always had great decal. In recent months he doesn’t seem to remember any of his old books—titles we have read many many times. Do kids lose that toddler memory? Why would my child suddenly forget huge chunks of his life? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:12 PM Flag
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Recall not decal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:12 PM Flag
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Haha they both mean sticky, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:39 PM Flag
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I studied memory in college as part of a psychology degree. There is pre-verbal memory and then memory when you have language skills. One over writes the earlier memories. In order for things to become a memory they have to have a type of meaning. Smell is also a memory and one of the strongest type. But little kids lose a lot of their memories when they were pre-verbal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Kids age 7 and 8. Will I regret not buying a home with a pool? Moving to Greenwich, CT. I know they will use it but I question how much work it will be and once they get older will I regret it. Should we join a pool club instead? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:42 PM Flag
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My kids loved having a pool (neighbors, ha ha) when they were little. You won't go to the club as often. With a home pool, kids can swim in the late afternoon after HW is done and on Sunday mornings etc. I never got one b/c my dd was little and I was fearful of drownings (FL). If I were you, I'd do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:45 PM Flag
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This is not really true. Do you live in Greenwich? People live at their pool clubs in the summer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:48 PM Flag
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Where are these pool clubs and how much are they? I am new to the area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:23 PM Flag
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No, did I say I lived in Greenwich? So I guess it's better then to have a pool club. I wouldn't want that tbh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:35 PM Flag
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Country club w/pool is the way to go. Having a home pool is annoying, the maintenance is a lot of work and in the northeast the window where you use it is so short. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:47 PM Flag
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It is not work but it's $$. Since I hate the country club culture, the cost of owning a pool is worth it to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:30 AM Flag
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We have a pool and it's a pain....lots of maintenance involved. Most of the year it's covered (we're also in the northeast). If you can join a club, I'd do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:03 PM Flag
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I'd do it. We had a pool and used it ALL the time. My parents still say it was a lot of work but they loved seeing us so happy. I'm assuming that if you can afford a home with a pool in Greenwich, you can afford to have someone else do the majority of the maintenance. We certainly didn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:31 PM Flag
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This. So silly. It's not an either or. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:35 PM Flag
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I specifically looked for houses with no pool when my kids were little. Now, I would love a pool. And we do have access to village pool [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Ever have someone junior to you copy a colleague on an email because the sender thinks the cc-ed person is your supervisor? Ugh. (Also, it's about something for which I have no accountability/responsibility). TGIF, indeed. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:29 PM Flag
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talk to them in person, or if they're in another time zone, on the phone NBD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:49 PM Flag
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op--yes, just venting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:03 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O fave deli in nyc for sandwiches? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:25 PM Flag
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Aren't we all thinking about deli sandwiches now? I want pastrami with swiss cheese and mustard on rye. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:34 PM Flag
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Katz's for pastrami/corned beef. Used to love Italian deli in Astoria, not sure it's still there (I moved) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:40 PM Flag
[ - ] How helpful Parents League is for your K private school application? Should I register the membership with PL? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 09.20.19, 08:54 PM Flag
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Moderately helpful. Not necessary. The best thing they're good at is finding a spot last minute at a non-TT preschool, they keep lists of openings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:30 PM Flag
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They're not helpful. They were very very very politically correct about everything. But other than disclosing late Spring preschool openings VERBALLY ("we never put that in writing, dear!"), they haven't actually helped us at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:19 PM Flag
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you can part take in K fair but that was in the spring. If you are "special group" (for lack of better term) i.e. URM, LGBTQ, fin aid, etc. maybe it's helpful, we are white MC and I don't think they are overly helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:28 PM Flag
[ - ] DH wants to go to the San Gennaro festival tomorrow. Is it fun? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:47 PM Flag
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It's packed, and filled with sausage-and-pepper stands. Depends on whether you like that sort of thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:51 PM Flag
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Look it up on their website and see if they list activities you enjoy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:05 PM Flag
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If you are a good partner, you'll find out tomorrow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:05 PM Flag
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it's fun in places without an exciting Little Italy. I used to like it before I moved to NYC, but the regular food in Little Italy is much better so no point in going with the crowds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:06 PM Flag
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Very crowded, and it gets expensive (you need cash for most places). Lots of Trump 2020 caps. If you live in the city and it's an easy commute, no harm in stopping by for a bit, but not really worth traveling in JUST for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:13 PM Flag
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Ugh, Trump caps. Say no more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:23 PM Flag
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Italians form NJ and LI love trump. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:35 AM Flag
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I know. Again, ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:42 AM Flag
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Thanks all. I'm new to the city; DH has lived here 20+ years. I don't think he's ever gone. I like sausage and peppers. And weather looks good. Appreciate it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:21 PM Flag
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If you've never been, go once to see it. It's not that special, pretty much like any street fair. I've been twice and that's enough. I like sausage and peppers too. Enjoy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:41 PM Flag
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Thx! You don't get sick from the food, right? I usually don't buy food from the carts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:56 PM Flag
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Really? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:35 PM Flag
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It's not that big--you can walk through it and be done in an hour hour and a half. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:42 PM Flag
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Perfect! I love the idea of it. NYC made small with this tradition. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:57 PM Flag
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Very crowded. I enjoy it b/c of nostalgia . Love getting a bag of zeppole/sausage sandwich It can be a bit much at times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:41 PM Flag
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Do they celebrate it in the "real" Little Italy, around Arthur Avenue? The food is much better there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:56 PM Flag
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Years ago we went and it was a real letdown. Crowded and junky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:04 PM Flag
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Oh dear. Junky how? Selling beads and crap? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:57 PM Flag
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like most things, its fun if you are being fun and you make it fun. if you are in a playful state of mind, go do something new with your husband and have a positive attitude. you will have fun. dont sit back and waut to have fun- MAKE it fun. play some games, go on a ride, east some street food, chill and be happy that your DH is taking the initiative to do something new with you instead of watching tv. No, its not tockets to Hamilton, but the most fun times are really hanging with your fave people [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:20 AM Flag
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It’s a zoo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:53 AM Flag
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Eh. It's very . . . touristy. As though it was an annual rite of passage for Italians living in NJ or Long Island. Overpriced food, not much variety, it's ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:17 AM Flag
[ - ] Have a part time sitter for the first time who picks my DS up from school (K) and brings him home. Today he brought a friend home too for a playdate and the sitter mentioned she usually charges a little extra for 2 kids. Is that normal? I would think it's even easier since DS is occupied and she just needs to check in vs. entertain him. Do others pay extra for a playdate? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:38 PM Flag
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Typically yes, you pay more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:39 PM Flag
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NP. Not true! Never heard of that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:31 AM Flag
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Where? Never heard of this in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 02:00 AM Flag
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I know some do, but I don't know anyone who actually pays more. when we had a regular play-date with a child, I always got the nanny a gift card at the end of the year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:47 PM Flag
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I never paid my sitter or nanny extra for those spontaneous after school play dates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:48 PM Flag
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I never paid more unless it involved feeding, bathing, and cleaning up after more children than my own [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:49 PM Flag
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That's silly unless it is a weekly thing and the other family is depending on your sitter for childcare. If it is a standard playdate, you don't pay your sitter more. Some days she will have 2 kids to watch and other days your DC will go to someone's house while she gets a coffee. It all evens out. I pay my sitter generously (for an extra hour if we are 5 minutes late), but I would be annoyed if this came up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:52 PM Flag
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This exactly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:13 PM Flag
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So when DS goes on a playdate at his friends, does she expect to get less? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:55 PM Flag
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Is she even working then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:42 PM Flag
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Not if you have the sitter on a regular basis. If it is a once in a while thing, sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:57 PM Flag
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Wow. In the hundreds of play dates my children have had over the years, none of my sitters have ever asked for more money. Play dates are part of the job description for an after school sitter. And furthermore it makes her job much easier. That is greedy and ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:05 PM Flag
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Depends on the kid - my kids are pretty independent, but they've had some friends over who are super needy (constantly back and forth from playing to ask for things, snacks, etc.) which is technically more work for me. Maybe this particular kid was a PITA? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:09 PM Flag
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Not to mention being responsible for getting another child safely home (crossing streets, taking subway, etc.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:10 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:53 PM Flag
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Greedy. She's taking advantage of you. Fire. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:53 PM Flag
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It doesn't matter what others do. Your sitter charges more when she is responsible for two children. If you can't afford it or don't want to pay it, simply don't invite other children over while she is sitting, or arrange for a different sitter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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It’s a fair question. Before she decides to find another sitter, worth taking a pulse on what others have experienced. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:09 PM Flag
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You may think it's easier, OP, but for the sitter it is double the responsibility and double the effort. Most nannies get more when a second child is born. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:45 PM Flag
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You're talking about a once in a blue moon playdate. No comparison. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:53 PM Flag
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2 kids are harder than 1 ALWAYS. there will be toys and snacks everywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:21 AM Flag
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Yes, and it’s her job. You’re not paying her to be on her phone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:56 AM Flag
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I’ve never heard of a sitter asking for this, nor has anyone I know. It’s entitled and greedy. And frankly, if someone thinks it’s so difficult to host another child for a few hours - then they don’t like kids and this isn’t the job for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:58 AM Flag
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