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[ - ] Yesterday I quit eating/drinking anything with artificial sweeteners. I am so hungry all the time and craving sweets. I thought artificial sweeteners made you feel hungry? I never felt hungry with them and am starving without them. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:33 PM Flag
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Did you replace those foods/calories with anything, or just cut them out completely? You might just be hungry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:35 PM Flag
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It was just 0 calorie drinks. I'm drinking coffee with a little milk and sugar so I'm actually consuming more calories now. (Also, drinking a little fruity water) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:38 PM Flag
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They help me curb my sugar cravings, and it doesn't take much-a sip or two of Diet Coke [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:38 PM Flag
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You're experiencing sugar/insulin issues. It will even out. You're not hungry. Just eat normal food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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I'll try. I'm literally about to eat the cat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:48 PM Flag
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Try half a banana with pb-it's sweet with fat and protein and will help you feel full [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:50 PM Flag
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I'm on it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:51 PM Flag
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Meow! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:21 PM Flag
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Protein vs. carbs helps. I eat an egg or a bit of cheese. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:43 PM Flag
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There goes the cat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:04 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:36 PM Flag
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IME when I go on a super clean eating plan and quit diet coke and Splenda in my coffee I don't lose as much weight as when I keep them in my diet and eat clean otherwise, at least for me I do think they help me eat less. I'll probably die from the terrible effects but then again real sugar, red meat and every other food may kill me first! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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Uggh hate that term. "clean eating" So meaningless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:36 PM Flag
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Takes about 6 weeks, by that time you will lose the taste for it. So just keep reminding yourself, your state of craving is temporary. GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:58 PM Flag
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It’ll take about five days, but once it’s out of your system you won’t crave them anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:00 AM Flag
[ - ] I want to write: "In October, we maximize the potential of this opportunity" but hate the word maximize - sounds talky and insincere. I like "the potential," but am open to better phrases. Any suggestions, literary ladies? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:33 PM Flag
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Actually, what I want to say is, "we make best use of the opportunity," take advantage of, etc. But don't want to be wordy. Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:34 PM Flag
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In October we fully leverage the opportunity to achieve xyz. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:05 PM Flag
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"In October, we fulfill the unprecedented potential of this opportunity"? Or is that worse? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:23 PM Flag
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...will realize the full potential.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Just read that the average couple spends $7,800 per year on food - a few hundred $ more if you live in the city. We're not rich but we spend WAY more than that. When the kids are at camp, I think we still spend $200+ per week. How much do you think a middle class couple spends in NYC for food? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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I mean, the whole point of living in NYC is supposed to be that you are enjoying all the great cuisine that is offered so I would presume you spend more than $200 per week. I can feed myself and my daughter for $50 a week but we don't go out to eat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:36 PM Flag
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We don't live here for the food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:39 PM Flag
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Really? I would. It would be one of the only reasons I'd want to live in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:43 PM Flag
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The food is definitely wonderful, but more of a secondary reason I don't want to leave (not a primary reason for being here). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:44 PM Flag
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What is your primary reason? Genuinely curious because I grew up in NYC but left [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:11 PM Flag
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I am doing something really wrong because we aren't going out to great restaurants. Maybe a local place once a week at their early bird special. $50! How do you do it? I would love to save more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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NP: Where do you buy groceries? Started shopping at Stop & Shop in Brooklyn, with the savings card. Stock up on things like pastas, frozen veggies etc. when they're on sale for 10/$10. Loosely plan your weekly meals in advance, then only buy things on sale (including meat and produce). Can easily get everything on my list for $50-$75. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:43 PM Flag
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You've got a great point about getting out of Manhattan grocery stores. That would be a project to get the groceries home but it would definitely save money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:46 PM Flag
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I am not really on a budget, my daughter and I just have simple tastes. I use a lot of eggs, flour tortillas, rotisserie chicken, potatoes, pasta and rice as meal building blocks. Bananas are incredibly cheap, they are a decent to-go breakfast on their own and when they start to go soft, I can make banana bread which turns into several more breakfasts for pennies. Not so much beans, my dd doesn't like them. A lot of it is buying things like a huge jar of pasta sauce that will take me half a dozen uses to get through. I have to freeze it in sandwich bag portions so it doesn't get mold. I also don't buy things like fresh milk, when I need some for a recipe I reconstitute it from powder in a water bottle, put it in the fridge and shake it a few times while it gets colder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:05 PM Flag
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I know this sounds like a carb nightmare, but we manage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:06 PM Flag
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No, it sounds delicious. I think part of the reason our groceries are expensive is because DH is borderline diabetic so we are very careful about carbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:15 PM Flag
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I think you are right. Rotisserie chickens are the loss leaders though - buy those [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:55 PM Flag
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Am I the only one who remembers a discussion on UB about the exorbitant cost of bananas ???? Granted it was a few years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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Middle class family of 4 in NYC. We spend about $100-$150 a week on groceries (I cook most meals during the week), then maybe another $100 a week on takeout (including me grabbing a couple of salads during the week for lunch at work). I think if DH and I were alone, it would probably be the same, since we'd probably eat out more (even if our grocery bills were lower). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:38 PM Flag
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I'm middle class, single with 2 kids. I spend at least $250 on groceries plus take out at least once a week and a restaurant at least once a week [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:43 PM Flag
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We spend WAY more than that, too. Unfortunately. We try to keep it under $2k a month for a family of 3 in Manhattan, but somehow struggle to do that some months. To be fair, I'm pregnant and extremely particular about what I eat day to day and very hungry! But I can't say that contributes significantly overall. Would love to know how some families do it for less!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:54 PM Flag
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We spend about $250 on groceries but I let it slide because we rarely eat out and I like to splurge on food. We order maybe 2-3x/month and go out once. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:43 PM Flag
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How many in your household? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:46 PM Flag
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4 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:25 AM Flag
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Don’t know what others spend, but I’m sure we spend less because we buy and eat a lot of bulk items like rice and beans and lentils. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:53 PM Flag
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Groceries plus eating out 1000 per month. Single mom two dc’s. Honestly can’t get the grocery bill below 650. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:39 AM Flag
[ - ] NYT's top picture about the NYC Climate March has a millennial drinking coconut water from a single-use container. Priceless! 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:23 PM Flag
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What a small minded person you must be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:30 PM Flag
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+1. And most likely joyless too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:33 AM Flag
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Your life must be very boring if this is a big hahaha moment in your day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:34 PM Flag
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Nothing funny about it, it's really sad. A picture is worth a thousand words. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:37 PM Flag
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Owning the libs must be its own reward for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:39 PM Flag
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I tend to find this funny too (liberal). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:49 PM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:54 AM Flag
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and lots of signs that will be in tomorrow's garbage [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:51 PM Flag
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or littering the streets and sidewalks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:49 PM Flag
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We're recycling them and many of the others will be too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:57 AM Flag
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Sadly, recycling is over. Most "recycled" plastic ends up in a landfill, burned, or sent to a third world country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 03:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Any UBers try or have opinions of Feldenkrais Method? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:09 PM Flag
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Love. I prefer to Feldenkrais. Many good lessons for free online. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:22 PM Flag
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General Topics 09.20.19, 08:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Where's tarot mom? Haven't seen her in ages, wonder if she got banned? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:51 PM Flag
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She should have seen it coming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:01 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:09 PM Flag
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Hopefully she's just too embarrassed to post, even on an anonymous site. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:08 PM Flag
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Translation: "I'm self-named tarot mom, and I'm posting a fake question to see if there are people on the board right now who will skewer me for be superstitious and/or a fraud." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:09 PM Flag
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she can always create a new account [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:09 PM Flag
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I’m still missing inmate mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:27 PM Flag
[ - ] Nervous mom here. DD asked to drive to CVS which is only about 5 miles from us but which takes her into the neighboring city. We've driven it a couple of times before but this is the first time she's going on her own. I should not be anxious but I am ... 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:19 PM Flag
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As long as she's not going on any highways or driving friends with her she should be ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:20 PM Flag
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I have felt that way for a lot of firsts. The first time DD walked to school, the first time she took the bus, the first time she took the subway. I think it's natural. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:20 PM Flag
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She’s gotta start somewhere [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:34 PM Flag
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Op. she got there ... gave me a fright coming home though because she apparently decided there was "too much traffic" going back through the city the other way, so she took another road ... and sort of wandered for a while in the back neighborhoods. She got home, though! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:00 PM Flag
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As long as she knows the rules of the road, it's better to figure out more than one way--what if there was a detour, and obstruction etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:42 PM Flag
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You are right. Now we're negotiating the trip tomorrow. I think I will let her do it. The fastest and easiest way to get there if you are an experienced driver is the highways. I just made a map showing that she only has to follow the same main street through the whole city to get back out on the other end to the place she wants to go, and I'm considering it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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LAND. THE. CHOPPER. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:13 PM Flag
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I will confess when dd started driving I would secretly track her to make sure she got where she was headed, it is really hard to trust new driver skill and sense of direction [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:08 PM Flag
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Op. I had a whole minute or two of consternation when her apple watch and iPhone were showing up in two different places. I need to learn to chill !! She came back with a stuffed toy fox, some Halloween cat ears, and some taco bell chips she is very excited about. If she can do it once on her own, she can do it again. But, tomorrow she wanted to drive 20 miles via 2 highways to get somewhere and I said noooo. Not yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Can any frame shop handle gold leaf? I have a pair of butterfly prints framed in gold leaf and one of them is chipped, but I want it to match the other one. Any recommendations? UES. tia 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:15 PM Flag
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You need a top notch museum quality framer. I use J Pocker, East 63rd St Manhattan. Very pricey, but excellent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:29 PM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:30 PM Flag
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Aren’t you kind to come back and thank for the info. You’re welcome. The advisers there are great, they will help you figure out best course of action. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Who is a better tipper, you or your husband/partner? My experience generally is men are better tippers. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:03 PM Flag
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all over the place! sometimes he tips generously sometimes not at all. sometimes it's the other way around for me. I used to wait tables, and when I did it was $2.15/hour plus tips, and this was in the 2000s, so knowing that I think encourages me to tip better, and also on time or effort instead of % of bill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:07 PM Flag
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We are both good tippers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:08 PM Flag
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same. I always feel like workers in the tip industry can use the extra money more than me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:12 PM Flag
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It's just the right thing to do. My son (16) and his girlfriend once left a $2 tip on a $58 bill (one of those combination restaurant/movie places) because he didn't calculate leaving room for the tip. I just about flipped out when he told me. We went back the following weekend on the same day she worked and I made sure they got her section and they left her $40 on a $50 bill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:22 PM Flag
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Funny thing is, it's ten years later and he told me that that whole incident shook him up. He was so embarrassed he never did it again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:23 PM Flag
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You could have just made him drop off a tip for her without sitting in her section again, etc. Kind of dramatic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:08 PM Flag
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I tip well b/c I work in food service and my father drove a yellow taxi to put me through college. Dh tips well b/c he's a gentleman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:13 PM Flag
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I used to work in food service so understand how key tips are. That being said, if service is poor (w/in wait staffs' control) I will tip accordingly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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I am! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:13 PM Flag
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I am but he's getting better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:22 PM Flag
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DH usually doesn’t have his readers on him so I sign all of the receipts and tip 20%. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:24 PM Flag
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Lol, this is typical of us! NP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:43 PM Flag
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We both tip 20%. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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I'm a more consistent tipper. I tip 10-12% every time, unless service is outstanding or miserable. DH is all over the place, and it's never about the service. He tips big when he thinks he'll be remembered and get perks the next time. Today the owner's son was our waiter and gave very good service, including comping us a small starter that he made himself and was testing for the regular menu, and DH tipped zero because "he's essentially the owner". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:13 PM Flag
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Are you American? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:28 PM Flag
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I'm way better but I was a bartender in college, so I know what it's like. Dh will sit there trying to calculate 20% of the bill before tax! Trust me they need the extra couple of dollars more than we do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone successfully lost weight in the lower belly area? What’d you do and how long did it take? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:53 PM Flag
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For me, the only thing that worked was labor and delivery. Lost about 20 pounds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:57 PM Flag
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Ha ha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:58 PM Flag
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Then you went back to a flat stomach? I didn’t. I had a c/s (after 40) and no matter what I do I can’t loose that belly pooch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:41 PM Flag
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No, sadly. I can't figure out what it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:31 PM Flag
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I used to have a great flat stomach. Two kids within two years later, it's a deflated balloon. So depressing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:03 PM Flag
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Yes but fair warning the answer to your second question is a TLDR. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:08 PM Flag
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Op- ok let’s hear it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:30 PM Flag
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yeah - let's hear it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:05 PM Flag
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I upped my exercise regimen from about 5 miles running a week to 10 miles, and I switched to eating salads from SweetGreen for lunch. After a month, no weight loss, but I can fit into my old clothes again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:18 PM Flag
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I'm 40 with three kids and my stomach is flat. I eat a clean diet (minimal sugar, virtually no processed carbs, very very little processed food at all and minimal dairy). I eat eggs, meat, potatoes and tons of fresh veggies. I walk about 3 miles a day and do pilates, yoga or a strength class a few times a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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^^oh and I probably have been eating this way for a year. I thought I had a decent diet before, but I did whole30 and quickly lost 10 pounds. Most importantly, my stomach lost all of the bloat (that I didn't even really realize I had) and is totally flat again. I love the way I feel, so I've kept to whole30 for the most part. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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So, you don't eat bread, pasta, or any pastry ever? Like, ever, ever? Do you drink alcohol ever? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:02 PM Flag
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Very very infrequently. Almost never. I do drink. If we go out to dinner I’ll have a few glasses of wine or a cocktail. We have a glass of wine with dinner at home a few times a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:32 PM Flag
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Interesting. I can't drink alcohol anymore without it making me bloat severely for several days. I'm envious you can still drink! And I'm ok with mostly giving up alcohol, but life is meaningless without pastry each week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:49 PM Flag
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pretty much all diet. Really watched it and kept consistent and it worked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:29 PM Flag
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took about 6 weeks to really see major progress and I didn't drink, didn't eat simple carbs or sugar at all, 1400 cals/day. I did also work out but it was mostly changing my diet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:31 PM Flag
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Lipo. Slight swelling, but totally flat after about 3 weeks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:34 PM Flag
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Do you mind sharing what it cost? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:49 PM Flag
[ - ] I just got reprimanded at work. This happens to me like once every few years. I feel awful. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:44 PM Flag
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I’m sorry. What happened? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:48 PM Flag
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I made a billing mistake and ended up costing the firm (which brings in over $100 million a year) $2k. Partner got really pissed. Irrelevant, but I can't help but think about how I "loaned her" thousands of dollars worth of IVF drugs that she said she would replace but never did a few years back. I make $150k. She makes a few million a year. Oh well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:58 PM Flag
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OP - Actually, that was a guess. Just looked it up and we bring in over $1B a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:58 PM Flag
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NP OK, if I were you, I'd be pissed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:59 PM Flag
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I'm confused. Your boss is supposed to overlook a mistake you made at work that cost her employer money bc you personally loaned her (not the company) some ivf drugs? We all ef up sometimes. You did this time and it will pass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:57 PM Flag
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Ugh-- sorry about that. TGIF [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:54 PM Flag
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Did you actually do something wrong or not do something you should have? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:58 PM Flag
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I didn't do something I should have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:02 PM Flag
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I’ve been there. I actually turned myself in. It was miserable, but I made a come back. You’re human. You will never not make a mistake. Some things matter more than others. Use it to get more focused and try not to get in this position again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Out of curiosity... if you were raised Catholic, but now do not practice or are part of another church or faith, do you still take communion when attending mass for family events (funerals, weddings, holidays, etc)? 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:34 PM Flag
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I do not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:38 PM Flag
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My mother was Catholic. I'm an atheist. On the rare occasion that I might have to be in a church, I would not take communion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:42 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:45 PM Flag
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I do, due to latent Catholic guilt and familial expectation. I don’t think they “get” that I don’t attend anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:48 PM Flag
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Maybe they don't "get" it because you still attend and take communion... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:15 PM Flag
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I haven't for a few years just because I have not been to church, but I did at my SIL's wedding 5 years ago. It makes the in-laws happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:52 PM Flag
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NP: I think if you are a lax Catholic, it's fine to take Communion. But if you have left the church or belief, it seems to me that's disrespectful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:56 PM Flag
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NP: yeah, I can see it both ways. Latent guilt/keeping peace w family vs disrespect. Which is more pressing an argument? Who would know you’re being disrespectful? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:02 PM Flag
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No one. The only people who would find it disrespectful are true believers, but if it's not real, bottom line who cares. We don't have tests of faith anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:04 PM Flag
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I think it's lapsed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:10 PM Flag
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duh, yes it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:19 PM Flag
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Nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:03 PM Flag
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At my niece's baptism last year, my sister's 20 yr old, non-Catholic stepdaughter took communion for some reason and as she was walking away, made a face and spit it out into her hand. I'm a lapsed Catholic, but even I found it disrespectful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:06 PM Flag
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Yeah that’s pretty horrifying [ Reply | More ]
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omg [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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I cringe. [ Reply | More ]
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oh my gahd [ Reply | More ]
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No [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, I would [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:40 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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I was raised Catholic and go to church occasionally with my parents, but I have celiac disease so I never take communion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:59 PM Flag
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Classic! :-D [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:16 PM Flag
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Well, I think of all of this as man made ritual stuff so yes, I might. It's not really real. Jesus didn't gaf about any of this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:43 PM Flag
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It might re-ignite the faith. So don't be judgy church ladies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:44 PM Flag
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In the Episcopal Church, a non-baptized person can go up with others to the altar, cross their arms over their chest, and receive a blessing instead of the actual communion wafer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:51 PM Flag
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Same in Roman Catholicism [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:42 PM Flag
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I don't. It was awkward at my aunt's funeral, all my cousins and aunts and uncles stared at me and my parents who didn't get up for Communion. They should have marked our pew LAPSED. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:17 PM Flag
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I'm often the 'emergency Catholic' in extended family funeral situations where someone old is getting buried, the generation above me didn't get baptised, (somehow my mom got me baptisized/confirmed) so I stand up to get communion as representative of family, which then signals other people attending service to get in line, as family is offered communion first. For some reason, people are deeply ashamed to avail themselves of Catholic funeral rites for our elderly, but embarassed they cannot participate in the service. I don't go to church myself at this point, but I'm happy to fulfill a ritual obligation that removes some (undeserved) social shame for my husband's family in particular. It's weird, but somehow ritual observance matters to people as a sign of respect particularly in death. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:54 PM Flag
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I do but I don't feel like my not attending church or being involved in a particular parish makes me a lapsed catholic. There is no requirement to attend mass in the bible and I do not regard following Catholic dogma as necessary to being Catholic although I am aware the church would very much disagree with that opinion. I express my Catholicism by being a person in service to others which to me is what being catholic is all about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:14 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it normal to have a handful of chin hairs? I remember plucking a stray one or two as a teenager but now, in my 30s, I swear I probably have like 10 I have to pluck. What gives? I've been tested for PCOS, and everything's normal. Maybe this is normal?? Seems weird... 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:29 PM Flag
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You ‘re a bit on the early side, so might want to check your hormone levels. Usually, though, this happens mid forties on, getting progressively more annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:41 PM Flag
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The same thing happened to me, after I had kids. I didn't have any medical issues but the hair really bothered me. I got electroylsis (from a legit professional with her own practice) and highly reccommend it. Mine got worse when I plucked them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:42 PM Flag
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OP - this helps, thank you for the advice! I just realized this actually started to become a "thing" after I had my DD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:45 PM Flag
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I always had this since late teens. It got way worse after I turned 40. Did laser and it didn’t work that well. Need to motivate for electrolysis. Think it will be something I have to do every couple of years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:56 PM Flag
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I got laser at 30 and 38 for chin hairs, lower lip, and upper lip. Only about a dozen chin hairs, but having to pluck twice a week was annoying, that put me over the edge to get laser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:46 PM Flag
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I think it's normal. I have 2-3 and have since 20s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:02 PM Flag
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1 at a time seems normal for me, but not always...like maybe once or twice a year one sprouts up. A handful sounds like a lot, but maybe not for people of mediterranean ancestry? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:42 PM Flag
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It’s a function of aging and hormonal changes, happens across many ethnicities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:32 PM Flag
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I'm 43 and have three at different places on my chin and neck that seemingly pop up overnight a mile long. I don't remember how long they have been around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:16 AM Flag
[ - ] UPS now has a function where you can see a live update on an online map of where the truck is that contains your parcel. Mesmerizing. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:41 PM Flag
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^^My parcel is going the wrong way! Come back! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:45 PM Flag
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Parcel?? Care for a spot o' tea?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:55 PM Flag
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NP: well, UPS does stand for "United Parcel Service." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:00 PM Flag
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I'm living (happily) in the 19th century. Except for UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:02 PM Flag
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While you're waiting, read up on the automated systems that figure out the best routes for all of the drivers, based on all deliveries in a region, available drivers and vehicles, traffic patterns, building sizes, even local weather. It is insane how much the computer programs analyse and how quickly they design and change routes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:55 PM Flag
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Yes, I read that they map out the routes to avoid left turns, which are slower! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:56 PM Flag
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Not quite. Left turns are more dangerous. That's why UPS omits them from their GPS routing directions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:12 PM Flag
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I told my DH this and he rolled his eyes. He didn’t believe me until his mother told him she heard that too. Left turns are dangerous, especially unprotected left turn yields. And unpredictable, you can have a timid driver sit through an entire light. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:35 PM Flag
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My friends' dh designed many of the UPS efficiency models. It was very complicated with spreadsheets and best time models etc. But then my neighbor 2 buildings away called to tell me my package has been on his mailroom ledge for 3 weeks now. Thanks Amazon! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:57 PM Flag
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"spreadsheets" lols [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:01 PM Flag
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NP - I'm American. We used to call it Parcel Post when I was little. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:45 PM Flag
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It's like Uber. But three years late. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:53 PM Flag
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Are you waiting for an iPhone like I am?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:15 PM Flag
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No, a new router or modem. Never know which is which. Still in love with my flip phone (only my second cell phone! Got the first in 2003). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:25 PM Flag
[ - ] My 16 year old DD was invited by her best friend's family to travel with them to Australia for winter break. I feel selfish saying no, but she's my youngest and my DS is entering a medical residency and won't be able to travel with the family much in the near future and other DD is getting serious with her boyfriend, so I feel like our little vacation to Aruba may be the last family one for a long while. But I want DD to seize opportunties, see the world. Best friend's family is extremely wealthy, which adds to the appeal for her (mansions, private chefs etc.) and maybe I'm a bit jealous that she admires their lifestyle so much. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:38 PM Flag
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I'd say yes to this one. What an amazing experience for her, so long as she's grounded enough to understand that not everyone travels/lives like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:43 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:59 PM Flag
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-1. Amazing in my mind is not spending time with the rich and famous, but with my family. To each their own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:36 AM Flag
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IMO Christmas/hanakuh holidays are for family. However, is there a way she can do both the family trip and join her bff family in Australia? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:44 PM Flag
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I'd let her go. I used to think--oh, this is our "last" family event, but in reality the kids kept coming back, lolz. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:45 PM Flag
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What's the protocol in this situation in terms of payment. Does the inviting family pay for your dd since they invited? Do you pay? If so, do you ask how much it will cost before accepting in case the family goes 5 star and you can only afford 3 star? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:47 PM Flag
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OP:It's all on them. My DD has travelled with their family often (and their DD with mine) and they're very generous. They like my DD and think she's a good influence on their DD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:52 PM Flag
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I'd let her go on this trip - sounds like a once in a lifetime thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:55 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:33 PM Flag
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But climate change. Is she taking a zero emissions yacht there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:58 PM Flag
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A valid concern. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:00 PM Flag
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I'd probably let her go. You could veto it and say she's going to Aruba and in all likelihood she'll be bummed about it and who wants that? This sounds like an amazing opportunity. She's your kid, you can certainly continue to travel together beyond this year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:07 PM Flag
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I'm 47 and have never been to Australia, nor do I foresee myself being able to go to in the near future. I wish I had had an opportunity like that at some point in my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:15 PM Flag
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Let her go!,!!!!! It is selfish not to. You will feel sad, but she will have a once in a lifetime experience. Better you should feel sad, than she should miss this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:40 PM Flag
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I would say yes. She will spend the family trip thinking of the awesome experience she is missing out on with her friend in Australia. Will she still be with you on Christmas Eve & Day if you celebrate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:41 PM Flag
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Would you want to pass up a trip to Australia, especially under these circumstances? Aruba won’t go away. Your other dad is not moving off the planet. Let her go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:02 PM Flag
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^dd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:03 PM Flag
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Let her go. Don’t be selfish. You still have plenty of time to make memories with your kids. Don’t deprive her of an opportunity like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:31 PM Flag
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I love a post sprinkled with guilt and shame. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:45 PM Flag
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Have you already planned Aruba? Can you postpone til next week off? This is a once in a lifetime opportunity. You should let her go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:34 PM Flag
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totally let her go. seems like a wonderful opportunity! don't punish her for Ds's decision. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:53 AM Flag
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How is this "a once in a lifetime opportunity"? Is Australia about to disappear or? She has her whole life ahead of her to travel wherever she wants to. I have been to over 50 countries already, and I am only 41. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:38 AM Flag
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An all expenses paid top of the line trip to the other side of the world? That kind of thing falls in your lap every day, does it? For the vast majority of us, it doesn’t ever happen. Hence the term “ once in a lifetime.” [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 03:16 AM Flag
[ - ] I can not tell you how much it irritates me that despite the year being 2019, every child related call (school, after school activity, whatever) goes to the mother, not the father. Why the fuck is this? They have his email, they copy him on the email, but the request is made to me. Always. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:33 PM Flag
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I wish the school directory would have an option to show which parent (or both) to contact with social stuff. It's just as annoying for us to have to forward such emails from one parent to the other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:39 PM Flag
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^^The directory that is accessible to other parents I mean. The school itself does have a check box for whether each individual parent's email address should be included on school emails. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:46 PM Flag
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Our school had a check mark about whom to contact first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:45 PM Flag
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100% agree. DH SAH and emails still come to me. Which I'm ok with because I like to know stuff anyway to make sure nothing gets missed, but it creates a lot of forwarding back and forth. That and the message this assumption sends! I also email the teacher at the beginning of the school and tell them to put both of us on any distributions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:46 PM Flag
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OP: thank you for letting me whine, everyone. Even more irritating? If I ask why I am the one being sent the email (and I indeed have!), when it's clear my child has TWO INVOLVED PARENTS they seem flummoxed, as if it's a stupid question and very obvious why. WHICH INFURIATES ME EVEN MORE! Oh. Because I'm the one with the uterus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:53 PM Flag
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Don't ask. Tell them what to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:58 PM Flag
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I feel like I know you! Do you live in a Chicago burb by chance? Either way, many of us out there who feel the same! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:06 PM Flag
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I read here that the same thing happened when Ruth Bader Ginsburg had young children. She told the school to call her husband with these types of calls. They never called him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:59 PM Flag
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Tell them to call him first. Solved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:56 PM Flag
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We have call forwarding on our home phone, which is the number the school has. Each day we decide whose schedule has more flexibility and who will be able to pick up. We can also change it remotely during the day if anything changes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:57 PM Flag
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You modern. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:58 PM Flag
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Yes, 1990s technology is da bomb. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:02 PM Flag
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+1 We have one family email, too. It's for all school communications. Whoever sees the email first answers it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:03 PM Flag
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Faith? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:59 PM Flag
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You know what I’m guilty of? Sending email invites to birthday parties only to the mom. Totally letting gender roles guide my decision on the email recipient. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:07 PM Flag
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Want to hear the worst story regarding this? Our school sent our class assignments via email. The school only sent to the newly deceased mother's account, not the living father's account. What a complete screwup. UES well regarded public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:12 PM Flag
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Do one email for your child (like a separate gmail) so that you both can check that account. My school sends emails to both of us but if there is a call it comes to me (I do think I indicated that on the paperwork though). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:15 PM Flag
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this is private UES SS ^ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:16 PM Flag
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Our school as parent 1 and parent 2. Parent 1 gets the call. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:16 PM Flag
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Totally. Day care is supposed to call my DH -- who works across the street! -- yet they often call me instead. I work in another state during the day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:25 PM Flag
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I'm a step mother and have no idea why schools, inlaws, neighbours voice parenting to me instead of the parent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:10 PM Flag
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Our form says parent 1, and parent 2. We call whoever listed in a parent 1 spot first [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:30 PM Flag
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Not in our household. I never put my info. Everything goes to DH- emails and phone calls. He’s always at his desk by the phone and on the computer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:38 PM Flag
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Amen. Not only that, school talks to me differently than to DH. They would complain about my child at pickup, all the negatives. If my DH shows up, they will say nothing. I just do not believe that my child behaved better on the days when DH did the pick up. Every time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:53 PM Flag
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i stopped answering. now they call him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:33 AM Flag
[ - ] I know this is ridiculous ask, but can somebody teach me how to order a sandwich at a traditional deli. I didn't grow up in the US and whenever I have to order a sandwich at a deli I get overwhelmed and end up either hungry (since I walk away) or with something I don't really want. TYIA 67 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:26 PM Flag
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Tell me what you want on the sandwich and what type of bread. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:27 PM Flag
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I think I mostly struggle with what are the options (that are assumed you know). Say I want a grilled chicken on a roll. If I say that, I just get grilled chicken and a roll. it doesn't have any condiments or vegetables or anything else. That's the part I struggle with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:30 PM Flag
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When you ordering, you just say "with tomato, lettuce, mustard/mayo, pickle. You have to state what you want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:31 PM Flag
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how do I know what they have? I think that's my biggest issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:32 PM Flag
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NP - You have to just say exactly what you want on the sandwich - such as grilled chicken on a roll with lettuce, tomato, onion, and a little oil and vinegar. Just say every item you want. They pretty much have everything unless you want something really exotic. They will tell you if they don’t have it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:33 PM Flag
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thank you, this is very helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:39 PM Flag
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NP look at the board above the deli counter or make reasonable assumptions. OTOH, having mayo on your corned beef is not reasonable, ever, but if you want it just say so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:34 PM Flag
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My late MIL thought mayo was the ONLY condiment for a sandwich. Corned beef, ham, pastrami -- whatever. She lived in a world in which mustard had never been invented (Connecticut). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:42 PM Flag
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Annie Hall ordered pastrami with mayonnaise [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:56 PM Flag
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Pretty much everyone has lettuce, tomato, mustard, mayo, maybe roasted peppers. Also say if you want the bread toasted. See if there's a sign or menu with named sandwiches including the ingredients. Another tip: go when it's not busy. A good counter person should ask you what you want on the bread [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:37 PM Flag
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Hey dude, I'll take a pastrami on rye with mustard!! Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:29 PM Flag
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Do you want that heated? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:54 PM Flag
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swiss cheese & a slice of red onion would make this great for me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:54 PM Flag
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Sort of like a variant of a Reuben. Although I once had a wrap with corned beef, mustard and sauerkraut, served hot. Delish! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:33 PM Flag
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Think of it like a Subway. Choose your bread, choose your meat and/or cheese, choose your toppings (lettuce, tomato, onion, other), choose your spread (mustard, mayo, vinaigrette). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:29 PM Flag
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ty this is helpfull. what are 'others' in toppings? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:31 PM Flag
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Other possible toppings include: pickles, roasted red pepper, bacon, sprouts, avocado, sprouts, cucumber. For spread, mustard usually goes with anything, unless you're getting a "salad" e.g., tuna, egg, chicken. Then, go with mayo or nothing at all. Don't put mayo on red meat (beef, pastrami, salami). Only possible exception is ham. Some meat/cheese combos are staples, e.g., ham & swiss, turkey & cheddar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:41 PM Flag
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OP: this is exactly what I need. Would corner deli have an avocado? Do they have butter? If I wanted butter, ham, cheese and tomato. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:45 PM Flag
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Of course they would have butter. Need the butter for bagels, frying eggs, etc. Avocados would depend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:47 PM Flag
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Corner deli in NYC would have avocado. Not necessarily in other parts of country. They would have butter, because they'd use it on grilled cheese and breakfast sandwiches, but would be unusual order for ham & cheese in the US. They might look at you funny, but they can make it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:49 PM Flag
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TY. I really appreciate it. So helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:51 PM Flag
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My pleasure. This was a fun post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:52 PM Flag
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OP: Ty. you are kind. it's kind of embarrassing. I've been here for almost two decades. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:57 PM Flag
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real New Yorkers don't eat at Subway....ever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:32 PM Flag
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This is ridiculous, sorry. Who ever orders a sandwich: "rye bread with turkey"? No. It's filling first then move outwards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:34 PM Flag
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Good point. That was a funny line from Saturday Night Fever: "my friend will have a lemon with some tea..." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:35 PM Flag
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Haha, you're right! That's why Subway was always so weird to me, but I never pinpointed the reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:15 PM Flag
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yo couldigettauhhhh... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:30 PM Flag
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"Roast beef on rye with lettuce mayo salt and pepper" "Bologne and yellow american on a roll no mayo, just mustard" "BLT on lightly toasted white bread with mayo salt and pepper" "Turkey Hero with bacon, tomato, lettuce, mayo sale and pepper" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:30 PM Flag
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Why aren't you asking this question at the deli? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:34 PM Flag
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OP I usually avoid deli since I find it confusing. Also it's busy and not really a place for elaborate explanations about toppings and condiments. Other times it's a language barrier, which is fine but again not conducive to any elaborate discussions about what they have or don't have. And in NYC I have other options so I don't depend on it. I just go elsewhere. That said when I need to order at a deli, it's stressful. hence my question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:56 PM Flag
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I get it, it can be intimidating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:15 PM Flag
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I actually worked in a deli. Everyone orders it opposite of how you need them to order it (start with the bread so I know what roll to grab). Start with the meat, specify if you want cheese, then you can say lettucetomatomayonnaise all as one word, then on rye, or whole wheat, or a roll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:35 PM Flag
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ty. this is helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:38 PM Flag
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So, do you want the bread first so you know what to grab? Or do you want the bread last as in your example? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:43 PM Flag
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As a deli worker, I want people to order with the bread first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:46 PM Flag
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But no one does, and it's fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:03 PM Flag
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Hello, my good fellow! Might I have the leg of lamb on peasant bread and light on the mint jelly? Grand! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:36 PM Flag
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ILY! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:38 PM Flag
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Chuckling... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:38 PM Flag
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I don't like anything on my sandwich but bread and meat. (American here) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:46 PM Flag
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No ham & cheese? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:14 PM Flag
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Not much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:13 PM Flag
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I'm not too fond of cheese on sandwiches either, but I'll make an exception for mozzarella with salami or ham, or for salami & provalone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:34 PM Flag
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This is hardly typical of how most Americans make their sandwiches. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:55 PM Flag
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I understand, but I do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:13 PM Flag
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I have worked in delis and I think it's really cute that you asked this question - I also hate that you have walked away hungry! I'm with those who say to just think of what you want and order it - they probably have 99% of it, and if they don't they will tell you. Now, with your new found knowledge, go out and order a delicious sandwich! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:50 PM Flag
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OP - TY. A bad lunch order prompted it. I got a wrap with roasted chicken w/ onion and cheese and it was not what I wanted/expected. next time will be better. Thank you all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:59 PM Flag
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Hmm...did the sandwich have a name? Certain sandwiches (Reuben, Cuban, club) have specific default ingredients so you have to go out of your way to say "turkey BLT - hold the tomato". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:01 PM Flag
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LOL remember on Curb Your Enthusiasm when the "Larry David" was a horrible mashup of sable, cream cheese, onion and capers, and Larry tried to switch with Ted Danson? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:35 PM Flag
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no, it said "roasted chicken, onion & cheese", you could see it so it was clear that it was wrap. I expected juicy chucks of rotisserie chicken in a wrap with some cheese and onions. This chicken was almost minced, think tuna salad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:19 PM Flag
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A good deli will prompt you? Mustard or mayo? Onions? Lettuce Tomato? Russian dressing? etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:59 PM Flag
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Well at least you are aware, and don't get the the front of the line, like my midwestern parents, and say "....ummmmm, I'll have, uhhhh....". Decide before you get in line ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:11 PM Flag
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Yep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:11 PM Flag
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Yes, that's frowned on. Sort of like getting to the turnstile and THEN looking for your metrocard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:12 PM Flag
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OP - yes, I hate when people do it as well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:16 PM Flag
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OMG you're giving me PTSD. I'm from Wisconsin and we visited Manhattan when I was 13 or so. My father tried to chat up the counter guy about the "real good corned beef and pastrami ya got out here on the East Coast" as a lunchtime line snaked behind us. I died a thousand deaths. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:18 PM Flag
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Sounds like one of those Friendly Mid-westerners I've heard about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:36 PM Flag
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It's all true ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:53 PM Flag
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When I was a kid I was paralyzed at the deli once. Finally I realized they had cheese and I liked feta cheese so I ordered a feta cheese sandwich. The guy was like "you don't want a tomato or anything" and I said no so indeed I got a roll with feta on it. (it was unpleasant! I learned my lesson...turkey and swiss on whole wheat with mustard) They don't care, this is NYC or whatever and they make you what you want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:15 PM Flag
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NP: that's cute. I've got to give these deli people a big thumbs up. I amazed sometimes at the particularity at which some orders are place. Even for bagels. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:24 PM Flag
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^^placed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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LOL I was at a "NY Style Deli" back when I was at school, and when I asked for chopped liver on a bagel, the counter person was honestly mystified and asked me how to keep it from falling through the hole? I politely told her to use a lettuce leaf. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:38 PM Flag
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It's so true that in other countries you just get a type of sandwich and can't make these kinds of demands. Makes my DS nuts, but I think it's better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:03 PM Flag
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OP - I grew up in Europe so I am used to more of Maison Kayser style sandwiches. I don't know if it's better or not but you see them so it's clear what's in it. Usually it also says. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:22 PM Flag
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LOL. I actually have walked in and out of delis for this reason because I just did not understand what I was supposed to do. Not from NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:23 PM Flag
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I don't order sandwiches but I like Pret a Manger where it's premade and you just take it. Same at Maison Kayser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:13 AM Flag
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