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[ - ] I can't afford to spend several thousand on a service that measures and installs custom drapes. But I want better than Ikea. What's in between? Thanks! 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:41 AM Flag
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Home depot? Janovic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:42 AM Flag
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I have IKEA [ Reply | More ]
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For me it's a sewing machine, tools and a ladder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:45 AM Flag
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I made my drapes, but I did a LOT of hand stitching. In fact, I barely used the sewing machine. It was a huge project with lining and interlining and fancy pleats and decorative trim, but they turned out very professional. Note: I have been sewing for 45 years--since I was a young child. I know my stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:59 AM Flag
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Good for you. No where in my post did I dispute your skills. Just giving you my in between solution. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:10 AM Flag
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That's fine. Just saying that there's a lot more involved than a sewing machine when you start getting fancy. Kind of like making clothes. You can sew it all with a sewing machine, but to take it to another level requires the good old needle and thread. ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:15 AM Flag
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My post also included installation. I'm handy with tools so there's that. I'm sorry I ever responded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:28 AM Flag
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NP: Lol. UB... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 07:50 AM Flag
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anyone try Restoration Hardware? They have tons of linen and velvet options. What's the quality like? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:47 AM Flag
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We went from Ikea to RH. Mostly pleased with cost/benefit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:49 AM Flag
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This is extreme - basically everything is in the middle. Pottery Barn, RH, West Elm, Crate & Barrell etc . Or you can look on Amazon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:50 AM Flag
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You can get the hardware at home depot (there is a range) and buy drapes from restoration hardware or such. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:51 AM Flag
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I have both pottery barn and target and honestly quality wise there isn't a huge difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:54 AM Flag
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Go on craigslist or whatever local service and find someone who does this as a small business. More than Ikea (at the time was shocked at how much more) but also less than the custom drapes people. Also, doesn't Costco have a service that does this? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I was asked if I could provide some ornaments for a Christmas tree for a little boy who will be spending Christmas in the hospital. I was told he likes trucks. I did not believe I could find truck ornaments, but I found three! So excited. It's been a terrible couple of weeks and shopping tonight made me so happy. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:37 AM Flag
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Very sweet :) [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you [ Reply | More ]
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A great example of feeling fantastic helping others [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:43 AM Flag
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Hugs. Yes thinking of that little guy with medical problems helps keep it all in perspective [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:51 AM Flag
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Awesome! That’s Christmas [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:40 AM Flag
[ - ] My friend left his headphones at a bar near my apt. He lives 20 blocks away and has no job. He wants me to go over and check for him. I said he needs to call first and confirm if they’re there. It’s about 3 blocks but I just worked 14 hours. Am I a bitch to not go? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:27 AM Flag
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Of course not. He can go look himself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:28 AM Flag
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I would do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:32 AM Flag
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You are nice. Did you work all day today? I’m so damn tired. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:54 AM Flag
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So tell him to call and if they are there, you'll go pick them up when you have time. Which might not be for a few days. (np) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:12 AM Flag
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I won’t be home before 9 any night this week. He won’t need to be anywhere before six any day this week. He’s just so lazy. I am not his girlfriend. This is beyond the call of duty for a friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:24 AM Flag
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Okay, so don't go then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:50 AM Flag
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Why does he not have a job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:32 AM Flag
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Because he is independently wealthy. Think of iwp. That’s my friend. He slept all day yesterday and did nothing today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:53 AM Flag
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He can call himself, it will be good to give him a project. Or you know, he can just buy new headphones. If he does call and they are there, you could pick them up later in the week. Don't go out if you are exhausted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:06 AM Flag
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You are reasonable. Why can’t he think like this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:09 AM Flag
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No. It’s cold and he doesn’t have to work tomorrow so can deal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:58 AM Flag
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Also it’s headphones! Not a wallet or phone. This would annoy me a lot [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:59 AM Flag
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I thought it was going to be his credit card. I would have picked that up. Haha but seriously, if he cared so much he should have gone Sunday when they opened. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:05 AM Flag
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In my twenties my roommates boyfriend accidentally threw out his Gucci loafers in a trash can a block away from our apartment. They realized and called me at 3am to go get them. I did and never got a proper thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:06 AM Flag
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Yeah. I could see that happening. Also he half assedly invited me to the bar and then ignored me to talk to other women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:11 AM Flag
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Is he gay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:08 AM Flag
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I wonder [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:24 AM Flag
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If he is rich and unemployed, he certainly can either get them himself or buy another pair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:09 AM Flag
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Truth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:23 AM Flag
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Tell them to hold them until you can get there. But it's really his problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:29 AM Flag
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I would go [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:40 AM Flag
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Me, too. I'd call or have him call first to make sure they are there, but I would definitely go. It's good exercise and it's a nice thing to do for a friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:45 AM Flag
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[ - ] There is a mom at DD's school that for whatever reason absolutely hates me. We haven't had a falling out, in fact, I hardly know her (spoken a handful of times) even though our DDs are friends and in the same class. She gossips about me, manipulates people against me (will turn to someone and roll her eyes when I walk into a room, etc). All petty, passive aggressive bullshit. I have no idea how to deal - tried confronting her directly once last year and she was super fake and pretended like she didn't know what I was talking about. How should I deal? 60 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:22 AM Flag
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Ignore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:24 AM Flag
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Laugh out loud when she rolls her eyes again. She'll look like an asshole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:24 AM Flag
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Yep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:57 AM Flag
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OP. I actually don't really care about her liking me, and find her to be incredibly dumb and annoying, but worried about her influencing other moms. She has great social skills and I'm an introvert. Ugh, feels like high school except with 40 year old moms :(. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:24 AM Flag
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The beauty of being 40 is that you have the ability not to give a crap anymore. It's your kids school not your social outlet. I'm sure she doesn't have a lot going on as much as you think she's an extrovert. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:26 AM Flag
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OP. She definitely doesn't have a lot going on in terms of career, success of her kids, etc. But she's a social butterfly and extremely confident. All image zero substance, and that seems to work for most people. It also influences my DD's ability to get playdates and people's perceptions at school, so I feel like I can't just ignore it... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:29 AM Flag
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I feel like if I don't defend myself, there will be a void which she will fill with negativity. She creates negativity about me everywhere she goes- several different people have hinted to me that she has said unkind things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:31 AM Flag
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Well, they're jerks for telling you that especially if they didn't defend you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:33 AM Flag
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Ah but you can. The kids will sort it out and I would never forgo a playdate if I didn't think the Mom was 'cool'. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:32 AM Flag
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OP. As in you wouldn't allow the playdate with the other DD of this mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:39 AM Flag
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The things you are saying about this woman are incredibly judgmental and sanctimonious. No wonder she dislikes you. It doesn't sound like you have any friends there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:50 AM Flag
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OP. Not sure why you think I don't have any friends. I actually have several good mom friends, both in DD's class and a couple of the other classes. And when someone pulls mean girl bullshit on me for no reason, I am going to judge them sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:58 AM Flag
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Just ignore. People are probably talking shit about me but I don't know because I don't get involved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:24 AM Flag
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Ignore her. It’s likely everyone else thinks she’s a lunatic acting like that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:25 AM Flag
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OP. That's the thing. She seems to have a lot of friends (at least superficially). I'm the loner. I really don't get it, as you would think everyone could see straight through her. She's also class mom so holds some "power" if you can call it that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:26 AM Flag
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You're way too invested if you have this level of knowledge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:27 AM Flag
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Just be friendly and sweet with the other moms - if they’re not sheep they will form their own opinions of you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:28 AM Flag
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OP. This is good advice thanks. I do have a couple of mom friends in the class who seem to understand how fake this other mom is. Just wish I knew how to handle better and not let these types win or affect me as much. Never figured out the mean girl thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:34 AM Flag
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So you be class mom next year and exclude her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 05:04 AM Flag
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Have your DD's had friend drama? Sounds like someone who is immature and insecure herself and drawing on what is going on in kid world a little too much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:27 AM Flag
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She is insecure. No drama - my DD is extremely bright, well rounded, popular, etc. so there might be some jealousy there (from mom, NOT her DD who is very sweet). I think she thinks her DD is always trying harder at the friendship. But my DD is always nice and considers her a good friend, so I'm not sure what the problem is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:36 AM Flag
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She sounds jelly of you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:27 AM Flag
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OP. Yes, someone told me that she is "threatened" by me. So bizarre. We are significantly wealthier than her, which may be causing some of the resentment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:33 AM Flag
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bingo! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:36 AM Flag
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OP. It's so ridiculous, because it's not like they are FA and we are the Rockefellers! It's probably one standard deviation for Christ's sake. The pettiness is unbelievable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:38 AM Flag
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How significant, and how would you know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:38 AM Flag
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OP. Everyone knows what everyone does, where they work, who has grandparents paying, etc. Small private. It's probably like 500K vs 1M. Roughly. Again, not the Rockefellers but significant (at least to her). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:41 AM Flag
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^Also, I'm a SAHM and she has to work to get to that HHI. Hence the resentment? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:42 AM Flag
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Now you're just sounding like a trollish asshole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:43 AM Flag
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OP. Not a troll. Sorry if it came off badly. But I truly do not get the pettiness and resentment. I have done NOTHING to this mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:46 AM Flag
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You need to stop thinking about and assigning reasons (based on your perfect life vs. what you think is her imperfect life) and act like a grownup. You sound like a middle schooler. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:48 AM Flag
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OP. My life is far from perfect. SAHMs do not automatically have perfect lives. I am trying to think of rational reasons why someone who doesn't even know me would hate me and be so nasty and mean. That is all. I have no idea if it's the money thing, the SAHM thing, or something else entirely. Truly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:49 AM Flag
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OP. And by the way, how do you suggest I "Act like a grown up?" I have already been ignoring her. Any other constructive suggestions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:51 AM Flag
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Hmmm. From another SAHM social butterfly type. I think you are reading that wrong. I think she probably thinks that you are lame/boring/smug/ugly/preachy and doesn't want to be friends. She doesn't care if they make a few hundred thousand less than you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:48 AM Flag
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OP. You know, this might be the case. I'm am not any of those things, but I can actually see that being her perception. Especially the smug part, as my DD really stands out (I don't really take credit for that though). So if you are her, how would you suggest I react? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:53 AM Flag
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Take the high road. Just be nice, be friendly, keep your cool. Don't start from the position that she envies you your (husband's) money or your lack of a job or your very popular and admired child or anything else (I say this because you mention these factors a number of times and want this to be about envy, when it may be that she just doesn't like you or think you are cool). Be humble. Don't try to get others to see how awful she is- just try to focus on making some friends of your own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:00 AM Flag
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Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:31 AM Flag
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OP. Also, we don't need to be friends with each other (I have no desire to be friends with her honestly), but what's with the mean girl behavior? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:55 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:19 AM Flag
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Sounds horrible. Glad my DD doesn't go there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:43 AM Flag
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OP. Ironically, the academics, teachers, administration are stellar and warm. Most parents on the other hand, are very sharp elbowed and cold. Lots of financial anxiety and competition, not a friendly, open community AT ALL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:45 AM Flag
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Sure. [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 12.11.18, 02:50 AM Flag
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Ignore, ignore, ignore. I mean to the point she no longer exists in your world. Secondly, most mothers eventually steer clear of a women who chronically rolls her eyes for no reason. I’m also an introvert but I do make an effort to be pleasant with the other moms and force myself to join a few school social events. I think it’s important to know the parents of your daughter’s friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:44 AM Flag
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OP. The consensus seems to be to ignore. That's what I've been doing, will stay the course! Happy to take other advice as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:48 AM Flag
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ask her to coffee and just keep it light . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:53 AM Flag
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OP. Can't. Tried that last year, thinking we could "talk" and it totally backfired and made things worse. She is very indirect, passive aggressive, fake. I am very direct and deal with things like a guy - don't have time for mean girl bullshit. Basically, it didn't work. That ship has sailed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:56 AM Flag
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Um humm, you deal with things like a guy. Keep digging deeper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:58 AM Flag
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OP. LOL. Ok, I have the emotions of a woman, but my communication style is like a guy. I've been told that many times in many different situations. I seriously suck at manipulating, being subtle, passive aggressive, catty comments, etc. Would rather just tell someone off and then pretend they don't exist. Clearly, this isn't the most effective approach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:01 AM Flag
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^I have always had a problem understanding female dynamics with women like this, and only ever had a couple of close girlfriends who were kind and loyal at any given time in my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:03 AM Flag
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I've lost interest in this conversation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:03 AM Flag
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Wtf? Ok, well perhaps she can tell you don't like women, for some weird reason, and think they are catty, passive aggressive and manipulative, and - as a woman - perhaps she feels offended by this. I know I do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 06:03 AM Flag
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This. Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 08:46 AM Flag
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I had this exact situation when DC was younger. She intentionally avoided me, invited every mom in our class to an event and excluded me, left a coffee shop by the school when I came in one day, that kind of thing. I asked her if I had done something to upset her and she denied it and, like you described, acted like she had no idea what I was talking about. Fast forward a number of years--other moms have since had issues with her and her DC was counseled out (private). To this day I have no idea what I did, but life is too short to worry about it. You invited her to talk to you like a grown up, she declined. You're a busy woman with plenty of friends and have no need to beg this woman for her friendship. Be civil but otherwise ignore her. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:20 AM Flag
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OP. Thank you for this! Feeling better. Did she ever try to manipulate others against you? Did you just ignore that as well? I feel like people see her true colors but just kind of go with the flow rather than stand up for what's right. No one really has the time to deal with this stuff so everyone just kind of lets her get away with it. It's disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:24 AM Flag
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Yes, she definitely bad mouthed me and I did feel like it compromised my relationships with some of the moms, but not the ones whose opinions I valued. It was awkward for a couple of years because she sometimes excluded me and made her feelings known. I really tried to remind myself that I did nothing wrong here. Even if I inadvertently insulted her (which clearly I did), she didn't discuss it with me and give me the chance to apologize or explain myself--even though I asked her if I had done something to upset her. I just held my head high, carried on and socialized with the moms who saw through the b.s. And as time went by, she fell out with other moms, at which point I didn't look like an isolated case. The problem is with her, not with you. It sucks and I felt bad about it, but DCs are now in HS. Her kid is gone and she has a younger kid at the school so I sometimes see her in passing but she's no longer relevant to our class/grade. [ Reply | More ]
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NYC? I didn’t think people checked out each ither’s Finances that closely [ Reply | More ]
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OP. Yes NYC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:34 AM Flag
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You have to let it go. Some people are irritated by others but that's their problem. Maybe she's annoyed with you, envious, offended by you, racist, whatever. You've done all you can do by trying to remedy it with a dialogue. Letting her win would be to give her power over you. Don't do that. Just accept it is how it is and they have issues and move on. You could also try to overlook it and be super nice to everyone, including her. Say nice things about her, that way when she goes to talk shit about you, she looks like the bad guy. Who can hate a genuinely caring nice person? People feel guilty for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 08:50 AM Flag
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You can also break her power over you by just doing what you and dd want to do. It always seemed like when I was like ok, so guess I'm alone, but I get to do what I want to do! Is when I attracted the most people to me. So you can shift that power dynamic or just take it to a whole other level. Haven't you been in group where someone called the emperor on their lack of clothes? Then the rest of the group kind of woke up? I love when the oblivious person speaks their truth and sashays through all the nonsense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 09:01 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you spend a lot of money on cosmetics? If so which brand and what products? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I don’t wear a lot of makeup- but I do use only “clean” products which are more expensive [ Reply | More ]
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What does that mean? [ Reply | More ]
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No chemicals [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:33 AM Flag
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Nope. The only thing I splurge on is MAC bronzer. Its around $30 but lasts for like 5-6 months. All my other makeup is a hodge podge of drug store finds and samples I've picked up here and there. My favorite eyeshadow palette is actually something I found at Marshalls for $15. It's lasted for years. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. I love cosmetics. I buy lots of different brands. It depends on the particular item I'm buying. I'm cheap when it comes to things like mascara and lipstick/lipgloss that go bad fast, but I spend a bit more money on other things. I never pay retail and don't buy super expensive stuff, but it adds up. I mean, how many brown eyeshadows and pink blushes do I realistically need? [ Reply | More ]
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No. I use mostly MAC which is reasonably priced. I save my money for Botox and derm lasers. [ Reply | More ]
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I started buying Laura Mercier primer and tinted moisturizer along with the under eye concealer and it's a splurge for me but it makes my skin look really nice. Other than that, everything else is drug store. [ Reply | More ]
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Diorshow is the only mascara that works for me. I like Charlotte Tilbury blush. "The Pearl" under eye concealer/treatment saved me. [ Reply | More ]
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I buy Make Up For Ever HD foundation. At about50 bucks a bottle, that is expensive for me. Everything else is drugstore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:41 AM Flag
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I have a mix of drugstore and Sephora-type brands. I use cover girl powder & tinted moisturizer. I like the Benefit brow kit because the powder is just the right shade for me. Dior show mascara is my favorite but it is pricey so I don't like to "waste" it unless I am going out somewhere, on work days I use a drugstore brand like maybelline or revlon. I have eyeshadow palettes from various brands, they last forever though. I like the Sephora house brand blush because there is a particular color that is just the right shade for me. There was a bronzer I loved at target but they stopped making it so now I use a Tarte one, I am pale and cool toned so finding a bronzer that looks good is a challenge. I'm not going for "tan" - just "not sickly" LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 05:31 AM Flag
[ - ] thoughts on the real estate market in manhattan? My chelsea apt just got appraised for about $300k less than I thought it was worth and I'm bummed. we don't have to sell immediately even though we are bursting out of it but i'm worried we missed our opp to sell for more in 2016 and wont get it back. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Wow, I would have thought Chelsea would have held its value. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:20 AM Flag
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it's possible that our apartment hasn't held it's value? We have had 2 kids and they have trashed it a little bit but not sure what appraisers see past (it remains structurally intact after all) [ Reply | More ]
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You'll get it back for sure. You just have to wait. [ Reply | More ]
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i hope so - this was a dispiriting day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:28 AM Flag
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Things change--neighborhoods change. What street? [ Reply | More ]
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19th st [ Reply | More ]
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Dumb area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 04:17 AM Flag
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Darn. This whole time I never realized I live in a dumb area. Now I know I’ll be sure to move. What anthropomorphized areas of New York City do you credit with greater mental acuity pray tell? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 05:01 AM Flag
[ - ] My oldest (15) just got his PSAT score back. He got 1410. I have no idea what the range is. Is this a good score? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:03 AM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:03 AM Flag
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Yes, great score. Total possible is 1520 on the PSAT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:05 AM Flag
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OP- it doesn't sound great. 1420 out of 1520? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:07 AM Flag
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Did you take the SAT/ACT?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:08 AM Flag
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OP - yes, but decades ago. I'm 50. I thinkI got a 1200. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:12 AM Flag
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Vba. They provide ranges with the results. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:07 AM Flag
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OP- give me a break. He is my first. It means nothing to me. I thought people got 800s out of 800s in SAT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:10 AM Flag
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It's a very good score. The results should show you what his projected SAT score might be. Look at his percentiles-if he's in the 99% he might be eligible for national merit depending on your state cut off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:17 AM Flag
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OP- I thought National Merit is when you take PSAT in Junior year? He's a sophomore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:24 AM Flag
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Yes, NM is calculated on junior year. That's a really good score for a sophomore. His score will likely be higher next year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:27 AM Flag
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NP - I mean some do, but most kids don't get perfect scores. You should see a % with your kid's result, but I"m guessing a 1410 is a pretty good score. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:17 AM Flag
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Mine made a 1280, which he says is the 96th percentile. I haven’t looked at the score report yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:29 AM Flag
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^^^Second child [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:31 AM Flag
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My DS got a 1400 and was nowhere near national merit (California). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:33 AM Flag
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I got a 1390 in the '90s on the PSAT. That was a great score then. I assume 1410 is a good score now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:36 AM Flag
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^esp. for a sophomore! Did he do any specific prep? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:37 AM Flag
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OP- nothing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:50 AM Flag
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Sophomore got a 1460, did fantastic! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:51 AM Flag
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Well, I guess you never figured out Google? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:30 AM Flag
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My sophomore got 1430, next year as junior got 150O [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Thoughts on Haverford? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:59 AM Flag
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Love everyone I've met who is an Haverfold alum - smart, sharp, nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:00 AM Flag
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Same. I wanted to go there but dad made me go to a UC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:05 AM Flag
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Aww, thanks xoxo an alum whose DC isn't interested. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:08 AM Flag
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great school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:09 AM Flag
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Very nice school. DH went there. Thinks it’s too small. Spent junior year at big Ivy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:12 AM Flag
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op: thanks all. Seems like a very nice place to go to college (and so close to Philly if a student wants to go into town for dinner, etc)! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:38 AM Flag
[ - ] There is very little evidence that parenting impacts children's intelligence or outcomes. Sure, malnutrition, abuse or over parenting can limit a child's potential. But for the vast majority of us we are just spectators. My wife and I also prepped. We also constantly take our children to wonderful activities. It would be great if this had some long term impact, but the overwhelming weight of scientific evidence is that it won't. Enjoy your kids. Try your best. But don't sweat it. Caring too much will ruin both your lives and help noone. IT IS OUT OF YOUR CONTROL. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:56 AM Flag
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I agree for the most part but I am very thankful we could expose our kids to so much great stuff here in NYC. They are now in their late teens and love theater, science, and art. They enjoyed our wonderful museums and libraries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:59 AM Flag
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There aren’t museums, theatre, libraries anywhere but NY. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:02 AM Flag
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Lol. Here in flyover, we simply watch our burned out TVs. Or our pitbulls fighting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:08 AM Flag
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Sad that you think that. And funny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:10 AM Flag
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Irony is clearly missing in Manhattan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:13 AM Flag
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I think it's like height. We're genetically programmed to reach a certain level. Bad nutrition, stressful environment might impact that level negatively. But all the healthy food in the world is not going to make a child who is genetically predisposed to be 5'2" into a six footer. And all the flashcards and enrichment and early reading and 3 year old violin playing is not going to give a child who is genetically predisposed to have an IQ of 100 an IQ of 120. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:01 AM Flag
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IQ and height are not fixed contrary to popular belief, research has shown. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:13 AM Flag
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Not fixed, but there is an upper limit. I'm 5'3". I had excellent nutrition growing up. My parents are short too. All the good nutrition and desire in the world was never going to make me 5'10". Bad nutrition could have caused me not to reach 5'3". I think IQ is like this. You can make it lower, but you can't make it higher beyond a certain genetically predetermined point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:21 AM Flag
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You know we’re deep in a second gilded age when this level of fatalism about social and intellectual mobility has taken hold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:14 AM Flag
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Access to books had the biggest impact on my life. It made me curious and wanting to find more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:01 AM Flag
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How can this possibly be true when there is such a huge gap between the poor and rich [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:08 AM Flag
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I don't believe it's true. A lot of our makeup is nature, but nurture definitely plays a part. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:11 AM Flag
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There have been a ton of studies that show is of well off children is higher [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:11 AM Flag
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What I meant was, I don't believe OP's post is true [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:13 AM Flag
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yup most recent research contradicts OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:36 AM Flag
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Poor are destined for more poverty and rich kids destined to oppress others? No idea —this post is drivel addressed to the neurotic 1% I guess? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:13 AM Flag
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Nature/nurture can be hard to study (obviously no randomized controlled trials) but as far as I understand there is pretty compelling evidence that language acquisition in children is profoundly affected by how they are spoken to/read to by their parents or adult caretakers, and kids with educated parents who talk/read with them more have huge advantages here. So I think there is at least decent evidence that some aspects of how we raise kids matter quite a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:15 AM Flag
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Erin Currier, director of Pew’s financial security and mobility project, said “Children raised in families at the 90th percentile can expect their own family income to be three times more than the children raised at the 10th percentile." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:43 AM Flag
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This doesn't explain causation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:45 AM Flag
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How do your parenting methods affect your child's future? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:46 AM Flag
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Since my kids are grown and doing fantastically well, I disagree with your statement. Poppycock I say! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:31 AM Flag
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so are you saying your genes are terrible and they defied that? Is your IQ low and theirs high? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 04:00 AM Flag
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