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[ - ] Live in the coop. Our pipe in the wall of the bathroom as leaking. The insurance said, they don’t cover pipes or any damaged done by replacing the pipe. The building is saying it’s not their responsibility. This is going to cost a fortune. Any advice? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:18 PM Flag
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Fix it, asap, before it does any damage to other units. Get all of your paperwork together and see an attorney who can tell you what your rights and responsibilities are. Then after it's all over, start a separate savings account or insurance policy for things that go wrong in your home that aren't covered by standard insurance or the building, and tell friends how much it really costs to own your own home, especially in a coop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:21 PM Flag
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It won't be a fortune. I'd say $500. I assume you shut off the water. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:26 PM Flag
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To fix the pipe in the wall and fix the wall? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:28 PM Flag
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NP. Yes. even at $1000 . . . far less that the potential damage it could cause to your apartment and neighbor's apartments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:30 PM Flag
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Yes. Do you have a super? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:32 PM Flag
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Yes, he said to call a plumber [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:33 PM Flag
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But you can probably offer him $100 to repair the wall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:46 PM Flag
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This. It won't break the bank, and really you could just do it yourself with a few youtube tutorials, but you want a plumber the first time, so she can tell you why it's leaking and whether to expect system-wide problems in the near future. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:38 PM Flag
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look at the House Rules. For my co-op, everything in the wall is covered by co-op. this happened to my upstiars neighbor. pipe leaked on us. Super called a plumber, the co-op paid. I never talked to insurance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:39 PM Flag
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there are exceptions though. if you did renovations on that pipe, plumbing, you are now responsible. look up the house rules. every co-op has them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:40 PM Flag
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Also often the shower body is not included in terms of "in the walls" FYI. I just had to replace this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:01 PM Flag
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also depends on which wall. A shared wall with neighbor maybe covered. A wall totally w/in your apt, probably not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:09 PM Flag
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This happened to us. I think building had to cover it. They broke through our wall right after we finished a remodel which sucked but they had to cover the fix. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:45 PM Flag
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I live in co op, had to pay -- $2k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Dry cleaner completely shrunk my favorite, cashmere sweater. How to handle? I called and they said to bring it in. Should I expect reimbursement? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:06 PM Flag
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Nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:10 PM Flag
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Their policy should be on the back of your claim ticket. Unfortunately it’s usually something like their maximum liability is xx times the cost of cleaning the item. If you’re a good customer (long term repeat business) you may be able to work out better but they are never going to replace [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:05 PM Flag
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You can watch some tips on youtube how to unshrink it. The main suggestion is to soak the sweater in a tub with water and hair conditioner, hair cond helps to relax the fibers. Then you are supposed to stretch it by hand, rinse, air dry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Skipping spring break travel because of Coronavirus fears: lame and stupid or understandable? Supposed to go skiing in Canada do I sound like an idiot? Why does this whole thing freak me out? I am not usually worried... 79 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:45 PM Flag
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Going on a cruise and dreading [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:47 PM Flag
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Oh my gosh, and see I just can’t. And the thing is, it’s spread like wildfire in Europe. Only a matter of time before it comes here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:49 PM Flag
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rofl [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:58 PM Flag
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NP: going on a cruise right now is bay shit crazy, check out that ship near Japan, they had their love boat crew managing a pandemic and everyone got it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 10:03 PM Flag
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i would not go on a cruise right now (probably ever, but definitely not now). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:59 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:02 PM Flag
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I always wanted to go on a "cruise to nowhere" for a fitness break, but over the last 5-10 years there have been nothing but horror stories about all of the ways to get sick on cruises. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:15 PM Flag
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don't go on a cruise [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:11 PM Flag
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Cancel. Look up the shit show of the cruise situation off of Japan. Utter nightmare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:26 PM Flag
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NP: lol I just wrote the same thing, total nightmare [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 10:04 PM Flag
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Yay, no way. I would not risk being trapped on board w no where to dock. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 12:43 AM Flag
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No cruise. Cancel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 04:08 AM Flag
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Just cancelled trip to Italy. It's just not worth it to spend vacation with a sense of worry about possible quarantine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:55 PM Flag
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When were you planning to be there? We're in the middle of planning an Iceland trip for early July, and wanted to do a stopover in Germany/Austria--that's a while from now, but I need to buy tickets this week--WWYD?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:44 PM Flag
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lol, she’s not your travel agent. Also I hope we are not dealing with this until summer?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 10:05 PM Flag
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Skip it. You don't need to add any more to your carbon footprint, and on the very very small chance that someone in your family catches covid-19, you will spend 2 weeks spreading it before you get symptoms. Be responsible toward the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:58 PM Flag
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Is staying in NYC safer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:03 PM Flag
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Safer for you, or safer for the people you'll infect if you catch the virus? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:14 PM Flag
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Please. It’s a virus and this is a big city, she could have a colleague back from Italy for all you know. Stopping a holiday makes no statistical sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:22 PM Flag
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+1 100 million people travelled today. Guess what percentage caught covid-19? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:24 PM Flag
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We can only guess, because no one knows. We also don't know who will be stuck in a hotel tomorrow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:54 PM Flag
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It's a miracle there haven't been any cases in NYC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:27 PM Flag
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Right?? How is that possible, do people have it and not know? I don’t think there is a test yet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 10:07 PM Flag
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+1 Cancelled travel is going to make 2020 a much more ecologically sound year. This is a net positive for the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:44 PM Flag
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+2. As bad a s I feel for people losing money, this is good for the environment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:15 PM Flag
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Yeah, keep responding to yourself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:24 PM Flag
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Oh please. The last thing this world needs is FEWER Americans traveling, they don’t know anything about the world as it is! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 10:08 PM Flag
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Nice try brainwashing people, I will continue traveling and you can kiss my ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:24 PM Flag
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U do U. It’s all good. Now, go have a drink and calm yourself down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 03:46 AM Flag
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Nice try brainwashing people, I will continue traveling and you can kiss my ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:24 PM Flag
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F-off with the carbon footprint, airtravel hater. So sick of your stupid agenda, stop being jealous of people who enjoy traveling because you cannot put up with it or have personal issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:23 PM Flag
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Lol, yes this. People who can’t afford travel or don’t like it say this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 09:24 PM Flag
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There, there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 03:47 AM Flag
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Canada doesn't seem bad. We were going to Italy. Probably the plane seems the most dangerous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:59 PM Flag
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OP: agree. Also I feel like any international tourist destination is going to be tricky, I know so many people going to Disney for example. We are going to Mt. Tremblant in Quebec Province, I feel like there will be International tourists there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:05 PM Flag
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You're right. Definitely stay home. You're lucky you live in a place with no international tourism! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:23 PM Flag
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haha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 03:52 AM Flag
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Italy has a lot of cases! I would not go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 10:09 PM Flag
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What are people thinking about air travel within the U.S.? How about Hawaii? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:05 PM Flag
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Don’t Japanese people go there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:08 PM Flag
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All sorts of foreign nationals go all over the place and loads of them come to NYC every day. Any major city with an international hub airport is high risk if this happens. You don't need to travel outside of NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:33 PM Flag
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Well, lots of Italians in NYC, now that you mention it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 03:49 AM Flag
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I can't think much of it, I have to travel for work and to see my family, I have no choice. I also don't think staying in NYC, which is a hub of human commotion and has tons of foreign travelers is any safer. Most people don't have choices protecting themselves in any way, you have to go to work, take subway, go to public places, kids to go school! What are you going to do? Lock yourself in your apartment and keep kids from going to school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:31 PM Flag
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We might have to, cf. CDC recommendations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 03:50 AM Flag
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We were planning to go to the Caribbean... have not cancelled yet but not sure what will unfold in the next couple weeks. What do people think about Caribbean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:24 PM Flag
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I would go to the Caribbean. Do you know how many tourists come to NYC every day?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:25 PM Flag
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Exactly, people come from all over to NYC. You only need to cancel travel to places that don't have serious crisis if you are trying to avoid airports or being on a plane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:34 PM Flag
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Wash your hands often. Wear masks in crowded places, especially airports, planes, train stations, and trains. Get enough sleep and eat your fruits and veggies. Get checked out if you start showing symptoms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:40 PM Flag
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Masks do nothing. Wear a mask if you HAVE the virus, not to prevent getting it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:49 PM Flag
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you are a moron. why are healthcare workers wearing masks? do they all have the virus? the goal is to avoid catching it. if you KNOW you have it, you stay at home [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:50 PM Flag
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You're wrong, but ok, good luck. I assume you have access to google? Look it up yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:15 PM Flag
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np. The current advice to not buy masks is to prevent shortages. Medical personnel have always wore them, even before this virus. It's impossible they do not protect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:29 PM Flag
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100% correct [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:33 PM Flag
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Medical personnel wear surgical respirators. The masks you buy on Amazon are not this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:54 PM Flag
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Not true, they don't always wear the surgical respirators. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:56 PM Flag
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I did. its all over the CDC website. but go ahead and dont get a mask, more for the rest of us [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:33 PM Flag
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OR: The CDC backs me up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:53 PM Flag
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I did. its all over the CDC website. but go ahead and dont get a mask, more for the rest of us [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:33 PM Flag
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Only N95 masks will prevent you from getting coronavirus. All the others (including paper masks) will only prevent you from spreading it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:08 PM Flag
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N95 masks don’t prevent... look up studies comparing them with surgical masks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:43 PM Flag
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The advice is for healthy people who are not healthcare workers is not to wear the masks. Healthcare workers must wear them as they bear much higher risks, any patient coming for any respiratory issue might be a potential exposure case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:36 PM Flag
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Healthcare workers see only SICK people, they come in contact with much much large number of them than any Jane/Joe taking a subway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:37 PM Flag
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Sounds overboard but your choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:46 PM Flag
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Would you go to Universal Studios in Florida? We will be in FL anyway and are debating driving to Orlando to go to Universal for the day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:19 PM Flag
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Um hell no. Same to Disney. Petrie Dish [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:54 PM Flag
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We just came back from there. Bring Purell and enjoy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:57 PM Flag
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Lol Purell is an antibacterial genius, doesn’t work on Viruses [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 10:10 PM Flag
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Purell does not work. The exposure to alcohol is not long enough to kill any germs. It also just spreads whatever is on your hands still ON THEM. And it creates a moist surface to attract even more germs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 10:56 PM Flag
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Yes, would go this week. Would decide about 30 days from now around day 22 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 01:23 AM Flag
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we cancelled our trip to oahu, hi last week since we were already sick with flu symptoms and didn't want to take any chances of catching something more serious on the way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:24 PM Flag
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We have ski plans too via plane. No reason to decide today, will see how things are in 30 days [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:48 PM Flag
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Where are you going? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 10:11 PM Flag
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NY to Colorado, not international [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 12:49 AM Flag
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Not stupid. Whole thing is a Dean Koontz plot line [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 10:12 PM Flag
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This is sensible. We have no travel plans right now and I'm not making any until we have a sense of where this is going. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 10:45 PM Flag
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I'm in Canada. I'm being told NBD but... we have a lot of Chinese in Vancouver! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 10:55 PM Flag
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God. This really is all their fault. No way that govt didn’t initially cover up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 11:50 PM Flag
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Feel exactly the same way about our domestic travel in a few weeks. Probably a little lame but very understandable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 04:09 AM Flag
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How about Japan ~March 20? Cancel or keep? No refund :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 05:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Guilty pleasure TV/streaming. I'll start- watching "Awkward" on amazon prime now. I really love it but would never admit to this IRL 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:45 PM Flag
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The Oval. A completely ridiculous show about an insane family in the White House. It is really funny and overly dramatic with some pretty awful acting. But I can't stop watching it with my teens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:04 PM Flag
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LMN (stupid 2-hour killer/romance movies all with the same formula) and Law and Order (all varieties) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:09 PM Flag
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Cobra Kai on YouTube w/Premium, so no ads [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 09:18 PM Flag
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HookupPlan, it's good for my French but that's the only thing redeeming about this series. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 09:48 PM Flag
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GoodGirls, female version of breaking bad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 10:33 PM Flag
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I'll bite. Vampire Diaries. Pun intended. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 04:00 AM Flag
[ - ] I’m in therapy and am generally very open w my therapist. In the past I slept w someone in her field (they are professional acquaintances) and she said as mulch. He’s married now and I slept w him again. I know it’s supposed to be confidential but I don’t want to color her opinion of him or risk her her telling anyone. WWYD? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:29 PM Flag
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write about this. If you don't, I will. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:30 PM Flag
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do you mean as in creative writing/fiction/memoir type thing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:35 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:51 PM Flag
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your sessions are confidential so she can use them information. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:35 PM Flag
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sure technically they’re confidential but that doesn’t mean people live and die by the confidentiality portion [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:37 PM Flag
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I am a therapist in private practice. I absolutely take my professional ethics seriously, and live and die by confidentiality. I cannot speak for all therapists of course, but I would hope the majority of us abide by confidentiality, except in the case of suicidality or danger to another person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:54 PM Flag
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okay good to know—in this case you wouldn’t tell your spouse if someone you both knew was sleeping w a client of yours and you were really surprised? you really don’t tell anyone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:59 PM Flag
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ABSOLUTELY NOT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:34 PM Flag
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interesting okay i thought many would share in a ‘pillow talk’ setting and swear spouse to secrecy type thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:09 PM Flag
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NP. Sounds like you are projecting. Just because you are not careful about boundaries (clearly) doesn't mean your therapist also is sloppy about boundaries/professionalism/malpractice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 03:04 AM Flag
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Get a new therapist and start DBT. Read up on it. This is not the right therapy for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:49 PM Flag
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lol i think that’s a giant leap based on the info i’ve given here. i know a fair amount about dbt i think it has some great elements but doesn’t really address my particular issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:58 PM Flag
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Disagree. Your choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone ever had a kid in a classroom that wasn't a good fit and after working with the principal and the teacher, things got better? Or is the only option changing teachers? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:22 PM Flag
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I have had kids who weren't a good fit w a teacher but .. I didn't do anything. I mean, what's to do? Some teachers are not great [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:29 PM Flag
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Yes, but it is not easy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:31 PM Flag
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^^really depends on how bad the dynamic has gotten. Only you can know that, I think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:32 PM Flag
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np: This. I would not try to change teachers if the only problem is mediocre teaching style but things can occasionally get uglier than this. Ex. kid with an IEP whose needs are not being met, teacher who openly dislikes kid and deliberately embarrasses them or punishes them for ridiculous things, etc. This does happen and it's not always the kid's fault. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:41 PM Flag
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Yes. My son, this year. It's still not a naturally great fit but the teacher really listened to our feedback and suggestions and made real changes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:30 PM Flag
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Last year DS had a teacher that was so wrong for him - she wanted to squash every bit of humor he had in him. She also wasn't terribly helpful with us trying to work through a learning disability diagnosis - she just found him lazy and annoying. I had no idea how bad things were until this year with a new teacher. It's like night and day and I feel like he likes school again. This year's teacher is so supportive of his struggles - it's like night and day! I still don't know if there was anything I could have done. The school is super small, I really doubt they would have switched DS. We adopted a family attitude of "we will just deal with this" took it as a learning experience and moved on. It was a long year though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:38 PM Flag
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ok I said "night and day" twice. I need to move on...ha. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:43 PM Flag
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Not to be rude: but the kids in my DS’ class whose “humor” is not appreciated, those kids are really just attention seeking and immature and require an extra level of patience. Not saying that’s your kid, but that’s been my experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:48 PM Flag
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NP, nothing worse than a humorless teacher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:50 PM Flag
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It depends, I would not want to be a 1st grade teacher with a bunch of attention seeking kids. If it’s a 9th grader who jokes to cover a disability, it’s still tough but slightly easier. Keeping control of a classroom of small kids when there is a disrupter is tough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:56 PM Flag
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I think it's a 1st grade teacher's job to be fun and interesting not stern and humorless. Think Miss Nelson is missing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:08 PM Flag
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^That said, a child who is constantly interrupting needs to be consistently and kindly corrected. No arguing there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:09 PM Flag
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Agree. But I’d be stern and humorless if the kid was disruptive and spoiled. I see kids who have problems with taking direction messing it up for all. My 5th grader has a kid in his class (private school) who has a series of diagnoses but his underlying problem is anxiety and his anxiety is exacerbated by being an outlier, and he’s an outlier because his manners and personality are horrible. (Arguing interrupting, refusing to apologize when wrong, screaming at other kids who defeated him in a public speaking competition: I won last year, I am better, etc not listening to the teacher when she says to put something away. Just arrogant.) Not saying that’s your kid, just your post sounded like his mom. She has no idea what’s she’s doing. She just passes here anxieties on yo her kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:17 PM Flag
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OP on this particular comment: There's a huge difference between a disruptive, spoiled child and a kid who just prefers to read Dog Man to more scholastic works of kid lit. There's a huge difference between a teacher who keeps a birthday box at her desk and doles out hugs readily and a teacher who just hands over a tissue, staying at arm's length and says that birthday parties should end in kindergarten. I get that you are dealing with a difficult situation in your 5th grader's class, but there's no reason to see that issue in other people's situations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:56 PM Flag
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OP on this particular comment: There's a huge difference between a disruptive, spoiled child and a kid who just prefers to read Dog Man to more scholastic works of kid lit. There's a huge difference between a teacher who keeps a birthday box at her desk and doles out hugs readily and a teacher who just hands over a tissue, staying at arm's length and says that birthday parties should end in kindergarten. I get that you are dealing with a difficult situation in your 5th grader's class, but there's no reason to see that issue in other people's situations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:56 PM Flag
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So really interesting, because my son literally said last night: “ Jaime got into a big argue with Mr. X (Language arts teacher) because he wanted to read his library book instead of the assigned reading.” Also his mom is the one who does not listen to the teaching team about appropriate classroom snacks. I don’t know your kid, but certain types of parents seem to not want to “crush their spirit.” Which translates into kids who are not able to manage in group settings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 09:52 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry to hear this - it's awful to have a teacher think your kid is lazy and annoying. Can't imagine being the kid in that situation. Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:17 PM Flag
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Some kids are lazy and annoying though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:24 PM Flag
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Wow. You are a peach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:41 PM Flag
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I mean...but not wrong. Wrong was not on that list. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:55 PM Flag
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i hate to tell you this, but from what ive seen, a bad fit usually means a teacher that tolerates less and is more vocal to the parents that the child is misbehaving in some way. It seems like a better fit when the teacher is less vocal to the parents, so they dont hear about the issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:48 PM Flag
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Not in my case. Our bad fit means our child pretends to be happy, is very obedient but comes home and cries. He doesn't misbehave at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:49 PM Flag
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OP here. This exactly. When we try to bring up issues, teacher claims there's none. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 04:10 AM Flag
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How old is your child? Is he able to articulate what the problem is? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 06:07 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Did you know that birth control pills are not effective if you are taking antibiotics? I had no idea. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:17 PM Flag
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Yes, common knowledge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:17 PM Flag
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rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:34 PM Flag
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Why is that rude? It is common knowledge and the pharmacist should also have alerted her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 09:22 PM Flag
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+1 It's pretty much the first thing they tell you when they prescribe them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:01 PM Flag
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+1. Seriously? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:28 PM Flag
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+3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:08 PM Flag
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I didn't know that until I got pregnant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:27 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:40 PM Flag
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Yep. Also several herbal suppliments as well I believe - I know St John's Wort is one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:40 PM Flag
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Yeah, they said that at the free clinic when I was 17. It was also on the package and on flyers on the wall. And every doctor giving me bcp OR antibiotics since has said it. Duh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:30 PM Flag
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I had no idea whatsoever. (feeble excuse: I’m a DH) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:32 PM Flag
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I think they're *less* effective, not totally ineffective, but still, this is common knowledge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:45 PM Flag
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Don’t you read instructions- it is mentioned on every packet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:44 PM Flag
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Yes. A friend of a friend told me the story of this mom giving her college aged daughter (18 or 19) some of her leftover antibiotics b/c she was getting sick and the daughter turned up pregnant weeks later. The mom felt so guilty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 11:12 PM Flag
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The daughter should have known as well but this was 20 years ago before everyone knew everything via Google though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 11:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Ok, this is a long shot, but figured I'd try. I'm looking for a masseuse to do in-home massages in Chatham, Massachusetts. I'm googling, but failing, so I assume that's maybe not a thing offered up there. But just in case any of you guys vacation up there and had a lead, I figured I'd ask. Thank you. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:14 PM Flag
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Chatham as in Cape Cod? I googled initially to troll you (my planned post was, “whatever you do, don’t choose ________ as the one time I used them, the masseuse stuck a finger up my butt hole!”) but then I found Mobile Massage and at the end of their web page they had a whole statement about “we are professional masseuses, stop calling us about sexual stuff” and I felt bad dragging them into my juvenile troll. But still, I’ll say this: get better at googling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:37 PM Flag
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I have an app on my phone called Zeel where I can put in the zip code of where I am and book an in home massage. I have never tried Chatham, but I have done it on Martha's vineyard and in a few cities/towns that I have traveled to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:10 PM Flag
[ - ] I'd be happy to contribute to my DC's middle school auction, but I have no connections at all. We rarely even go out to eat. What are some places to ask for donations that don't require any sort of "in"? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:03 PM Flag
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I'm sure you have some unused gift cards or clothes that still have the tags? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:05 PM Flag
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A lot of companies have email addresses that you contact and they give you donations. I'm not in NYC but we get stuff from food chains, high end grocery stores, sports teams and theme parks all via the online request system [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:07 PM Flag
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Oh, thanks! Theme parks and sports teams are a great idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:31 PM Flag
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Nearby exercise studios [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:10 PM Flag
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I oversee solicitations for my kids' school auction - you really can just reach out to any company with an email address (almost always on their website). You can do a little intro and say that school programs like arts, music, chess, student teachers, dance depend on donations and you'd love their support. Attach the auction donation form and the letter with the tax ID number and give it a try. But yes - exercise studios, restaurants, nail salons - or any places you frequent as a family... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:16 PM Flag
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This, but your email should be about how the donation will benefit the donor - give numbers on how many people will see their donation and will be sent information about the shop/company. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:03 PM Flag
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Great idea! I’m an introvert but would really like to help. Would you happen to have a solicitation template we could see? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 09:43 PM Flag
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What do you do for childcare during the summer? Hit up DCs summer camp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:44 PM Flag
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dry cleaners, friends that wrote books, friends' or your own services, just ask local restaurants, artwork from artist's you know, local stores of any kind [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 12:49 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm looking for a nice mid-range cross body bag. Want something simple and classic but fashionable. Any opinions on sezane bags? Or APC? Or Cuyana? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:03 PM Flag
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Just looked at Cuyana, I like them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:59 PM Flag
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look at the BlueFly site. I've had luck there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 12:50 AM Flag
[ - ] Could anyone tell me thoughts about Xavier vs .. at best, Stuy or Beacon? Probably more likely Brooklyn Tech not Stuy so that too 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:41 PM Flag
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All Xavier and SHS are rigorous, but how do you feel about a religious, SS school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:56 PM Flag
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^^Xavier and all SHS, sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:04 PM Flag
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I have a ds at Xavier and have been impressed over the years. 1. Personal attention - everyone knows the kids' names. 2. Wide-range of offerings, beyond sports there are clubs for all interests from origami and ping pong to podcasting, e-games and board games. Only the big sports have try-outs, so almost everything is open to everyone 3. Even if not placed in the honors program freshman year, there are many opportunities to take higher-level classes. 4. Great school spirit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:10 PM Flag
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np how about college counseling? I love the school spirit part -- feel like nyc high schools generally dont have that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:27 PM Flag
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NP Below, Xavier has always had very good ins at the Catholic colleges (Boston College, Notre Dame, Georgetown for the top students, Fairfield, Loyola, etc. for the middle of the pack) as well as military (West Point). Kids now go to Ivys and other schools too, but even the kid at the bottom of the class at Xavier could get in to a decent Catholic college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:38 PM Flag
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from the other responder: I do think they do a good job with the rest of the class. They assure you that there is a place and money for everyone if you target schools correctly. They are a calm bunch and very reassuring to those who aren't superstars. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:40 PM Flag
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There are four college counselors, so each works with about 65-70 kids. The parent part begins freshman year, with info sessions and smaller coffee talks for freshman and sophomore parents. They begin working with the boys second semester junior year. They are very reassuring and help direct you based on financial and academic considerations. Obviously the legwork is your own, but they provide solid direction for each boy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:39 PM Flag
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NP so you'd take X over Stuy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:19 PM Flag
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I would. I think the quality of life is much better at X. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:47 PM Flag
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I know many men who went to Xavier -- it's a very close community. Today it seems very structured and a strong sense of discipline as well as good diversity (ethnic, socio-economic). They all seemed to love the priests (Jesuits) who taught them but I imagine there aren't many left. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:30 PM Flag
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I think Stuy can be a grind and Beacon has a weird social element - can be cutthroat socially AND a lot of academic work. I actually like Tech and Xavier both, depending on kid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:59 PM Flag
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my dc isn't there, but I like Tech too. Seems like the dc's there are really happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 12:51 AM Flag
[ - ] today's sign of the apocalypse: apparently there are consultants that can advise you on the right summer camp for your 10 year old - and people actually pay for this service. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:27 PM Flag
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Don't the camps pay the consultants? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:32 PM Flag
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They do. Camp ladies have been around forever. Helpful if you are looking for something specific and not just generic traditional camp. Camps do pay them so you should always take recommendations understanding how they are incentivized. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:38 PM Flag
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This is not a new thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:36 PM Flag
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This. File this as sometimes the things we think are the end of civilization are simply ever thus, it is just that we just learned about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:46 PM Flag
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What’s wrong with that. Camps are close to 11k, having some advice is reasonable [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:08 PM Flag
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ITA. I grew up in Europe, I don't know the first thing about camps here. If I am spending that much and sending DC for several weeks, I want to make sure it's the right fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 08:01 PM Flag
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Other news flash: there are consultants that can advise you on the right hotel. They are called travel agents. Shockingly they get paid by commission. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:10 PM Flag
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I agree with you that this is bananas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:38 PM Flag
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The camps pay them, and they have been around for a long time! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:42 PM Flag
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This is nothing new . And the camps pay the consultant [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:40 PM Flag
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Making the consultant incredibly unbiased. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 04:11 AM Flag
[ - ] any members of park slope food coop on? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:07 PM Flag
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Yes- what’s up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:16 PM Flag
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suspended, spent 3 hours at the GM yesterday. do you ever wonder if this absurdity is worth it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:29 PM Flag
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np. Why are you suspended? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:35 PM Flag
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Why were you suspended? I've considered joining but not sure it's worth it... guessing you'd say no! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:36 PM Flag
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because i missed a few shifts. every grownup in the household has to do a shift. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:46 PM Flag
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If you can't do your share of the co-op work, offer to contribute toward hiring a college student who can cover shifts for other busy co-op members. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:06 PM Flag
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That's really annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:06 PM Flag
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You go, do your shift once a month and then shop. I don't go to GMs anymore and don't even read the Gazette. I like the prices and the relatively less junk food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:39 PM Flag
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So not worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:01 PM Flag
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Only worth it if you sah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:32 PM Flag
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I know many people who work. It's 2:45min a month. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:30 PM Flag
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That's a lot! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:45 PM Flag
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Definitely! Even better, do not join, we don't need more crowds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 07:51 PM Flag
[ - ] New mom here looking to learn from others. What would you do differently with your kids if you could go back? 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 03:54 PM Flag
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Don’t sweat the small stuff. Pick your battles. Read to them a ton every day starting early. Laugh with them as much as possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 03:58 PM Flag
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NP. This is beautiful. TY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:02 PM Flag
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Tummy time and sleep training. No long-term effects for the kids but would have made my life easier at the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:05 PM Flag
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When I was potty training and he was day trained, I pushed getting him out of the pull ups at night too quickly. I don't know why I was worried about that so much. Remaking a bed at 2am after a kid wets it is such a pain in the butt. I should have just kept him in the nighttime pull ups longer. But since I pushed it, he said they weren't 'big boy' and wouldn't wear them. Silly I know - but it was a lot of middle of the night laundry situations for really no reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:23 PM Flag
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Give myself a break. It's hard! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:24 PM Flag
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I would have coslept with my first, who was a nightmare sleeper. I was a zombie for a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:24 PM Flag
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I agree with this totally. We drove ourselves nuts with sleep training. In the end, not great for the kids or us. We just should have co slept. PS--they are teenagers now and they sleep. And my third came out of the womb a great sleeper. Nothing we did. So some of it is just hard wired. [ Reply | More ]
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we co-slept until six months and really enjoyed it. db pretty much only woke up one time per night for a feeding. great sleeper though out her child hood and as a teen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 12:53 AM Flag
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Not raise my voice when I was angry. I really didn't know better, because I was raised in a dysfunctional home. Probably my biggest regret. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:24 PM Flag
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Same :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:21 PM Flag
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Me too, as I know have teens who sound just like me :-( But, it's really hard to live up to this. Maybe, not raise my voice as much... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:31 PM Flag
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cosleep. dont pay for 2s programs. dont pay for any baby classes - it's a racket. buy all gear used off listserves (park slope parents). start a 529 account the month they are born, put all money you will get for holidays etc from relatives into that account. if you can contribute $200 a month - do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:48 PM Flag
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All good advice here!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:59 PM Flag
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Classes are for you and a great way to meet other moms. No one needs a 2s program but it was nice for us to feel a sense of community at our preschool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:42 PM Flag
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I would never advise someone else to cosleep (depends on medication etc) but it worked well for our family. We all slept well and kids grew up to be great sleepers later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 04:15 AM Flag
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should have done baby led weaning (look it up) instead of that horrifying rice cereal/baby food with my eldest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:00 PM Flag
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I wouldn’t be embarrassed to breastfeed in public. Glad the stigma is gone now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:13 PM Flag
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Don't read sleep training books. All babies are different, and what worked for one author and their baby may not work for you. Esp "Baby Whisperer" that bossy lady made me feel so bad like I was doing it all wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:15 PM Flag
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I had a different experience. I read Baby Whisperer when I had my youngest DC and it helped me so much. I wish I had read it with my oldest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:23 PM Flag
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Yes! The Baby Whisperer is great -- very practical advice without any woo. Highly recommend this book. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:37 PM Flag
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I wish I never spanked DS, I was such an idiot for that. I also wish I supported him better when he was struggling academically instead of taking away TV time and other nonsense when he got a bad report from school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:20 PM Flag
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Recognize that however you speak to your kids is the way they will wind up speaking to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:32 PM Flag
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Not true, actually . . . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:57 PM Flag
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Obviously it is for that poster... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:15 PM Flag
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Sure. But not a rule. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:34 PM Flag
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Too early for me to give advice on kids, have a 3 and a 6 year old and they’re doing great but who knows what we’ll struggle with in the future. General advice, be super diligent about hiring the right nanny if you work and treat her really really well, don’t nickel and dime her. Don’t be a martyr in general, get help, don’t lose yourself, see friends, read, etc., kid’s are wonderful but they don’t have to be your whole world if that’s not what you want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:41 PM Flag
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My nanny advice similar to above is "treat her how you would like to be treated as an employee". When in doubt, "would I be okay with this if I was an employee at my job?". Also, write up a job description in advance, include hours, OT, rate, how time off is handled, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:28 PM Flag
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I would try to enjoy them with genuine love instead of trying to live up to what I thought others thought I should be doing. (My parents, peers, etc.). I didn't think I was susceptible to trends, and I wasn't, but I still approached the early months as a proving ground rather than just enjoying. Also there is a lot of anxiety for them to grow and thrive. I guess that's natural but I wish I could have just believed and enjoyed it. [ Reply | More ]
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I always regret it when I try to "shape" either DD. They are who they are - with their interests and skills and strengths. I work hard at letting them be who they are but it doesn't come naturally to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 04:14 AM Flag
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Don't bother with the wood toys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 05:39 AM Flag
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Never settle with childcare/minding. If you're annoyed with your nanny, or don't like what she's doing, change asap [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 05:41 AM Flag
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THIS. And here someone through an agency and or have a written agreement and pay on the books. This should be a professional. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 06:10 AM Flag
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Enjoy baby cuddle time more. When my first db was born, I felt like I was always desperate to hand him off to someone so I could get up and do something that I thought needed to be done, like dishes, laundry, etc. It doesn't take long for babies to want to move/crawl/explore and not be just held all the time anymore. If I could go back, I'd let everything go and just enjoy holding them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 07:20 AM Flag
[ - ] I need advice please. I'm debating on whether or not to accept a job offer. I have two toddlers and my husband is currently unemployed so we're struggling financially. I've been at my current job for 16 years, so I'm very comfortable here. But also really despise some of the office politics, and could use a change of atmosphere. Current Job: Staff position in big law, $140k base plus 10% bonus. I have a pension and 401k, NO company match. I pay over $800/month for family medical insurance premium. I have 30ish combined vacation and sick days. My hours are 8:30 to 4:30. I work for a group of 50 people. There is one other person in my position but I do most of the work. New job: in-house legal position in management consulting firm. $150k base with 5-6% bonus. $200/month medical insurance premium. Defined contribution retirement plan (employer-funded) and 401k, NO match. After three years, I get equity in the (private) company. 21 PTO days. Work 8:30-5:30, though this may be flexible. I will be working for ONE person. What would you do? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 03:54 PM Flag
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Hmm. I think I would stay put unless I was getting a significant pay increase. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:00 PM Flag
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Use your offer to negotiate a pay raise with the current employer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:06 PM Flag
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OP - I've already done this in the past. This is the only way my current employer gives raises. I'm afraid they would just say "see ya!", although they would be screwed if I left. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:33 PM Flag
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What specifically is the type of work that you do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:01 PM Flag
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My two cents- stay where you are. You currently get more PTO and shorter hours. You have long term tenure there. God forbid you have a situation with a sick child or your husband gets ill and can’t take care of them for a time, you’ll have much more flexibility with schedule at a place you’ve been 16 years than as a new hire. Why would you ever give up a PENSION?? Your increase in base post tax will be next to nothing and your bonus is smaller. The only improvement is lower cost of health insurance which is sizable, but at least that is paid with pre tax dollars. You get more PTO now as well. I would NOT move jobs for this. GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:02 PM Flag
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Pensions fail and people die before getting the full value. Don't count chickens that might never hatch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:10 PM Flag
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Lawyer here - I’d stay put. Not enough upside. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:20 PM Flag
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Another lawyer here -- I agree. Stay. You have a good gig IMHO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:42 PM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:03 PM Flag
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Not worth it to move. Stay put. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 05:25 PM Flag
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The devil you know etc. can you ask new company if they can give you more pto? Use this offer to negotiate higher pay or more pto at current company. I feel like pto is a big deal- and make sure you use it! [ Reply | More ]
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I'd take the new job. You have a SAH husband to cover all childcare and housework, so the PTO isn't a big deal. You'll also start building equity in the company, which you might really appreciate in 15-20 years. The higher salary and lower insurance makes up for the lower bonus. And you would feel fresh-start-ish while expanding your professional network. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:09 PM Flag
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I'm biased, because I'm not great with people, but I'd say take the new one. After 4-5 years, I have almost no patience for office politics and people's shortcomings. I'm a really good coworker and client manager, until I really get to know my coworkers and clients. Then I move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:18 PM Flag
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I'd stay, but I'm risk averse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.20, 04:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Have a trip planned to UK over spring break (April) and kind of freaking out about corona virus now in Europe. Are people cancelling their spring break euro trips? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 03:05 PM Flag
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My company just banned all travel to and from Europe, including the UK. And, it is a European company. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 03:37 PM Flag
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ugh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 03:41 PM Flag
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what company? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 03:47 PM Flag
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This. Name it or you're clearly fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 06:28 PM Flag
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I would not plan or execute any domestic or international air travel right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 03:54 PM Flag
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op: I probably wouldn't do it now but we booked about a month ago. In retrospect, probably should've held off then too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.20, 04:06 PM Flag
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We live in Europe, and no one here is bothered at all. [ Reply | More ]
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