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[ - ] Will con-Ed turn off a building’s steam if you report smelling gas? Are those things related? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:27 AM Flag
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Call 311. Whether Con Ed or National grid is irrelevant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:41 AM Flag
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And hopefully you’ve done something, anything, before your damn building blows up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:53 AM Flag
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Which is better, no steam or having building blow up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:58 AM Flag
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If there's a boiler involved, yes, then steam would be turned off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 04:24 AM Flag
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I have no gas in my building now but have heat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 04:48 AM Flag
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They don't turn off anything. They come with a device that checks for gas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 06:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Job question- is it standard to receive an offer letter for a job and then be told that the offer is contingent on reference and background checks, etc?? Why do companies do this? Wouldn’t they be better off checking the person out first and then making them the offer? It seems more complicated this way and potential to even run into legal issues If infact the offer gets pulled? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 11.16.19, 02:25 AM Flag
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It is always like that. At that point they are going to ask you for a ton of personal information before running the checks. And in most circumstances these are completed without any issues [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:42 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:30 AM Flag
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Not if it is for a legitimate reason like your degrees do not check out or you lied about working at a company. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:44 AM Flag
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Don’t be obtuse. She obviously means if there isn’t fraud. It’s certainly possible that a reference could go south. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:05 AM Flag
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Don’t be obtuse. She obviously means if there isn’t fraud. It’s certainly possible that a reference could go south. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:05 AM Flag
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I don’t know any such thing. And no I am not being obtuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:17 AM Flag
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The law changed in NY 2-3 years ago. I believe the primary reason was to allow people with criminal records a CHANCE of getting through an interview process to a job offer, which is critically important for society. For instance, if you found out AFTER getting to know a great candidate that he had a DUI 15 years earlier at age 21 but he has awesome references who vouch for him, wouldn't you be more inclined to give him a chance? It's no longer legal, at least in NYC, to ask the criminal question on the actual application. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:11 AM Flag
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That’s part and parcel. They, for liability and other reasons, don’t want to confirm employment until you’ve totally checked out. Went through this for my public agency job and it was irritating but totally normal in that sector. You can look great on paper but they need the assurance that you’re not a criminal. Nothing personal but there are criminals out there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:14 AM Flag
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Well if the person rejects the offer then they wouldn't have done all that work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 04:25 AM Flag
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yes but the company can make a verbal offer stating the terms of the job and then say it is conditioned and you will get an official offer letter once we complete all our due diligence, etc. by sending an actual offer letter in writing it makes it so much more official [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 04:33 AM Flag
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Or they can do it the way they do it and you can stop complaining and accept or reject the offer. Who cares what order they do it in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 07:47 AM Flag
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This is the process that was recently followed for a job offer I had, but I am a physician and background checks are extensive and very important. They don't want to do one on every candidate. I have also worked in the corporate world and this practice is also common. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 04:52 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:15 PM Flag
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This is normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 05:19 PM Flag
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Think of these background checks as pass / fail. They will definitely verify your employment history and degrees, but at this stage they aren’t really getting references. HR policies at most big companies don’t allow either HR or your current / former supervisor to say much other than confirm title and dates (not even salary anymore). If this is for a senior position, you can expect they have already done some informal digging on you in advance. Eg, if it’s through a headhunter, the chances are that headhunter has asked other people in your industry what they think of you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 06:01 PM Flag
[ - ] The best STEM high schools in the country ranked. https://www.newsweek.com/americas-best-stem-high-schools-2020 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:55 AM Flag
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My dh was once the EIC of Newsweek. They now have no staff and this is a crazy phony list (they used to have a real one), trust me. It's clickbait, don't buy in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:03 AM Flag
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It's just as legit as any other list out there. They all have biases. (np) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:10 AM Flag
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These are not just biases -- there is no actual methodology. US News at least tries and has a protocol, even though it's evil. This is NOT legit or worth looking at in any way, you'll just have to trust me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:29 AM Flag
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np: Hijack, would love to hear more about that... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 05:27 PM Flag
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It was brutal, but he was a hero. You can look it up. Just a couple of years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 06:17 PM Flag
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Bleh. Most of these top schools are total grinds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:15 AM Flag
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Eyes glazing over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:45 AM Flag
[ - ] What are you favorite upbeat uplifting songs? 46 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:46 AM Flag
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Walking on Sunshine, of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:46 AM Flag
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Whenever I See Your Smiling Face - James Taylor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:48 AM Flag
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MmmBop always makes me happy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:48 AM Flag
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Anything by Stevie Wonder, but especially "Don't You Worry About a Thing" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:49 AM Flag
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Yes. Signed, Sealed, Delivered, I'm Yours [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:54 AM Flag
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You Are the Sunshine of my Life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:55 AM Flag
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That's my parents' song. Makes me smile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:55 AM Flag
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And sir duke! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:31 AM Flag
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James Taylor's version of How Sweet It Is (To Be Loved By You) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:50 AM Flag
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Never Gonna Give You Up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:51 AM Flag
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What a Wonderful World - Louis Armstrong [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:51 AM Flag
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Aw, this one brings tears to my eyes for some reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:53 AM Flag
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Corinne Bailey Rae - Put Your Records On [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:52 AM Flag
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This one always makes me smile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:09 AM Flag
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It's a beautiful day, U2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:53 AM Flag
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Free by Sting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:54 AM Flag
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Baby Shark, do doo doo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:55 AM Flag
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Prince - Starfish and Coffee [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:56 AM Flag
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Inner Smile by Texas [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:57 AM Flag
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Don't Worry Be Happy - McFerrin [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:59 AM Flag
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Hooked on a Feeling [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:02 AM Flag
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Love Goes to Building on Fire [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:02 AM Flag
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Here Comes the Sun, The Beatles . Ruby Tuesday, Rolling Stones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:03 AM Flag
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Good ones. I have to make a new playlist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:04 AM Flag
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All I can hear during Ruby Tuesday is the drum riff that sounds like a machine gun [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:16 AM Flag
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?? I'll have to relisten. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 04:27 AM Flag
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Goodbye Ruby Tuesday (dun-dun-dun-dun-dun-dun-dun-dun) Who could hang a name on you? (dun-dun-dun-dun-dun-dun-dun-dun) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 06:18 PM Flag
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And yes, I realize this is weird, but I grew up with my father and my brother miming machine guns to that song so now that's all i hear! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 06:20 PM Flag
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ha ha. I'm not sure I want to listen. It may ruin it for me now, lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 06:26 PM Flag
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Dying all the time? Ain't life unkind? We have different ideas of uplifting. I am a sucker for Sympathy for the Devil, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:52 PM Flag
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lolz. Maybe you're right...i have good memories of sharing music with an older brother and he turned me on to the Stones when i was 8. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 04:30 PM Flag
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Regardless of if you generally like Bruce Springsteen or not, if you ever need a lift or push I encourage: The Rising: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XkagJSDy5vM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:09 AM Flag
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The sound “and I will run ten thousand miles and I will run ten thousand more” and “shut up and dance with me” [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:29 AM Flag
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Now that I've seen Dan Levy dance to it as David (to Patrick) in Schitt's Creek, I'm going to with Tina Turner's Simply the Best. What an amazing, joyous, loving scene. Changed the song for me forever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:17 AM Flag
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np: I cried during that scene. One of the best shows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 04:37 PM Flag
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don't stop believin [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 04:54 AM Flag
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Hey Ya [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 05:23 AM Flag
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Don't stop me now - Queen [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 10:14 AM Flag
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The promise by When in Rome [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:18 PM Flag
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Boom Chicka Boom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:44 PM Flag
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These Are Days/10,000 Maniacs; Heal the Pain, Freedom/George Michael [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 04:28 PM Flag
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Bubble pop, hyuna [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 07:48 PM Flag
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Truth Hurts by Lizzo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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Video killed the radio star [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 09:27 PM Flag
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zeppelin fool in the rain, all my love [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 11:44 PM Flag
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Red Red Wine, Lean on Me, I also find many Pit Bull songs rather uplifting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.17.19, 12:16 AM Flag
[ - ] There is a stay of execution in the Rodney Reed case. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:32 AM Flag
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Good. The real issue is that we shouldn’t even have the death penalty, but that’s another post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:35 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:53 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:32 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:54 AM Flag
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Great!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 04:49 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 05:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone been fingerprinted for the DOE? How does it work? What do they actually check for? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 11.16.19, 12:17 AM Flag
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No, just my other public agency job. Don’t think they are actively looking for anyone but it’s part of the background check to avoid criminals without explanations entering the system. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:52 AM Flag
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Yes. I had to go to an office downtown and do it. I guess the usual stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:12 AM Flag
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Yes. You put your fingers on a machine and they scan and send the prints to Albany. Or, as in my case, you have some rare unscannable fingers and need to get inked the old school way. Fair amount of waiting time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:16 AM Flag
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Do they verify previous employers/dates, etc.? Or is that done by the actual school where you will be working?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:32 AM Flag
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It’s done at a place in Brooklyn..court street [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:32 AM Flag
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Yes, between Livingston and Fulton, but I wouldn’t go in without some slip of paper or contacting first. Those places are like Fort Knox. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:40 AM Flag
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I went to a place in lower Manhattan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:48 AM Flag
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They’re not “checking for” anything they’re entering your prints into their database. If it matches any unidentifiable prints from crime scenes that will come up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:34 PM Flag
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I was when I applied for a teaching job I never took - late 90's. To this day it irks me that if I ever commit a crime there are fingerprints of me on file! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 05:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have the Inglesina zippy light stroller? Feedback? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:50 PM Flag
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Better option is the CityMini GT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:29 AM Flag
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Why [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:53 AM Flag
[ - ] Wow, on a trailways bus and there are two guys behind me who struck up a conversation and are now discussing the medications given and size of cells in different jails. They know people in common in Kingston and are talling about who is in or out if rehab or dead. Very different. 48 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:45 PM Flag
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I’m sorry you haven’t lived outside your bubble. Big bear hug. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:46 PM Flag
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oh you again, Brklyn mom with parents in West Virginia. Enough with the big condescending bear hug [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:12 AM Flag
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That’s me! I’m not ashamed that I look down on people who don’t get it. Perhaps I should feel some shame, but my overwhelming sense of superiority just kicks right on. My bad! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:21 AM Flag
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Well at least get another phrase. That one is past expiration. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:48 AM Flag
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You don’t like big bear hugs? That’s the ultimate squeeze. You’re right though, maybe I should evolve to sharks or aliens with their skinny fingers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:58 AM Flag
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Now you're scaring me. Just try something less cliche. And try not to be the class police. It's meaningless. This ditzy poster just didn't have anyone else but UB to discuss her brief intersection with formerly incarcerated people, a touch of that part of life. IT is not "real" life any more than your Brklyn life is (I don't think you regularly hang with people who have recently been released from prison either). Just quit being so self-righteous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:06 AM Flag
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Your outrage leaves me numb. I’d probably like you IRL and sorry we had to meet this way, but seriously, chill out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:23 AM Flag
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If you think that's outrage (versus boredom), you definitely don't have contact with formerly incarcerated folk :). And yeah, I work in a program that does (see the documentary about us, PBS Nov 25 and 26, 9p!). You are not the only salt-of-the-earth person here so no need to constantly rage against the machine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:33 AM Flag
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Otay smarty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:42 AM Flag
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And, we are on the same team. Why I irritate you so much is beyond me. Maybe my style is different but we want the same thing. Let’s put the bullshit to rest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:57 AM Flag
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Yes, you are so very bored that you simply cannot walk away. The true definition of boredom. /s [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 07:50 AM Flag
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Truce. I don’t have time for hen clucking and it undermines the cause. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:34 PM Flag
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General Topics 11.17.19, 12:28 AM Flag
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Sounds like they are minding their own business and so should you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:48 PM Flag
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She/he just sounds dumb. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:49 PM Flag
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I am minding my business. They are talking super loudly. Yes I am listening. I was planning on reading but my light doesnt work. And yes I do live in a bubble. I know that. This is a glimpse outside of it and its fascinating [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:51 PM Flag
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I’m sure they would be just as fascinated listening to the difficulties of private school applications, lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:53 PM Flag
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Well that is part of the incongruity for me. Typing on UB and hearing this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:54 PM Flag
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Why don’t you start a loud UB conversation about how poor you feel, struggling on only $250k or something like that, and see how they take it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:59 PM Flag
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Oh yeah, Ill totally do that. There is a post pn UB where someone is saying they feel like low end of the school her kids at woth 950k a year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:04 AM Flag
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General Topics 11.17.19, 12:41 AM Flag
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So learn something and write a great novel about the human condition. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:53 PM Flag
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One is going to NYC to get bus to rehab. Based on timeframe he is talking about, I'm worried he wont make it. The other guy is promising to take him to the chinatown bus station. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:55 PM Flag
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So what are you going to do from your position of privilege. I’m pretty wary of people who find this “fascinating.” It’s the reality for a lot of people and you didn’t discover it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:58 PM Flag
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Of course not. There is not much I can do for these two guys, unless I interrupt and contraxtict the one who says we will be at depot in 5 minutes when we aren't even done with the curve at the lincoln tunnel. He has to be at Canal street on the bus at 8 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:03 AM Flag
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Cry me a river. They will either live or die without you. Your “concern” is the stuff that the general population laughs about because first, it’s some kind of novelty for you, and second, you’re posting here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:05 AM Flag
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You are right, I'm posting here. There is a light overhead that keeps flickering so I cant sleep. You can jusdge me if you want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:09 AM Flag
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It’s less judgment than just being tired of the “ah hah” moment for things that are a huge, huge problem in America but people turn a blind eye until it’s in their face. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:12 AM Flag
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Absolutely. It is somethong Ove read about and seen people in street or in local halfway house but mot listwned to 2.5 hrs of conversation about it from people living it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:14 AM Flag
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Sorry, typing got bad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:14 AM Flag
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That’s okay. What can one take from this? A learning experience hopefully. It’s never too late! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:55 AM Flag
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Well hopefully you offered to help get the guy to chinatown, and paid for the taxi so he could make his bus. Otherwise this was a pointless story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:58 AM Flag
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Taxi wouldn’t have helped them. I watched to make sure they got on the right train, part of it is the public nature of such a personal conversation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:31 AM Flag
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Well it’s generally the dregs of society that take the bus [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:37 AM Flag
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I do, but I’m just cheap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:53 AM Flag
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Fun fact: My brother was once in jail up in Kingston decades ago (like 4 decades) and I had to take a bus to go up to get him with our family. It was freezing cold. Hate Kingston as a result of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:13 AM Flag
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You should get out more. You'd hear a lot of interesting conversations. The fact you find this somehow worth talking about boggles my mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:14 AM Flag
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Why? I do criminal defense for a living and I’m always interested in criminal justice conversations. As OP observes, people are quite public about their travails. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:18 AM Flag
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Yo, you’re not getting the point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:23 AM Flag
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And? Yes, we know they are quite public. But is it worth talking about here? I hear a lot of conversations in my everyday life sitting in a Starbucks. Should I act aghast at those? Post them here? OP sounds a little naive that's all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:23 AM Flag
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Oh bull sh*t you are not. Stupidest thing I've read here in a while. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:25 AM Flag
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Well if you don’t like it maybe you should go live in China where there’s no homelessness, drug addicts or criminals but they censor your internet/books and give you a social responsibility score. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:44 AM Flag
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Isn’t this reminding anyone else of the UB thread written by someone on the Hamptons Jitney? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:10 AM Flag
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That wasn’t me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:30 AM Flag
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I know- it’s just a funny parallel. I don’t think either thread was/is fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:34 AM Flag
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yes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 05:21 PM Flag
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I love when the trolls argue with each other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:42 AM Flag
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Don’t pee your pants. That will come with age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:48 AM Flag
[ - ] I don’t go to many auction fundraisers, so apologies if this is a dumb question. I attended a school auction and “won” an outing with my DC’s favorite teacher (who I’ve never been a huge fan of, but I knew my DC would want it). I’ve emailed the teacher to schedule the outing, and he is completely blowing me off. I spent over $1,000 on this outing, and I’m wondering, was I just stupid to expect it to actually happen? Or with these types of events, is it understood that you are just donating $ and shouldn’t actually expect anything in return? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:37 PM Flag
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Just keep on him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:41 PM Flag
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Op: I’ve already sent three emails and gotten only one wishy washy, noncommittal response. I am getting the impression that he is annoyed by me, which is why I’m wondering if there’s some unspoken rule I should have understood about these events. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:43 PM Flag
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Contact admin. Sometimes you have to go above. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:44 PM Flag
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Well that will make for a great outing when she finally gets it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:57 PM Flag
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True! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:01 AM Flag
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No, it is expected that the outing will take place. He’s being a dick. When was the auction? Usually they happen in the spring and those types of winnings are usually executed by the end of the school year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:10 AM Flag
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go to PTA auction organizer, say you've tried but aren't getting anywhere. maybe he/she can help -- or if it's easier, just refund your credit card the 1k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:27 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 07:51 AM Flag
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Don't contact the teacher, contact the PTO or whomever ran the auction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:44 PM Flag
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agree [ Reply | More ]
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*whoever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 07:51 AM Flag
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CC the auction organizer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:45 PM Flag
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He should just do it. We bid on a bowling event with a teacher and a tea party with a teacher (and some other students). It was fun for the kids to see their teacher out of the element and your teacher should abide by this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:15 AM Flag
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Ex PTA Fundraising chair. Teachers HATE these things. They are forced to do them because technically you are raising money that benefits them. Would you have given the 1K to the school without the outing? Yes, he should do it but it's really hard for those in charge of the auction to force people to come through. On the other end, I usually had to chase parents who won things, took them home and then didn't pay for them. This is why I'm ex fundraising chair!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:51 AM Flag
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It's a few hours. The teachers I knew thought they were fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:55 AM Flag
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No they don’t- np. They should still do it if they committed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 11:40 AM Flag
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Well the ones I know did. Or else you teach or send your kids to a sucky school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:35 PM Flag
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please, they may be fun but teachers already have a lot on their plate, and this is one more obligation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 05:23 PM Flag
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Ha ha! Same here! I wasn't fundraising chair but had to deal with this crap. So happy to not be doing it anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 05:24 PM Flag
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I won several of these when dd was in elementary school (they were not 1k each by any stretch but they were probably a good few hundred each). Not once did I have to chase a teacher to follow through. This teacher is an ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:56 AM Flag
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My DCs were in a school where items like this regularly went for 800-1k+. I don’t know enough to say this teacher is one thing or another and OP did say there was one reply. when did you win the auction item and when does it need to be redeemed by? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 05:20 PM Flag
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You should expect to be able to redeem the outing without chasing him. Contact the auction chair and explain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:17 AM Flag
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I’m not a teacher but have volunteered heavily at multiple schools. My advice is to loop back at a different time. Right now people are swamped w grading, holidays, etc. Unless it is a seasonal activity (ice skating and hot cocoa) that requires planning now, I would give this teacher time.. Any chance you and he clash bc you are very type A and organized (great qualities) and he is, by nature, more free spirited and wishy washy, as you called it. flexibility is also a great quality. Just remember that you donated to support the school and gift your DD am experience. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 04:52 PM Flag
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THIS I would wait until mid January. At our auctions the teachers always put the date the outing would take place in the listing. I would encourage your PTA auction chair to consider that for next year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 05:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone on here use any budgeting programs for their personal finance? I'm thinking like Mint, Quicken or YNAB? A friend suggested YNAB to me, so I'm looking at that one, but wanted to know if there are others people prefer. Thank you. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:33 PM Flag
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I’m super old fashioned. I know what I make, know what I need to spend and save, and that’s sort of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:34 PM Flag
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OP: Ok. Hopefully someone else will have some tips. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:07 AM Flag
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I use Mint but more for an overall picture of finances. There are budgeting features, though - you can tell it, for example, that you don't want to spend more than $X on restaurants in a month and it will highlight where you are with a red or green bar. But you would have to check it frequently - as far as I know there are no features that would alert you that you've hit your limit. Also it tends to categorize things incorrectly sometimes so you need to go through expenditures and make sure they're correct. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:13 AM Flag
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Mint for overall, but old-school excel spreadsheet for budget [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:55 AM Flag
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Excel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 09:30 AM Flag
[ - ] My ds who got flagged for non participation in gym today is killing his ninja parkour class right now. Why can’t school just do fun stuff like this? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:10 PM Flag
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LIfe isn't always "fun". A lesson best learned early on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:13 PM Flag
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+100 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:28 PM Flag
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This. He may not like it, or be good at it, but if participation is mandatory, he needs to participate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:34 PM Flag
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+10000. Just like any other class (science, math, art), dc cannot just choose not to do the “work”. This is coming from someone whose dc got a 1 in gym last year... smdh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:38 PM Flag
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This x 1000000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:13 AM Flag
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Because everyone finds their thing. Public resources go to general issues rather than specific. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:26 PM Flag
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So if there are 5 others in his class who don’t want to do this ninja thing the school will have to find stuff they enjoy? And so on? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:27 PM Flag
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This. My son loves sports but does not like ninja stuff. Different people find different things fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 11:38 AM Flag
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Because your dc’s PE teacher is probably more focused on fundamental motor skills than “ninja parkour,” has limited equipment, and needs to consider the safety liabilities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:32 PM Flag
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This. Imagine a kid breaks a bone, parent/administrator asks for a lesson plan and the PE teacher says the kids were doing ninja parkour. Teacher is screwed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:36 PM Flag
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Schools often do team sports activities. More kids can participate at once and it teaches things like listening skills and waiting your turn etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:35 PM Flag
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Because gym teachers are interested primarily in doing as little work as possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:39 PM Flag
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I’m an elementary school classroom teacher and am in awe of our PE teachers. They teach up to 75 students at a time to students crawling with energy. They’ve brought amazing extracurricular programming to our school, are often the first line of behavior management, and have led school-wide heath initiatives. They literally know each of our 1000 students. Never mind the fact the admin dumps any and all extra work/coverages on them daily... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:44 PM Flag
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Don’t be that person. Do you run a public agency and decide how resources are allocated? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:45 PM Flag
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I haven’t seen this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:46 PM Flag
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Wtf? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:55 PM Flag
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Would pay money to watch you trade jobs with one for a day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:00 AM Flag
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THIS. And it would be the ultimate fundraiser! Pick out the judgmental snob parents at each school, and force them to teach PE or plan and serve lunch for a week, and everyone who donates gets to watch! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 08:04 AM Flag
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The irony is that OR probably spends hundreds a months on gym membership, fitness classes, athleisure, etc. yet thinks PE is a joke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:59 PM Flag
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dc's gym teacher is excellent actually. we always schedule time to speak with him at parent/teacher conferences. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:16 AM Flag
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Maybe that's been your experience, but at all my kids' schools the PE teachers were amazing. One in MS got my dd so hyped up she tried out for soccer and got on the team. Made a huge impression on her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:16 AM Flag
[ - ] Dd has a friend from ms who is a boy. Now they go to different hs, but they still stay in touch. She can tell he likes her, but she just wants to be friends. Any advice? Everything I suggest is of course rejected by her. The kids are in 9th grade. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:08 PM Flag
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Let her be. She can figure this out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:18 PM Flag
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Just let her handle this on her own. My 9th grader has already let down 3 guys who had crushes on her, and while I was surprised that boys this young are already so bold, I am happy that she is learning how to navigate all of this on her own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:04 AM Flag
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ha. Same with my dd. But she is friends with all of them, keeps them at bay, flirts v lightly and expertly without leading them on, doesn't really care for any of them and isn't interested in having a boyfriend. One goes to NEST, one at Fieldston, one at HSAS. Impressive geographic range. Lord knows I was an awkward weirdo at her age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:19 AM Flag
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That would be the story of every boy/girl "friend" relationship at that age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:56 AM Flag
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My kids are little so I have no idea what we’re in for but when I read posts like this I imagine my own high school experience and my parents would never ever have known who had a crush on me let alone be asking for advice to help me. My mom asked me if I was a virgin after I’d been dating dh for 3 years, for reference [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Nothing cheers me up when I'm having a bad day more than looking up the mortgage records of someone who is constantly posting on social media about how great their life is to find that they keep taking out lines of credit and refinancing to support their lifestyle. 36 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:06 PM Flag
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Whatever floats your boat kid. I prefer cat videos to give me a good chuckle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:11 PM Flag
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I love cat videos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 04:28 PM Flag
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And cats in bow ties:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 06:08 PM Flag
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Also kittens pouncing on each other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 06:46 PM Flag
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We like to be very cash rich and have mortgages on some of our real property. We use the cash to invest in other things. Doesn’t necessarily mean they have financial issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:17 PM Flag
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Uh huh. It doesn't have anything to do with your spring break trips to Turks and Caicos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:40 PM Flag
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What are you talking about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:07 AM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:28 PM Flag
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right right just like the people in my town who pay their property taxes 9 months late [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 08:11 PM Flag
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O good. I hope you look me up, and see our constant re-fis to keep our great rates. 2.375 5/1 2m mortgage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:19 PM Flag
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You realize you're just paying the difference in rate on closing costs, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:41 PM Flag
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I don't pay very much in closing costs - last refi was 2k in costs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 05:19 AM Flag
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You sound like quite a vindictive person. Who even thinks to do this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:25 PM Flag
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She's not the only one - I am a real estate investor, so I look up properties all the time. It is shocking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:25 PM Flag
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That’s your job, just like I review cases online and get general info. People who aren’t in law but track cases are either weirdly interested in things that don’t affect them or, well, crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:28 PM Flag
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This. DH does too, needs to professionally but has done it for personal curiosity too... and it’s shocking how people live vs what they portray publicly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:29 PM Flag
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It makes me feel like my life isn't so bad since at least I don't have to take out HELOCs every 2 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:42 PM Flag
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this, everyone laughs at the people in my town who pay their property taxes 9 months late [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 08:12 PM Flag
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? They're still enjoying their mansions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:35 PM Flag
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That have no furniture in them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:42 PM Flag
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Mine did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:16 AM Flag
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So you don’t understand the idea of leveraging. Ok. Simpleton. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:40 PM Flag
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You recommend using the equity in your house to leverage investments? And I'm the simpleton? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:43 PM Flag
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yada yada. My friends lived the high life, went bankrupt and 7 years later are at it again. No biggie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:17 AM Flag
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ight right just like the people in my town who pay their property taxes 9 months late [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 08:11 PM Flag
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Total stalker here too - please tell me how you look up mortgage records and can find those kinds of details. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:15 AM Flag
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In some towns the property tax appraisal office has open records. You plug in an address and it pops ups with owner etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:49 AM Flag
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I'm kind of curious as well!!! Not sure I would do it but interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:52 AM Flag
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lexis-nexis but it's expensive, propertyshark is free but only in some states [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 08:47 PM Flag
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How does one even do this?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:18 AM Flag
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People may be leveraging but they may have other investments and you have no idea what they are. You can never get a full picture of someone's finances by looking at just one aspect. For all you know, they may own other property under an LLC or something. You don't know if they have a trust fund. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:19 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:41 AM Flag
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ya ok. just like the people in my town who pay their property taxes 9 months late. if they had 1m in small cap last year they would have made 180k to pay their 25k a year property taxes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 08:14 PM Flag
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Step away from the internet and find joy somewhere in the world. It is there, waiting for you. Not always easy to find but you can do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:13 AM Flag
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Who are you people? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:52 AM Flag
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schadenfreude is fun [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 09:07 PM Flag
[ - ] I am sick of [skinny, celebrity, trainer/nutritionist type usually] people saying that "diet culture is bad" and "diets are not needed to lost weight". Really? Most people only every lose weight and keep it off with diet of some sort!!! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:01 PM Flag
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Why are you paying attention to such chatter? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:02 PM Flag
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^my first major weight loss was through intermittent fasting! It was so simple and quick compared to trying to "Eat healthy". Now I'm keeping the weight off by doing low carb no sugar etc during the week and then treats Fri night and weekend - it works and it's not hard! Just lots of salads, veggies, proteins etc. Carbs don't work for me, they give me calories but leave me still hungry so I over eat. Ditto sugar. And I don't drink usually. Ugh just hate the sanctimonious "stop counting calories/carbs/dieting etc and just 'eat healthy'!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:03 PM Flag
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Eat less. That's the only thing that ever works. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:06 PM Flag
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so annoying and unrealistic. Gives people unrealistic hope and just leads to more fat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:53 PM Flag
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I am 42 and have never dieted. I also don't have a particularly large appetite, I have noticed as compared to others who seem to struggle with their weight. They just seem to want more food. Maybe some bodies are made to be heavier set. That is my opinion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:01 AM Flag
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I agree with this, I really struggle with my weight bc my appetite Is so big. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 05:01 AM Flag
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Dieting doesn’t work per se. I think the only way to lose weight and keep it off is to make permanent lifestyle changes. Changes you can live with. Eat better foods, eat more stuff that’s good for you and eat less crap, and eat no processed food, if you can’t exercise regularly(I can’t, I work full time, commute, and have DC) take the stairs when you can, get off the train one or two stops early, stop thinking “I can’t “ start thinking “I will” and stop rewarding yourself for treats for every dang reason. No one needs dr oz or goop to Lisa weight and maintain a healthy weight. My totally unscientific two cents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 04:01 PM Flag
[ - ] can anyone recommend an eyelash growing serum? I used one that really worked, but it irritated my eyes. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:50 PM Flag
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ditto. Had one that irritated my eyes. I gave up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:04 PM Flag
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No such thing. And if it is, it's not healthy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:06 PM Flag
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not true, There is an FDA approved product called Latisse. Some people find it bothers their eyes but not everybody [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:57 AM Flag
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I wouldn't put anything near my eye for the sake of having "long lashes" bwahahaha. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:24 AM Flag
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I don’t use it myself, but it’s been tested, etc. not that it’s a guarantee of anything, of course. But people do lots of things that carry risk for beauty, such as getting surgery to have larger breasts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:30 AM Flag
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Google search or look on Sephora [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:19 AM Flag
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lash boost rodan & fields I hate to say it but the stuff really works [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:31 AM Flag
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Hi OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:11 AM Flag
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Olive oil [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 04:15 PM Flag
[ - ] I had what I thought was an anal skin tag but it’s a hemorrhoid. I’ve never had any pain or felt discomfort from it but it’s unsightly. Anyone w experience having one removed? How would you handle! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:42 PM Flag
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i have to ask. how many people will see it? if you're not uncomfortable,why do anything? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:48 PM Flag
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+2. How does OP even see it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:50 PM Flag
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Do not do a thing if it doesn’t bother or hurt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:53 PM Flag
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DH is the one the hemorrhoid problem and they bleed and it contributes to his overall insecurities. Just maintain through regular doctor visits before it gets out of hand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:59 PM Flag
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Same, but no one cares. No one sees it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:07 PM Flag
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+. Most of the adult population has them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:44 PM Flag
[ - ] I need help. Going through a very stressful time - living out of a suitcase, DD applying to schools, $ stress, etc. I need some very easy clothes that feel like pajamas but look professional enough that I can wear for work. Job is not corporate, but I see clients most days. It would help me immensely if I had 3 or 4 go to outfits I could throw on without thinking in the morning and wear all day. I welcome any suggestions - thank you! 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:39 PM Flag
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are you OK with dresses? i find an unstructired dress, tights and boots is great this time of year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:44 PM Flag
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Yes, love dresses. Do you have any particular sources you like? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 04:19 AM Flag
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poetryfashion.com [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:30 PM Flag
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I find great deals at Bolton's on 42nd St. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:10 PM Flag
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Uniqlo. Inexpensive and comfortable. Will not last forever, but that's not what you're looking for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:45 PM Flag
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Eileen Fisher everything -- it all goes together, get a bunch of flowy skirts, pants and jackets. Feels like pajamas. Not stylish but it's professional and will get you through. This is what I wore after I went back to work after maternity leave and had not lost baby weight yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:50 PM Flag
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np - agree with this, and can usually get on sale [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:53 PM Flag
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Yes, can get on sale especially at this time of year and can also resell (which is what I did). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:08 PM Flag
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You all are not wrong. Eileen Fisher definitely feels like pajamas. I just hate the look. But I take your point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 04:19 AM Flag
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If you mix it with other, more structured things, it can look very chic and still be comfy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 06:07 PM Flag
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I keep my eye at LK bennett for whatever their version of this is each year: https://www.lkbennett.com/product/CDMARIAVISCOSEMIXGreenForest~Maria-Flared-Dress-Forest Machine washable, one piece. I do tights and booties and a scarf. Very easy dressing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:26 PM Flag
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I love this! Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 05:28 PM Flag
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Aw! You're welcome!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 05:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Decorator moms. Is 7,000 a decent budget for holiday decorations for a luxury condo building lobby on the UWS. The building will own the reusable tree. There are other proposals for 3700 ish but the tree is owned by the decorator. What is a good range? Thoughts. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:26 PM Flag
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Dunno. Our coop decorating committee gets about $500 a year that they can spend on new stuff/upgrades. We have a whole room in the basement dedicated to decorations collected over the years. There was probably an initial cost somewhere in the past. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:29 PM Flag
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It should be enough. Depends where you are getting the tree/decorations from and how many you need. How large is the lobby? How big is the tree? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:54 PM Flag
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Here is one site -- you should be fine https://www.balsamhill.com/c/instant-evergreen-artificial-christmas-trees [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:57 PM Flag
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You can prob spend 1000 at Christmas’s tree shops and michaels [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:09 PM Flag
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Why do you need to own the tree? What would the cost be the following year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:11 PM Flag
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What if you're Jewish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:19 PM Flag
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Jewish people don't have holidays? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:20 PM Flag
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Involving a tree? In a lobby? I bet they don't consider the Jewish holidays, or do they? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:22 PM Flag
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What a strange assumption to make. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:23 PM Flag
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So you guys have Jewish holiday decorations in place too? How much do they cost? Or is it a one-time purchase? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:25 PM Flag
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My building doesn't have decorations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:27 PM Flag
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Then why are you bothering to discuss this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:36 PM Flag
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Because it's there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:45 PM Flag
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I can't think of a residential or corporate building in NYC that decorates for the holidays and doesn't include a menorah along with a tree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:25 PM Flag
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Op: this includes a Menorah [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:25 PM Flag
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Nice. Good to know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Any gadgets/devices that have really improved your quality of life? I just posted below about the Dyson Airwave. I never learned to blow dry my hair and couldn’t manage the round brush and blow dryer at the same time so this is a god send. I’m generally a skeptic but this tool is magical. If dries and straightens my thick/coarse/unruly hair in 20 min!! I joke to my mom that I waited long enough and technology caught up so I never had to learn to blow dry. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:17 PM Flag
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lol reading this it sounds like spam like when everyone was recommending those macaroons as a hostess gift [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:21 PM Flag
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Hate macaroons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:10 AM Flag
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I have a great portable knife/tool thing that is a competitor with Swiss Army. DH got it for me in the late 90s and still use it often. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:24 PM Flag
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I use the revlon one step. Game changer and ve seen it called a dupe of dyson. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:25 PM Flag
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oh interesting I’ll have to check this out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:46 PM Flag
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Np: Just today ordered a cheapo version to try out. If I love it I will splurge for a good one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:48 AM Flag
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I just got one of those types of dryers. It cut my styling time in half. I am thrilled! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:29 PM Flag
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I got a roomba. So far I like it but not completely sold because it seems to need a lot of emptying and charging, wondering if worth it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:30 PM Flag
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i love mine and have had for a long time. i live in an apartment, not a house, and don't expect it to do more than one room at a time so the charging thing isn't an issue [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:36 PM Flag
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for the winter my heated mattress pad is amazing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:36 PM Flag
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Wait, WHAT? Why wasn't I told about these so-called heated mattress pads? THIS IS OUTRAGEOUS! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:12 AM Flag
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I got one of those giant swell bottles and fill it with ice water from home and bring to work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you order a lot of clothes online and return? DH thinks I shop too much because I order a bunch of stuff, try it on and return most of it. I don't have time to shop in stores and even when I do the selection is better online. DH is more of a go shopping 2 times a year and get everything in one shot type of person, not sure he has ever ordered clothing online. Am I wrong in thinking my way is the norm these days and that retailers accept this fact (and offer a better selection online as a result?) 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:10 PM Flag
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I dont shop and return. I am not picky so i keep it unless despise it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:15 PM Flag
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I shop in person and order online when I am 75% sure it will fit since I have purchased that brand /size often [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:26 PM Flag
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I said the same thing below but a lot less succinctly lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:45 PM Flag
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OP - I find such variations between sizes even within the same brands these days, makes it so hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:53 PM Flag
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I do this, too. Pretty normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:41 PM Flag
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Me too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:55 PM Flag
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I do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:58 PM Flag
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+3. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:09 AM Flag
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There have been multiple NYT articles about this exact phenomenon and I remember a post on Ub where multiple people said they order a lot and return almost everything. I think this is common today. I prefer going to a department store like Bloomingdales or Nordstrom and trying on a bunch of things in person to get a sense for size and fit of what I like. Once I know the brand and size then I order online but don’t generally order online without having seen it in person first—I think I’d have a very hard time determined what I liked if I only ever shopped online. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:45 PM Flag
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I used to, I was a huge shopper and don’t really like going to stores, but now I do rent the runway and it’s so much easier. Don’t have to return a million things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:58 PM Flag
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I do, but I don't like it. Stores often don't have the size or even style I'm looking for, so I can't try on unless I order online. And even for brands I've bought before, sizing and cuts are so all over the place you just don't know until you try it on. I used to be a solid 8/M at BR and J.Crew for example (not super high-end, obviously), but now could be anywhere from a 6-10, and S-L. Also, I'm tall, and stores tend to not carry their long sizes, only online. But sometimes just the regular sizes fit; again, it's all over the place. So frustrating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:31 PM Flag
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I do this with BR and J crew as well. I used to be a 4 in dresses and 6 in pants with both of them, but I gained some weight and am now a size 8 in BR pants, 6 in j crew pants, yet still fit into a 4 dress with both of them. It drives me mad to never be sure so I order most things online and them return in the store if they don't fit. The only thing I can be generally sure of anymore is if it's the exact same style of something I already have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:19 AM Flag
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