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[ - ] Some kind UBers said they would be interested in purchasing bean bags for my classroom if I made a wishlist on amazon. Would love 4-6 bean bags for the kids to use for their quiet reading time. Link below. Thanks to anyone feeling generous. This is a title one school in NYC and I work with struggling readers so trying to make the experience as fun as possible. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I just tried to purchase and the only option was to send it to my house. Also, you should post on a Facebook mom's group like UES mom's, I always see them support charities for kids [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah. I tried to have it sent straight to the school. I used donors choose in the past. Thanks for letting me know. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I think I fixed it and it will be sent directly to the school, so you can verify it is really a school receiving the items. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Any Jews out there who can confirm this. If you marry a Jew and convert you will never truly be accepted into the jewish community or considered truly Jewish? What about in the case of adoption. If a Jewish family adopts a child and raises them as a Jew? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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^^^or if a non Jew marries a Jew and they decide to raise their children Jewish...not really Jewish? [ Reply | More ]
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If the mother is not jewish, no, the kids are NOT jewish. [ Reply | More ]
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Who made you God. Guess Moses kids were not Jewish. Oops. [ Reply | More ]
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In reform Judaism kids can be Jewish by patrilineal descent. [ Reply | More ]
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It is an ethnicity and a religion. You cannot convert to an ethnicity. [ Reply | More ]
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Said by someone who hasn't mastered the basic difference between race and ethnicity. One doesn't convert to an ethnicity. One adopts it. You must be referring to the idea of race. [ Reply | More ]
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Why so condescending? Do you have a personality disorder or are you just rude? You cannot just adopt an ethnicity you are not born into orginally and be of that ethnicity or say you are of that ethnicity now. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm Jewish, and that is not true. A converted Jew is a Jew, pure and simple. I will accept you and/or your adopted child! [ Reply | More ]
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Not all jewish people believe this, and many don't believe that all conversions are the same (i..e, many conservative and orthodox jews consider only orthodox conversions to 'count') [ Reply | More ]
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You do not speak for the Jews. Ten Jews = ten different opinions. [ Reply | More ]
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This is the party line but in my experience, there are women at the temple who think of any woman who converted as always being a shiksa. [ Reply | More ]
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Adoptive Jewish mom here: my adopted child underwent an official conversion. Obviously, children don't know their own minds, so as a teen, the DC will have the choice to affirm his/her identity as a Jew (that's what Bar/Bat Mitzvah is for) or decline. [ Reply | More ]
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How does conversion work? You fall in love with a Jewish man and then you renounce that all the Jesus stuff you have believed your whole life because suddenly you see the light? I would be suspicious of this conversion too. [ Reply | More ]
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Anything is ok in Reform Judiasm, not so for Conservatives and Orthodox. [ Reply | More ]
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Technically, by Halacha (Jewish law) a convert is just as much a Jew as anyone born Jewish. And in many communities, this is the case. However, I suspect there are other communities who are not so accepting. [ Reply | More ]
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Isn't the simple answer, it depends on who Jew you ask. Or, it depends on which Jewish community you're trying to be a part of. Who cares what someone else says. Find a community that accepts you and your adopted/converted Jewish family member and live your life. [ Reply | More ]
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Jews are a tribe, and there are many way to become a member of the tribe. Don’t get caught up on semantics. My Mom was a Roman Catholic, but my dd’s family are concentration camp survivors. I swam in the rainwater for a “conversion” as a child, bc my Mom did not convert, but I never felt any less Jewish because of this. I had a Bat Mitzvah, and I take great pride and strength from being a member of the tribe. But i don’t think adopted kids or folks who decide to follow the faith of Judaism on their own are any more or less Jewish than I am. The more the merrier! [ Reply | More ]
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You can convert all you want but we know secretly you still like bologna and mayo on white bread [ Reply | More ]
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There is no "one" Jewish "community". Yes, you won't be recognized by ultra orthodox. But conservative and reform will recognize you. My kids were converted to Judaism although I never did. They both received bar/bat mitzvah training and had the ceremony. I worked in a temple for 10 years and most people were not aware I was not Jewish. So, just live your life as you wish. For our rabbis, our kids are Jewish. [ Reply | More ]
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This. It depends on the community you're talking about. The synagogue I used to attend was very welcoming to interfaith families and Jews by choice. [ Reply | More ]
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These answers are insane. Converts are often the most hardcore Jews of all, and are definitely considered real Jews, INCLUDING in some orthodox communities. Definitely in Conservative and Reform. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What is the point of all this homework? My kids have a wide age Gap, so I haven't had a little kid in school for awhile. There is even more homework in kindergarten than there was when my oldest was little. It's so stressful. Tears every night over all this homework. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Blame the education reformers. They have destroyed education. If they don't give massive homework and all their students haven't passed the 3rd grade tests (remember, all students must be above average), then they blame the school and teachers for being too lazy. Since it is impossible to have a school with all above average kids, the only defense is to prove you have "high standards" and "high expectations" starting in Kindergarten. They have ruined education. Which was their intent. [ Reply | More ]
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Where do you live? In NYC I think the tide is turning against homework more and more for young kids. [ Reply | More ]
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This. It is at peak or has peaked and now there is pulling back again. [ Reply | More ]
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Same in flyover. We toured a bunch of schools and many (most?) now have no hw policies, since hw flies in the face of all educational research. I would opt out if I were in your shoes [ Reply | More ]
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Homework matters very little in the younger grades. Reading at home at night is more important. [ Reply | More ]
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It is horrific. I can't believe we are doing this to little kids. [ Reply | More ]
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It's terrible. When I brought it up on UB last year, the best advice I got was to just not do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 10:32 PM Flag
[ - ] So, Renate Dolphin signed a letter that Kavanaugh was an honourable man and then retracted when she saw her name plastered all over the yearbook. I guess it is only true when it happens to you...smh 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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He says he kissed her and she says he never did. How can Kavanaugh claim in that interview yesterday that he treated girls with respect when we saw him posing next to Mark Judge as part of the "Renate alumni club"? The man is a blatant liar and for that he should step down before he continues to embarrass his children as a thoroughly dishonorable man. Can you imagine Kavanaugh saying to his daughters: "I had to lie about how terribly i treated Renate but I know you understand and would be willing to have your own reputation be sacrificed so that another privileged boy in your school can get the job he believes he is entitled to." [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe she was passed out during whatever encounter they had. [ Reply | More ]
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Apparently that is what the FFFFFFourth of July reference that Kavanaugh wanted to memorialize forever in his yearbook meant. He sure was telling the truth when he talked about how he respected high school girls so much. [ Reply | More ]
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^^^It was about getting girls drunk enough to pass out so you could take advantage of them. What a sick group of boys. And Kavanaugh was so proud of it he put it in his yearbook photo! How sick is that? Plus he then looked the American people in the eye and insisted he acted only in the most honorable way in high school. [ Reply | More ]
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That is like the coolest name ever. [ Reply | More ]
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The coolest name ever is Mamphela Ramphele. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] "Bill Cosby was just sentenced to 10 years in the racially-biased 'trial' that was nothing more than a white supremacy railroading. The system of white supremacy had to make an example of a prominent 'Black' to keep all the other negroes in line." - Tariq Nasheed, civil rights activist. Is he right, UB? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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What about Cosby's black victims? [ Reply | More ]
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Oh for crying out loud [ Reply | More ]
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What are his views on OJ? Same? [ Reply | More ]
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Looks like the long arm of justice finally caught up with him. He can't play the race card on this one. Signed: Black Person [ Reply | More ]
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Seconded by: Another Black Person. [ Reply | More ]
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He is no more right than the Trump supporter who mowed down the girl in Charlottesville and the ones who said the girl deserved to be killed. He is no more right than Trump calling the neo Nazis "good people". [ Reply | More ]
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No. He got 3-10 years. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What do you think of the names Catherine or Charlotte? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I'm neutral. They're old names. [ Reply | More ]
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Love them. But I feel like Charlotte is everywhere these days. [ Reply | More ]
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They are nice names. But I don't think they convey "class" or anything like that any more than other names. I'm not really on board with the whole "northern-european = classy" thing. [ Reply | More ]
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What names are you thinking about that do convey class? [ Reply | More ]
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I don't think any names convey class! That kind of thinking is why we have women named Tiffany and Ainsley and men named Pierce. [ Reply | More ]
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Weird to bring up class if you truly believe this. [ Reply | More ]
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so you're new here, then? [ Reply | More ]
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Love them. I have a catherine. [ Reply | More ]
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Does she use a nickname? [ Reply | More ]
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No and she’s 5 and for now only wants to go by catherine. It’s hard to picture her as anything else now. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't like Catherine. [ Reply | More ]
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HM - I think they're beautiful. A Russian Czarina and a German Queen. The former is also good spelled with a K, as in Katherine of Aragon. [ Reply | More ]
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Her name was spelled with a C. That's the correct spelling. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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So overused. [ Reply | More ]
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In your neck of the woods. [ Reply | More ]
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No, everywhere. Check out any list of most popular names for the last 10 years and they're both all over it. [ Reply | More ]
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Not Catherine actually [ Reply | More ]
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Still common & always will be [ Reply | More ]
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like [ Reply | More ]
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British royalty. Kate Middleton and Princess Charlotte [ Reply | More ]
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:P [ Reply | More ]
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There are 2 great grandparents in our family with Catherine. So it's def. a classic. Not sure I like Charlotte but if you do, use it. [ Reply | More ]
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Caroline [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My DH is a great dad and husband, but many on UB would think he’s too “bro-ey”. He and his friends all play fantasy football, work in finance, have nicknames, etc. Truthfully, I feel bad for men younger than my DH and his friends who are being bro-shamed for being normal guys. They are terrified to even ask a girl out. 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Aww, where's my tiny violin. [ Reply | More ]
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She has a point. It’s gone too far. [ Reply | More ]
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You don't have to ask girls out. They come after you. [ Reply | More ]
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Men can do all those things without throwing themselves on top of someone or exposing their private parts. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I don’t think that’s what she was saying? [ Reply | More ]
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They are more than welcome to pull that sh*t with their “brothers” and not inflict it upon the rest of us. And by the way they don’t even have to ask a girl out, they can just swipe. [ Reply | More ]
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Why are you linking bros and assault? [ Reply | More ]
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If "bros" didn't dish it out, they wouldn't have to learn how to take it... [ Reply | More ]
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This! Jeez these guys are thin skinned. [ Reply | More ]
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Tough day? [ Reply | More ]
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Hi, Ashley! [ Reply | More ]
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It’s Becky. [ Reply | More ]
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It's not that hard to NOT RAPE [ Reply | More ]
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Um, trigger happy on bringing rape into it? That was not her point. [ Reply | More ]
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My Dh too - but he would never force himself on someone or stand in line on a train of sorts. Fantasy football is ok, so is sexual fantasy. But being an asshole and possibly a psycho are not. [ Reply | More ]
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Word. My DH was in a fraternity--president even!--and considers that behavior totally appalling as do all of his friends. [ Reply | More ]
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Whoa, where is your mind? [ Reply | More ]
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no on is being bro-shamed for being normal guys. [ Reply | More ]
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Save the bros. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you a fool? There's no shame in fantasy football, finance, or nicknames. The shame is in mistreating other human beings. Sheesh! [ Reply | More ]
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I must be misreading the OP?? [ Reply | More ]
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Was your dh a proud member of the "Renate Alumni" club? And do you want your son to start a similar club in his high school that he memorialized in a yearbook? If not , and they didn't sexually assault a passed out woman, they are good. [ Reply | More ]
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So they should change their behavior then. Reddit guys are the worst. [ Reply | More ]
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reddit guy? [ Reply | More ]
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|-o [ Reply | More ]
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Yawn [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] When do I stop drinking rose and move on to red wine? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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When you run out of rose [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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ily [ Reply | More ]
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Like today, or generally? [ Reply | More ]
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Is Rose is a summer wine? [ Reply | More ]
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When you get tired of rose. If not, just drink what you like. I drink red wine chilled, because I like it like that. Why not just keep drinking the rose if you like it? [ Reply | More ]
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I drink rose all year round. [ Reply | More ]
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I usually stop in September because I am sick of it and realize I like Red better anyway [ Reply | More ]
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Stop drinking rose when you're in the mood for red wine. And vice versa. [ Reply | More ]
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I don’t “get” rose. It doesn’t taste good. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] HSPT (Catholic School High School Test): What is considered a good score (e.g. good "enough" for Regis"?) My son has been prepping and doing the tests with prep books, but he consistently gets about 10 -15 wrong per section (out of ~60 questions each section). Want to get an idea of what's considered "good" vs "excellent" test results. TIA. 40 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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gosh i remember this acronym from when i was a kid [ Reply | More ]
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I wonder if it's the quotation and abbreviation section that is so difficult for him. [ Reply | More ]
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I thought it was TACHS or something like that [ Reply | More ]
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Some schools do both TACHS and HSPT. Since Regis takes HSPT, and all our other schools takes HSPT too, we're only focusing on HSPT. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you applying to Xavier? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: yes, and I think they take HSPT or TACHS, so we're planning to take HSPT only. [ Reply | More ]
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Regis doesn't release any data on this. I'm a Regis mom. AMA. And GL. [ Reply | More ]
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i thought it was their own test? np [ Reply | More ]
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It's the HSPT. Not the same one as other Catholic hs in NYC use (TACHS), so in this sense it's "their own test." [ Reply | More ]
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Which section? Concentrate on that area and he should be able to boost his score before the test date. [ Reply | More ]
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He's having a lot of trouble with spelling, so we're working on that. But he's also having trouble with finishing all the questions in time (always 5-10 questions left when the time is up). [ Reply | More ]
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Keep practicing as that really helps them pick up the pace. And remember, there's no penalty for guessing, so he shouldn't leave any blanks even if it means randomly bubbling in the last ten answers. [ Reply | More ]
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thank you - we're doing practice tests every day (one section each day), so hopefully that'll help. [ Reply | More ]
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I think you can assume your dc must get a score of 90% on the HSPT or higher to get in. It's not a rough cut-off, so dc can miss by a few points, but that's the general ballpark. That's the cutoff to be an Ignatian Scholar at Xavier, and it's essentially the same pool of dcs. [ Reply | More ]
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^So roughly 6 wrong out of 60. [ Reply | More ]
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No, more like 3-4 [ Reply | More ]
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You and other posters are all just guessing. [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: thank you. this is very helpful! [ Reply | More ]
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Everyone is guessing, but roughly 3-6 wrong on the entire exam is likely closer to the truth than 3-6 on each section. [ Reply | More ]
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wow! [ Reply | More ]
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No. [ Reply | More ]
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^Meant it's not a hard cutoff. [ Reply | More ]
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How is it the same pool of DCs? [ Reply | More ]
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Ds who apply to both Regis and Xavier and get into Xavier as an Ignatian scholar typically also get into Regis. [ Reply | More ]
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I agree - I think a lot of kids apply to both. We are applying to both - Regis being our first choice. [ Reply | More ]
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Actually, Ignatian Scholars score in the top 5-7%, not top 10%. That's what Regis is looking for, too. [ Reply | More ]
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Ignatian scholars is top 10%. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Is it a lot more homework to be an Ignatian Scholar? [ Reply | More ]
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Not pp but Regis mom poster. My ds got an Ignatian scholarship offer from Xavier. I don't know what the cutoff is for that, though. [ Reply | More ]
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Dont get hung up on percentiles here. There are approximately 40-45 Ignatian scholars each year (2 classes). Look at the 90 as a minimum. It is top 40-45 boys who get accepted, not every kid who meets the minimum. And they do move down the list as Regis shakes out and then again after kids drop for specialized HS. [ Reply | More ]
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This can't be right. 40-45 is a lot more than 10%. [ Reply | More ]
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There are two classes of Scholars. Absolutely correct as my son is in the program. The percentile references are referring to HSPT scores. [ Reply | More ]
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My son got an offer to be an Ignatian Scholar from Xavier. The test was easier than the SSAT for my son. He remembers much more emphasis on grammar test, but the math was easier. He is now at TT. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you timing the practice tests? Speed is crucial. [ Reply | More ]
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yes, timing each test / section, and he is having trouble finishing all the questions. Hopefully it'll get better as he does more practices. [ Reply | More ]
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It is top 95th percentile for Regis condideration. No way to easily correlate to number wrong. [ Reply | More ]
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It varies depending on how many dcs apply. Think of it like the cutoffs at SHS. My ds's year there were fewer dcs applying so the cutoff most likely was lower. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Why why why are female friendships so hard for me? I like who I am but somehow manage to feel like a huge loser when I'm around other women. :( If I'm comfortable with who I am and how I live my life, why do I let them make me feel so inadequate? 36 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Are they of a different social class from the one in which you grew up? [ Reply | More ]
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no and no. Some have higher income levels, but we all have very comfortable lifestyles. [ Reply | More ]
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Is your kid in school with these women's kids? Are you looking for friends solely in that group of women vs through other activities or settings? Do you feel poorer/fatter/shorter/less attractive than them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:21 PM Flag
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Kids are all in school together, but I knew most of them before that. I'm thin, attractive, taller than average and have a nice lifestyle. Some are definitely more affluent than me, but I have nothing to complain about. I always feel less "cool" than everyone else. I spend more time doing things like reading and gardening etc. and I end up feeling like the biggest loser. I LIKE to do those things and think they give me things to discuss with some of my other friends, but in this particular group, it just makes me feel like a loser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:28 PM Flag
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What types of things do they usually talk about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:49 PM Flag
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I've only had a few close long term friends throughout my life. We are friends because we connect on some level, whether it is personality or viewpoint or interests. There are many commonalities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:22 PM Flag
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I used to feel that way, but lately, I feel like the commonalities are shrinking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:29 PM Flag
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Obviously, you are not as comfortable with yourself as you claim to be. Really look at what makes you feel like such a loser and change it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:30 PM Flag
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I am comfortable with me and don't want to change. That's the thing. I don't want to drink more, stay out later or get really silly. If reading and being intellectual is what makes me feel bad, I have to deal with that, but don't really want to change it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:32 PM Flag
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there are lots of women like you. Maybe you're just meeting a different crowd. I kind of cringe at some women's events where people play up the "ladies night" angle -- like events where people caption it "me and my mom crew" "all my ladies" and everyone's got a glass of wine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:35 PM Flag
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What's wrong with that? You can still enjoy things like this and be an intellectual and read a lot, you can even be working on your PH.D. One doesn't exclude the other. You sound judgy as if only stupid women like to go out and drink alcohol. OP is an introvert, so may that is the real reason she doesn't like such gatherings, it's not because she is smarter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 09:11 PM Flag
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I'm just like you. You're not alone! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:50 PM Flag
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Thanks. :) Just wish I knew a few more people like us! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 11:32 PM Flag
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This is just not your niche - So what. Don’t beat yourself up. I don’t do well in the whole mommy scene, I feel Awkward and uncomfortable and shallow, but Slowly I’ve made very good friends. The mom Scene is like middle School with Botox. It’s super disappointing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:52 PM Flag
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Mom Scene? How often do these women go out, you make it sound like they are partying every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 09:18 PM Flag
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Happens at least once a week with my friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 10:19 PM Flag
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Omg, can we be friends? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 09:06 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 09:11 PM Flag
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Yes please. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 10:19 PM Flag
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Find new friends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 09:10 PM Flag
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Or meet them for lunch instead of at the bar [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 09:24 PM Flag
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You are just not into social things and partying and drinking, that's fine. Plenty of women like you. But it doesn't mean you are smarter and some sort of an "intellectual". It just means you are an introvert. Own it. Also remember that women who go out are not necessarily dumb and shallow and that's not all they do. You can still connect with them on other levels and outside of the bar gathering. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 09:14 PM Flag
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I'm not an introvert. True, I don't prefer big gatherings, but I do enjoy small groups, dinner, gatherings, etc. I often find the conversation over drinks to be boring and superficial, especially the night goes on. I never said they were dumb or shallow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 11:34 PM Flag
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Wait, do people who drink more and stay out late actually make you feel inadequate? I think there is something more to this story. I would have totally understood if you were in a company of super moms or brilliant scientists or career women or some accomplished business women. You are feeling like a loser in a group of drunk moms? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 09:26 PM Flag
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I feel like such a geek. I tried a new recipe or just finished a great book or read a really interesting article.... but none of this seems relevant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 11:35 PM Flag
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I’m an extrovert but I don’t like big mom group things either. I also live where I grew up and have know said moms most of my life. Some I like, some are bitches from a long line of bitches who are also raising bitches. My point is sometimes it isn’t you, it’s them. I just try to stay away from big groups of just women as much as possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 09:18 PM Flag
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Yes this!!! I’m not an introvert but i don’t like big groups. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 10:19 PM Flag
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How exactly do they make you feel inadequate, in which way? Are they all highly accomplished or super moms or brag about their genius or athletic kids all the time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 09:27 PM Flag
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Not at all. They are”cooler” than me and i feel like a giant nerd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 10:18 PM Flag
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Friendships are hard to come by when you are an adult and everyone is super busy with their family lives, work, extended family. Kids are also super time consuming these days. If you manage to have one true friend, you are lucky. Most are acquaintances, you enjoy their company and if you don't, you don't hang out with them, simple. Don't complicate it. I think you set your expectations based on BS Sitcoms, TV is not reality, especially when it comes to family life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 09:33 PM Flag
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You have an inferiority complex and want to be liked. All I can say is to stop it, believe in who you are and feel comfortable with your opinions. It is not a matter of money but confidence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 09:57 PM Flag
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In some ways i feel more confident than them because I’m comfortable doing my own thing and pursuing my own interests. I don’t “need” the group. But in that group setting i feel very meek and uninteresting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 10:17 PM Flag
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You don't feel like yourself and have the ability to express your true opinions. If they are mom friends - tolerate and move on as the kids get older. Find some real people you can hang with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 10:33 PM Flag
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Yes, I think you are right. I thought these were real friends and that is part of what I'm currently struggling with. I thought there was more depth, but I think I was wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 11:36 PM Flag
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What was your relationship with your mother. My mom had trouble getting along with other women and it finally dawned on me that she was replaying her relationship with her mother over and over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 11:30 PM Flag
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I'm really close with my mom and talk to her frequently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 11:36 PM Flag
[ - ] The teacher of my daughter still confused or doesn't recognized student face, especially Asian girls. My girl got someone else's (another Asian girl from the same class) homework or quiz, I found this is very annoying. I know the school just started.. but she is a TEACHER. how hard to do remember her students? I don't know how to address this matter to the teacher. Any idea? or should I just let it go? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 09.25.18, 08:08 PM Flag
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how old? no matter what age, give her another chance, but if your DD is older than 10, she should be the one to hand back the work and say, "Mrs. Smith, I am X, not Y." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:11 PM Flag
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5th grade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:11 PM Flag
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And my daughter is doing this pretty much more than at least 2 times per day. I found this is very weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:12 PM Flag
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ask your DD if she feels comfortable letting the teacher know. if she doesn't feel comfortable, role play it a few times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:13 PM Flag
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She should just politely correct the teacher, as suggested above. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:14 PM Flag
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this. I am surprised. But I live on the west coast so classes are very diverse. Hard to imagine a teacher mixing up students this way unless they have the same first name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:51 PM Flag
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Just gently correct her and let it go. Grace is always best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:13 PM Flag
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I'd give her some more time, it's still the beginning of the year. Just gently correct her. Signed, Asian whose daughter is also often confused with Asian classmates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:18 PM Flag
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Have her wear the same bow in her hair every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:21 PM Flag
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Do the kids sit in the same seats every time they're in her class? If not, I would find it very hard after a handful of school days to tell everyone apart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:21 PM Flag
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How is this possible? There are name tags on each table. If no tags, ask the teachers to label the tables. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:29 PM Flag
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they may do this in your school, doesn't mean they do it in every school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:32 PM Flag
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In that case, I'd put a name tag on the girls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:32 PM Flag
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Asian here - and I have difficulty remembering/recognizing Caucasians' face. I've tried all sort of tools but it is just hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:51 PM Flag
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How about black people? How are you doing with that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 09:00 PM Flag
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Better with black people. Not sure why. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.18, 12:05 AM Flag
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This is a real thing. Studies show people have trouble identifying those of other races. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 09:02 PM Flag
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It may be a personal issue. I am very bad with faces. I have trouble with AA. They change hair style and I get confused. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 09:36 PM Flag
[ - ] How do I get myself to take a risk on a man I like? I clam up around him. Worse case scenario I get rejected, right? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:01 PM Flag
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Nothing ventured, nothing gained. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:02 PM Flag
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pretty much. and if he rejects you it's his loss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:04 PM Flag
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She who dares, wins. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:31 PM Flag
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I would wait for him make the first move. Men seem to prefer that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Want to fly business class to Beijing. Recommendations for airlines? Thanks. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 07:58 PM Flag
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Had a great flight on Continental out of Newark. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:07 PM Flag
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NP: totally recommend this - you can connect via a time machine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:22 PM Flag
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lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:34 PM Flag
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Not United. Air China sucks too. Cathay is getting downhill. You can try JAL (stop in Tokyo) or Emirates through Dubai. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:30 PM Flag
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United Polaris. New and direct flight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:38 PM Flag
[ - ] getting floors re-finished - do I tip the crew? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 07:56 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:02 PM Flag
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If they do a great job, including covering all of your furniture, cabinets, etc very well. My crew did a great jo on the our floors, but they didn't cover things well and a as a result fine particles of dust from the sanding are everywhere, including inside closed cabinets and drawers. It should all be taped up in plastic or some kind of tarp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Where is a good discreet place to meet someone? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 07:53 PM Flag
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To have sex or buy drugs? Do you know this person yet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 07:56 PM Flag
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First meeting/date. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 07:59 PM Flag
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A dark hotel bar [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:00 PM Flag
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A very dark alley, behind the dumpster, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:01 PM Flag
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That’s not very safe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:04 PM Flag
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I don't think that safety is Op's primary concern. The word "discreet" let that one out of the bag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:13 PM Flag
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Motel 8, Bergen County. Unless, of course, you live there or know people in Bergen County. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:03 PM Flag
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When I was having an affair, we usually met at a hotel for drinks or dinner even if we weren't going to bed that time. Everyone at the hotel bar is from out of town. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 10:41 PM Flag
[ - ] What's the best state to divorce in to receive alimony, real estate or division of business? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 07:52 PM Flag
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For the man or woman? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 07:56 PM Flag
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Are you the one with more money or less money [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:02 PM Flag
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depends on so much. are you asking as an earner, lower earner, or non-earner, man or woman? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:03 PM Flag
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South Dakota. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 10:42 PM Flag
[ - ] does anyone here work in healthcare so you go into work with a fever so you can prove it? otherwise they think you're faking? then they can send you home and you can milk it? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 07:49 PM Flag
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what?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 07:50 PM Flag
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i'm not looking for paid sick day, just time off being sick. i don't have sick days yet. but i really have a fever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:02 PM Flag
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sick days*, just time off for* being sick [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:03 PM Flag
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Still not sure I get it. Are they calling you out for faking it? Can't someone be sick without having a fever? I get a migraine and there's no way I'm working. I would be incredibly insulted if my boss insinuated that I was faking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:05 PM Flag
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No but I don't want to start calling in sick so soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:28 PM Flag
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Np Unbelievably, the pressure to show up no matter what is often very high in healthcare. But they can’t give you crap for it if you present to employee health with a fever. Stupid. Hire a professional and treat them like errant 7 year olds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 11:35 PM Flag
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I've never worked for that type of employer, healthcare or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 07:51 PM Flag
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Why milk it? If you have a fever and can’t work, you can’t work. Period. Why are you putting a spin on it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 07:52 PM Flag
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i'm new and part time but i've been training full-time. i don't want them to think that i'm lying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:02 PM Flag
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If you prove it, how would you be milking it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:03 PM Flag
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well they'll know it's real and won't expect me to come in the next day if i'm still sick [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:27 PM Flag
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Yeah but milking it is when you're not really sick or you're just slightly sick and you pretend it's worse than it really is... You sound really really stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:50 PM Flag
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i have a lot of classwork to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 11:14 PM Flag
[ - ] What will happen on our Brearley tour and interview tomorrow? I am oddly anxious about it. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 07:49 PM Flag
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Full cavity search and lie detector test for all family members [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 07:55 PM Flag
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Tour with a parent and see admissions director (or an asst dir) for 15 min. It's really up to the child to excel at the playdate later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 07:56 PM Flag
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Hopefully not a kick in the head. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:02 PM Flag
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Make sure you come off knowing your child well. You and DH should go over the points you want to make. Don’t have crazy expectations. Good luck! - B Mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:15 PM Flag
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is winifred still there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:19 PM Flag
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Why ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:26 PM Flag
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Yes, still there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:28 PM Flag
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psychological testing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.25.18, 08:43 PM Flag
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