• Filter the conversation
[ - ] SAHMs with babies and toddlers, can your DH handle them on weekends? Does he put kids first or himself? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:55 AM Flag
»
Yes. We have an impossible 2 year old and dh does it all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:56 AM Flag
»
Yes he can. He can change their diapers, feed them, bathe them, dress them, doctor them when they're sick. As for putting them first...mostly yes. If they've been brats for awhile and he's getting tired and it's getting late then he turns into a typical, short tempered dad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 03:02 AM Flag
»
DH is great. He takes them on Saturdays from wake up until afternoon nap. I wouldn't think twice about leaving him with the kids. He's a great dad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 03:04 AM Flag
»
Yes and he puts them first (within reason). We both give ourselves breaks when we need them. Ie we can say “go play for 20 mins, I’m going to be reading/napping/making phone calls/cooking” [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 04:08 AM Flag
»
When I had them he could, but he couldn't lactate so independent care was a bit limited at first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 04:09 AM Flag
[ - ] Best grade to switch from private to public (to save$): better for middle school or for high school? (assuming kid can test in to a good school) 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:53 AM Flag
»
If you are only interested in saving then switch for HS seems obvs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 03:03 AM Flag
»
if you know for sure they can get into a good high school and would get into a good middle school now, then go now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 04:59 AM Flag
[ - ] What is Garden House like? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:53 AM Flag
»
stuffy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:54 AM Flag
»
Hated it when we visited. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 03:06 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone found a humidifier that really works? mine barely moves the needle on the humidity level in the room. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:49 AM Flag
»
Venta [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:51 AM Flag
»
We just got a Crane and it's the first humidifier I've liked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:53 AM Flag
»
I've always found the Crane baby ones to work. I walk in dd's room and it's like a rainforest [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 03:10 AM Flag
[ - ] The 4 years up to my divorce from dh was painful, but nowhere near as painful as watching my birth family turn against me. My father passed away a few months before my divorce wakeup call. My emotionally needy mother (divorced from father after many bitter years) needed someone else to vent her spleen at. I was always the kid she confided too much to and I wasn't reacting to her anger at a dead man so I became her next target. My father left his house to all the kids but my older sister refused sell it and refused to buyout the rest of the children from and so there was a lawsuit. I wanted to be neutral and helped pay the maintenance bills but that made me a defendant with my refusing sister in the lawsuit. After all this I realized why I ended up marrying my ex. He never treated me very well (wakeup call was a drunken pushing and shoving at me during xmas). But my birth family didn't either and I simply never understood what a good relationship should feel like. I think my mom hates me because I don't bring any drama to her life (she began to try get into verbal exchanges with my ex, looking for a fight, it was surreal because their contact had been minimal). I have two kids, tried for years to encourage maternal family relationships but it is such an effing mess, I can barely hide the dysfunction anymore. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:42 AM Flag
»
Hugs to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:48 AM Flag
»
Thank you. I need psychic mom to tell me if I could ever find companionship in my life. Don't want to be a burden on the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:53 AM Flag
»
I can tell you that you are amazingly strong and clear on the dynamics. It is constant trauma/drama but you are handling it all admirably. good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 05:05 AM Flag
»
Not uncommon for the least well off sibling who lives with mom and dad refusing to sell the house and split up the proceeds as per the will. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:58 AM Flag
»
Opposite here - it was the most well off sibling who lived on the opposite coast that refused to sell. Think it was guilt about not being there for the past few decades of my father's life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 03:37 AM Flag
»
Sorry OP. Hugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 04:04 AM Flag
[ - ] this is the first year we are basically doing "events" rather than 8 nights of presents for the kids. We are taking htem to Harlem Globetrotters one night, we are doing a special night out to their favorite restaurant another. They are older and don't really need anything. they will get one video game each. But for the most part, not doing tradtional gifts this year 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:41 AM Flag
»
sounds great , take pix of each night! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:55 AM Flag
»
Nice idea but sounds exhausting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 03:07 AM Flag
»
iot's not being done all in 8 nights. the globetrotters are not till feb. so that is easy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 03:09 AM Flag
»
Is it more expensive than gifts? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 03:38 AM Flag
»
yes and it takes time and involvement and caring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 05:06 AM Flag
[ - ] How do some of the Westchester private schools compare to each other? Thinking about Rye Country Day, Hackley, Masters, Harvey... 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:40 AM Flag
»
I know someone who teaches at RCD. She is not impressed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:42 AM Flag
»
I thought their exmissions were similar to NYC 2T. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:46 AM Flag
»
Np. I’m sure they are but that doesn’t mean the students are impressive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:51 AM Flag
»
That's a better indicator than one person's subjective opinion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:54 AM Flag
»
Can you explain further? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:47 AM Flag
»
She was/is very surprised at the generally low intelligence/performance level of a significant number of students there. Money does not necessarily breed brains or class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:51 AM Flag
»
Hm. Thanks! I hear it is quite the pressure cooker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:51 AM Flag
»
If by that you mean they overburden students with work, probably. The quality isn't there though, according to her. Unimpressive student body. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:53 AM Flag
»
I wonder how it compares to the "TT" privates in the city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:55 AM Flag
»
Does your friend teach in RCD high school or lower grades? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 03:15 AM Flag
»
I know someone who sends their kid to Harvey. Insufferable. Her DH too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:53 AM Flag
»
We moved from the city to the burbs. The brightest kids often leave for HM or Hackley, and Hackley seems very strong academically while providing a good balance. Kids maintain their sports, social lives, activities, etc, and the kids seem very nice, like the school selects for or incorporates social emotional learning. I also hear good things about Masters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:56 AM Flag
»
Which town in the burbs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 03:14 AM Flag
»
I had a host student for two years from Harvey. Seemed like a nice place. Very cushy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 04:06 AM Flag
»
Hackley and Rye Country Day are the most academic. Then Masters, last Harvey. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 04:36 AM Flag
[ - ] Are personal recommendation letters important for DALTON K admissions? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 12.11.17, 02:39 AM Flag
»
No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:42 AM Flag
»
Babby only cares about how the kid turns out on her tests. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:45 AM Flag
»
Is she in all the playdates? I don't think she was there when my DC went. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:53 AM Flag
»
No, but her people are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:55 AM Flag
»
Not at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:47 AM Flag
»
Then why even ask for them? I know they are optional, but no other school even has them as an option. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:53 AM Flag
»
They are an option for every school regardless whether they say it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:55 AM Flag
»
unless they explicitly say no letters- I think Spence does this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:55 AM Flag
»
Not sure. We didn't do them; not a problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:55 AM Flag
»
my child is not really skilled on an I-pad. kind of worried about this one! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:56 AM Flag
»
?? no ipad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 03:16 AM Flag
»
The only letter that would make a difference at any private school is from one of the richest board members. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:59 AM Flag
[ - ] You can tell the Russia trolls who hate America. They are pro Judge Moore even though the other Republican Senator from Alabama has said he can't vote for the pedophile. Remember that every time you see a post from the pro-pedophile supporting Moore, that even the Republicans know this guy is nasty. Go away pro-Moore pedophile and quit posting here. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:38 AM Flag
»
»
""Republican Sen. Richard Shelby of Alabama spoke out against GOP candidate Roy Moore in an interview just two days before the special election to fill the state's US senate seat...."I tell you what, there's a time — we call it a tipping point. And I think so many accusations, so many cuts, so many drip, drip, drip. When it got to the 14-year-old story, that was enough for me. I said I couldn't vote for Roy Moore." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:55 AM Flag
»
LOL. Let's see how the vote goes. I bet you choke on your words after the results are released. You are garbage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:39 AM Flag
»
NP, put this discussion aside until Tuesday night please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:40 AM Flag
»
If he is elected, that will be a reflection on the voters in Alabama, but hardly a surprise to anyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:50 AM Flag
»
»
"Republican Sen. Richard Shelby of Alabama spoke out against GOP candidate Roy Moore in an interview just two days before the special election to fill the state's US senate seat...."I tell you what, there's a time — we call it a tipping point. And I think so many accusations, so many cuts, so many drip, drip, drip. When it got to the 14-year-old story, that was enough for me. I said I couldn't vote for Roy Moore." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:55 AM Flag
»
I don't think it's a Russian. I think it's just some miserable person who found this board and gets attention, so he or she stays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:40 AM Flag
»
It could be one of the alt right guys who has the sad life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:43 AM Flag
»
"I tell you what, there's a time — we call it a tipping point. And I think so many accusations, so many cuts, so many drip, drip, drip. When it got to the 14-year-old story, that was enough for me. I said I couldn't vote for Roy Moore" REPUBLICAN Senator from Alabama Richard Shelby who doesn't want to have to work right next to the pedophile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:41 AM Flag
»
He won't have a choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:44 AM Flag
»
Russian trolls are just doing it for the money, honey. They would move to Amerika in 2 seconds flat if they had the chance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:41 AM Flag
»
Where's the evidence Allred has? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:41 AM Flag
»
"I tell you what, there's a time — we call it a tipping point. And I think so many accusations, so many cuts, so many drip, drip, drip. When it got to the 14-year-old story, that was enough for me. I said I couldn't vote for Roy Moore" -- the 14 year old has nothing to do with Allred. If a Republican Senator from Alabama knows that, why don't you? Because you are Russian troll who hates America so much you want to see a pedophile in the Senate? Nasty troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:42 AM Flag
»
Russians don't live in Alabama so don't worry. The voters will decide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:41 AM Flag
»
Here's one prominent Alabama Republican: "I tell you what, there's a time — we call it a tipping point. And I think so many accusations, so many cuts, so many drip, drip, drip. When it got to the 14-year-old story, that was enough for me. I said I couldn't vote for Roy Moore" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:42 AM Flag
»
He will get voted out for going against Trump. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:43 AM Flag
»
Maybe Trump will simply jail him like his hero Putin does when any of his friends dare to disobey his orders. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:48 AM Flag
»
You should think about how that sounds to someone that actually believes in democracy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:52 AM Flag
»
Nice that we have a pedophile up for election...great job America. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:58 AM Flag
[ - ] Trump drinks an extreme amount of diet coke and also feeds his face with copious amounts of CNN every day. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:36 AM Flag
»
LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:38 AM Flag
»
That makes no sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:38 AM Flag
»
I was interested in the fact that he drinks 12 Diet Cokes a day myself. No wonder he doesn't sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:41 AM Flag
»
And Weinstein is a complete Diet Coke addict too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:44 AM Flag
»
Really? That's interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:45 AM Flag
»
Right? Something to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:51 AM Flag
»
Huh. Wonder if Weinstein was the one they were mocking in Tropic Thunder with the killer Tom Cruise cameo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 03:28 AM Flag
»
This. And Diet Coke makes you angry too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:59 AM Flag
»
He watches 4-8 hours of TV a day. He's a moron. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:59 AM Flag
»
I used to drink 12 diet cokes a day and I was crazy out of my mind. It wasn't the caffeine either. There's something else in it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 03:03 AM Flag
[ - ] firefox telling me that YBM websiste is unprotected and improperly configured so won't pull it up. ANyone else have this problem tongiht? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:34 AM Flag
»
what's the difference between UB and YBM? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:35 AM Flag
»
yes. but careful, you will be banned if you mention it here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:37 AM Flag
»
Yes. Mine had a super frightening message. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:36 AM Flag
»
yeah and a bunch of us are here. you can tell your browser to open it anyway, though and it works - at least on chrome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:36 AM Flag
»
Is that a good idea though? I’m freaked out about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:37 AM Flag
»
eh, it's fine. it's just http instead of https. don't put your credit card number in or anything but given the fact that the credit bureaus and every other site has been massively hacked, I seriously do not see it as an issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:38 AM Flag
»
np: I am not doing that. No way. I am sure it will be fixed. or maybe assad mom finally got the troll farm to infiltrate and shut it down [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:37 AM Flag
»
I just clicked on more info and it seems as if the certificate has expired. I’m sure they will fix it, but I may stay away until then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:39 AM Flag
»
that is what I am doing. Maybe it will crack my habit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:41 AM Flag
»
Yes, same here. I came to UB just now to see if YBMers were here. It’s happened in the past and Purple G renews the certificate. But I’m worried with all the recent crap for posts he/she won’t bother, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:40 AM Flag
»
same here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:44 AM Flag
»
so don't login if you're that scared of your burner email being stolen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:46 AM Flag
[ - ] any psychic moms here now? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:33 AM Flag
[ - ] When did becoming gluten intolerant become so trendy? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:32 AM Flag
»
Years ago- you’re late to ask [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Office Secret Santa. $25 budget (though I don't mind spending a little more.) Should I give a set of Pottery Barn cheese knives (she's getting married in April and this is on her registry), J.Crew earrings, or monogramed Christmas napkins (she's into that sort of thing)? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:32 AM Flag
»
25 dollars of scratch off lottery tickets [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:34 AM Flag
»
Worst gift ever! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 03:19 AM Flag
»
LC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 08:05 AM Flag
»
Christmas napkins [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:38 AM Flag
»
+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:45 AM Flag
»
We get the same but I am C-suite? I usually get a cashmere scarf from SAks..about $400...gender neutral [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:39 AM Flag
»
Napkins [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 03:14 AM Flag
»
If she is into that, the napkins would be good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 03:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Best preschools in/near Chelsea?? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:32 AM Flag
»
Are there any besides Chelsea Day School and Avenues? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:47 AM Flag
»
You have to head east to Gramercy for Acorn, Jack and Jill or Epiphany [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:50 AM Flag
»
Any more info on Acorn? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:58 AM Flag
»
Dc went there a million years ago, so no recent info. ^^^we liked it very much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 03:00 AM Flag
»
Absolutely loved Chelsea Day School. We did not choose it for DC due to location but we almost made the call to go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:52 AM Flag
[ - ] I have been a SAHD for the past 8 months and while it's been great to be able to pick my kids up from school every day I am BEYOND excited that I get to go back to work tomorrow. Being at home all day and just worrying about doing laundry, scheduling doctor's appointments and playdates, and getting dinner ready is not good for me. It's no way to live. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:32 AM Flag
»
how are you hung? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:34 AM Flag
»
Please answer. We are all waiting to find out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:37 AM Flag
»
how tight are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:39 AM Flag
»
IA and time just basically melts away [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:42 AM Flag
»
I agree too and I’ve been a SAHM for ~6 months. I enjoy it because it’s relaxing, but I’m way less efficient than I was when I was working. I’ll probably go back within two years or so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 04:12 AM Flag
»
Fuuuuuuck you and your "no way to live" attitude. Some of us like that way to live. I downright cherish it. I never thought I'd get the chance to stay home. You do you but don't insult others' choices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:46 AM Flag
»
Ita. I was sahm for 3 years while my kids were home. I did not want motherhood alone to define me but everyone must do what is right for them. It is not easy always to be a wohm, but I am satisfied with myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:52 AM Flag
»
Hey, I was doing that and gut renovating, doing home improvement and coding dh's ecommerce site from scratch. Yes, I was excited to start working and actually be able to go to the bathroom by myself without kids in tow. The best part was I earned enough to hire a matrimonial attorney. I was tired of doing the woman's work, most of the man's work, then having to actually work to make financial ends meet. Didn't need him really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 02:58 AM Flag
Refresh » New Post »
close [X]

close [X]

Select a Category (only 1)

category
Stages
Regions