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[ - ] Thoughts on cool Scultping? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:07 PM Flag
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Dude, this is like the 4th post in the last week. Basta. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:16 PM Flag
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Right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 04:31 PM Flag
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I did it for outer thighs and liked the results. I did it in coordination with losing weight and focusing on toning my legs, etc. The fat has not returned. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:30 PM Flag
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Oh- interesting! I thought that it was less effective for legs. I am reasonably thin/fit (5'4", 115-120) but my upper legs will not tone. Lots of jiggle (whereas arms/abs are very toned) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Scene in my neighborhood in Brooklyn: a mom wearing Golden Goose sneakers and lots of expensive accoutrements, complaining that her nanny wants a raise because she can't afford her rent (in a not very fancy neighborhood). The mom with whom she is commiserating can't believe her FT housekeeper wants to be paid while the mom's family is at their house Out East. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:56 PM Flag
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This women are vulgar. Make Brooklyn Heights cool again! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:56 PM Flag
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BH is usually less like this than CH or CG imo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:00 PM Flag
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Yup, BH has more working parents and is more humble. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:57 PM Flag
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Yes, definitely. I mean they live in $8 million houses. A sure sign of humble people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 06:00 PM Flag
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Well to be fair all the CH moms like this are usually in BH at SoulCycle or dropping their kids off at Packer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 04:01 PM Flag
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Well there's quite the UB bingo card [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:59 PM Flag
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np: isn't it? so much so that it very clearly seems fake! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:01 PM Flag
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This. Too obvious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:12 PM Flag
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The other tell is the rapid fire posting of new OPs...all with cliche topics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:13 PM Flag
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Meanwhile, in Coney Island: https://abc7ny.com/5311009/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:04 PM Flag
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Nannies and another other people working should be paid based on what the market rate is, not paid based on what their rent is. That said, I would never hire someone who seemed desperate for money, that’s not someone I want around my kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:25 PM Flag
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I'm sure there are plenty of trust fund babies out there who are dying to watch your kids. You know, the ones who don't need to worry about money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:27 PM Flag
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Sarcasm aside, you can tell when someone desperately needs money. My nanny is married and has a dh who also works and she lives in an inexpensive apt in queens. Of course she needs her salary but she’s not living paycheck to paycheck and not talking about being unable to afford rent and other things [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:30 PM Flag
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Good for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:31 PM Flag
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Um, I hate to break it to you, but people are nannies because they want MONEY. Do you think they're doing it because it's so enriching to spend time around your little snowflakes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:32 PM Flag
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There is a difference between wanting money and being desperate for money. I am not under any false assumptions that our nanny would work for free. She is wonderful and she’s paid to do a job [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:34 PM Flag
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bullshit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:36 PM Flag
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ITA: love and respect my great nanny but her rent shouldn't be a factor in determining her salary and her trying to use that would really concern me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 04:49 PM Flag
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I agree. Nannies are paid market rate. But also, you’re fooling yourself if you think your nanny isn’t in desperate need of money. I make a lot of money, as does DH and still feel like I desperately need my job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 04:58 PM Flag
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Or: I know that my nanny is not living paycheck to paycheck and is not struggling to pay her bills- she can afford her lifestyle. If that’s the case for you then I’m sorry and yes this can happen on any salary [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 05:11 PM Flag
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That is weird. Partners at Goldman Sachs are always very concerned about the ability of analysts and associates to pay their rent. OH WAIT, people get paid according to what the market pays people with their skills doing their job, not how much they pay in rent or how much the boss's sneakers cost. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:56 PM Flag
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we should definitely use Goldman Sachs as an example of best practices [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:59 PM Flag
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Np: this is not about Goldman. People are paid market rate everywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 04:06 PM Flag
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and they shouldn't be :) fuck capitalism [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 04:14 PM Flag
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Yes, because communism has worked so well... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 04:22 PM Flag
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You don’t have a job, do you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 04:58 PM Flag
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OMG Scene Mom is back. Stop trying to make it a thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 04:31 PM Flag
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This is definitely different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 04:59 PM Flag
[ - ] I got divorced a while ago and am basically a single parent. Struggling to create a new social life. Used to spend a lot of time out for work but dialed that back (purposely) with new job and not wanting to rely so much on work for social life. Now I’m feeling disconnected and withdrawing more all the time. It is a bad cycle right? Feel like not being part of a couple totally changed my dynamic with non work and school friends. Maybe I should throw myself into dating, idk. Advice? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:55 PM Flag
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No advice, except to say I am you, but I'm totally content with current situation, because I realize it's a temporary chapter. I am prorating my kids and my career. Socializing an dating is taking a back seat for now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:56 PM Flag
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How do you not get lonely and few isolated? Part of it is my job is way less social and externally focused than it used to be. I’m an extrovert even though I am gong through this withdrawn phase. Kids are going to camp soon and I’m worried I will sink into complete isolation. Need more social support and don’t know how to find it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:59 PM Flag
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I feel lonely sometimes, but I've created the social network that I seek. E.g., I started a book club a couple years ago, I'm involved in a professional networking group, and I volunteer with two organizations. So I "socialize" at board meetings, and book club, meetings, etc. Going out binge drinking with other lonely moms (popular where I live) is not my idea of socializing so I've created these situations for myself that I seek. I relate though, it's hard. Sounds cliche but join a club related to a hobby you want to cultivate. Or take a class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:01 PM Flag
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You do have a social network. Are the board meetings related to volunteering? I am trying to volunteer myself. Any advice on how to find things to volunteer for? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:04 PM Flag
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yes, they are. I thought about what causes I cared about and went from there. I identified two groups, plus kids' school, and that's all I do. Also helps me to say no to additional requests. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:06 PM Flag
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How do you work On getting involved at the board level of a charity? Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 04:37 PM Flag
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I feel the same way as you but I think I have depression also. I feel the need to have someone in my life all the time so dating is good for me but dating these days are depressing too. Love is so hard to find. I don't like being alone unlike some people. Hanging out with friends cost money so I dial that back too. My advice is for you to try dating bc you might have better luck than me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:02 PM Flag
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I may have depression. I know that. But the feeling down doesn’t last long enough or impact my life long enough to warrant medication. At least that’s what I’ve been told. I show up at work every day with make up. I get my hair cut colored. I work out. I do see friends at least a few times a month. I do some professional networking activities. Some days are just super hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:06 PM Flag
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I was responding to you above, and I do think that some days are just super hard when you're a single mom. I feel that way. Sometimes it just stinks. Two parent households are easier to manage in almost every way, assuming there isn't abuse or neglect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:08 PM Flag
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Thanks! I am also 44 and feel like my cycle causes more downs than it used to, or at least more severe. I’ve started tracking it. I am supposed to start my period right around now, and I imagine it is making things worse. I’ve also “settled” for friendships with some people who aren’t super healthy (I was a mess at the end of my marriage and the first couple of years of separation) and I need to let those people go and find better relationships. I do suffer from low self esteem so letting people who aren’t able to be thoughtful and supportive in my life can cause a lot of hurt. So cleaning up that part of my life, while healthy and good, is temporarily isolating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:15 PM Flag
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Sounds like you are really on the right path though. We live in a culture that never wants to feel pain. Pain is ok when it teaches us and sounds like you have more lessons to learn. BTDT. The night is always darkest before the dawn. You are doing good and healthy work!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:18 PM Flag
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Thanks for saying this. It just has been so long since I felt okay. I’ve definitely had some decent stretches of ok-ness in the last three years, but lots of struggles as well. I had such terrible coping mechanisms my whole Life and sometimes it feels like it was easier to be screwed up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:23 PM Flag
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I feel you. Learn new coping, it's worth it. I'm struggling with that too. Am thin and fit but have used food and drink as a crutch and coping mechanism my whole life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:29 PM Flag
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Me too! The thin and fit for me is also about perfectionism. But I really need exercise so trying to find the balance. I have managed to become a sporadic drinker. Three drinks over a big long dinner/evening is like a once a year over indulgence at this point. Also men have been a problem my whole life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:33 PM Flag
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My sister met her boyfriend at a divorce support group. They've now been together for 5 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:20 PM Flag
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Thanks!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:21 PM Flag
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Sometimes I just really miss having someone to cuddle with. I miss having someone who loves me other than myself. Its very hard. I also have ADHD and hard to focus on one thing in my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:40 PM Flag
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I think pushing yourself to be more social at work is an easy step. And it's something that can be done, mostly, during work hours (go grab coffee with someone, get lunch, maybe get one drink after work, etc). Maybe set a goal of one social activity a week (any of the three things I listed can count). I think you'll see once you start doing it, it'll get easier and easier and more invitations will open up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 08:21 PM Flag
[ - ] I just learned that the DS of a family member has disclosed he was molested by his dad. Parents are divorced. DS is 10. Any advice to offer to protect the DS (aside from barring him from visitation)? 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:44 PM Flag
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does his mother know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:50 PM Flag
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yes, his mother knows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:52 PM Flag
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or: I agree your OP is confusing. Are you trying to "protect" the abused child or your own DS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:54 PM Flag
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"the DS" is my cousin's son. I'm not worried about my DCs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:08 PM Flag
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Educate him about molestation and tell him that this family member is a pedophile to be avoided. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:50 PM Flag
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Be careful throwing the word pedophile around. Not everyone who sexually abuses children is one and that opens you to accusations of slander if it is not in fact true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:55 PM Flag
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Omg who gives a shit. Her kid doesn't need to be around him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:05 PM Flag
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His lawyer might. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:06 PM Flag
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What do we call someone who sexually abuses children, if not a pedophile? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:14 PM Flag
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A criminal. I understand you aren't knowledgable about this, so be open to learning. Many sexual abuses of children are crimes of opportunity. Pedophiles are people who are sexually aroused by pre-pubescent children. Not every criminal who sexually abuses children is a pedophile and not every pedophile acts on his or her urges. It's nuanced, and I understand you might not care. The law and psychology make distinctions though and I think protecting our children is much more effective (and easier to do) when we know the facts. E.g., protecting your child from a pedophile is different from protecting them from opportunistic sexual abuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:21 PM Flag
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this is extremely helpful. Thank you for taking the time to explain [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:22 PM Flag
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You're welcome! I appreciate you saying that. No one wants to understand pedophiles, which I appreciate, because we want to imagine they aren't human or they're "evil"...but they are part of the human condition and almost always because they were abused themselves. If we want to put a stop to something, we have to truly understand it, not demonize it because it makes us feel bad. Most victims of pedophiles also don't feel "abused" whereas opportunities child sexual abuse victims do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:25 PM Flag
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I disagree. I think most victims of pedophiles feel abused. They may not know what to call it, but they all describe feeling bad, ashamed, disappointed, confused and almost always eventually put a label of "abused" on it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:47 PM Flag
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I am talking about during the abuse itself, not afterwards. Most feel seduced and appreciated during and have a loving relationship with anuser, which makes it confusing. They feel attended to, which then brings up all the negative feelings later in life once that "love" was reconceputalized as abuse. I'm a psychologist so understand this dynamic but Oprah addressed this issue very clearly in layman's terms in his post-MJ special. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:50 PM Flag
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^her! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:50 PM Flag
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How is it helpful? It makes no difference whatsoever, and I don't even think the law distinguishes between the 2, since laws are based on actions and intent to cause harm. In both cases, the overlying intent would be the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:33 PM Flag
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I provided the explanation. The law absolutely distinguishes, in sentencing and treatment. Prevention efforts distinguish, which are the most critical for those of us who want to knowledgable protect ourselves. The pedophile is more often than not a trusted community member, not a troll under a bridge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:38 PM Flag
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If a 10yo has been molested he does not need to be educated about it. He has experienced it. Report to police, get him into counseling. Do not intervene or gossip, hard as that may be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:47 PM Flag
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This question confuses me. How are you involved? What kind of molestation? Be careful about divorce situations, lots of accusations get thrown around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:53 PM Flag
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honest question: is it common for a 10 year old to throw out false accusations? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:09 PM Flag
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No data on this, how could there be? if he thinks it might please the mother, he might. Don't wade into this, OP! You don't even know whether your cousin is lying to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:10 PM Flag
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What exactly do you think my personal risk is in all of this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:16 PM Flag
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Slander and libel. Let the therapist and law enforcement do their job while you support your cousin and her child emotionally and logistically. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:26 PM Flag
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that is exactly what I'm doing. I'm not speaking to anyone other than my cousin and UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:30 PM Flag
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If it were me, I would entertain the idea that it might be false. In other words, don't say or do anything on the basis that this is entirely true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:34 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:11 PM Flag
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What is your role here? Are you a caretaker? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:54 PM Flag
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My cousin has asked for advice on what to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:55 PM Flag
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np: you can't "bar" him visitation. Be very careful here. Divorce brings up lots of false accusations. Let the lawyers handle it. Be a supportive friend to your cousin but don't get involved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:57 PM Flag
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The accused dad has already lost to have his 50/50 custody revoked and now has dinner once/week, no weeknight overnights, and every other weekend. The reason for the change in the parenting plan had to do with his DUIs and the disruption in DS's school life. Teachers were complaining about lack of sleep, bad behavior after staying at dad's, tardiness, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:13 PM Flag
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gotcha. so sounds like the cousin is trying to up the ante with these new allegations, to get him out of their life entirely. I empathize with her spectate entirely, have my own screw up of a ex-dh. But to the abuse allegations on top of all this? Has the child seen a therapist? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:16 PM Flag
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yes, child has been in therapy since he was 5. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:19 PM Flag
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So is law enforcement involved? They must be, if the therapist knows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:22 PM Flag
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I don't know about law enforcement. CPS was notified. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:28 PM Flag
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They will be. They have to investigate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:31 PM Flag
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If the child reported the actions of his dad, why are folks saying the mom is making an allegation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:21 PM Flag
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Someone (not OP) needs to find out if he has child porn on his computer. Seems to be the only way that swift action is taken. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Need some summer book recommendations for my third grader, she's reading about P,Q,R,S level. Would like some funny books, just laugh-out-loud funny. Any suggestions? TIA! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:43 PM Flag
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HILO is a laugh out loud funny series. It looks like the first one is O. I'm not sure about the later ones in the series. How to Train Your Dragon series is also laugh out loud funny, it is S. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:46 PM Flag
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Anyone else who took Latin read "SPQR" ? ha. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:53 PM Flag
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I didn't take Latin, but I love it!! - History Mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:02 PM Flag
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:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:46 PM Flag
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Ungifted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:16 PM Flag
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that is V, but is funny! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 04:00 PM Flag
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Beverly clearly and Judy Blume books. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:17 PM Flag
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Those books have not aged well IMO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 05:31 PM Flag
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Those tree house books (Seven-story treehouse, 14-story, etc.) Also Magic Treehouse (different, truly). How to Eat Fried Worms [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 09:55 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone take a step back from a high energy demanding job to a much less intense job in order to get better wl balance/ see kids more and regret it? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:39 PM Flag
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No. If you can comfortably afford it, this is a no brainer. I know I will get flamed, but I slowed down the treadmill at work a few years ago (didn't completely step off, but am what some would consider "mommy-tracked") and it has been SO much better for my marriage and family, not to mention my own sanity and stress levels. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:44 PM Flag
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+1 same here, best move ever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:11 PM Flag
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short term it's not a huge pay cut (though a big cut in base salary) so am hoping it is a good move. but i have some pangs esp when i am at the office and with the team and feel like i built something and am ditching it. but then when with the kids and at home i hope it will be better for overall mental health [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:26 PM Flag
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This is my job and I don't have a choice but to stick with it. And I don't even earn 200k, and my job is NOT that important (but the income is to our family). Sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Omg, I just had some white bread and it was so good. I haven’t had it in years. I gave some to my 3 year old for the first time and I swear he made the same face as the first time he tried cotton candy. That’s my boy! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:37 PM Flag
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White bread used to be only for the wealthy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:46 PM Flag
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Oh God, I know what you mean! I've tried to cut out bread, and when I have a bagel or some Italian bread it's like eating cake! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:03 PM Flag
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Better than cake! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:11 PM Flag
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I’m not saying this to make a joke. My husband and I have a day off today and I decided to make petite sandwiches. Truly a treat! We also buy bread from an Enteman’s Outlet in LIC do we have fun with it! 75 cent loves. So easy to have fun with the sandwich bread and discard plenty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:23 PM Flag
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This may be the most bizarre thing I've seen posted here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:28 PM Flag
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Years?? That's really strange. Are you gluten intolerant? That's not living. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:35 PM Flag
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PP not necessarily. A few years ago I cut out (most) bread, all dry cereal and as much pasta as possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:49 PM Flag
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I don’t eat bread that often and if I do it’s whole wheat or an artisan loaf of something. I can’t think of the last time I ate a loaf of $2 white bread. It’s delicious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:56 PM Flag
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Haha, I had that response last year - we were on a long drive and I needed a cup of coffee badly. The gas station we stopped at had no coffee, but it did have cans of Coke. Wow, that stuff is good!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:59 PM Flag
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I could eat butter sandwiches all day. I just might. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 04:03 PM Flag
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Not on white bread, but definitely on Italian bread!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 04:12 PM Flag
[ - ] When do you think most NYC kids at SHS (ie smart public school kids) start being sexually active? Is it earlier for boys or girls or about the same? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 05.22.19, 02:31 PM Flag
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I think average is 11th grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:34 PM Flag
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Lots of kids in that demographic putting off sexual activity longer than average. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:37 PM Flag
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In general (I don't know that NYC kids would be different) the average age is 17. So some before, some after, but that's what the data tells us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:41 PM Flag
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I think it might be easier for NYC kids to find a place to have sex at an earlier age. Kids in middle school can go anywhere by themselves on the subway, and they know who has no parents at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:45 PM Flag
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Completely depends on the crowd he/she runs with. When I was at Stuy, I feel most of the kids I knew were prob Virginia til at least college. With other kids, I think they were already active prob in the younger hs years. Depends whether they have bfs/gfs or not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:48 PM Flag
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Dd is at Stuy in 9th grade. Her boyfriend goes to Tech. They went to ms together but started dating this school year. They are getting closer and closer and I think they might be thinking about having sex. Dd says they haven’t yet. Don’t know if I completely believe her. I’m sure lots of heavy petting and serious making out has occurred. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 04:19 PM Flag
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They will have sex. It all depends on whether they have a serious boyfriend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 04:51 PM Flag
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You’re probably right. I asked her if she wants to go on the pill. She said no. I think I’ll have her go to a gynecologist over the summer and request the gyn to go over the pill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 05:07 PM Flag
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^ I just tell myself that I’m glad she’s not hooking up with random boys. Her boyfriend is so sweet and a real cutie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 05:10 PM Flag
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Hmmm . . . SHS's aside, NYC kids do a lot of things earlier than the national average. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 05:41 PM Flag
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What is the basis for that statement? I find my NYC kids more naive than their suburban cousins. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 09:30 PM Flag
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According to DC, there was some of that, but there was also an oddly old-fashioned going out on dates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 05:57 PM Flag
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How are those two mutually exclusive. My dc has been on tons of dates with her boyfriend. I’m sure if they stay together they will eventually have sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 06:22 PM Flag
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I think her point was that there was much less of the hook-up culture that she disliked when she reached college. At SHS, the kids wanted to hold hands & go to the movies etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 06:30 PM Flag
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That’s all my 8th grader wants to do with her “boyfriend.” I doubt 11th graders want only that. [ Reply | More ]
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They're all different. Some are very focused and don't have the time, and others aren't interested. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] 15yo DS has very frizzy hair. He likes it long and does not want a crew cut. Has asked if there's any way to get his hair straighter. Of course, I know there is but DH is adamant DS not go to a salon for a Keratin treatment, etc. What do you think? Is it ridiculous for DS to get one? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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My 15 yo dd has frizzy hair. Do not comb/brush except with fingers, use lots of conditioner and detangler, coconut oil. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. And I wouldn't want to be the 15 yo boy who is teased for getting Keratin treatments. [ Reply | More ]
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No one cares. Boy parents spend $$$ getting their hair bleached and dyed blue or orange or whatever just like girl parents do. NO ONE CARES about a keratin treatment. [ Reply | More ]
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Why is he "adamant"? [ Reply | More ]
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Ya, it's ridiculous. He should learn how to care for his hair texture and embrace it. [ Reply | More ]
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I agreed with the poster on your last thread about this that he doesn't know how to use the right products for his hair. I think your dh needs to let his kid go to a salon but honestly there is a lot between what he is doing now and some kind of salon treatment for frizzy hair. Your dh is weird. [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe Jon Snow can advise him. [ Reply | More ]
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Dont overthink it. Go to Duane Reade and buy 3 different brands of hair gel or mousse that have the word "frizz" on them. Try them out and see which one works best for his hair texture. [ Reply | More ]
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has he tried (a) only combing when wet and (b) using a leave-in condition intended for frizzy hair? Are you in NYC? If so, he should get it cut at Christos or Devishan. They only cut curly hair. They will show him how to style it [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] anyone have information on MS 8 (now called MS 915)? We were placed there but didn't go to PS 8 so new to community 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Is that different from MS13? [ Reply | More ]
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Our DCs are at PS8 and we know several families who took a chance and sent DCs to MS8. It's still in its formative years but they (the parents and DCs) are happy. [ Reply | More ]
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NP it's taking a long time to get it's act together [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] 11yo dd might have to go on growth hormones, according to endo dr. anyone done this before? any tips appreciated, and i'd also love to know about possible down sides you've experienced. ty. 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Why did dr recommend growth hormones? [ Reply | More ]
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she's off the growth chart. doing the growth stim test next week to see if she's deficient in the hormone. [ Reply | More ]
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My df’s son took growth hormones. The only negative for them was the cost. He was tiny tiny tiny as a kid. Now he’s in college and 5’11”. His projected height before taking hormones was 5’2” or 5’4”, something like that. [ Reply | More ]
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Btw he had abnormally low growth hormone, so their insurance covered some of the cost. [ Reply | More ]
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How tall are you and dh [ Reply | More ]
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My df and her dh are the parents. Df is 5’4” and her dh is 6’1”. [ Reply | More ]
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No way he grew an extra 7”, the hormones give you probably 4” extra and that is best case scenario. Unless you have to I would not do this. [ Reply | More ]
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Hmm maybe he was projected to be 5’6”? I don’t remember but I think it was an even number of inches and seemed really short to me at the time. [ Reply | More ]
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Ugh. Just stop. You are so ignorant [ Reply | More ]
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You actually don't know the details. Stop answering. [ Reply | More ]
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That's bullshit. You are either making it up or very wrong on your stats. [ Reply | More ]
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Went through this. I suggest you do a lot of research. Do not want to scare you but we did uncover some "possible" side effects that were fairly serious. With a DD, I'd really think this through. [ Reply | More ]
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what kinds of side effects? [ Reply | More ]
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You have to stop treatment with onset of puberty, so if you’re going to do this, do it now. You’ll probably have only 1 year or maybe less than a year. [ Reply | More ]
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DD was very tiny at that age and we saw a pediatric endocrinologist. We held off on growth hormone therapy. She is now 5'4". [ Reply | More ]
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Was her growth hormone level abnormally low? Doesn’t sound like it. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sorry -- I can't remember. I know they tested for everything. It wasn't an emphatic recommendation for growth hormone therapy, so it probably wasn't that low. [ Reply | More ]
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how tall was she at 11? [ Reply | More ]
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I think 4'6"? [ Reply | More ]
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I like being a short woman. Gave me a lot of dating options. [ Reply | More ]
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It isn’t at all problematic for girls, boys a different story. [ Reply | More ]
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How short is your dd? [ Reply | More ]
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4'6" [ Reply | More ]
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That’s not that short!!! It’s not off the growth chart. [ Reply | More ]
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My dd was 4’6” at 11yo. It’s not that short. Plenty of other kids - boys and girls - were that short. [ Reply | More ]
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how tall is she now? [ Reply | More ]
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She’s 5’3” and 13 yo. She might grow 1 more inch max, says the ped. But I’m 5’2”. [ Reply | More ]
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so she grew 9 inches in 2 years? that doesn't seem possible! [ Reply | More ]
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she grew this much without any growth hormones? [ Reply | More ]
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Of course it's possible. [ Reply | More ]
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Why on earth would you do this to your child? [ Reply | More ]
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You would be surprised. People do it often now even knowing all the adverse side effects. [ Reply | More ]
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Seems to unnatural. If your child is meant to be short, then they're short! I'm all for braces and haircuts but changing your child's height seems a little close to eugenics for me! [ Reply | More ]
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No idea but I would get 2 more opinions and do a bunch of your own research first. [ Reply | More ]
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11 is extremely late to do this. You won't get much out of it, so why bother? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Finished Breaking Bad last night. Am I the last person on earth to watch it? :) 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Maybe next to last, since I haven't watched a single episode. Not that I don't want to, just never got around to it. [ Reply | More ]
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Me neither. I started to watch one episode, but it was too dark and I was tired of dark stuff. I need to watch Little House on the Prairie these days. [ Reply | More ]
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I know how you feel. Sometimes it's nice to be in a LHOP universe for a little while. [ Reply | More ]
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How true is this. Miss when there was more of that type of programming. [ Reply | More ]
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You can watch old episodes of a lot of shows on YouTube. Sometimes I can just go for an episode of Love Boat. [ Reply | More ]
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13yo DD watches Brady Bunch, Partridge Family and Monk on ME TV [ Reply | More ]
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Cozi TV has lots old shows too [ Reply | More ]
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I tried to get my parents into it. I ordered them the DVD box set for Christmas 2 years ago. They gave it back to me the next time we got together. They said it was disgusting and unwatchable. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ [ Reply | More ]
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OP: That's kind of hilarious. I love that they insisted on sending it back. I liked it. Maybe I would have liked it more had I watched it when everyone else did. [ Reply | More ]
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np: I'm worried I'd have that reaction so I haven't watched it myself! [ Reply | More ]
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I only started watching it a year ago, and stopped after Season I. It was great, but there were other shows I wanted to watch. [ Reply | More ]
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I LOVED bb. Right up there with the Sopranos as my all-time favorite. [ Reply | More ]
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No, I watched 2 episodes but coudln't get into it. [ Reply | More ]
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It depresses me. I grew up somewhere where drug addiction is real and people I knew when I was young are affected. So I felt just yucky and sad watching the drug scenes in this series for entertainment. [ Reply | More ]
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That's sad, sorry to hear. I am actually pretty cynical and usually love dark shows but that one I didn't like. [ Reply | More ]
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I watched the entire first season and a first episodes into the second season and hated it. I found it incredibly depressing, I didn't like any of the characters, and I have no idea what the appeal is. People have told me it gets back later on, but I have to suffer through 3 seasons first? No thanks. [ Reply | More ]
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that's crazy talk, woman! [ Reply | More ]
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Oh SOOOOO GOOD! [ Reply | More ]
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i have not watched it. or GOT, or stranger things [ Reply | More ]
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DH watched the last two seasons with me when they were first on but has NEVER seen the rest! I keep trying, but he thinks that since he knows how it ends, it's pointless. Frustrating. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone have a child who improved drastically in 10th and 11th grade. DC will probably have a 3.3 average after first year HS and seems very down but seems motivated to do well. Wants to work on his subjects this summer to get a headstart, so that his performance improves in the next two years. Is this a good idea? Currently at TT private in the city. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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What do you mean "is this a good idea?" Why wouldn't it be? [ Reply | More ]
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I feel he should focus more on his EC which is very time consuming but he feels that he does not want to spend time on it anymore. [ Reply | More ]
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EC only helps if his academics are good. If his academics are bleh, no one cares about his EC. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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My dc dramatically improved in HS. From B to straight As. There is hope! [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you so much for posting this. Makes me feel so much better! Congrats to your DC. [ Reply | More ]
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My DS had issues in school since kindergarten. He couldn't sit still, couldn't focus, never finished homework assignments and tests always caught him by surprise. After he started high school, it's like a light switch went off in him. He's doing so good now, his GPA is a 3.9! I think it was a matter of maturity. He's always been the youngest in his class. [ Reply | More ]
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Good for him! [ Reply | More ]
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Did it change around 10th grade? Has he had a girlfriend? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Sorry for TMI. I leak a lot when I run. What can I do? It started after I had 2nd dc (7 years ago!) and hasn’t gotten better. I wear a pad when I run, so it’s not a huge problem. But it’s gross. Kegels don’t seem to help. I also sometimes pee a little when I sneeze. What to do? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Pelvic floor therapy. There’s a place in the east 40s. Your gyn can refer. [ Reply | More ]
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What do they do? Surgery or just exercises? [ Reply | More ]
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It's pretty much kegels. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 it worked wonders for me. I was having the same problem, leaking, etc. It's kegels, but like advanced kegels with a trainer. No joke, it worked. [ Reply | More ]
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I am a runner too, kegels [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe I’m not doing kegels correctly. I’ll do more research about how to do them. [ Reply | More ]
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Take some classes. Well worth the money (I posted below). It's considered PT and insurance companies pay for it. [ Reply | More ]
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It’s the same muscle contraction used to stop the flow of urine. [ Reply | More ]
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I second the pelvic floor exercises. They make sure you do the kegels right. In the beginning I was not able to activate the right muscles so it was super helpful to tell me whether the correct muscle is activated or not. My insurance covered it (after deductible and copay). I don't remember the name of my place but it was off 5th Ave in the fifties. [ Reply | More ]
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Surgery. Research bladder prolapse surgery. Use only the best of the best surgeon who specializes in it. According to my ob /gyn, the surgery has a high fail rate due to it being tricky and many surgeons who do it don’t have the skill set. She’s a top doc and she stopped doing them because she said she didn’t do them regularly enough, therefore not having the fine tuned skills necessary. Done right, very effective. [ Reply | More ]
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Be careful with the surgery. I had a really bad experience although I went to a super experienced doctor. [ Reply | More ]
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Pilates has helped me. I only do it once a week but it makes all the difference. [ Reply | More ]
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Go to the trampoline park! You'll realize that little trickle while jogging is NOTHING! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I am the mom on here who has had epilepsy surgery 15 years ago. I’ve been seizure free since then. I take very little medication and all has been good. I’ve had so many stressors in my life. My father is dying. I am changing jobs. Last night I have a really bad Seizure and feel like crap. I bit my tongue hard. I sneezed a few times today because of allergies and I was crying of pain. My legs tightened up along with other body parts and I have a weakness everywhere. I called in a sick day and my boss is behaving like an asshole. I have plenty of sick days left but now she’s annoyed I am taking these days off Because she’s thinking that I’m doing out of spite. I have so much on my plate. Just give me the proper mindset to forget her nonsense. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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First of all, I'm really sorry you're going through this. It sounds really hard. I have a dying parent as well and tossing personal health problems on top of that would be super tough. Your boss sounds like she's either super stressed or kind of a jerk. Why does she think it's out of spite? Is there some backstory there we don't know about? Will you be going to the doctor about this - can you lay on some guilt there and say something along the lines of 'well, my physician said that I need to blah, blah, blah.' I hate our modern work environment where you're always on and it's expected that you put job above everything. [ Reply | More ]
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I have not disclosed my personal health history to her. She is a very controlling person.. Now that I am leaving, she is getting even more super controlling about my sick and personal days. I am leaving because I do not have the ability to kiss her ass like some of my colleagues. My DH is very supportive. I will definitely see the doctor. [ Reply | More ]
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Oops, didn't see the 'changing jobs' part. Well then yeah, she can F right off. When is your last day? We should start a countdown clock. [ Reply | More ]
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You made me laugh, thank you, I leave officially at the end of June. [ Reply | More ]
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And here you go: [ Reply | More ]
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Oh my God I love you! Thank you [ Reply | More ]
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Hee hee hee. Any time. [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry to hear. Do you think you should go to ER to get a 20-minute EEG? That's what I would do with my son if a seizure happened after a long period of seizure freedom. [ Reply | More ]
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My DH is a doctor too (not neuro)He knows what to look for and when to be alarmed for further observation. Thank God for him. He swears that it is the stresses that I am going through. No extra caffeine or alcohol in my system to trigger any of this after the effects of either would subside. [ Reply | More ]
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Doctors are notorious for being in denial when the health issue hits too close to home. How can he not be alarmed if you had a really bad seizure after 15 years of seizure freedom? [ Reply | More ]
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At least call your neurologist and tell them! [ Reply | More ]
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Op-these stressors are just recent in the past few months. He has mentioned to me to engage in more outlets such as running(which I love). You are correct in saying that it is difficult for him to see this in his own loved ones [ Reply | More ]
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Op-I love my neuro. I will tell him [ Reply | More ]
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OK. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you for your thoughts, I really need it today. [ Reply | More ]
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You have gotten through so much, you will get through this too. She doesn’t matter and this job doesn’t matter. You will be moving on. In the meantime, it might be well to get ADA paperwork from HR if you don’t already have it in place. One sick day is certainly reasonable accommodation. If she can’t handle that, get your disability documented to protect yourself. [ Reply | More ]
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Op-I have banked so many sick days, I don’t understand her nastiness. [ Reply | More ]
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just let go of her nastiness. she could be having a bad day/week/month too. these are your days, you are sick, don't feel guilty about taking them. I am sorry you are going through this. [ Reply | More ]
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Geez, members of my team call in sick if they feel sniffles coming, asking for a "recovery" day. I never give them hell because they're entitled to the sick days. Ignore your boss and take care of yourself. You've come so far. GL! [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you. That means so much to me. [ Reply | More ]
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Op-I am a teacher at a TT school. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] This might not be a big deal but here it goes- DS is 6 and is obsessed with “bad guys”. He will only watch shows with bad guys and will only play with bad guy action figures. Anyone else’s kid like this? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Does he call himself Mr. Glass? [ Reply | More ]
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No [ Reply | More ]
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He’s six. It looks exciting to be the tough guy. He’ll move on. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't think it's a big deal. [ Reply | More ]
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My now 10 yo son was like this when he was 4-6. We actually talked about that phase recently, in context of all the Marvel movies. He said he liked the bad guys bc their costumes and powers were so much better and their story lines more interesting. He's also my little rule follower now and objectively a "good" kid. [ Reply | More ]
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I hate the opera. [ Reply | More ]
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My daughter was and still is a little. Darth Vader and Kylo Ren are her favorites, but likes all the "bad guys" - she's 9. When she was 6 somebody on the playground once asked her why she loved Darth Vader since he was a bad guy and she seemed confused that not everyone thought he was the coolest star wars character. [ Reply | More ]
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You don't remember when you were younger, going to cowboy movies and rooting for the Indians? [ Reply | More ]
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Six is a Manichaen age. He'll get nuance later. Don't worry about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 09:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Stupid thing I'm not proud of: I don't get poetry. It's lost on me, it does nothing for me, it bores me. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I don't go out of my way to read poetry, but I enjoyed the film "Howl" about Allen Ginsberg. I really well done film. [ Reply | More ]
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I am an Ivt English major and have a lot of trouble following many poems and Shakespeare. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I was an English major! Love Shakespeare, but poetry zooms right over my head (except the simple, rhyming ones). Come to think of it, I had trouble with Huck Finn too - but that's another one of my peccadillos: I can't stand reading dialect. [ Reply | More ]
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Ivy English from above: I think that's my trouble too. Dialect or old English. [ Reply | More ]
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Conversely, I loved Canterbury Tales. I think it was like figuring out a puzzle. [ Reply | More ]
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I feel that way about most of the art I see hanging in museums [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Okay, me too! I like the famous stuff, Van Gogh, Monet, etc., but don't get what I should be looking at in others. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: a lot of modern and contemporary art is about concept. Understanding the background, its place in art history and the intent of a piece is important in understanding what the piece is about. Or, you can just enjoy it for its existence as an object. It's not about "getting it" as much as appreciating where it comes from and why it's there. Or not. You can just take it as it is. [ Reply | More ]
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I like pretty pictures [ Reply | More ]
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I love this [ Reply | More ]
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That's because you never took an Art History class so you don't have the tools for understanding what you are looking at. Just like reading poetry, one needs some basic vocabulary to get the conventions and the ways that artists/poets break from them. [ Reply | More ]
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It has no use. [ Reply | More ]
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I've never been a massive fan. However, I once visited the John Greenleaf Whittier homestead museum. Maybe 10 people come through a day and there's a caretaker in his 80s who tells stories as well as Garrison Keillor ever has. He gave us a free copy of "Snowbound" which basically tells the story of the whole family huddling inside while a snowstorm rages outside. I kept it in the bathroom (don't judge, it's actually the perfect place to read poetry a stanza at a time) and really appreciated it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:53 PM Flag
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I love it, but I don't think everyone else should. It seems to be something that people love or hate, like jazz. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:56 PM Flag
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OP: Don't like jazz either. Maybe I'm just a neanderthal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:57 PM Flag
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I only love it when it rhymes beautifully. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:00 PM Flag
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There once was a man from Nantucket... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:01 PM Flag
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keep going [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:29 PM Flag
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^^I still remember Tatyana's monologue to Onegin which I learned in HS. [ Reply | More ]
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It's ok. It is created by and for sensitive souls who have great depth of feeling and who can endlessly perseverate about the expression and perception of sensations that you may never experience. If you are such a person, it can be rapture to hear another human articulate what is your soul vs. ordinary small talk and real world stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:33 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 08:46 PM Flag
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See, you don't have the soul of a poet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 09:15 PM Flag
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Some I like, most I can't stand. FIL is a poet - published, gives readings & lectures on poetry, his writing is on college reading lists, etc. We have mountains of his stuff (MIL sends DCs copies of everything) and I cannot get through it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:38 PM Flag
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Me neither and I could give a shit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:18 PM Flag
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A number of years ago I had a friend from England who liked to compete in poetry slams. I used to go to support him. It opened my eyes to a whole world of poetry lovers (and haters) out there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 04:58 PM Flag
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Poetry slam style poets always sound so smug to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 08:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Saw a woman on train this am with huge, in your face camel toe. Why does anyone go out in public like this? And I am equal opportunity in feeling the same way about Moose knuckles. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:35 PM Flag
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Some people just don’t care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:39 PM Flag
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The same reason young, heavy set girls wear leggings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:39 PM Flag
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You lead a sheltered life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:54 PM Flag
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People don't exist for your approval [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:54 PM Flag
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Imagine the horror!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:59 PM Flag
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Sometimes you buy an item of clothing that fits and you don't really notice that you have gained weight or that it has shrunk in the wash and just view it as a viable item in your rotation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:34 PM Flag
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She may be getting positive feedback. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:34 PM Flag
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+1 this may actually be the look she is intentionally going for. I don't claim to understand it, but people are pretty weird. How old was she? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:46 PM Flag
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This is the look currently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:52 PM Flag
[ - ] where should I be buying clothes? 38 yrs old, 200 lbs. so too fat for cool clothes. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:30 PM Flag
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WOH? Loft, Lands End [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:33 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:46 PM Flag
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Nordstrom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:36 PM Flag
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Ann Taylor, Banana, J Crew [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:37 PM Flag
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J Crew is not meant for this body type. It's not meant for MOST body types. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:40 PM Flag
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np - I disagree. J Crew and Madewell both have extended sizes. Surprised to hear that is is not meant for MOST body types when so many people of varying body types wear it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:48 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:49 PM Flag
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Really? To me it's turned really old lady / overweight. I've been buying for my mom there the past couple of years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:48 PM Flag
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OR: I guess I haven't been there in a while. Most stuff was pencil-thin this or skinny that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:49 PM Flag
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agree it is for women w no curves or shape. I am pretty thin and J Crew doesn't fit me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:58 PM Flag
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I agree. J Crew never fits me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:57 PM Flag
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SO not true. Maybe back in the 90s. J Crew vanity sizing is ridiculous. The only thing I'd agree is on their jeans. They're cut pretty narrow in the hips. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:22 PM Flag
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Boden? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:44 PM Flag
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Anthropology and H&M both have plus sizes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:56 PM Flag
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Universal Standard. J Crew now has great size range. Eloquii. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 01:59 PM Flag
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I'm at my super heaviest right now. Hate it. 5'8 and 183. So I'm basically a 14/16 ish. What I've been doing is buying clothes off amazon. Super basic jeans and khakis. They're really cheap ($20-40 bucks for levi's jeans and dickies khakis' and they fit me well - so it makes me a lot less suicidal as I try to shed some of this tire around my waist. Just an idea if this is hopefully a short term time for you at this weight. I just couldn't accept buying all new expensive clothes at this number. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:04 PM Flag
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How old are you? I'm 5 10 and 170 and it's all menopausal weight that came on in a flash. Hard as hell to lose [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:07 PM Flag
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OR: I'm 48 and yeah, still regular cycle, but it is SO easy for me to gain weight. It must be from back in caveman days where the elderly folks needed to put on weight easily so they didn't die off so quickly or something. The other weird thing I have is that I feel full after eating not a huge amount. I'll finish dinner and then wake up the next day still feeling kind of gross and full. And that's after eating a normal meal. It's weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:10 PM Flag
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Good for you. So nice you found something that makes you feel good! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:35 PM Flag
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Old Navy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 02:31 PM Flag
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old navy and lands end dresses. I'm a size 14 and they look great on me and I always get compliments on them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:01 PM Flag
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Lucky Brand has some bigger sizes that fit well and are cute. Surprisingly Bass shoes has decent enough larger sizes for basic clothes. I’m right there w you. I peaked at 200, been 190 for the last year, need to lose 30 more. 47, not getting any easier. Take it off now, while it’s easier to do so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.19, 03:22 PM Flag
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