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[ - ] I went snorkeling with sharks in the bahamas and now that i think about it it was horrible and very dangerous. they throw a chum box in the water and all the sharks come and start circling around it, about 20 of them. we were at the end of the line getting back into the boat and the sharks were starting to circle up toward us and the guide freaked out at me and told me to calm down, that he was last on the boat and they would bite him if they sensed tension. I wasn't even doing anything. my 10yo was with me too. holy christ. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:45 AM Flag
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^^ Stuart's Cove. Don't go there. The guys that work that place have no clue what they're doing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:47 AM Flag
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I lived in the Bahamas. Stuart Cove is an iconic dive operator there. I did the shark rodeo dive with them. It was so much fun I could not stop laughing into my regulator. I did not do the whole shark suit thing, but one of the divers did. He was in a heavy chain mail suit. He jumped in and went straight to the bottom. No need for lead weights. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 04:27 AM Flag
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Stuart Cove is a place, not an operator. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 11:24 AM Flag
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Stuart Cove is the owner of Stuart Cove's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 01:29 PM Flag
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This JUST occurred to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:54 AM Flag
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I almost got slammed in the head by a boat there in choppy waters years ago. Its up to you to stay safe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:58 AM Flag
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Lolol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 04:11 AM Flag
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I've heard of swimming with dolphins, but sharks? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 04:10 AM Flag
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There are so many sharks in the Bahamas! When you go scuba diving and jump off the boat, it's common to accidentally hit one on the way in. They are so used to seeing the boats and divers that they come to hang out. The sharks in the Bahamas are not the nasty bull sharks or great white sharks. They swim up, check you out and swim on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 04:37 AM Flag
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Yeah 3rd world is focused more on making money. Not safety. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 04:12 AM Flag
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That's nothing, I went hiking with the lions in Africa with 8yo dd and 3yo ds, we all wore suits made of raw meat, there were like 30 of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 04:46 AM Flag
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Nice! [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 11:33 AM Flag
[ - ] OK, is there any MD mom that can help me calm down and not worry? I have had a slight pain discomfort on and off below my left ribcage... seems in the stomach area but to the left. I tried not to focus on it, but it's still there. I wanted to avoid researching because I know it usually scares me more. I went and read on line now on web md about enlarged spleen... please tell me this is not the case. I am in good health, had my last physical just 4 months ago. I have been feeling this just since this morning, but I am worrying. Could it just be something related to muscle/joint, that will go away on its own. We are leaving for summer vacation in 4 days and I really hope I don't need to worry. Thanks 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:43 AM Flag
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calm down and don't worry. And stop posting on UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:48 AM Flag
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op-sorry, I know- it's just that I had never had this before and I tend to worry... cannot talk to dh because he will not listen and if I can avoid it, I would not want to go to the doctor for this. Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 04:03 AM Flag
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Stop googling. You are not smart enough to understand what is real and what is not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 04:49 AM Flag
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can you call your dr.'s office and ask to speak to a nurse? [ Reply | More ]
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I remember having chest pain once that turned out to just be a pulled muscle [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry to inform you that YOU HAVE EBOLA. GO TO ER ASAP. [ Reply | More ]
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this is why you need to stop posting on UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 07:15 AM Flag
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not a MD but could it be constipation? I sometimes get pain like that when I'm backed up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 11:35 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm 5'7" and suddenly close to 140 lbs after being at just under 130 for years. I know I'm not overweight per say but I look bad. lumpy and covered in cellulite. I'm in my late 40s. What do I need to do? Weights? (ug.) Diet? TIA. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:36 AM Flag
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per se not per SAY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:37 AM Flag
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Lift heavy weights [ Reply | More ]
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I think this. I had a trainer years ago and it was great. Can figure out how to make this work now with children. But need to prioritize. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Exercise, especially something that involves your leg muscles. [ Reply | More ]
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And can I wear any of these swim suits? I have a large chest. https://www.shopbop.com/s/cart [ Reply | More ]
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Take Latin classes. [ Reply | More ]
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Give me a break I immediately corrected after posting [ Reply | More ]
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One hour of yoga videos [ Reply | More ]
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Squats and lunges [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 11:35 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it just me or is Kylo Ren from the new Star Wars series kind of hot? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:36 AM Flag
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That's the guy from Girls, right? He is hideous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:47 AM Flag
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ITA. Totally gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:49 AM Flag
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His name is Adam Driver and he is ugly hot..guys like him are sexy in an ugly weird way..another example of ugly sexy men: Sylvester Stallone, Adrian Brody...(guys who are ugky but somehow have weird sex appeal). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 04:52 AM Flag
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yes I'm attracted to AD and AB, not SS though. Matt Damon is like this too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 11:37 AM Flag
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Not hot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:55 AM Flag
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Yes! In a weird way, but definitely hot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 05:12 AM Flag
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I wouldn't use the word hot, but I'd definitely say he does it for me. I went to Dalton with his wife. [ Reply | More ]
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Agree, I'm very into Adam Driver but I don't think the long hair in Star Wars does it for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 11:45 AM Flag
[ - ] I think I'm starting to become a serial cheater. I should see a therapist or something, I guess. Feeling really shitty right now. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:32 AM Flag
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therapy is great! Do it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:42 AM Flag
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I am glad you have the self-awareness [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:47 AM Flag
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Are you still in a relationship? Do you plan to initiate a new one? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:48 AM Flag
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Better than being a serial killer. [ Reply | More ]
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True that [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Is it just me or does anyone else like the city in the summer? It feels so peaceful to me. I don't even mind August 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:29 AM Flag
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YES. My favorite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:32 AM Flag
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Besides the heat I like it too, quiet and less frantic. I do miss being in nature though like I was as a kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:32 AM Flag
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no it's horrible. it's the shits. being stuck here in an apartment surrounded by concrete, ugh. i'm supposed to be outdoors in summer, ideally near some sort of water and lots of grass and trees (private grass and trees, not shared with a zillion people, some of them homeless). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:40 AM Flag
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Not me. Lucky people like me get out for the summer, but it took a lifetime of hard work. I do like the holiday weekends when the city is empty sometimes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 04:01 AM Flag
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The stench. Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
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i feel outnumbered by homeless people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 04:19 AM Flag
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I love running in Central Park on summer mornings before it gets too hot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 12:12 PM Flag
[ - ] I want to make some extra money. Any ideas for part time work or a side gig, small business to make extra money. I have 20-30 hours a week I could put into, but not strictly 9-5 M-F. amount of time available 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:27 AM Flag
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If you are a (former?) professional the Second Shift has great fair paying freelance gigs for moms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:33 AM Flag
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Sell costume jewelry.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 04:53 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone divorced and yet spend time with ex and children together? Vacation or weekend activities, meals etc. how did you get there? How is it for the kids? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:23 AM Flag
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Watching this - x-DH and I had an amicable split and should do more of this. In some ways I think because DC is 14 we tell ourselves it’s not as important, but it can’t hurt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:28 AM Flag
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Yes, but we've only been divorced for a year and neither of us is dating anyone or has dated anyone seriously. We have dinner with the kids once a week (we usually go out for pizza); sometimes he comes over and we all BBQ together; and we spend holidays together. It's nice but I think it makes both of us feel a little sad. We have 2 kids, ages 8 and 2. The kids like it. We've definitely had our ups and downs in the separation/divorce and have had times when we didn't talk or were angry at each other, but overall we've been pretty civil. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:43 AM Flag
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That's amazing. I'm divorcing now and DH has said the most disgusting things (calling me a Jew like cunt, my family should be burned in ovens, Hitler didn't finish the job, I'm going t have to suck cock to survive, he wants nothing to do with our fatherless loser child who will be effeminate and have no role model), etc. he said horrible things while married too (often telling me I'm a loser, gash/cunt/flappy dried up hole who should be getting a big black dick up her ass, needs to STFU, etc). It's hard to imagine this being anything better at this point thought it can still get worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 07:14 AM Flag
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Why would you want to? You're no longer together, I'd want to move on. Unfortunately, if kids are in the picture it needs to be pleasant but you needn't tolerate someone who doesn't work for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 07:26 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone ever had a ruptured ovarian cyst? Was the pain horrible? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:20 AM Flag
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My friend did. Oh, yeah. She said it hit and she crumpled to the ground. She was in agony. [ Reply | More ]
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The most pain I have ever been in my life. Worse than giving birth [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:28 AM Flag
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How did they treat it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:37 AM Flag
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Surgery, drained it [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:27 PM Flag
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My mother did when she was pregnant with my sister and I was a young toddler. She was alone at home (Dad on a business trip... back in the 70s) and actually almost died. Do you have symptoms? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:31 AM Flag
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Are you bringing this up because you are the one in pain and going to the ER? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:55 AM Flag
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This is supposedly one of the most painful things that can happen, along with ovarian torsion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 07:15 AM Flag
[ - ] We just discovered an infinite conversational loop: 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:10 AM Flag
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LMGTFY [ Reply | More ]
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what does that stand for? [ Reply | More ]
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LMGTFY [ Reply | More ]
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what does that stand for? [ Reply | More ]
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LMGTFY [ Reply | More ]
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what does that stand for? [ Reply | More ]
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Let Me Google That For You. [ Reply | More ]
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I usually like to reply LMG LMGTFY! [ Reply | More ]
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LMG LMG LMGTFY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:13 AM Flag
[ - ] DH has been offered a great job at a large hospital near Detroit. I'm beside myself, I love living in NYC, kids in great publics, summers on Cape Cod but this is an amazing opportunity. Anyone on who lives there? How is it for an outsider? We know no one there. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:05 AM Flag
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Friend is from Grosse point and she was rich [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:07 AM Flag
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Which town? [ Reply | More ]
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Not certain yet, DH will have several offices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 04:42 AM Flag
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You have to visit and see for yourself. Df got a job in Detroit and she said she took a city bus and got off the bus and took cab after a couple of stops. She was terrified. She ended up getting an apt walking distance to her job. I think downtown Detroit. And I should add that df is not a pearl clutcher. In other words, she's used to "tough" neighborhoods and has no problems with them. But Detroit was scary to her. [ Reply | More ]
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There are many very nice towns in the Detoit suburbs with great schools and you can spend summers Up North. People are friendly, although some will be more conservative than you are used to in the NE. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:14 AM Flag
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This - I love Birmingham and Michigan, Wisconsin and Minnesota are glorious in the summer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:19 AM Flag
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Ann Arbor is a terrific university town! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:19 AM Flag
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OP: That would be too far, I want to stay with the Detroit close in suburbs. [ Reply | More ]
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I live near there and love it. What hospital...Beaumont? Look at Royal Oak and Birmingham [ Reply | More ]
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People are friendly. Being an outsider is no big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:23 AM Flag
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Henry Ford System. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 04:38 AM Flag
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Is ti in Ann Arbor? It's AMAZING there. My D goes to college there. If I had known about it 20 years ago, I would definitely have wanted to raise my children there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:22 AM Flag
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Love A2 [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. If the hospital you are talking about is U of M, you should go. You will love it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:25 AM Flag
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OR: So IS it Ann Arbor? Everyone is an outsider. People come from everywhere to work at the university or at the medical center. So many smart, accomplished people. GREAT restaurants. Great art and music scene. Lots happening on campus (speakers, performances, etc) open to the public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:33 AM Flag
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Not Ann Arbor, I answered above. Thanks all for your hints. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 04:41 AM Flag
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I grew up in the suburbs of Detroit, SoCal now. If it’s suburbs of Detroit (Birmingham, Bloomfield Hills,etc) I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised with the scene. Great schools, people dress well, live well, culture, etc. I also went to school in Ann Arbor and it’s also fantastic. Oh and you get WAY more for your money in both places. Either way you’ll likely RARELY go to Detroit proper. [ Reply | More ]
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OP here, I thought Detroit proper was coming back, lots happening there. Am I wrong? [ Reply | More ]
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OP, you want to answer any if the questions we posed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:49 AM Flag
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Just got back on, had to take a call. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 04:39 AM Flag
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Henry Ford? Go live in a wealthy suburb, Detroit supposedly has epic suburbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 07:16 AM Flag
[ - ] What types of people go into HR? Those with no talents? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:04 AM Flag
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Yep [ Reply | More ]
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Dear god, this [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, they’re basically secretaries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:59 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone been to Half Moon Bay? How was it? Or any recs for other Northern CA coastal towns to visit? Thanks. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I am from the Bay Area originally. Half Moon Bay is nice, but the weather SUCKS. Just know that it's a gamble. [ Reply | More ]
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^^Along those lines, Mendocino is nice. Expect shitty weather and if you get a glimpse of sunshine, enjoy it! [ Reply | More ]
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Cold? Rainy? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. Also foggy. Bad weather. [ Reply | More ]
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Born and raised in bay area - west Marin county is hands-down my favorite coastal area. [ Reply | More ]
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Any towns in particular? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:14 AM Flag
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Fairfax, Pt Reyes Station, Inverness are the most town-like. Others like Marshall, Olema and Muir Beach have little more than a general store, gas station and B&B. [ Reply | More ]
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Mill Valley is the sweetest town, just over Golden Gate Bridge. Pt. Reyes Station, Marshall. [ Reply | More ]
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There is a town there that is xenophobic, as in they tear down state transportation agency road signs- Bolinas- that still the case? Blurs my whole perception of the Marin Pacific coast. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:18 AM Flag
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The frequency of that behavior is blown out of proportion - sort of an urban legend that took on a life of its own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:21 AM Flag
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Actually, it is true. Not a place you'd want to live in as it's mostly dopers. [ Reply | More ]
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Big Sur all the way, so gorgeous [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Who has a bidet? Is it amazing? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:53 AM Flag
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Had one, never used it. Stupid idea. [ Reply | More ]
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Really?? I love the idea of not wiping my butt every day. Haha! :) [ Reply | More ]
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Amazing? [ Reply | More ]
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We do. It came with the house. We rarely use it. That said, every year we stay at the Park Hyatt in Paris and they have those Japanese Toto toilet seats with the lights, heat, wash and dry. I spend too much time on the toilet putting the toilet seat through its paces. Go Toto or go home! I'm back to Paris in September. Looking forward to washing my undercarriage. ;) [ Reply | More ]
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Why is the etter than soap and a shower? Seems like a European excuse to keep underparts clean without fully showering every day. Only seems useful for periods. [ Reply | More ]
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Get a Toto toilet with washlet system, life changing! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 12:06 PM Flag
[ - ] If your parents are in their early 70s, do they feel old to you? My dad is 72 and honestly, he doesn't seem that old to me (still works, plays tennis three times a week, etc.) My jogs regularly and is also very active. I wonder if they just don't seem old to me because they're my parents. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:52 AM Flag
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At that age, health and ability to function are widely varied. Lots of different ways to be at 72 [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I can only hope that I follow in their footsteps. [ Reply | More ]
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They don't seem old to you because they are not retired and are still active. The majority of people their age aren't. [ Reply | More ]
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Probably so. I don't think my dad will ever retire until he is physically unable to work. [ Reply | More ]
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My mom turns 66 this year. She was elderly at 50. She walks and is healthy but it's her mindset. [ Reply | More ]
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After 55 it varies so much. [ Reply | More ]
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Depends if they're healthy. My mom is same age but she has all sorts of health issues so she's not as active. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:11 AM Flag
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Neither. It's because you are getting old yourself and don't want to face it. A perfectly active, healthy 72 year old is still old and could have a stroke, heart attack, aneurism or fall at any moment. Our parents aren't living longer than our grandparents. They are just working longer, using social media, etc., so we kid ourselves that they aren't "as old" as our grandparents were. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:16 AM Flag
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Because they’re your parents. [ Reply | More ]
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My parents were fine at that age. Everything changed at 80. Now my mom is 91 and it's very tough. Dad has died. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 04:21 AM Flag
[ - ] We have a home upstate where we stay all summer, and a few weekends the rest of the year. We live on a quiet street and only have a few neighbors, including one couple we’ve always been friendly to in a neighborly way but we don’t consider them friends. Over the winter they did a lot of work on their property and when we were there this weekend they had a lot of cars coming through, they all pass our house. We ran into them this evening as we were leaving and they told us they had an open house for a small lodge they’ve refurbished on their property. There are planning to rent it out all summer even though it’s illegal to have a second structure up here. I want to report them because I don’t want to be dealing with all the extra traffic all summer but DH said to let it go, WWYD? 83 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:35 AM Flag
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PS - when they told us their plans I said that I don’t think you’re allowed to rent up here and they said they knew. They got their new COO before they finished the lodge to conceal it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:37 AM Flag
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Let it go. You're going to torpedo any civility between you if you do this because they will figure out it was you. Also, they are not doing anything dangerous that I can see, they're doing something that would cause you minor inconvenience - how bad can it really be to have cars driving past your house? I would look at the traffic issue as being similar to if they had a lot of friends over on a regular basis. Don't try to control it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:46 AM Flag
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They do have a lot of parties and house guests already and they rent their house if they’re away, they’ve never been considerate neighbors. Other people in our area rent to summer workers for a few months and end up with a lot more tenants than they expected. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:52 AM Flag
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Being a considerate neighbor doesn’t require you not have guests! [ Reply | More ]
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It does require that you obey the laws though and not sublet or build a second structure [ Reply | More ]
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In other words, you have many issues with them and have been waiting for them to do something illegal so you can get them in trouble. [ Reply | More ]
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We mind our own business and tolerate them. But now they’re blatantly breaking the law. [ Reply | More ]
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LOL you are not minding your own business, at all. I read your comment below about your assessment of the guy's finances. You are nosy as hell. [ Reply | More ]
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I’m not nosy but these are facts! I wanted to ask the guy about his new Tesla when he can’t afford $1k a year to be neighborly [ Reply | More ]
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Lol. this. [ Reply | More ]
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Let it go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:47 AM Flag
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let it go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:47 AM Flag
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Don't be that neighbor. Mind your own business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:48 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:52 AM Flag
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It is my business if there’s a lot more noise and traffic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:53 AM Flag
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You sound really high-maintenance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:58 AM Flag
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complain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:49 AM Flag
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The extra traffic will be what - one car? Maybe 2? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:49 AM Flag
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Depends who they rent to. If it’s a big group or a party house it would be a lot more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:53 AM Flag
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Lunatic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 12:38 PM Flag
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It honestly doesn't sound like it's going to be that noisy. How big a lodge would it be to have cars coming and going all the time? You won't notice it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:53 AM Flag
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I hope you’re right but I’m pissed. We have to cleanup and pay to clear all the communal areas, in the summer, when it snows etc as this couple never want to pay their share. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:55 AM Flag
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You bought into this situation. This is a common pitfall. When you say, they never want to pay their share, who are they supposed to pay? Are you actually covering their expenses? You could complain about that, if so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:58 AM Flag
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There’s a small group of us who split costs for moving snow, trees that fall down, spring clean up etc. They’ve had arguments with several of the neighbors so they refuse to contribute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:04 AM Flag
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You sure know how to pick a location for your second home, don't you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:07 AM Flag
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You choose to do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:03 AM Flag
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We have no choice as they refuse to contribute [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:11 AM Flag
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Let it go, or at least wait and see what the issues are. Don't be an asshole based on what "might" happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:57 AM Flag
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Thanks Id rather just shut it down now. The guy told us tonight that they can’t afford to live here if they don’t rent but he has new cars every year and travels all over the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:59 AM Flag
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Jesus. What do you with your leisure time? Do you have a job or children or any hobbies to distract you from this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:01 AM Flag
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This. What do you do, sit in the front room and twitch the curtains as you peer out at them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:07 AM Flag
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We spend a lot of time in our pool which is closer to their property [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:10 AM Flag
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I’m thinking he knows something you don’t about how much anyone in authority is going to care about is “illegal activities” [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:03 AM Flag
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+1 and if you're only there part time, and the neighbor lives there full time, you're not going to win. Not in a small town in Upstate NY. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:11 AM Flag
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It’s a small town and the town will be able to fine them. They will show up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:15 AM Flag
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Get a job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:03 AM Flag
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I have a full time job and young DCs. The extra traffic reduces my quality of life. Also I follow rules and I expect others to as well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:06 AM Flag
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The extra traffic that hasn’t happened yet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:07 AM Flag
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There’s been construction noise, trash and traffic for months. This weekend was the open house for the rental so it was non stop traffic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:10 AM Flag
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construction and open house will be much busier than when there's just someone staying there. Don't be the insane person. Chill out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:13 AM Flag
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Also they did a lot of the construction on the weekends which our other neighbor who’s here full time complained about, because it’s annoying and against the code [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:14 AM Flag
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Then it should have been investigated. Let the “other neighbor” complsin [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 01:20 PM Flag
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THIS! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:10 AM Flag
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So you commute to your job all summer from upstate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:08 AM Flag
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I work from home and commute a few times a month [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:09 AM Flag
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Google Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:09 AM Flag
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It’s hard to mind my own business when strangers are yelling at me in my pool to ask for Directions to an open house when the house isn’t supposed to exist [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:39 AM Flag
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Oh, you poor darling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:49 AM Flag
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Troll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 01:21 PM Flag
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I'd report it. You need to nip this in the bud NOW before too much time passes. In addition to bothering you while you live in your house, it will negatively affect the desirability of your place when you go to sell. There is a reason why there are rules. People need to follow them or it all goes to pot. They weren't exactly "neighborly" by violating the rules. Without a doubt, I'd blow the whistle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:58 AM Flag
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OP this is my point. It’s a short summer reason and they’re likely to have a lot more traffic than usual. It’s not my fault the broke the law [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:06 AM Flag
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Report them. I have reported neighbors for failure to fence their swimming pool in violation of county code (that was a battle that required me to complain no fewer than 6 times!). The same neighbors had a freaking chicken coop in their backyard, too. Again, in violation of county code. Shut them down NOW. It gets harder as time goes on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:10 AM Flag
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These people violate every rule and they’re bullies so they think they can get away with it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:38 AM Flag
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I kind of agree. It could ding your property values. Just keep calling in anonymous tips. It's tough BC we had a friend a while ago who broke a serious rule at our shared place of work (rule against freelancing while on leave). He told us, we ignored as it had nothing to do with us, but later he assumed we had ratted him out. So they will be paranoid since they know they are breaking the rules. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:16 PM Flag
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They're leasing a little lodge. So maybe one extra car a day? You will survive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:11 AM Flag
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It could be a lot more. It’s a two bedroom if the tenants decide to entertain a lot they’ll be noisy as they’ll be outdoors [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:13 AM Flag
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So, now you're worried about something that hasn't happened yet, but might happen, perhaps. Aren't you meant to be on vacation? Chill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:15 AM Flag
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We were in the pool today, on our private property, minding our own business. Several cars came down our driveway and a couple of people even jumped out to ask us where to find the open house... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:19 AM Flag
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Here's a tip: Do not ask UB what to do. Trust your gut and do what you think is right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:20 AM Flag
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Thanks. I feel like it’s the tipping point with this couple and that’s why I’m so pissed. They’ll leave for the summer and we’ll be stuck with all the noise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:24 AM Flag
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You should absolutely report this. They knowingly violated the zoning regulations. Do they also need to have a lodging license and pay hotel tax and that sort of thing (it's required where I live)? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:29 AM Flag
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Yes to all of this. They need to have a rental number for their property and to abide by rental rules which limits the number of tenants per year etc. They have never complied with their main house so I’m sure they won’t now either. They can’t because it’s not a legal structure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:37 AM Flag
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This must be fake. No one is this awful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 12:38 PM Flag
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Who, the guy with the illegal rental? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 12:53 PM Flag
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Do not underestimate the noise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:15 AM Flag
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File an anonymous complaint. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:18 AM Flag
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You’re flipping nuts. Traffic? It will be a car or two. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 12:37 PM Flag
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Agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 12:47 PM Flag
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People move upstate to get away from people like you. Save your harassment of your neighbors for the co-op board or HOA back home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:01 AM Flag
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This is the HOA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:07 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 12:36 PM Flag
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They also move upstate for peace and quiet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 12:53 PM Flag
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See what it actually means to you in real life. A small lodge isn't going to have a lot of traffic and an open house is very different. If it does impact on your quality of life I would report them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:02 AM Flag
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Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:07 AM Flag
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Op -- I am with you. It makes me crazy when people don't/won't abide by the local zoning rules. We have them for a reason! They are designed to protect the community and its residents. There are many cases of neighbors completely disregarding the zoning, and towns then demanding that the offending fences/homes/sheds be taken down. I'd call the town hall and report them. Don't listen to these critics here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:25 AM Flag
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Thanks. They’ll know it’s us filing the complaint but I’m so mad that I don’t care [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:37 AM Flag
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What area upstate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 12:26 PM Flag
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You need to first look into it and research if you even have a case. Often times neighbors complain about something which is not applicable because of how the local laws are written and it can be also dependent on type of property, size of the lot etc. Often different rules apply for different lot sizes. Even if they want to do airbnb or similar they might very well be within their rights to do so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 12:27 PM Flag
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BS. You file with Town, let them look at. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 12:47 PM Flag
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I think you’re wrong about it being illegal. I think you fudged that to get sympathy on here and justfufy complaining. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 12:28 PM Flag
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We have neighbors- also upstate- who rent out their place as an air b n. Yes, there are cars occasionally. It’s not a big deal. I like it bc we can be loud at times too (little dc) and I feel more comfortable knowing that there’s no one to complain. I much prefer that neighbor to the old cranky guy down the block who puts orange cones out on the street to protect a parking spot. Now that I think about it, that’s probably not legal. You want to call the cops on him too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 12:35 PM Flag
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It 's not the same thing.OP wrote they built a separate structure on their land which is in violation of code. Of course she should report it! Code regulations exist for a reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 01:33 PM Flag
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Of course report them. They were the ones who did not act neigborly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 12:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Just had pizza topped with chips and avocado. Delicious. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:32 AM Flag
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That is very weird. I’m hungry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:34 AM Flag
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It’s really good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:40 AM Flag
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At a restaurant? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:34 AM Flag
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Nope. Local pizza place makes speciality pizzas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:40 AM Flag
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Are you high? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:34 AM Flag
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Nope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:40 AM Flag
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Shame [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:53 AM Flag
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What kind of chips? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:40 AM Flag
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Like tortilla. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 02:41 AM Flag
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That sounds delicious and gross at the same time. Lol. Have a salad tomorrow :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 03:12 AM Flag
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Sounds constipating [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.18, 07:30 AM Flag
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