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[ - ] Do you order a lot of clothes online and return? DH thinks I shop too much because I order a bunch of stuff, try it on and return most of it. I don't have time to shop in stores and even when I do the selection is better online. DH is more of a go shopping 2 times a year and get everything in one shot type of person, not sure he has ever ordered clothing online. Am I wrong in thinking my way is the norm these days and that retailers accept this fact (and offer a better selection online as a result?) 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:10 PM Flag
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I dont shop and return. I am not picky so i keep it unless despise it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:15 PM Flag
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I shop in person and order online when I am 75% sure it will fit since I have purchased that brand /size often [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:26 PM Flag
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I said the same thing below but a lot less succinctly lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:45 PM Flag
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OP - I find such variations between sizes even within the same brands these days, makes it so hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:53 PM Flag
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I do this, too. Pretty normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:41 PM Flag
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Me too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:55 PM Flag
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I do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:58 PM Flag
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+3. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:09 AM Flag
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There have been multiple NYT articles about this exact phenomenon and I remember a post on Ub where multiple people said they order a lot and return almost everything. I think this is common today. I prefer going to a department store like Bloomingdales or Nordstrom and trying on a bunch of things in person to get a sense for size and fit of what I like. Once I know the brand and size then I order online but don’t generally order online without having seen it in person first—I think I’d have a very hard time determined what I liked if I only ever shopped online. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:45 PM Flag
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I used to, I was a huge shopper and don’t really like going to stores, but now I do rent the runway and it’s so much easier. Don’t have to return a million things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:58 PM Flag
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I do, but I don't like it. Stores often don't have the size or even style I'm looking for, so I can't try on unless I order online. And even for brands I've bought before, sizing and cuts are so all over the place you just don't know until you try it on. I used to be a solid 8/M at BR and J.Crew for example (not super high-end, obviously), but now could be anywhere from a 6-10, and S-L. Also, I'm tall, and stores tend to not carry their long sizes, only online. But sometimes just the regular sizes fit; again, it's all over the place. So frustrating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:31 PM Flag
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I do this with BR and J crew as well. I used to be a 4 in dresses and 6 in pants with both of them, but I gained some weight and am now a size 8 in BR pants, 6 in j crew pants, yet still fit into a 4 dress with both of them. It drives me mad to never be sure so I order most things online and them return in the store if they don't fit. The only thing I can be generally sure of anymore is if it's the exact same style of something I already have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:19 AM Flag
[ - ] If you were putting in new floors with expresso cabinets (no they arent being changed) would you go with a) the white tiles tht you want to make a "look" or b) gray ties for hiding dirt but gray is "in" so will be "out" soon? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:07 PM Flag
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This looks like bathroom tile. I would not put in the kitchen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:45 PM Flag
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Is this a bathroom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:16 PM Flag
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Sorry. Kitchen. Entrance is through kitche (well one people use) so now thinking tile i like pita to keep clean from mud. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:17 PM Flag
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They are both nice but the white tile looks more bathroomy than kitchen to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:19 PM Flag
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Yeah. I want it in larger white squares but cant find onlune pic. Might go octagonal white. But basic question is a) white hard to ckeep clean or b) gray that is currenty on end of trend [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:21 PM Flag
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Do you wear shoes in the house ever or have pets? If so, then gray, definitely not white. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:47 PM Flag
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Grout in my kitchen always gives me a headache. Always turns dark. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:10 PM Flag
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I was hearing about gray grout, to avoid that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:15 PM Flag
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I should have listened to the contractor. Light grey will still get stained etc. Maybe see if you can have it sealed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:20 PM Flag
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What did your contractor say to do? Love mine but he is young [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:21 PM Flag
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He wanted dark dark grout but I didn't want the look of checkerboard with my tile, so to speak. He was right b/c within a year the grout is now dark. Even peroxide, bleach, baking soda scrubs won't budge the dark color. It's fine but had I known I might have done planks or very thin grout lines for example. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:23 PM Flag
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Gotcha. Thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:24 PM Flag
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Can you show tiles you used? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:25 PM Flag
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skip the tiles and go with a vinyl plank in ash tones [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:33 PM Flag
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np - like this http://hozela.com/how-to-add-an-outdoor-bar/ (ignore the title, look at pic of kitchen) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:50 PM Flag
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I onky see outdoor bar pics. One of the tiles is a plank style. B listed above [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:17 PM Flag
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No one is going to call out expresso? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:49 AM Flag
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I cant fix the expresso. We are updating so.e but not all of the kitchen [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:44 AM Flag
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Omg it’s ESpresso not ex jfc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:08 AM Flag
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WOOOSH [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 03:10 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm probably on the wrong site to ask this, but how do those of you who make more normal salaries deal with the excessive wealth in NYC? I grew up in a rich area, went to college with rich kids, and so on some level I'm used to it, but it's still always hard to feel like you've got so much less than others, especially in the housing department. (And yes, I am EXTREMELY grateful for what I do have and recognize that it could be much, much worse.) I work at a nonprofit because I wanted to do some good in the world but damn if I don't wish I had been more savvy 15 years ago and gotten an MBA or law or med degree instead - too late now! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 11.15.19, 10:07 PM Flag
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I feel this, I am a non-profit lawyer and make terrible money but love my work. It's hard to see former classmates as partners at big firms making a ton of money but I chose my career path and probably never would have survived at big law that long anyway (I left shortly after having first DC as it was just impossible to juggle) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:15 PM Flag
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I am in the middle. We dont make a lot but i made a good real estate investment which means we can live better than would otherwise. Try to be confident in your own choices and know that you can look yourself in the mirror doing good, and leave it at that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:28 PM Flag
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I’m in law and worked in biglaw for a bunch of cash at the expense of my life. Now make market salary for a public sector attorney and super happy because I have a life. I don’t need much to live. I’m extremely fortunate to have a position I live. A decent salary and a life. The life part is critical. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:10 PM Flag
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Love, not live [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:32 PM Flag
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There are tons of studies that show people happiness is affected by relative wealth. So if happiness is a goal, NYC is probably not the best place to be. Ironic, since I think that's why people strive so hard to be there and be successful. But judging from my personal experience, everyone seems so stressed out, haggard and unhappy. Everyone has a shrink and/or on anti-depressants. Kind of weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:07 AM Flag
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I don’t give it too much of a thought. Meaningful work. Good kids. I’m good. I do envy regular vacations away more so than nice real estate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:15 AM Flag
[ - ] Have not interviewed for a job in almost 20 years. Law firm. Are you supposed to send email thank you? I assume I don’t have to bring copy of cv? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:50 PM Flag
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Bring a copy. Send a follow up thank you by email. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:51 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:55 PM Flag
[ - ] 15-hr road trip coming up. Good podcast to listen to in car with 15 and 13 yr old sons? (Also - how do you listen to a podcast?!?! LOL) 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:33 PM Flag
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Load apple podcast on your iphone. It is a free ap. And then load in all of Dan Carlin's Hardcore History podcasts, using wifi. This will make 15 hours fly by. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:40 PM Flag
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You can also listen to podcasts on the Stitcher App (if, for example, you don't have an iphone). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:45 PM Flag
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Just use Spotify [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:36 PM Flag
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mine would want to listen to music and read, so can't help ya. They would never want to listen to anything I wanted to hear, just on principle [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:16 PM Flag
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Pick an audio book you all want to listen to and then download to nook on phone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:18 PM Flag
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second to the audio book. while we have not done for a few years, both DCs loved to listen when we took long trips. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:37 PM Flag
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And it gives you guys something to talk about together [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:18 PM Flag
[ - ] I have about $700 of credit at the Real Real. What would you spend it on? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:47 PM Flag
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I need a new winter coat so I'd start there. Guess it depends what you need/have been wanting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:17 PM Flag
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The RealReal had a STUNNING coat I was looking at just yesterday. I keep thinking about it. That's what I could get--- invest in a warm coat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:18 PM Flag
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how did you end up with credit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:29 PM Flag
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I sold all my fat clothes and gifts from my ex - woo hoo! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:43 PM Flag
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why didn't you get cash? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:45 PM Flag
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because you get more as credit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:48 PM Flag
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I’d take the cash—I posted yesterday I’ve probably purchased ten things from the real real and don’t love any of them. I was compelled by the prices and liking the item well enough but now that they’re in my closet I don’t wear them. Take the cash and either save it or get something you love. Exception is if there’s a specific item you love and have been looking for/wanting for example I’ve bought several pairs of J Brand Maria jeans on Poshmark bc I know my size and that I love the fit and style. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:06 PM Flag
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But you have to spend it on their stuff. I'd rather have $500 cash than $700 in credit from a place with arbitrary pricing on used stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:07 PM Flag
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exactly plus they do this to keep your $$ the principle of it annoys me and I know Id find something I end up wearing more/really loving if I had $500. If you blow dry your hair I recently got the Dyson Airwave and it’s a life changer. I tend to think those things are overhyped but this thing blow dries and straightens my very coarse, thick hair in 20 min. I’m saving so much time and have hair that looks professionally blow dried. I’d spend the $500 on that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:14 PM Flag
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Either something like a gold bangle or maybe a vase/decor item. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:18 PM Flag
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a bag [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:55 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O on being tall post. DD goes to a school that has MS and HS. Overall, the HS girls seems so much taller than the 8th graders. I thought girls stopped growing by 14 or so. Is this just a myth? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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Gee whiz, I don't know. I mean there are so many factors at play here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:42 PM Flag
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Generally girls' growth spurts stop before the boys, but there could be many reasons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:52 PM Flag
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Wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:37 PM Flag
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I didn't reach my full height until I was 20. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Has this piece already been discussed? https://www.washingtonpost.com/education/2019/11/15/what-happened-when-brooklyn-tried-integrate-its-middle-schools/?arc404=true&fbclid=IwAR1LyYJiSWDrynJSrA35jje3zQoixD1wc-Qu5PDI38nEwZPlFoTCLK8sr1A 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:27 PM Flag
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I don't have a subscription to the Post, so can't read. But, I imagine it's another talking point on UB for people who don't actually live in Brooklyn. So, I take it with a grain of salt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:43 PM Flag
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OP: I don't either- click on the link. Read it without problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:46 PM Flag
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Nope, you're link doesn't work for me. Big box asking me to subscribe or log in with no other options. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:47 PM Flag
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^^your [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:47 PM Flag
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Interesting, the girl's mom was my kid's K teacher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:51 PM Flag
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General Topics 11.15.19, 09:10 PM Flag
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I'm not sure what the author's point is, except that integration is happening and although it's been a little bumpy and many white kids have left for private school, it's mostly okay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:24 PM Flag
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OP: I think the point is that many parents were freaked out but then gave it a chance, to learn that it's actually valuable for your cream cheese snowflake to adapt to new situations and be integrated with those different from them- with favorable results. That was my take, at least. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:25 PM Flag
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ALso interesting that they chose a NYC public school teacher for the article as well as kids who both had older siblings who went through the old process [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:35 PM Flag
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The article gives encouraging news. Hope it works in Brooklyn because it failed in Philly, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:41 PM Flag
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OP: how did it fail? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:46 PM Flag
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the families left the public system. schools all minority kids now. funding fell apart -- schools dont open on time some years. Your basic nightmare [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:30 AM Flag
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Did you read it? There were two parents mentioned in the article that were actually willing to send their kids to Dewey. The article specifically notes that "most of the 45 that were assigned to Dewey did not show up" and chose instead to move or send their kids to private/charter. It's also only been two months since the program started, so it's far too early to determine whether the program is "actually valuable" for those privileged kids. I doubt it is. I'm sure it IS valuable for the less privileged kids, and that may mean it's good enough, but don't pretend it's a great thing to send a kid to a struggling school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:14 PM Flag
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Dunno. I want to check back at the end of the school year with those parents whose two kids went to Dewey. I support this initiative, but it would be hard to send my kid to a school with only 14% of kids at proficiency. If it were 40 or 50%, I'd be totally cool, but 14% is really low. And my kid is the type who is very influenced by the academic performance of the peer group. Maybe if I had a compliant, sweet type who would achieve anywhere, but that's not my kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:59 PM Flag
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Too premature to tell. If it leads to white flight and causes the proportions to tilt so that integration becomes impossible, then no, not a success. For us, the panic over the possible abolishment of SHSAT led us to send our younger 2 kids to private K-12 for 6th. If there had been no question of taking away the SHSAT and a mayor intent on establishing more "elite" public schools, I would have kept them in the system. Older 2 kids are going all the way K-12 public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:14 PM Flag
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The article made clear that it has already led to white flight and that the two families profiled are exceptions. I'm not sure OP actually read it -- she seems like she just came on here hell bent to make a point about "cream cheese snowflakes" whatever that means. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:18 PM Flag
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Some white flight, but also some white families going to Dewey. It can go either way but shifting sands. The opposite of the Bloomberg years. I'm a pragmatist. I'm not white but shocker! POC with choice don't want to be assigned to schools with low proficiency either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:21 PM Flag
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PP: I should have used the phrase "affluent flight" but "white flight" is more catchy. The point is that the vast majority of the affluent families fled. And I completely agree with you -- I'm POC too and would not send my kids to school with low proficiency either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:27 PM Flag
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actually, I thought it was interesting that the school the latino family didn't want their kid in due to violence and drugs has much higher scores, higher income and is FAR more diverse than Dewey. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:25 AM Flag
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Like 2. Went from 95% POC to 93%. Not yet a success for sure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:26 AM Flag
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^^ I'd much rather have kept my kids in public, and not feel like I'm on unsteady ground which is how I've felt the last 4+ years about the public system. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:18 PM Flag
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sounds like vast majority of white poeple didn't send their kids to dewey or sunset prep, as predicted [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:29 AM Flag
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The Post's education coverage is good. They cover a range of education issues thoughtfully. I wish the Times coverage would be better, but the paper is beholden to the charter-loving, tax-evading oligarchical class who think they can distract the masses by scapegoating white public school parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:25 AM Flag
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Ha. I work there and believe me, "we" HATE charters. And we are obsessively interested in integration of schools. We editorialized in favor of DeB's change to SHS. Do you not read Eliza Shapiro's coverage, including the one from earlier this week? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 06:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Any advice for how to arrange to clear out an estate? Where to start and what services to call? I have less than a week to clean out a 4 bedroom house that my mother was in for 30 years. Help! 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:24 PM Flag
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Why so quick? I'm still going through IL's stuff in small apt. for about 6 months now. But call estate places and see if they'll come in. Many I called wanted me to give them photos. I'd sort out any valuable things. It's surprisingly how little value things like clocks etc have. It's a daunting task. Lots of wine, ha ha. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:26 PM Flag
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The house has been sold and I live far away. What "estate places"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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Where is the house. Google estate sales for that area to find companies that do it. That’s a really short time frame though. You might have to have someone dump it all in a dumpster. So sad. My mom was obsessed with having people take her stuff at the end of her life. Mostly none of us wanted it and my brother ended up chucking most of it in a dumpster. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:58 PM Flag
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God, I'm dreading this. I feel like it's coming soon and I'm really dreading it. So many memories. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:32 PM Flag
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I've already let my sister know that if I'm in charge, it's all going to be given away. If she wants to sort through stuff that's fine but I'm not sentimental and don't want to spend time doing it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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I felt the same and my sister, who is grossly sentimental and a hoarder, still resents me for it. There were 3 or 4 things of my mom's that I wanted, but I wasn't going to spend weeks going through things lke her old clothes and furniture, strolling down the memory lane of our fkced up childhood with her. It's not as though my mom had heirlooms. She died 6 years ago and my sister still have boxes of hers at her apt, not yet gone throug. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:20 PM Flag
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Call a company called Done and Done. This is what they do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:42 PM Flag
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Our mother's careprovider was very active in an evangelical church, and the church came in and took everything we didn't want. We took an hour or so to take out jewelry and photo albums. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:25 PM Flag
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Did you really did not look through the stuff? to me that is insane [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:38 PM Flag
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Depends on the volume - at some point you just have to move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:19 PM Flag
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She wasn't wealthy and most of her stuff was Sears quality, nothing we would ever use. We just took stuff with sentimental value. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:14 PM Flag
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Not in NYC but just went through this with 50 years and semi-hoarder. Google downsizer and depending on what you have they will either give you money or sell valuables or just cart out. Go through yourself and grab photos, jewelry or other stuff you want and any important documents you can locate. My guy is coming with dumpster and crew and will be there 3-4 days. Nothing is worth what you might think so might be best to just be done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:10 PM Flag
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You have two options, dump it all by hiring someone (cheaper) or hire company to move everything into storage for you to deal with later or fly out to take what you want (put in storage what can't carry) and then dumpster/junk lugger the rest [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:25 PM Flag
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We have been doing it for 6 months with my hoarder parents. Grab the pictures, silver, dishes and jewelry and dump the rest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:26 PM Flag
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Unless you like the silver, it really has no value. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:11 PM Flag
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Yes but you can never have "my childhood dishes" if you let them go to dumpster. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:19 PM Flag
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Of course, but if you're looking to sell things, very few things have the value you assume they might. Gold pocket watch--it's about $50. Silver, barely any value. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:24 PM Flag
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Absolutely. We had someone come through and they said x and y each piece of furniture worth 400, if repaired in a store. So we dumped it because would sell for 150 and we would have to biy a truck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:36 PM Flag
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Where is this - we'll help you find a place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:18 PM Flag
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Run a sale to give everything away. Have people in each room so they don't wreck the place. Just put on Craigslist, "they will come." Or Facebook Marketplace. Hire a few people from Taskrabbit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:59 AM Flag
[ - ] So interesting to me - most of the families in my daughters TT school live in multi-million $ apartments - they are early/mid 30's. My husband and I are early 40's and its taken us our whole career and life to save up for our $2M apartment we just bought a few years ago. Where the heck are these young people getting this $? I know families are helping - but does everyone's? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:58 PM Flag
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They have trust funds. It's not even that parents are "helping" These people were born wealthy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:59 PM Flag
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this, multi-generational wealth [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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Multi generational? No. try second generation happy their parents were from the “me” generation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 07:05 AM Flag
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Everyone I know who had a very expensive home at that age had wealthy parents helping. I am mid 40s and the people I know are now able to afford this stuff themselves. even those who had good jobs in their 30s (finance, made partner at a law firm) took a while to be ready to buy really expensive homes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:02 PM Flag
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Stop worrying about what other people have and clean your own 2mm apartment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:11 PM Flag
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OP: haha! true. I know, you are right. I was just curious. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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Thanks for taking my snarky apartment for how it was meant: with humor :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:46 PM Flag
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Comment, not apartment lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:46 PM Flag
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They have trust funds from parents, and also their parents have connections which helped them get major jobs right out of college. I grew up with tons of people like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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Our apartment, which we saved up for many years, cost $290k. That was a big accomplishment for us. There are others in our building who are now paying current market prices and I'm not sure what they do or where they get it. Here's a little story though: Our neighbors were able to buy a place in Williamsburg before it was totally cool and they flipped it just at the right time and made a load of cash. Who knows if they're getting help from parents, not my business, but neighbor did tell me that story and I chalked it up to another example of people being in the right place at the right time. There are also a lot of young people in high paying industries (something that DH and I were not part of) and I think that some people just have good cash flow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:36 PM Flag
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We are like you, but we are now worth over 9 million $. Our kids are accustomed to living comfortably (not lavishly, you would never guess or net worth.) I grew up in a basement apartment, my DH is a 900 sq foot apartment for 4 people. Kids are growing up in 3,600 square feet. I can't see them living in the crap little studio I did (complete with mice and a lecherous landlord), so we will be helping them ...not 2 million $ apartments, but we will be helping them. However. they are all hardworking kids who have worked since the age of 16. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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Downpayment from the parents, co sign by their parents, when the recession hits, they are sinking. We live in a very rich young neighborhood (we moved in when we were young) and I've asked myself the same question and what I stated seems to be the formula. These kids can't afford this lifestyle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:42 PM Flag
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They got it from the boomers they complain about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:59 PM Flag
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Exactly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 07:05 AM Flag
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Totally! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 08:00 PM Flag
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DH is 33 and we just bought our first apartment. We talked a lot about how ten years ago, we qualified to buy places for less than $500k that are now going for millions of dollars. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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This is very true. I bought a 750 square foot 1 bedroom for 335k in uws (yes downpayment from my folks) and sold it 4 yrs later for nearly 600k. I was married when sold, so we used all of that to get 2 bedroom in low humdreds. We did well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:35 PM Flag
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"down payment from m folks" you get that most people don't even have that, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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I don’t think they are as young as you think. Early mid 30s with kids in elementary school (unless you are at HM which has a 3s class)? This means parents would have been under 30 when they had their first kid if kids are 5/6 now. I had my first at 30, almost 31, and in our private school class of 50 I think there are only 2 moms younger than me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:45 PM Flag
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+1 I had ODC in my late 20s. I am the youngest parent in the grade of about 50. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:17 PM Flag
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That’s the thing. There might be a handful of parents in their early to mid 30s but definitely not the majority. Even more so for the men, who more often then not have the $$$$ jobs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:45 PM Flag
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Love these responses. This site is so good at making you feel bad about yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:57 PM Flag
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Well in our mid 30s we could have afforded 2.5-3M apt.. Head of trading desk at an I bank. No parental help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:29 PM Flag
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with the exception of the few people who flipped in Brooklyn at the perfect time, every very rich family I know in NYC all have 1) at least one Wall St. job in family 2) family wealth 3) both. The income from the self-proclaimed founders, mompreneurs, yoga teachers, tech jobs, even the doctors and non-Wall St. partner lawyers is just pocket money that confuses that basic equation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:50 PM Flag
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pretty much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:28 AM Flag
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Yep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 08:31 PM Flag
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We are early 40s too but bought our 3m+ apt 12 years ago. Finance career + buying our first place very young in 20s (no dp help but things were cheap then). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:15 PM Flag
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Is your DD at a TT school in NYC? If so, tuition is $50K plus per year, per student. People who can afford this type of tuition can afford multi-million dollar apartments. If this is a K-8 or K-12 and not a preschool, I suspect there also are relatively few couples in their early 30s. And aren't many of the families in finance? It's possible to make a fair bit of money at a relatively young age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 04:45 AM Flag
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Finance careers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 04:46 AM Flag
[ - ] What diet or exercise do you think helped the most to get rid of belly fat? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:34 PM Flag
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portion control. limited alcohol. pilates for toning once the fat is gone through diet [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:35 PM Flag
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Walking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:41 PM Flag
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not this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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Yes, brisk walking is better than running and will burn calories. It has been shown to reduce belly fat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:27 PM Flag
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you have poor reading comprehension [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:08 PM Flag
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That article states that walking WITH high intensity works...not walking alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:48 PM Flag
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I walk a lot and it keeps the weight off. I lost 20lbs when I moved back to NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:19 PM Flag
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If you’re hiking the entire Appalachian trail maybe... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:20 PM Flag
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Abs are made in the kitchen. Lots of vegetables, lean protein, complex carbs. Avoid sugar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:32 PM Flag
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agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:42 PM Flag
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Veggie give me ab bloat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:51 PM Flag
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what is an example of a complex carb? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:19 PM Flag
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whole wheat products, quinoa, steel-cut oats, farro, lentils, beans... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:35 PM Flag
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Yep. It's 80% diet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:59 PM Flag
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Maybe more like 40% genetics, 40% diet, 20% exercise lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 06:01 PM Flag
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Cutting out the wheat products. I say this with caution because I am an old geezer and developed an intolerance to gluten recently, but it helped a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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cut calories. Fat does not specifically migrate places based on what exactly you eat or precisely what kind of workout. you happen to be genetically programmed to gather belly fat. If you lose weight, your belly (and other places) will get smaller. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Grammar moms: I’d like to maintain my cpa licensure or I'd like to maintain my cpa license... 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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Use the English language. You want to maintain your license. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:27 PM Flag
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NP - Licensure is English. And I would use it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:34 PM Flag
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It is English, but "maintain my licensure" is not English. Licensure is the process of licensing. She wants to maintain her license. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:24 PM Flag
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I’d say license.....even if licensure is correct, sounds like you’re trying too hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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I agree with this- "licensure" sounds pretentious and obnoxious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:39 PM Flag
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License. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:58 PM Flag
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I like licensure. License is the object. Licensure is having the possession of the license. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:16 PM Flag
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I am CPA, licensure may be correct and I truly don't know; but you might come across as haughty - "I need to take twenty four credits to maintain my CPA license" is what would be said around this office - which reminds me..... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Beacon's essay requirement is weird. What if parents help their child to write an application. How would the school know? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:16 PM Flag
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I think the essay is barely factored into the admissions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:22 PM Flag
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In our middle school, the guidance counselor reviewed and edited all the students' Beacon essays. So yeah, it doesn't really seem to be a test of the kid's writing ability. Not sure what the purpose is. Maybe just an extra hoop to jump through to ensure the student really wants to go there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:07 PM Flag
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Bard College's essay application is weirder. Anyone could help the applicant write those essays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:18 PM Flag
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this is alos true for college applications. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:37 PM Flag
[ - ] How much due diligence do you do when hiring a new babysitter? (Occasional sitter, not a nanny) I found a date night sitter through a recommendation on UES Mommas, the sitter provided three references, all of whom said glowing things, and 2 of whom had met her family. I have her coming at 4 Pm tomorrow so I can spend some time with her and the kids before DH and I go to dinner. Would you feel safe at this point? (Sorry - I grew up in the burbs, and all our babysitters were the teenage daughters of my parents' friends. Doesn't work like that in NYC) 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:14 PM Flag
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OP - Kids are little, FWIW. 3 years old and 6 months old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:14 PM Flag
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I'm from the suburbs too so I totally get it. I would try to meet her today in case you don't like her or feel like something is off. If your kids were older then nbd but they are too little to really let you know if she wasn't good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:23 PM Flag
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Of course it works like that in NYC. You just don't have friends with teenage daughters. If you are leaving your baby with a teenager you need to know the parents because she is going to rely upon then if something happens. If she is an adult an the references knew her family, you're probably fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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I wouldn't leave a 6 month old with a random sitter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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OP - what else would you need to do to get comfortable? We don't have family friends available, so unless we can get comfortable with a sitter, we're never going out again... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:34 PM Flag
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Do any of your coworkers or friends use a nanny? Maybe ask if their nanny would be interested in babysitting? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:36 PM Flag
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If you don't have a nanny, you must know other people's nannies from the neighborhood. Ask them (and then the moms) if they are available for occasional sitting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:58 PM Flag
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My dh and I took our baby out with us. We didn't go to the fanciest places but you'd be surprised in the city how places do accomodate a stroller. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:37 PM Flag
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Do you know people in your building with teenagers? You can rely upon the combination of the parents and teenagers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:55 PM Flag
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You're not "never going out again" but you have a freaking 6 month old. That's not never, that's while you have an infant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:56 PM Flag
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Nor would I leave a 6 mos with a teenager! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:50 PM Flag
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Way less than that but my kids are older (11 and 8). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:27 PM Flag
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Do you belong to a church or temple? They may have a list of reliable teens who babysit. My dc's babysitter have always come from the CCD pool of kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:38 PM Flag
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When I use a new sitter the first time I usually run errands so I can pop in and out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:38 PM Flag
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i would maybe have done a trial with her. Not the same night you are planning to leave her alone. But, with the due diligence you've already done I would be comfortable. Are you able to put your 6 mo old to bed before you leave? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:39 PM Flag
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OP - yeah, I am planning to be in and out for the first 3 hours (in-building gym, etc.). If I'm not comfortable at that point, then we'll pay her for the evening and cancel our dinner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:58 PM Flag
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Np: sounds like good plan to me.....I’d also do nanny cam. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:04 PM Flag
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I think this is plenty of due diligence for the City. More than I do! You might get her mom's number too, just in case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:50 PM Flag
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Sorry, if she's a teenager. Sounds like a college kid from your description. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:51 PM Flag
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OP - to clarify, she's not a teenager. Mid-twenties professional with nannying experience, college degree. And yes, we will put the baby to sleep before we go out. (Probably also the toddler, given that he won't let us out of the house otherwise) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:57 PM Flag
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It sounds fine. Your kids will be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:45 PM Flag
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Agree you’ve checked multiple references it sounds good to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:08 PM Flag
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GL, let us know how it goes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Post link to your most recent dress purchase or wish list dress. I need ideas and need to see what others are buying. 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:53 PM Flag
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pretty.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:56 PM Flag
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np- I like this, and was also considering it. Seems unforgiving? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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Fugly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:12 PM Flag
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$80o for that crap? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:13 PM Flag
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I agree. Overpriced and not very nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:35 PM Flag
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^ peacock color [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:03 PM Flag
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Kind of bland. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:29 PM Flag
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I like this one, although I could never wear it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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Yikes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:13 PM Flag
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If you're 6' tall and BMI of 3. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:29 PM Flag
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I like it too. If you're tall and thin it must be gorgeous. Love the floral pattern. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:30 PM Flag
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wow that's hideous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:44 PM Flag
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Everything here is hideous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:14 PM Flag
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That's a "jungle cat print"? My only cat print (leopard spots) is on my hoodie footie, LOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:32 PM Flag
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I get the idea that it's one person posting ugly pics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:37 PM Flag
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well, I posted the two above. And am neither 6' tall nor have a BMI of 3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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This is a fun post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:37 PM Flag
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This is serious, but still very joke worthy. I want to pair it with a red petticoat for a themed holiday party: https://www.amazon.com/Lealac-Fashion-Christmas-Sleeeve-L182-NewD1370/dp/B07HQQYV8V/ref=mp_s_a_1_29?dchild=1&keywords=christmas%2Bdress&qid=1573853091&sr=8-29&th=1&psc=1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:27 PM Flag
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This board really has gone down hill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:46 PM Flag
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:( I think it's going to be a very fun party. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:53 PM Flag
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Aww sorry, I was half-joking! Sorry if it came across too mean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 11:50 PM Flag
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I was being silly, too. I really am looking forward to it. The theme is "A Very Kitchy Christmas." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:37 AM Flag
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Then the dress is perfect [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 04:03 AM Flag
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No. If it looks terrible on the model, then.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 06:11 PM Flag
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it does not look terrible on the model! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 06:58 PM Flag
[ - ] I've always worked at a firm where I get a fixed amount of vacation and sick days per year. I'm switching to a firm that does accrued PTO. I can't for the life of my figure out how this works. Does this mean that, if I have to take a day off within the first few months (likely because I have two toddlers in daycare), that it will be unpaid? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:28 PM Flag
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even though it is accrued, most companies are ok with taking PTO days in the earlier part of the year than when it is accrued. but if you leave the company after 6 months and you have taken more than the accrued amount, you might owe back those days of pay. does that make sense? you still get to use the full amount throughout the year but only if you leave early, will they be owed back [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:32 PM Flag
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Usually not; it means that you'll be in the negative after that first day until you're worked enough to accrue the hours in that day. At least that's how many employers do it; you probably won't have to wait until you've accrued a day to take a day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:33 PM Flag
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Ask for clarification - all policies are different, some don't let you take it before you've accrued but most do. Definitely ask. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:37 PM Flag
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This. I worked for a firm prior like OP where we just got the time and then managed how we would take it. Now I'm in a public agency and it's accrued time. They aren't so inflexible though to not allow time which can then be backcharged, for lack of a better word, against your future accruals. Only the organization can answer this for OP though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:42 PM Flag
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This*2. I am not a HR person but I am an approval for our function. We recently changed to allow exceptions for negative balances (toward the year-end or so) but, in theory, you need to accrue to use. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:56 PM Flag
[ - ] re- thinning hair. Because there have been quite a few posts lately on this topic- age 40 and hair has noticeably thinned in the past two or so years. when it is down it is not so bad and still looks pretty good..but the ponytail...oh gosh- the ponytail is barely there...so depressing. anyone else have this too? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 11.15.19, 06:26 PM Flag
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I started this program called Harklinikken. I’m 9 months in and see a difference, especially where it is thinning when I pull my hair back. And ponytail extensions! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:52 PM Flag
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Did you do a consultation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:53 PM Flag
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Yes, you have to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:12 PM Flag
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OP- yes i called them.1- it is very very expensive. 2- you have to wash your hair very frequently and i only like to wash it twice a week [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:54 PM Flag
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It is, that’s true. As for washing your hair every day - it’s not that hard to dry it daily if you have thin hair. I find the nightly extract sort of adds body to my hair too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:14 PM Flag
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I use rogaine. I saw a dermatologist who specializes in hair loss (Dr Michael Reed in NYC) and he ran a bunch of tests to rule out deficiencies and certain health issues. He recommended rogaine and it's made a big difference. [ Reply | More ]
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np - do you buy it at the drugstore? is it shampoo or a foam? I've been watching these thinning hair posts and see that Rogaine keeps being mentioned as actually working. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 11:13 AM Flag
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I have been taking a vitamin I get on amazon called nutrafol. It's expensive but a couple months in I started to see a difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 11:03 PM Flag
[ - ] I weighed myself today out of curiosity and I weigh 210 lbs. I am 5'4". I do not feel obese. I wear size 12. how did this happen??? ugh 43 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:11 PM Flag
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what did you used to weigh?> is this an increase? if so what weight did you start? these things tend to creep up gradually so you don't always notice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:14 PM Flag
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4 years ago I weighed 150. I was in the best shape of my life at that point (running 5 miles a day etc). Then I had an injury which sidelined me for a while. I just started working out again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:15 PM Flag
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was the injury from running? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:15 PM Flag
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No, I was in a car accident. Luckily no serious injuries, but I broke my ankle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:16 PM Flag
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I lost a lot of weight when I was running 6 miles a day and could eat pretty much whatever I wanted. Then I had knee surgery ( torn meniscus not from running), was scared of hurting my knee again and just turned into a total blob. I gained 30 lbs. I'm not sure how I'll ever get it off unless I give up eating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:28 PM Flag
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I am in similar boat :( I know I have to put a stop to it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:15 PM Flag
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I'm so fascinated with how weight wears on different people. I'm 177 and wear a size 16. How can you fit in 12's? I'm 5'8. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:23 PM Flag
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Oh and how it happened is middle aged. I have to work really hard to lose weight. Then if I go back to normal eating (not overeating) for a day and a half, it's all back on. I've finally switched to fasting. It's the only thing that's working for me. Good luck! Exercise if you want for health - but losing pounds is 99% about the food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:25 PM Flag
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Op. I am 33 so I never considered myself middle aged but maybe I am? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:42 PM Flag
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No, 33 is not middle aged. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:45 PM Flag
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If 33 is middle aged, then I must be some elderly geezer! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:47 PM Flag
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OR: Oh yeah, you're not. You've got till about 42 before your metabolism goes off a cliff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:54 PM Flag
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np -- how often do you fast? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 05:03 AM Flag
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must be an old navy 12. certainly isn't an European brand label's 12. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:25 PM Flag
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OR: But I don't think I'd fit into an Old Navy 12 and I'm 40 pounds less. I'm in plus sizes at Anthropology. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:30 PM Flag
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Np: maybe I’m a b*tch but I don’t believe that OP fits in a size 12 at 210 and 5’4.” OP is obese at that height and weight. And most likely looks obese regardless of body composition. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:09 PM Flag
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Calories, calories, calories. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:34 PM Flag
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I took several years off weighing myself daily like I used to and the weight piled on. I now am back to doing it daily and it has keep off further creep and helps me focus intently on knocking 1-2 lbs off per week. I have also started going to WW so I know I'm accountable to someone else seeing the number once a week. It's helping. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:34 PM Flag
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Yup, the rigor is everything. I stopped weighing myself/paying that much attention to portions, etc. and gained 20 lbs a couple of years ago. Lost it but am now super-diligent; easier to keep it off than have to go through that again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:07 PM Flag
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You don't wear a 12. 22 perhaps. I wear a 14 and I'm 60lbs lighter than you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:35 PM Flag
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No, I wear a 12. Most of my clothes from Jcrew and Ann Taylor. When I was 150 lbs I wore a size 6-8 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:41 PM Flag
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NP: sizes are messed up and reflect nothing in my opinion. I'm 125 and still can't fit comfortably into a size 6 at places like Ann Taylor. I usually go a few sizes up because I don't like things skin tight. J Crew also runs slim in my experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:45 PM Flag
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They really are messed up, I am 5'5 and between 125 and 128 and wear a zero at AT and Jcrew. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:56 PM Flag
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PP: that's why I have to try stuff on. I'm short-waisted and my torso is like a straight board, so I have a hard time finding things with a waist but my size in the shoulders and stuff. I end up having to wear sheath dresses to account for my body type. It's really frustrating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:07 PM Flag
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How do you carry your weight? I weigh 150 and am a J crew 10 and even sometimes a 12. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:46 PM Flag
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Same. I'm same height as OP, upper 140s and wear a 10. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 04:53 PM Flag
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Np i weigh 172 andd am wearing a 12 in lift right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:10 PM Flag
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Fake. I wear size 12 at 160 lbs , 5'5 height [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:50 PM Flag
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There is NO way you are a size 12. Sorry. I weigh 138 and wear a 10 in jeans at Loft, which is generously sized [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:31 PM Flag
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I'm 5' 5" and 152 and I wear a 10 at Loft. How tall are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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5'2. I could wear an 8 but the 10 is comfier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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I weigh more than I ever have - 170lb, 5'2". Feel like I'm all girth, ass and thighs. I know how it happened - stopped exercising and ate freely. My own fault, but I hate it and have to change. Not being very successful, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:16 PM Flag
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I am almost the same size as you and there is no way you are wearing a 12. Maybe in a dress if you are pear shaped. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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Op. What does it matter what size I am. I am sorry i mentioned it since that seems to be all people care about on this thread. At 210 i am still obese and need to lose [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:24 PM Flag
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part of why you don't feel obese is bc you aren't in a plus size - [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:26 PM Flag
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Ok, diet and exercise. First figure out what you're eating and post here. We'll clean it up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 08:33 PM Flag
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Thank you for this perspective, I’m 115 and feeling my legs are chunky lately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:44 AM Flag
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Now, not ugh. You're still a valuable human being...so embrace you. I've gained 20 lbs in the last 6 years. Parents died, kids had issues, husband traveled, marriage was shaky. When I was at my best weight I weighed myself daily, worked out an hour a day and tracked all my calories. Then, I ceased to do each of these one by one and I've gained. You've been a person who was not obese before. Return to those behaviors and give it time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:44 AM Flag
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This is so good "you've been a person who was not obese before. Return to those behaviors and give it time" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:48 PM Flag
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When was the last time you had a physical? I know my thyroid seems to drop each year and that makes a big difference in my energy and weight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 12:46 AM Flag
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You are a size 12 because I am normal sized 115 pound person and they tell me I am a 00. I do not have negative mass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:12 AM Flag
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5'4" 115 is not a size 00, are you kidding me? I am 5'3" 115 and I wear a size 4. I used to weigh 98 lbs before I had kids and I was a size 0. You're probably a size 2. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 06:24 PM Flag
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Can you meet w a nutritionist and health coach, possibly through work or health insurance? You can get a complete physical Also but also try to increase activity, like going on walks, doing yoga to start. I think your weight may be concerning from a health perspective. Regarding clothing sizes and weight, it depends so much on a person’s frame, muscle mass, and how/where weight is carried and what pieces are worn. So ignore all the replies about that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 05:08 PM Flag
[ - ] What’s the best way to remove peach fuzz on face? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:03 PM Flag
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This chick has some sort of device. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:05 PM Flag
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For me, Tinkle razor a couple of times a week. I have very light fuzz, but a lot of it. No irritation (if you do it right), no real "stubble"; much better than any cream. And I just have too much to wax/too light to laser. I will note that the stubborn thicker hairs sometimes need to just be tweezed (I am 50, maybe you don't have this problem yet). They are cheap, so you can use a new one every couple of times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 06:07 PM Flag
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+1 Exactly this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 01:35 PM Flag
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Flawless hair remover. I saw it on TV and bought it. Lifesaver. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 07:37 PM Flag
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I’m doing laser hair removal and also use the Shiseido face razors. I have a friend who raved about them and then read a ton of glowing online reviews. You can purchase from Amazon or depending on your city at a Japanese/Asian market. I’m in La and got mine at Marukai. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.15.19, 10:11 PM Flag
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Threading. I’m too scared I’ll look like hag rid if I shave . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.16.19, 02:37 AM Flag
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