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[ - ] How is the sibling policy for TT private high school in NYC? My older DC is currently in a TT and my younger one will be applying next year. Is there preference? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:19 PM Flag
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Ask the school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:24 PM Flag
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usually there is a sibling policy that benefits the sib. Do you donate? does the school like your kid/you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:26 PM Flag
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We did donate last year, but not much. We are only middle class. Would that really help? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:30 PM Flag
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do they like you kid and you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:33 PM Flag
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I *think* so - everyone is nice, and we know the teaching / admin staff, and chitchat from time to time (during school events, and all that). But that would just be a front they put up for all the parents, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:48 PM Flag
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There is preference if all else is equal, but they will not take a sibling if the scores and grades do not match up unless there is a major hook of some sort. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:53 PM Flag
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General Topics 09.20.19, 08:17 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O of sophomore prep for college process: If the kid doesn't have a list of schools they're interested in, they won't know to find out whether those schools want to see SAT2, so they won't know to take the SAT2 when it's offered. Seems like they need to understand college app process and have a list of schools ready by sophomore year. No? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:06 PM Flag
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you can take the sat2 when you apply. My dd didn't even take her first SAT until June before senior year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:07 PM Flag
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The only schools who wanted to see an SAT2 were engineering programs, and they almost uniformly wanted math plus one science, preferably physics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:13 PM Flag
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I disagree. The small liberal arts colleges want them (call them optional but value them). Middlebury will allow SAT2s in lieu of regular SAT. If your child is applying to the Ivies and the top small liberal arts colleges, 2 SAT2s should be part of the application [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:18 PM Flag
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And while you can take them later, you are likely to do best in a subject when taking the SAT2 immediately after studying it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:19 PM Flag
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DD's bio teacher said not to take SAT2 after bio, but rather wait to take after AP bio. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:25 PM Flag
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How do you gain all of this knowledge? Did guidance counselor tell you, tell dc? Did dc find out on their own? Did you research yourself? I'm just not sure of my role in this complicated process. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:24 PM Flag
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Some of it came from college counselors at kid's high school. Some came from internet research (I really liked CollegeConfidential, though some of the forums can make you crazy. Some came from looking at the web sites of schools we were interested in. But the SAT2 info came directly from college counselor at high school and was later confirmed by a number of college admissions officers. If your kid is coming from Stuy or Brearley or Trinity or Dalton, she is being compared to other kids from those schools. And those kids usually have APs and SAT2s. While many schools stopped requiring SAT2s because they were a burden on poor students or students from mediocre high schools, there is still a presumption that kids from top NYC schools can and should take them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:35 PM Flag
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OP: Super helpful. Thanks. My kid wants to do biochem engineering. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:20 PM Flag
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PP other people have pointed out that having great scores on other SAT2s can't hurt. I also agree with the poster who suggested taking the particular test after taking an honors or AP class, because then you'll be very prepared. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:30 PM Flag
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Wow. Imagine . . . I figured all this out on my own without the internet or my parents' assistance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:16 PM Flag
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Not the same. In our day, there was only the SAT. Most kids took it once, maybe twice. No super scoring. No ACT. No SAT2. No "packaging." No applying to 10+ schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:21 PM Flag
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Uh, incorrect. SSAT2 exams were formerly called "Achievement Tests," and every IVY/ top tier college required them. I took 5. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:25 PM Flag
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Ooooh. I wondered what happened to the Achievement Tests. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:27 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:36 PM Flag
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Yep. Way back in 1981. Although I only took 2. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:37 PM Flag
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^And there was most definitely an ACT. I took that too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:40 PM Flag
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So did I, after only living in the US for one year, with English being my second language. Got into NYU Stern. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:50 PM Flag
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They all need 2 (Georgetown is the only one that still wants 3 I think) so you can just do math and English junior year and you are fine. Since there is overlap with SAT/ACT you will likely be better prepared. And if you are going STEM you can do your junior science instead of English. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:56 PM Flag
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Some majors want these, so figure out that part at least. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:03 PM Flag
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you just take them, understand later in senior year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:18 PM Flag
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Sophomore year is just too early to be thinking about colleges. It does not seem real yet to the kids. Junior year is soon enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:58 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:54 AM Flag
[ - ] How does one become a college admissions counselor? I feel like I might enjoy a second career doing this. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:02 PM Flag
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most work as guidance counselors or admissions officers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:03 PM Flag
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Prior to becoming private consultants? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:05 PM Flag
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of course [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:05 PM Flag
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I prefer my consultants to have no experience or contacts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:00 PM Flag
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I know someone who has been in HYP admissions for 30 years. She got the job entry level straight from graduating (same school). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:58 PM Flag
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Admissions has many different kinds of jobs. You don't start out by being handed 1000 applications to look at. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:59 PM Flag
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np: Actually most of the people reading apps are very young. Not the head or assistant head, but everyone else is in their 20s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:57 PM Flag
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IIRC she got sent on the road to start with. I know because she interviewed me and talked about what she had to do. It was also the only interview where I was invited to stay overnight with the interviewer, who was staying in her mom's empty faculty apartment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:17 PM Flag
[ - ] I just got some devastating news. I need to work, I need to function until about 6 PM without anyone asking me if I am ok. What can I take? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:00 PM Flag
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Two ounces of vodka. I'm sorry for your bad news. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:01 PM Flag
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Awwww .. . sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:01 PM Flag
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is this "you" related or a death in the family [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:02 PM Flag
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oh you poor thing. Do you have any downers? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:02 PM Flag
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A xanax maybe if you have one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:10 PM Flag
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What happened? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:13 PM Flag
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Get up. Take a walk, get a coffee/something to drink. Collect yourself, move the news to 6 pm, get through the next 4.5 hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:40 PM Flag
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What are your options?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:59 PM Flag
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This. For me cannabis capsule helps but takes about 90 minutes to work. I only buy the one that helps relax, reduce pain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:23 PM Flag
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Can't you just leave? Say you had a family emergency (which it sounds like you may have) and leave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Who is applying for K? BTDT and happy to share learnings if you have any questions. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 09.20.19, 04:59 PM Flag
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I need help with boys schools... Collegiate advice?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:16 PM Flag
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That place is the worst, seriously. Have you MET the head of admissions yet? It's also like Lord of the Flies for the kids. For real, avoid. I have no horse in this race. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:18 PM Flag
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^If you're set on K-12, think about Browning. For SS, though, I think a lot of kids want to change by high school, in which case I like A-S best. It's the most balanced in terms of rigor/nurture and also has the best balance of sporty/aggro boys and more artsy/sensitive types. Also more diverse than the other K-8's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:25 PM Flag
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Oh good lord no, Browning is awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 04:05 AM Flag
[ - ] What grade do kids learn multiplication and division? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:56 PM Flag
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Should be mastered by 3rd!!! May schools have backed away from the memorization and just teach strategies. This is bad because eventually you need to master them for fractions, etc... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:58 PM Flag
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My kid's school told me they do it DURING 3rd. Is bad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:59 PM Flag
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Op: mastered by the end of third. Get flash cards!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:01 PM Flag
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ITA. I think it's easier to memorize them if you work one by one. Our school introduced them too fast I thought. Just practice with DC as they introduce each table. You can print a lot of free worksheets online. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:06 PM Flag
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or else what? Lolz. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:47 PM Flag
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I thought kids learn staring 3rd g but mastered by 3rd g?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:00 PM Flag
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THIS is correct. Introduced in 3rd . . . master by end of third. Flash cards are $3 on amazon. Many free smart phone apps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:20 PM Flag
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Kids learn better if they make their own flashcards. Read it, hear it, say it, write it, repeat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:38 PM Flag
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This, and why pay for flash cards! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:00 PM Flag
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They should be 3rd but many hadn't mastered them. Luckily DC's 4th grade teacher was amazing and kept sending multiplication worksheets almost every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:00 PM Flag
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by end of 3rd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:01 PM Flag
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By 3rd. We spent summer before 3rd doing flash cards . . . really . . . just 4, 6, 7, 8 that require the most attention. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:18 PM Flag
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True, but you won't win on Countdown if you can't do your 75, 125, and 175 tables as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:38 PM Flag
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2nd/3rd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:47 PM Flag
[ - ] If you leave money for the babysitter and DC to order dinner, how much do you leave and how much do they spend? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:52 PM Flag
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50-70 If you have to ask... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:54 PM Flag
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Just order it for them before you leave [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:57 PM Flag
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np I lean toward this, but I also remember how cool I felt at 14 years old, ordering delivery, paying for it, tipping, and setting it all out for the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:59 PM Flag
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I leave the pw to my seamless, she usually spends 30-50. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:12 PM Flag
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I nannied before we had Seamless, and when my charges and I had a "sleepover" my employer would usually leave about $50 and I'd ask the delivery guy for a receipt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:32 PM Flag
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Wow, that’s a lot actually. I remember working at a law firm and our limit was $25 or something like that, if we worked past 10pm. The babysitters ordering food for 50 or even 70 dollars - that’s insane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:11 PM Flag
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This is why we never go out--just too expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Question: how (and notice) does your spouse let you know when hosting guest(s)? overnight? and when spouse arranges DCs friends? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:28 PM Flag
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Would you consider rephrasing the question? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:40 PM Flag
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Examples: "texting to let you know DC's friends are over this afternoon for a swim", or "sending Google Calendar invite to let you know, you're not invited, but just to let you know that I'm having people over from work over Sunday for drinks", or "in person OK if DC's friends sleep over night after tomorrow?" moments later "oops I meant tomorrow night" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:49 PM Flag
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Ah, okay. I do all of that in our family -- DH is male. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:59 PM Flag
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He will usually mention it as soon as it comes up, maybe a week ahead that so and so will be in town and wants to crash with us overnight. Usually it is a grade school friend who is in town for work and staying at a hotel for a conference but once the conference is over comes and stays with us overnight. It only happens once a year. If it is his brother and sister in law we know way ahead of time and it is only for easter and maybe one other time they come up from florida to go to the theater. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:50 PM Flag
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^^sometimes dh will text me about it, but usually an in-person convo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:51 PM Flag
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DH just tells me when his family will be staying. Hate it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:51 PM Flag
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how often do they stay? for how long? how many people? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:11 PM Flag
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I do all of the planning, so almost never does dh plan for anything, certainly not playdates for the kids. 1-2 times a year an old firend of his or a relative will come and stay and he will run it by me a week ahead. His mom comes every chritstmas and we don't discuss it other than which specific day she will be arriving so I know to make sure our apt is clean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:17 PM Flag
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I SAH so I arrange everything and only bring it up if it impacts the weekend. We rarely host guests and when we do it is family so there is back and forth about dates before anyone buys a ticket. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:29 PM Flag
[ - ] DC has great stats 1550+ SAT. 800 from two SAT subjects, 3.9 unweighted gpa, interesting ECs. Coundelor suggesting to apply early action to his safety school (flagship public at another state) with acceptance rate of %75. Does this make sense? 63 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:16 PM Flag
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Why not? Early action is not biding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:22 PM Flag
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+1 It was a huge relief when dd got into Michigan early. Took a lot of pressure off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:05 PM Flag
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Why would this kid apply out of state to a school with a 75% acceptance rate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:28 PM Flag
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Curious why the flagship school wouldn’t be Michigan, or something similar, with those scores. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:35 PM Flag
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op: safety [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:51 PM Flag
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Pick a better safety. Like Alabama which has a 50% acceptance rate. How bad is this school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:56 PM Flag
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Did the counselor say why? Is it because there is a high chance of your DC getting a full ride there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:24 PM Flag
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Is this the high school counselor, or a private counselor you are paying for advice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:27 PM Flag
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op: private, we're paying [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:33 PM Flag
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I need more info. What type of school is he coming from? where does he rank in his class? what are his target and reaches? and most importantly..what is his EC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:35 PM Flag
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Sure, why not. Most state schools have rolling admissions, so it is not some restrictive EA and not binding. Why not get it out of the way. Did the counselor suggest any other EA/ED? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:39 PM Flag
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op: we decided not to do ED. couple more EAs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:41 PM Flag
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Where? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:44 PM Flag
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np-i'm a consultant. You should have done ED. I'm sure your consultant told you this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:53 PM Flag
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When is ED due? I’m a parent of a 9th grader. Have no idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:15 PM Flag
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halloween [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:19 PM Flag
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NP. Curious. Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:57 PM Flag
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bc colleges want "sure things" (and preferably full pay/sure things). This helps their yield and their bottom line. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:20 PM Flag
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100% this!!! Look at the acceptance percentage for ED1, ED2 (for schools that have it ) and then regular decision. A small school may accept 50-60% of ED1 applicants, 25% ED2 applicants, and 8-10% regular decision. Last year Dartmouth filled half it's class with ED. So does Haverford. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:38 PM Flag
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Most schools fill 50% with ED. They use RD to make their acceptance rate look really low. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:45 PM Flag
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Yes, this is Admissions 101. And I can't tell you how many parents are resistant to this concept. They pay me a lot of money then resist my advice, and they are let down in RD. Instead of doing Chicago early, they do Yale SCEA, get deferred then rejected from Yale and rejected from UC. It's a poor strategy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:46 PM Flag
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Are you yelling OP why to do ED or OP answering why they decided not to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:44 PM Flag
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Does that mean you can't apply early anywhere else? What other schools does DC like? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:40 PM Flag
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Why is his safety school a weak state school out of state? I don’t get it. Why not a stronger out of state school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:50 PM Flag
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so here is the thing. Those stats are ubiquitous for top 30 schools. So having some schools "in your pocket" is a good thing early. Target schools are tricky for you bc in reality, a target school would be BC, BU, Fordham, Syracuse, colgate maybe, Bucknell, Trinity maybe, conn college. Because the top 30 schools are just so competitive you can't put them in the target basket [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:51 PM Flag
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NP. Oh, please. DC can apply to school better ranked than this list. Give me a break. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:53 PM Flag
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or-of course he can! I'm not saying he can't. I'm saying that he can't count on getting in RD to top 30 schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:54 PM Flag
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Yes he can. Top 30 he will get in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:13 PM Flag
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ok, well i know a lot about this and without some other things in his profile, no guarantees and more likely rejection. ESPECIALLY in RD. So you are wrong. Name a school in the top 30 that you are confident he will get into and I'll tell you who gets into that school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:17 PM Flag
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Get a life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:29 PM Flag
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stay in denial mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:34 PM Flag
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NP with a DC who went through this a year ago and this is absolutely sound advice. Lots of people do very well in HS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:18 PM Flag
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op: what was your DC's stats and where did s/he get in? can you also give examples from her/his friends? I'm looking for evidence that this is sound advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:27 PM Flag
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np. Dc had stats like that and this is absolutely true. We put non-ivies/SM in the top 30 into a match list based on hitting the 75th %tile. Boy were we wrong. Rejected from half the matches. Sure, got into a few good schools, but we shouldn't have considered many of them matches. I mean schools like CMU, WUSTL, Georgetown, Tufts, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:01 PM Flag
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Pp from above: you got into multiple top 30 schools. That was my point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:45 AM Flag
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Yes. Lock something in, then hope that some of your reaches work out during regular. Surprised that you aren't trying ED somewhere though. That's usually the best chance to get into a reach [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:54 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:59 PM Flag
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Kids feel better when the know they have 1 good school in the mix. When decisions start coming out there will be panic as Ivy after Ivy is negative. EA is not ED [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:56 PM Flag
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A school with a 75% admit rate is not a good school. There has to be a better use of time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:14 PM Flag
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op: exactly. my concern is "time". the idea that DC will spend his time for supplemental essays for a safety school doesn't make sense. initial plan was to work on it on christmas break after everything else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:30 PM Flag
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Why is this his safety school? Why not a stronger out of state college. Mississippi state has a more competitive acceptance rate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:33 PM Flag
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np-what schools are on his current list? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:38 PM Flag
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So don't do it. duh. Whatever. I've been through this twice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:48 PM Flag
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Tulane is good for this. He will get in EA, probably with merit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:09 PM Flag
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He should ED to his first choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:13 PM Flag
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op: first choice is either harvard or stanford. we're told that since we're not legacy or donation family, doesn't make sense to do REA to EA to harvard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:51 PM Flag
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If you think you have a shot at Harvard or Stanford your safety should be UNC or IT or UCLA. Or Georgetown for goodness sake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:57 PM Flag
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The problem is everyone thinks they have a shot at Harvard & Stanford. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:16 PM Flag
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We were told by our private consultant that there was no advantage in doing Stanford REA, to just apply RD. She wanted dd to apply EA to UChicago, MIT and Michigan. Our TT school wanted us to REA Stanford. She was deferred than ultimately rejected. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:09 PM Flag
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Where did she go? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:50 PM Flag
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UChicago which she applied RD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:00 PM Flag
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The road to hell is paved with kids and their parents who thing scores get you into top schools. That is not the case AT ALL. Scores can keep you OUT but they won't get you in. That is the trick and the thing people can't wrap their heads around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:21 PM Flag
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Melodramatic much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:30 PM Flag
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so look, I know more about this than you will in 10 lifetimes. I was the author of probably one of the most commented on thread this year to do with admissions. I most likely know more about the the matter than 99.999% of everyone in the industry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:35 PM Flag
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The road to hell is paved...wtf. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:42 PM Flag
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It is sad that this is what makes you feel relevant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:43 PM Flag
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so this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:49 PM Flag
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Which book is it??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:51 PM Flag
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She was the author of a post on UB. Not a book. Lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:45 AM Flag
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when I got to the part I did LOL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:01 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:30 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 02:03 AM Flag
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I wouldn't bother with a school that accepts 75% of applicants - contrary to what ppl here are saying, your dc WILL do much better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Bear with me here; i recently left a job in large part bc I was essentially being bullied/ shut out of my job by a male colleague and nothing was done about it. This person had an HR complaint many pages long about him from multiple sources. Recently a former female colleague at the same place was summarily let go for 'bullying'. Side note - she is a person of color, and the other man is white. She has hired a lawyer. While obv bullying in any form is not ok, it bothers me that they received such unequal treatment for the same thing. I don't think she knows about the HR complaint against him. Would you do anything if you were me? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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If you want to tel her you should. Maybe her bullying was worse. Are you worried about repercussions for yourself for getting involved? [ Reply | More ]
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I am worried about that for sure and also not sure i trust her (for obvious reasons). But more so that I have colleagues still there who are suffering bc he is a POS. [ Reply | More ]
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oh and other side note - this dude is on the revenue side [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:22 PM Flag
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Send an anonymous letter [ Reply | More ]
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SO this asshole is getting women fired or forced out and you aren't sure if you should get involved? At the very least, call the other woman, or her lawyer if you don't want to call her directly, and let them know what happened to you. [ Reply | More ]
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i don't think he had anything to do with HER leaving (they don't work directly together) but the management were certainly happy to fire her and not to fire him, doubtless bc he is in revenue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:53 PM Flag
[ - ] I'd like to send someone a tasteful (not 1-800-flowers or the like) gift basket - to be delivered by tomorrow! cutting it close! any suggestions on companies that do this nationwide? needs to go to Texas. or if anyone has a local delivery idea in dallas, tx, I'd appreciate it! 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Overnight is tough, but I’d check with Chelsea Market Baskets, Manhattan Fruitier or Zabars. [ Reply | More ]
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Overnight will be hard. Try Amazon or local stores. [ Reply | More ]
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New Braunfels smokehouse is in Texas, maybe they can pull it off? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:23 PM Flag
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Manhattan Fruitier does a lovely job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:25 PM Flag
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Bouqs if you're okay with just flowers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:28 PM Flag
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Bouqs if you're okay with just flowers. [ Reply | More ]
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I always phone a florist near the recipient directly. A funeral home could give you a recommendation (then tell the florist who recommended them). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:41 PM Flag
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+1 look up a local florist, see if they have a website with photos, call and describe what you want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:10 PM Flag
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This- the top local funeral home will know the best place for you to order, may even be a link on their website. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:49 PM Flag
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I like zabars baskets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:51 PM Flag
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Can you just look up a local florist and call them directly to put together something unique/beautiful? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:59 PM Flag
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Look at Goldbelly. You could overnight something unique to NYC or Texas specific. [ Reply | More ]
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THe thing to do is find a local place in the city where you need it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:38 PM Flag
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Call a local florist in the town where you want it delivered. NBD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone offer advice on helping an overly negative kid navigate social issues? DD (age 11) comes home every day with a litany of complaints about who said something mean to her, who excluded her, and who was a bad friend. When someone does reach out and try to be her friend, she acts annoyed by them and is dismissive. I’m at the end of my rope trying to give advice, and when I do, she gets upset and tells me I just don’t understand what it’s like. We’ve taken her to therapy before, but it’s done no good because she doesn’t open up and share with therapists, only me, and I don’t feel equipped to help. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I am so sorry to hear, I am int eh same boat. As hard as it is, we should stop giving advice. I know I can't help it quite often myself. I try to just listen and ask questions. As for helping, I try to keep DC busy and bring her to activities right after school so she has fewer chances to start whining. But evening are really hard, she loves to start whining just as I am turning off the lights. Some kids are just negative, my sister was like that at this age. [ Reply | More ]
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Very typical for girls at this age, constant, daily drama. I went through the same. I listened, offered advice, and relayed stories from my childhood which thankfully, I still remember. [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds like she needs to work on building up some resilience. In the meantime, she is venting to you instead of processing the negative emotions. Teach her about how to process negative emotions, how emotions are just the brain's messages for the body to react and that they are not going to hurt her. When she starts venting, ask her "do you want me to just listen or give you advice?". Keeping her busy is a good idea as the previous poster said. I am so into this mental health hygiene stuff and I am always using it on my kids and one of them is very reluctant but then she does absorb it and uses the tools so know that she is hearing you, just reacting in the moment and not feeling receptive. The best time to teach them about emotional intelligence is when they are feeling good/neutral not in the middle of processing an incident. [ Reply | More ]
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We're getting some of this now from our sixth grader. I think they enjoy the drama. [ Reply | More ]
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Is her name Arya? Does she keep a "list?" [ Reply | More ]
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this is pretty normal. my dd who is not overly negative and has always navigated social situations well, said a I lot of this stuff at that age. with that said, it's not the worst idea to keep looking for a therapist who could help her. it is good that she's telling you. maybe have a get together with some kids and parents to help the social thing outside of school. also, get in more EC's. I've found that friends made doing EC's really really help tween and teen girls as they can be friendly without the pressure of the school dynamics. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] are your kids attending the climate march today? 112 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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No. Instead, we've made a commitment as a family to once a week go around our neighborhood picking up and recycling all the plastic water bottles that people discard. We are also planting wildflowers, which are great for pollinators this year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:22 PM Flag
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Good for you. Marching and clicking is great, but what about actually making a difference in your day to day life? [ Reply | More ]
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np. ITA, my kids never turn off the lights, waste tons of materials for arts and crafts, ask to drive when we could bike, etc. We can improve our life-style and I prefer to work on that rather than march. [ Reply | More ]
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Agreed. There's something so self-congratulatory about the FB postings I see about how someone's children will be marching today. Do something and don't post on FB about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:32 PM Flag
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But if you did something and didn't post on FB, did you really do it? And was it worth it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:33 PM Flag
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Yep, and I wonder how many plastic bottles and other trash the marchers are going to leave behind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:39 PM Flag
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Very good point. [ Reply | More ]
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Eyeroll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:15 PM Flag
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On a similar note, I just went to Trader Joe's for the first time and was horrified by all the prepared food and how much waste that produces. I know it's quite popular with exactly the people who would be marching today. Ironic that they will buy chopped onion in a plastic container when it takes 2 minutes to chop and you can buy it in no packaging at all. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: packaging on all levels blows my mind. I think back to when I was growing up and food just wasn't available like that (at least in the area where I was). I remember, though, my mom bemoaning the fact that my brother would walk a mile to the local Dairy Mart so he could get one of the packaged subs (she thought it could be prepared just as easily at home). [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, everything in single serve portions, available all the time. Costco packaging is ridiculous too. [ Reply | More ]
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np A few days ago I was at a supermarket in which the bell peppers were individually shrink wrapped. At least they weren't on foam trays, but still... [ Reply | More ]
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Can you not paint everyone with the same brush? I loathe TJ and all the packaging, prefer to shop at the farmer's market with my reusable bags, AND my kids are marching today. Enough with this "same kind of people" crap. There is no kind of person. [ Reply | More ]
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I said nothing about ALL the protesters, but rather found it ironic that Trader Joe's clientele is very woke, yet buys massive amounts of packaging. [ Reply | More ]
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"I know it's quite popular with exactly the people who would be marching today" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:43 PM Flag
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Well you clearly are not marching, so why take offense? [ Reply | More ]
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"my kids are marching today" - you really have reading comp issues, even when it's words you wrote, don't you. [ Reply | More ]
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But you? [ Reply | More ]
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TJ is popular with people who don't have a lot of money. It's much cheaper than every other store (and can't buy everything you need at farmers market). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:34 PM Flag
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Can't be cheaper than cooking at home for many of the things they sell. And I know a lot of people who do not lack resources. [ Reply | More ]
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aawww sweetie, if we dissected your life, we would find plenty of ways your family is ruining the earth. Get off your high horse, [ Reply | More ]
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I didn't say were doing everything right. I just hate lumping people into groups. [ Reply | More ]
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News flash: everything on FB is self congratulatory. Why is this any worse than posting about Debbie's dance recital? [ Reply | More ]
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No. I drive an suv, wear synthetic clothes, take cabs, and drink out of plastic water bottles. Hardly a role model for climate change. [ Reply | More ]
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Np: I ordered 1-2 items from amazon 10 times in the last week. [ Reply | More ]
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That means you were driving to those stores. I used the Amazon boxes for storage containers so I'm buying fewer things at the Container Store. [ Reply | More ]
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If you are in NYC you can walk to a lot of stores. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:36 PM Flag
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Not everyone is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:37 PM Flag
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Hence the "if". But many people are, so driving is not the only alternative to Amazon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:40 PM Flag
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Isn’t using amazon better than driving yourself to get the items since amazon makes large shipments at once? [ Reply | More ]
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We're vice-versa. I've been steadily changing our habits at home over the last five or six years, from reducing electricity and water use to eliminating single and most multiple use plastics. We don't have a car and rent one 2-3 times a year for a weekend of errands. I shop used first, local second, and foreign things only when we truly need them. We don't take vacations out of state and only go where we can use public transport. DCs complain about it all of the time, so when they wanted to take off for the march today, I refused. When they walk the walk, they can tell other people what to do. [ Reply | More ]
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DD is not in high school yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:22 PM Flag
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Mine are too old. One is at work and other in college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:24 PM Flag
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No, but our elementary will take the kids out to walk around the block. They made signs in school this week. We talked about ways to use less and recycle more. One DC even thought we should go vegan (no way!). [ Reply | More ]
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No- they are 4 and 6. I’m not aware of anything happening in preschool and first grade. I might have considered taking them to the local march myself, but I am an ER doctor and I had a shift starting around the same time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:48 PM Flag
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But I’m driving my Prius to work! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:48 PM Flag
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But you could carpool! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:49 PM Flag
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I suppose I could. Have to find another Vermonter in my small town who wants to come back home at 2am. That should be easy, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:54 PM Flag
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I was just kidding! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:57 PM Flag
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Lol! You never know on here! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:06 PM Flag
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My 7th and 9th graders are going about their day as usual. They do know a lot of kids who are going and a lot of kids who are using this day to stay at home or do other things because it is basically a free day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:50 PM Flag
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Yes. 15. It’s history. We also live it as best we can [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:56 PM Flag
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Anyone have a seltzer water machine they recommend? I need to stop buying so many water bottles. All the ones I see online get such mixed reviews. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:56 PM Flag
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Love my SodaStream. We used to consume ungodly quantities of sparkling water. We still do, but with infinitely less waste. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:59 PM Flag
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Do you honestly think it's going to make a difference? Not to be a Debbie Downer. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: I think awareness is a good thing. Will it make a direct difference? Probably not, but in the long term, it's part of the process. [ Reply | More ]
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My hope is that it gets politicians to see that acting on these issues will score political points. [ Reply | More ]
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ITA. Hopefully businesses too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:22 PM Flag
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The only way to make a difference now is with our purchasing power and how we vote. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:35 PM Flag
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Now they know how people will vote. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:41 PM Flag
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Well, you can vote people out of office. Are you dense? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:45 PM Flag
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Absolutely, it puts pressure on politicians when millions march. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:29 PM Flag
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I am not a big fan of school preaching a certain position on social items (for lack of a better term). teach the science instead. [ Reply | More ]
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That is why DOE said the schools are not to be involved. [ Reply | More ]
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Climate science IS science. The only thing “social” about this issue is how the GOP has curiously made science political. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:43 PM Flag
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x1,000 [ Reply | More ]
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What people think they know about climate science, from listening to the media and Democratic politicians, is largely misinformation. For example, many people believe that hurricanes in the Atlantic basin have been increasing in frequency and/or intensity. The stuff that's bloviated in these climate marches just spreads more of this kind of misinformation. [ Reply | More ]
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I will give your opinion it’s due consideration. [ Reply | More ]
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gah, *its [ Reply | More ]
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Just giving you the facts. Not something that climate alarmists would be interested in. [ Reply | More ]
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Facts? Sounds like you have a one liner about hurricanes and snuck in an opportunity to bash news sources and Democrats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:32 PM Flag
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The earth is warming, but not as fast as most of the models have predicted. None of the dire warnings made 20-30 years ago have come true. The problem is manageable over the long term without requiring a drastic makeover of the economy. The various "Green New Deal" policies that Democratic presidential candidates are bidding on will cause far more damage than benefit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:17 PM Flag
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You are wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:51 PM Flag
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Please..the melting of the polar ice cap, the shifts in seasons, the disappearance of species, the hottest summer in recorded history...all this is liberal propaganda? [ Reply | More ]
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In 2005, the NOAA set up a network of thermometer stations across the U.S. that were carefully located and shielded to prevent any external factors (e.g., urban heat islands) from biasing the readings over time. The data from this network shows that over the past 14 years there has been net zero temperature increase in the U.S. You can see for yourself: https://www.ncdc.noaa.gov/temp-and-precip/national-temperature-index/time-series?datasets%5B%5D=uscrn¶meter=anom-tavg&time_scale=p12&begyear=2004&endyear=2017&month=12 . [ Reply | More ]
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I would argue that the dems are the ones making climate political. going back to Al Gore. probably further. [ Reply | More ]
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CLIMATE CHANGE IS SCIENCE. IT IS NOT A SOCIAL ITEM. [ Reply | More ]
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When poor people have to live in smog infested places it is social justice. You privileged lot will learn when they come for you and rip your heads off. [ Reply | More ]
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*a social justice topic. [ Reply | More ]
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It can fall in both categories at the same time, it doesn't change he fact that it is science. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:11 PM Flag
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Lady, you’re scaring us [ Reply | More ]
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GOOD. YOU SHOULD BE SCARED. [ Reply | More ]
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I am. People think science is a point of view. [ Reply | More ]
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Agreed x1000. This is why I agreed with Packer’s article and some doe schools are doing it. See 75 Morton and 41. [ Reply | More ]
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No, DD's school said parents would have to follow normal procedures if we wanted to sign kids out and participate, but that in solidarity kids should wear a shirt with a picture of an animal on it to school. DD wore her llama shirt. Not sure how that helps. [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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Was the shirt made in China? [ Reply | More ]
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Mine are. I should have told them they could go if they spend the entire week turning the lights off in their bedroom and bathroom when they leave the rooms. If they forget once, they can't go. But I thought about it too late. Good to be marching, but they are not realizing that they contribute to the crisis themselves as well. [ Reply | More ]
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My kids take out about 3-4 water glasses each every day, sometimes change outfits twice, 3 times, never turn off lights, yet DS suggested we (meaning I) start washing the dishes by hand. [ Reply | More ]
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You should tell her that dishwasher actually uses less water than washing it by hand, unless they wash it in a bucket. But yes, if your kids are so passionate about it, THEY should do dishes by hand. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh yes, I had that conversation. But no way to hand-washing, they will just leave me greasy plates and cups to rewash. [ Reply | More ]
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I love this and agree that marching is easy but making and effort everyday is much harder. [ Reply | More ]
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They'll do what you teach them. My DDs are 2 and 5 and never leave the lights on when they leave. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, my 10th grade DD is. [ Reply | More ]
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yes. I told them the future of this planet depends on the youth [ Reply | More ]
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Okay, lots of discussion about what kids/families aren't doing, but what can we do? I think what we do at home/with our families creates a consciousness...even if it is reducing plastic consumption, or like PP, planting wildflowers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:45 PM Flag
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That's all good. But voting matters more. [ Reply | More ]
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Voting is an occasional event, picking up plastic bottles, planting wildflowers, turning off lights, reducing the amount of sheer plastic waste is something you and your family can do throughout the year...plus it engages your children. [ Reply | More ]
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np. We should be doing all 3 - at home every day, voting and engaging in campaigns/voting with our wallets. Unfortunately individual level efforts only help a little bit. We need sweeping changes, like banning plastic bags. That would be a huge win. [ Reply | More ]
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PP: My point is..let's do everything, but also make our children activists by actually doing something..that's the way you raise kids into adults who give a shit. [ Reply | More ]
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I agree with you. My 6th grader was not allowed to march because I don't think she cared one iota about the strike. I told her it is a good opportunity to think about all the times I try to explain why buying bottle is bad or that she has to turn off the lights when she leaves a room. [ Reply | More ]
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bottled water [ Reply | More ]
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Give up your car and fly less. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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Ours was March 13 [ Reply | More ]
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So self-congratulatory in all the smug FB and IG pics but none of these people actually do anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:39 PM Flag
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As opposed to you, who just bitches on UB. Go you! [ Reply | More ]
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You don't know what she does. Her point is, there were probably a lot of hypocrites at the rally. [ Reply | More ]
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There are probably a lot of hypocrites anywhere. So what? Does that make the march less worthwhile? [ Reply | More ]
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Something is better than nothing. Awareness is important. [ Reply | More ]
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I just hope not a lot of trash was left behind [ Reply | More ]
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No, dd 10 year old school did not participate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:59 AM Flag
[ - ] A realtor approached us and said he has a buyer who wants to see our house. He's coming today to preview it. I keep my house pretty tidy in general, but when you are showing it to sell, its a whole different situation. I'm realizing how many little unsightly corners I have!! I've spent the last two days cleaning up every little thing so that it is perfect. At least it has motivated me to do ALL of my never-ending To Do list. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I hated when our house was on the market. I had no place to put clutter etc. but a small bin in garage. It was nerve wracking. [ Reply | More ]
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That's why I'm hoping this interested party just buys it without us having to list it. Coincidentally we are planning to list it early next year. This would be AMAZING to sell it without listing. [ Reply | More ]
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My friend sold it herself. Saved on the realty fee. It was a hot market where she was. 1 day on the market and poof! [ Reply | More ]
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That would be even more amazing!! If this works, we would love to save a little on the realtor's commission. [ Reply | More ]
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You'll still pay the agent representing the buyer [ Reply | More ]
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Right, but that would cut the totally commission paid by 50%. That's huge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:26 PM Flag
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I won't be selling my home until a few years down the road and I am already in that mental state. I notice every ding and scratch. I've already started purging every closet and cupboard. [ Reply | More ]
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We were planning to list it early next year (which is why this is amazing timing) and I've thankfully already been cleaning/purging too. Closets all look clean and organized, no major unsightly areas. Even still, getting every little thing up is so time consuming. I believe in showing a perfect house to potential buyers--if you don't show them any obvious areas of concern, they won't look for any! [ Reply | More ]
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^^and one of my jobs today is to wipe every smudge, fingerprint, etc off the walls. [ Reply | More ]
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We put half our stuff in storage when we were selling. And it was a seller’s market! [ Reply | More ]
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My house is very uncluttered and tidy in general. But I have three kids! I've spent the last two days really getting every little pile of stuff put away. Fresh flowers out, walls wiped down, all patio furniture cleaned thoroughly. I don't have time to put anything in storage, but honestly, I'm not even sure what I would take out. We don't have a lot of stuff around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:24 PM Flag
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The goal was to make it look almost staged. Like no one was living there. [ Reply | More ]
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Ah. Well you can tell we live here, but I don't have a lot of pictures around and it is generally fairly minimal. No knick-knacks. [ Reply | More ]
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That's how I felt the few times we rented out our vacation home by the week. Somehow the shred of desiccated parsley stuck to the bottom of the vegetable drawer had been invisible to me, but I knew the renters would notice it. Lots of work! Good luck with the showing though -- may it be your last one! [ Reply | More ]
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lol! The parsley just made me laugh. But its so true!! My eyes are suddenly seeing every tiny little thing. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My 4 year old has recently shown an interest in sewing, and has asked me to teach her. I am actually pretty ok at sewing, but I’m drawing a blank about how to make it age appropriate. Any ideas ? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Punch holes in felt with a hole puncher. Get her a large plastic darning needle (yarn needle). Put yarn on it. She can sew a basic Xmas stocking. Put glitter paint on it afterwards. She can glue cotton balls or a fake fur top around the opening. (preK teacher). I wouldn't try a sharp needle yet. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks so much ! Where do you think I can get a plastic darning needle ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:05 PM Flag
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Do you have a crafts store near you? Or internet I guess. [ Reply | More ]
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I’m at work in the garment district , it’s more a matter of figuring out which of 347 stores might carry it ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:15 PM Flag
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I think a blunt metal one would work too. [ Reply | More ]
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That could work too. Obviously monitor her as she works..I worked in a preK and some kids put plastic beads up their noses, in their ears etc. I had to be very cautious. The metal one likely can pierce felt without hole punch. [ Reply | More ]
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We also did crafts with cut out cardboard with punched holes so their fingers could get more nimble (fine motor skills). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:20 PM Flag
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there is a michaels arts and crafts on 22nd street maybe [ Reply | More ]
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np. Buy a small kids' kit that comes with one. ITA with OR, start teaching her different stitches, the different ways to attach 2 pieces of fabric. Maybe start cutting simple shapes, for example a simple rectangular tote would be a good project after the stitches. [ Reply | More ]
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Just teach DC to be careful. [ Reply | More ]
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michaels arts and crafts sells some of these in kits with everything included. you also see sometimes in target dollar bin. can also search under 'kids lacing activities' [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, dollar stores are great for things like this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:26 PM Flag
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Cross stitch is great for this age! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:23 PM Flag
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Start with felt, yarn and a broader needle with a big eye. Kits like this are also good: Wild Friends Adventure Sewing &... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01MXSCBXH?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share [ Reply | More ]
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I just saw kits for felt stuffed animals. The kits are absurdly costly, but you could make your own by cutting out the shapes and having her sew and stuff them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:45 PM Flag
[ - ] This weather is so weird. What would you wear to the theater tomorrow night? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Jacket or cardigan over dress. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 02:55 PM Flag
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Cardigan? From the Crimea? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone here have a Kyleena IUD? Do you still get a period? Any positives or negatives with this IUD? Thanks! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I have the Mirena "the only IUD in the Bayer IUD family that's recommended to treat heavy and painful periods" it was an adjustment. 11 months later no period! But the first 3 months were non stop period, and the next 7ish months long periods like 2ish weeks decreasing flow, could get by with pantyliners (before was diva cup + a pad so big I felt like I was wearing a diaper + thinx panties and hoping I didn't bleed through). [ Reply | More ]
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I have Mirena. I got it for heavy periods. I spotted for about a year. Then I had no periods for a year or two. Now I get spotting regularly about once a month (like a very light, spotty period). [ Reply | More ]
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I have Kyleena since early this year. Much lighter periods but ongoing spotting throughout. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Moms who have been through the college app process: Is there anything helpful to be done during sophomore year? Study SAT words? Researching schools? Trying to lessen the load for junior/senior year and hopefully avoid paying a consultant. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 02:26 PM Flag
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researching schools with over a 50% acceptance rate and learn to love those schools bc that is where most will end up [ Reply | More ]
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this! spend majority of time looking into the middle of the road schools and not touring all the reach schools [ Reply | More ]
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i would also add that you should not tour ivy leagues. A) you are sending an unrealistic message and B) most likely wasting your time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 02:46 PM Flag
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Even if DD would be 4th generation at Ivy school? [ Reply | More ]
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yes [ Reply | More ]
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Lol- my kids are 4 and 6 and have already been to Dartmouth for homecomings, reunions and just-passing-through trips about 10 times already. Can you tell where mom and dad went? [ Reply | More ]
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My dcs eliminated many Ivy's by touring. Princeton felt horrible to my dc who was very academic and somewhat nerdy. He said it felt stifling. Similarly Dartmouth was too rural. But we travel in those areas so it wasn't a hard trip to make on a vacation time. [ Reply | More ]
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np. My kid felt the same way about Princeton, and when she asked the tour guide about what they did on weekends, she said "Well, Philadelphia and NYC are close." It seems like a very serious grindy place which is great for those who love it, but not my kid. [ Reply | More ]
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Call me basic but make sure they know how to do their own laundry, get stains out, dry stuff so it won't shrink. How to budget (if you plan on giving them any money to buy stuff). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 02:53 PM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 02:56 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
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Yes! Starting late middle school, each DC had to make dinner once a week for the family. Started with tacos, pasta, but DC (now a freshman in college) learned to make a mean pesto and some great meals in the instapot. [ Reply | More ]
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NP I'm doing this w/DS, b/c eating meals was surprisingly one of my biggest stressors once I had to move off-campus. My mom was a fantastic cook, but very commanding in the kitchen--she would only let me do sous-chef tasks, and so I was not prepared to make a meal from start to finish. [ Reply | More ]
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it's not basic. I've been told by a college consultant that one of the first things they ask dc is if they can do their own laundry and other similar questions to get a sense of their maturity, independence and knowledge of managing grown up life. [ Reply | More ]
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We did a few college tours (not formal ones) whenever we were traveling to get a feel for the town nearby etc. Dcs eliminated a few off their list. Some felt too preppy for them. Some felt too "suburban but not rural". So that's the gist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 02:56 PM Flag
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Observe and listen to who your kid really is...behind the grades, the extracurriculars, the noise. Does he thrive in smaller environments? Is he ultra-competitive? How does he handle the pressure? Can he self-advocate? I've seen so many of my friends' kids go to colleges which were poor fits....super-shy kids in big, ultra-competitive schools. Very social kids who love to party in academic pressure cookers. The point, to me, is not finding the bragging rights school but finding the school where our kids will thrive and blossom. Finally, but importantly, find out what percentage of graduates are employed in their fields after 6 months. They may claim they don't have this statistic, but they do...you don't want your child to invest 4 to 5 years of his life, and you a ton of money, in a school which does have a healthy career placement function. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:04 PM Flag
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So this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:55 PM Flag
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Agreed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:05 PM Flag
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1. Start your kid on reading the New Yorker magazine. It is an amazing resource for grammar, vocabulary, and reading comprehension. 2. Start practicing for the PSAT on Khan academy for free. If your kid gets the National Merit Scholar status, while the NMS scholarship amount is not material, there are many colleges that give full tuition or full ride merit to the NMS applicants. 3. Research colleges for the major your kid wants, and run net price calculators to have an approximate idea on the net cost. 4. Have your kid take both practice SAT and ACT to see which one he/she scores better on. 5. Meet with your kid's guidance counselor now and keep the communication lines open so that by the time the GC has to compile the recommendation, they know very well who your kid is and what your goals are. If you are at a large public school, GC's are most likely overwhelmed. Give them some tools to help describe your kid in the best possible light. Our GC was nice, but young and inexperienced. He was pushing crappy schools for my son who wanted to get into a state flagship. My son's SAT score was towards the bottom of the accepted range. I called the GC and told him he needs to "package" my son by highlighting his huge community service commitment, and other non-academic credentials. My son got in. [ Reply | More ]
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Am I allowed to meet with the guidance counselor about this stuff? I just met her for the first time last night at open house. I gave her a sense of who dd is, what she wants to study, and what our goals are in terms of college. But I felt like I was totally overstepping. She said dd should look on naviance, but I don't think she would have any way of evaluating the information on her own. Every time I bring up the topic of college, dd gets overwhelmed and shuts down. I feel like, if she understood how to take ownership of the process, we'd all feel better about it. [ Reply | More ]
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NP. I don’t think my parents ever met with or contacted my guidance counselor. But that was 1999 (my senior year). Is this a thing now? And just want to say, I can totally appreciate wanting your kid to take ownership [ Reply | More ]
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That’s amazing you recommend The New Yorker. Back in 2003 when I was prepping for the MCAT, my Princeton Review course came with a subscription to a news magazine so we could be up to date on current events for the writing portion of the test. Our choices were Time or Newsweek. New Yorker for high schoolers? Times have changed [ Reply | More ]
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I recommend it not as much for the current events as for the benefits noted above. English is my second language. I came to the country in 1989, and took SAT in 1990. My math score was 700, my verbal was 320. I took the test cold as I did not even know there were review books for it! Fast forward thirty years, and I recently decided out of curiosity to do the verbal part of the SAT. I scored 760 and I attribute it to the fact that I read the magazine every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:55 PM Flag
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Lololol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:48 AM Flag
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Will the Paris Review do in a pinch? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 12:47 AM Flag
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Consider whether your child should be taking any SAT 2's this spring. Often the US History class taken by sophomores matches up well with the US History SAT 2. Bio/Chem/Physics are much more dependent on the syllabus of the particular class, with Bio often the one that matches up best. If your child is finishing pre-calc, then look at Math 1. [ Reply | More ]
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I would not waste time on SAT 2 unless the colleges on the list require it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:53 PM Flag
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A lot of schools don't require them but like to see them. And for kids applying from competitive NYC schools, they are generally expected [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:55 PM Flag
[ - ] i moved back into manhattan with youngest kid, was in the burbs. Kids here don't work. That is a major difference. So many kids get their working papers (from their guidance counselor) and get jobs at 15. Ice cream shop, deli, grocery store, starbucks etc. Do kids in manhattan work? my kid says none of his friends work. 74 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 01:33 PM Flag
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I raised my kids in the suburbs. They didn't work; neither did their friends until maybe the summer before they went off to college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 01:38 PM Flag
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op-well times have changed. Most kids work now, it's kind of "cool" to have a job. But I haven't seen this trend in manhattan [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 01:43 PM Flag
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Come over to Brooklyn where us proles live and don't have to compete with adults trying to make the rent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 01:44 PM Flag
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Lots of adults trying to make rent in Brooklyn, which also has the same minimum wage as Manhattan. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not disputing that, but since OP seems to think that this is special to Manhattan, and obviously knows nothing about Brooklyn, I'm throwing him/her a little bone to crunch on. Brooklyn is full of family owned businesses. In my neighborhood, every other store has kids working in them. They are working with their parents. [ Reply | More ]
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This! Bklyn is NOT cheap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:23 PM Flag
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We're in Manhattan and our DCs work, but they work online from home. Older DC teaches English online to kids in China in the mornings before school. Younger DC is writing and posting content for an affiliate marketer. They each make about $600/month, and half of everything they make goes into their college funds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:31 PM Flag
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+1 DD proofreads and edits papers for other high school students and charges per word. [ Reply | More ]
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how old is your DC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 01:40 PM Flag
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15 [ Reply | More ]
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I think most parents think there's more valuable in using HS time to study. The only thing you'll learn at a minimum wage job is why you need to study so it's not what you're doing as an adult. It does not teach a "great work ethic" because I grew up LMC and worked my way through HS, college and law school and I'm the laziest fuck you'll ever meet. [ Reply | More ]
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I learned that I hate working for other people. [ Reply | More ]
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this might be the most inane post I've seen in a long time [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sorry, I'm not paying 50K for private school so they can bag groceries for $10 an hour [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not either [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 01:53 PM Flag
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NP-that is exactly the attitude that colleges DETEST. Signed admissions expert [ Reply | More ]
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While the comment above was kind of obnoxious, it would be nice if college admissions were a little more introspective and less snobby themselves. Shouldn't the mission of colleges be to teach / educate the next generation and advance research? Why care about the donations, the sports and all the other extracurriculars? Shouldn't colleges seek to educate most, if not all, people? No, instead, they only want a tiny % of the population, the ones who will serve their institution and reputation the best, as opposed to looking out for the education of the next generation. Pot call the kettle black. [ Reply | More ]
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or-you comment is silly. There are 3K colleges and most have an acceptance rate of over 70%. Not sure what colleges you are talking about [ Reply | More ]
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I don't disagree, but I doubt that an "admissions expert" who posts on this board and cries foul is associated with colleges that are not selective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 02:29 PM Flag
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ILY [ Reply | More ]
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What does one thing my have to do with the other? [ Reply | More ]
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Ita [ Reply | More ]
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You are really clueless. Guess your part time job did not teach you how to deal with people. [ Reply | More ]
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I agree. I am actually very hard working but never had a job during HS and my parents got very angry when I wanted to take a waitressing job during college. They told me I need to focus on school and that kind of job was inappropriate. And no, we are not 1% ers. Later on I realized what goes on in the service industry and am happy that I was basically forbidden from working there. [ Reply | More ]
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+100. If you push your daughter to work as a waitress I'd say there's a 50% chance, if not higher, that she will experience sexual harassment. I was groped. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:27 PM Flag
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Hard to get jobs. More adults are taking them. My dd only got an ice cream job after 18yo. Babysitting is option [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 01:59 PM Flag
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Employers are less willing to hire teenagers these days. [ Reply | More ]
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lol, not true [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 02:05 PM Flag
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In Manhattan, it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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not at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 11:05 PM Flag
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Before you judge, have your 15yo go out and try and find a p/t job here in Manhattan that works around school hours. Let us know how that goes! [ Reply | More ]
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op-i plan on it but you sound kind of silly. I'm in the restaurant business and there is NO ONE to do prep and we would kill for teen applications so stop [ Reply | More ]
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Where are you advertising? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 02:09 PM Flag
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op-have your kid come by. Really. They can do it. [ Reply | More ]
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I live in south Brooklyn where she's already been offered a job in a craft store when she reaches the age to get her working papers. I'll keep your restaurant in mind though. The commute might eat up all her earnings but it's your principle that matters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 02:16 PM Flag
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working papers are available for 14yo teens. They just can't work in factories and a few other weird criteria but 99% of jobs [ Reply | More ]
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Re-read my post: "when she reaches the age to get her working papers." She is 12 at the moment, but thanks for the duplicate research. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 02:21 PM Flag
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Not 99% of the jobs by any means. The hours 14 and 15 you can work during school year are very limited (and summer has restrictions as well). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 02:42 PM Flag
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Really? When you can get an immigrant for so much less? [ Reply | More ]
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This is a definite troll post, no restaurant in NYC has "NO ONE" to do prep, immigrants fill those jobs as soon as they come up [ Reply | More ]
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Fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 09:21 PM Flag
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Post the name of the restaurant. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you talking school year or summer? Because between the commute, HW, and one sport, my kids do not sleep enough during the school year as it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 02:09 PM Flag
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The burbs are less diverse - read there is less cheap labor. NYC is full of people who would do all those jobs. [ Reply | More ]
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op-really? bc all those minimum wage workers live in.....manhattan? brooklyn? please tell me. [ Reply | More ]
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You must not have stepped a foot in Brooklyn if you think poor people don't live here. [ Reply | More ]
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The OP doesn't know jack shit about anything. [ Reply | More ]
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You're losing credibility every time you post something. [ Reply | More ]
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It's a troll. [ Reply | More ]
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Are 15 yr old allowed to work legally in NYC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 02:31 PM Flag
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of course [ Reply | More ]
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Yes but since they can only work limited hours they are not exactly desirable employees. And given the $15/hr minimum wage law in NYC, they are really expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 02:41 PM Flag
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yes - they need to get working papers, but that's easy. [ Reply | More ]
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My 15-year-old tutors online and in person. He makes about $100 per week and worked as a counselor during summer. DH and I really worry because it takes up a lot of time and results in less sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 02:33 PM Flag
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My kids pet sit and dog walk for our building. [ Reply | More ]
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One of my european friends was big on the teenage jobs for her DD. Said DD fall in love with a deadbeat fellow waiter, got pregnant and left highschool w/o finishing. No thanks ! I'd rather my DD to relax and pratice her violin, she barely has time to sleep enough already. [ Reply | More ]
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>fell [ Reply | More ]
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you sound fake [ Reply | More ]
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Oh please. [ Reply | More ]
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I work in a kitchen environment--it is very harsh. We all talk like sailors, some people come to work high or get high on a break. It's not a pretty life. I love it but my kids are too soft to deal with this. [ Reply | More ]
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NP I worked at baskin robbins after high school and it was pretty tame but after college I worked in a couple of restaurants. I did not realize so many people use drugs or drink that much all the time. It was crazy. Lots of sleeping around too. I would not want my kids working at a restaurant that has a bar in high school, but a coffee shop or bakery or ice cream shop would be okay. I think working in a restaurant is important, I just think 16 is young for some of the stuff that goes on. [ Reply | More ]
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ITA. Bakery, barista jobs all OK. Hard core sous chefs no. [ Reply | More ]
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Honestly, I think it's more about the parents' image than it is about whether or not kids work. I worked since I was 12 and never stopped and so glad for it. I can outwork anyone. I have a comfortable life (divorced with 2 dcs) and worked very hard (still do) for it. Live in a very affluent neighborhood. My oldest works at 14. She loves it. The pride of having a checking account (me as custodian) and putting money in and being able to start making financial decisions (small as they may be) is confident building. And she gets the value of a dollar. That our $100 sushi nights are NOT normal. Oh, and she is in two AP classes, sport practice 2.5 hours every night. The things our generation of women worry about? Money and being financially dependent on asshole DHs. I won't let that happen to my kids. [ Reply | More ]
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I think though the challenge is in NYC there are not a ton of jobs for kids under college age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:10 PM Flag
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We are in suburbs, and my daughter has been working since she turned 15. It's not easy to find a job at this age. The only reason she got the job was because it was a local ice cream shop which we have been patronizing since she turned 9, and the owner was so impressed with her assurance and assertiveness when she was choosing flavors for her backyard birthday party. We became friendly and he told her, maybe jokingly, to ask him for a job when she turned 15. Well, she did and got the job. Then, the business became very slow, and her friend, who already worked at an athletic apparel store, helped her land a cashier job. The money is not huge as she only works once a week for 4 hours during the school week, and the minimum wage where we are is $12 per hours. In the summer, she worked about 2 times a week for 6-7 hours stretches. She uses the money to cover expenses such as going out with friends, and now, she is also responsible for filling up the car we got mostly for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 03:24 PM Flag
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There is value in working, even for no or little money. I come from an UMC background and worked in some capacity every summer since I was 13. I grew up in DC and worked in my parent's offices doing filing and answering phones. I was an intern/page on capitol hill, I was counselor at summer camp, I was a lifeguard and a babysitter. I learned early how to deal with different personalities, how to do grunt work, and how to take constructive criticism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:26 PM Flag
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All good points. If the jobs are there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 04:59 PM Flag
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I did same as you, raised two kids in burbs, youngest in Manhattan. DS works during the summer in the town where our beach house is. ALmost none (maybe one or two) boys in his class work and it's the same as us -- at their summer houses. None of his classmates work in the city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 05:40 PM Flag
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It's generational. 30 years ago all teenagers worked. Now they don't. Which is bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:23 PM Flag
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the kids i know in manhattan don't need the money!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 06:30 PM Flag
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I moved from the city to a fly over. The lower? middle? class kids do work although it seems to be more of an experiment (a few weeks at best, very few work for months) than for income, skills, references, trying out a career, etc. Here you can babysit at age 11, and you can work at 14. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:15 PM Flag
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The wealthier kids do not work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 07:15 PM Flag
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Underachiever men have the jobs that used to be for youngsters (grocery bagging, newspaper delivery, mail room, copy machine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.19, 10:37 PM Flag
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my 14 year old got working papers and had a job for several weeks this summer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.21.19, 01:11 AM Flag
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