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[ - ] thoughts on the real estate market in manhattan? My chelsea apt just got appraised for about $300k less than I thought it was worth and I'm bummed. we don't have to sell immediately even though we are bursting out of it but i'm worried we missed our opp to sell for more in 2016 and wont get it back. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:13 AM Flag
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Wow, I would have thought Chelsea would have held its value. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:20 AM Flag
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it's possible that our apartment hasn't held it's value? We have had 2 kids and they have trashed it a little bit but not sure what appraisers see past (it remains structurally intact after all) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:26 AM Flag
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You'll get it back for sure. You just have to wait. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:47 AM Flag
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i hope so - this was a dispiriting day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:28 AM Flag
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Things change--neighborhoods change. What street? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:30 AM Flag
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19th st [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 04:10 AM Flag
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Dumb area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 04:17 AM Flag
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Darn. This whole time I never realized I live in a dumb area. Now I know I’ll be sure to move. What anthropomorphized areas of New York City do you credit with greater mental acuity pray tell? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 05:01 AM Flag
[ - ] My oldest (15) just got his PSAT score back. He got 1410. I have no idea what the range is. Is this a good score? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:03 AM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:03 AM Flag
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Yes, great score. Total possible is 1520 on the PSAT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:05 AM Flag
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OP- it doesn't sound great. 1420 out of 1520? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:07 AM Flag
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Did you take the SAT/ACT?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:08 AM Flag
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OP - yes, but decades ago. I'm 50. I thinkI got a 1200. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:12 AM Flag
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Vba. They provide ranges with the results. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:07 AM Flag
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OP- give me a break. He is my first. It means nothing to me. I thought people got 800s out of 800s in SAT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:10 AM Flag
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It's a very good score. The results should show you what his projected SAT score might be. Look at his percentiles-if he's in the 99% he might be eligible for national merit depending on your state cut off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:17 AM Flag
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OP- I thought National Merit is when you take PSAT in Junior year? He's a sophomore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:24 AM Flag
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Yes, NM is calculated on junior year. That's a really good score for a sophomore. His score will likely be higher next year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:27 AM Flag
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NP - I mean some do, but most kids don't get perfect scores. You should see a % with your kid's result, but I"m guessing a 1410 is a pretty good score. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:17 AM Flag
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Mine made a 1280, which he says is the 96th percentile. I haven’t looked at the score report yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:29 AM Flag
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^^^Second child [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:31 AM Flag
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My DS got a 1400 and was nowhere near national merit (California). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:33 AM Flag
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I got a 1390 in the '90s on the PSAT. That was a great score then. I assume 1410 is a good score now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:36 AM Flag
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^esp. for a sophomore! Did he do any specific prep? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:37 AM Flag
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OP- nothing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:50 AM Flag
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Sophomore got a 1460, did fantastic! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:51 AM Flag
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Well, I guess you never figured out Google? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:30 AM Flag
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My sophomore got 1430, next year as junior got 150O [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Thoughts on Haverford? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:59 AM Flag
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Love everyone I've met who is an Haverfold alum - smart, sharp, nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:00 AM Flag
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Same. I wanted to go there but dad made me go to a UC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:05 AM Flag
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Aww, thanks xoxo an alum whose DC isn't interested. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:08 AM Flag
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great school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:09 AM Flag
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Very nice school. DH went there. Thinks it’s too small. Spent junior year at big Ivy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:12 AM Flag
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op: thanks all. Seems like a very nice place to go to college (and so close to Philly if a student wants to go into town for dinner, etc)! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:38 AM Flag
[ - ] There is very little evidence that parenting impacts children's intelligence or outcomes. Sure, malnutrition, abuse or over parenting can limit a child's potential. But for the vast majority of us we are just spectators. My wife and I also prepped. We also constantly take our children to wonderful activities. It would be great if this had some long term impact, but the overwhelming weight of scientific evidence is that it won't. Enjoy your kids. Try your best. But don't sweat it. Caring too much will ruin both your lives and help noone. IT IS OUT OF YOUR CONTROL. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:56 AM Flag
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I agree for the most part but I am very thankful we could expose our kids to so much great stuff here in NYC. They are now in their late teens and love theater, science, and art. They enjoyed our wonderful museums and libraries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:59 AM Flag
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There aren’t museums, theatre, libraries anywhere but NY. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:02 AM Flag
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Lol. Here in flyover, we simply watch our burned out TVs. Or our pitbulls fighting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:08 AM Flag
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Sad that you think that. And funny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:10 AM Flag
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Irony is clearly missing in Manhattan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:13 AM Flag
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I think it's like height. We're genetically programmed to reach a certain level. Bad nutrition, stressful environment might impact that level negatively. But all the healthy food in the world is not going to make a child who is genetically predisposed to be 5'2" into a six footer. And all the flashcards and enrichment and early reading and 3 year old violin playing is not going to give a child who is genetically predisposed to have an IQ of 100 an IQ of 120. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:01 AM Flag
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IQ and height are not fixed contrary to popular belief, research has shown. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:13 AM Flag
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Not fixed, but there is an upper limit. I'm 5'3". I had excellent nutrition growing up. My parents are short too. All the good nutrition and desire in the world was never going to make me 5'10". Bad nutrition could have caused me not to reach 5'3". I think IQ is like this. You can make it lower, but you can't make it higher beyond a certain genetically predetermined point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:21 AM Flag
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You know we’re deep in a second gilded age when this level of fatalism about social and intellectual mobility has taken hold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:14 AM Flag
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Access to books had the biggest impact on my life. It made me curious and wanting to find more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:01 AM Flag
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How can this possibly be true when there is such a huge gap between the poor and rich [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:08 AM Flag
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I don't believe it's true. A lot of our makeup is nature, but nurture definitely plays a part. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:11 AM Flag
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There have been a ton of studies that show is of well off children is higher [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:11 AM Flag
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What I meant was, I don't believe OP's post is true [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:13 AM Flag
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yup most recent research contradicts OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:36 AM Flag
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Poor are destined for more poverty and rich kids destined to oppress others? No idea —this post is drivel addressed to the neurotic 1% I guess? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:13 AM Flag
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Nature/nurture can be hard to study (obviously no randomized controlled trials) but as far as I understand there is pretty compelling evidence that language acquisition in children is profoundly affected by how they are spoken to/read to by their parents or adult caretakers, and kids with educated parents who talk/read with them more have huge advantages here. So I think there is at least decent evidence that some aspects of how we raise kids matter quite a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:15 AM Flag
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Erin Currier, director of Pew’s financial security and mobility project, said “Children raised in families at the 90th percentile can expect their own family income to be three times more than the children raised at the 10th percentile." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:43 AM Flag
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This doesn't explain causation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:45 AM Flag
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How do your parenting methods affect your child's future? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:46 AM Flag
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Since my kids are grown and doing fantastically well, I disagree with your statement. Poppycock I say! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:31 AM Flag
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so are you saying your genes are terrible and they defied that? Is your IQ low and theirs high? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 04:00 AM Flag
[ - ] If your DC does really well on the verbal and writing portion of the SAT (well into the 700s/800 writing), but less well in math (low 600s), is that a deal breaker for selective colleges? She isn't applying for a STEM program (obviously). 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:55 AM Flag
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It's not a deal breaker for many very good colleges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:56 AM Flag
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No since she's not going for STEM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:59 AM Flag
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I had this child--with a clear bent (both grades and SAT) for verbal subjects. She got near perfect verbal scores and like 690 math score. She went to Williams. Lower math scores are not a deal breaker, but low 600s, imo, without a hook (recruited athlete, urm, legacy) is still probably too low for a super selective college. Good news is that it is fairly easy to prep for SAT math--your DC is smart and could get that score up to high 600s with some prep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:06 AM Flag
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Thank you. This is exactly her situation. She is definitely going to be ramping up her prep in the coming months. She is looking at selective colleges, but not tippy top (think schools like USC, UCLA, Tufts, NYU, BU, UCSD and maybe Colgate or Scripps). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:03 AM Flag
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She'll be fine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 04:01 AM Flag
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Yes. It is a deal breaker for the upper upper colleges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:31 AM Flag
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She didn't say upper upper. She said "selective." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 04:01 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:45 AM Flag
[ - ] Oh my god. I am trying to do work. I have work I have to do. And my kids are screaming and fighting, and I swear I am about to go beat them. I keep separating them and they keep ending up in the same room, screaming at each other. The next time I drag one to time out, I will have to fight every urge of my being to be gentle about it or else there will be bruises where my finger grasp their little bodies. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:52 AM Flag
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Are you me? Hang in there, momma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:58 AM Flag
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this was me yesterday. just throw in the towel and do tv or ipad until bedtime [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:14 AM Flag
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Stop working to go make it clear that they are to stay separated. Do not waver. Take ten deep breaths. Resume work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:20 AM Flag
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Do it. A good ass whooping and they will never do it again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:27 AM Flag
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Shut and lock your door, turn up music. I work at home with five kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:55 AM Flag
[ - ] DH made me a dirty martini with olives tonight which I consumed on an empty stomach. After a big dinner I am still pleasantly trashed. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:36 AM Flag
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Okay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:40 AM Flag
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Oh, I love that! When my dh does that for me, he can have me all night [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:48 AM Flag
[ - ] I was encouraged by a school mom (when I posted on a school listserve for a sitter) to hire her 16-year-old son to take DS (10) home from an after-school class once a week. It’s now the end of the semester and all went well until tonight when the kid was 1 hour late to pick up DS and didn’t text or call anyone. Once I tracked him down he said he’d been taking a test after school and was on his way. Do I tell his mom or just let it go? I think we’re done hiring him after tonight. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:24 AM Flag
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He's 16. You should speak to the young man. If you do stop using him, his mother may call and I suggest you tell her the truth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:27 AM Flag
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I hate the fact that we're supposed to go through the parents if we hire off DD's school's babysitter list. I refuse to use it for that reason. If you hired a young man who hustled for a job and contacted YOU, he might have been more responsible about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:30 AM Flag
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Op: true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:39 AM Flag
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Speak to the mom after you give the 16yr old a earful, and also leave a truthful review. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 08:08 AM Flag
[ - ] My son got his PSAT results. He is eligible for the National Merit scholarship. Has anyone gone through this? Does he need to submit anything? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:19 AM Flag
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An essay, maybe. Good luck, it's worth 2500 a year, that can make a real difference [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:20 AM Flag
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Did he get close to 1520? Then don't bother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:21 AM Flag
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no, but still in the 99%. But he did take the ACT and did really well there. Does that matter? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:33 AM Flag
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It's based on cutoff scores in your particular state, not the national average. If in NYC, your cutoff score is higher than if in Idaho. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:47 AM Flag
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Congrats! The national merit Corp or his counselor can tell you if you need to do anything further. I don’t think my kids did. Being national merit can mean big bucks ( some schools give big scholarships to nmf) or nothing (super selective schools don’t give anything for national merit). Some corporations also sponsor scholarships for children of employees. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:26 AM Flag
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does he need to submit actual SAT scores? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:36 AM Flag
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If I recall, the college board will already have his SAT scores so no need to submit, and they don't really figure into anything, other than to advance from national merit semi-finalist to national merit finalist. The SAT scores have to basically be in the same ballpark--they don't have to be higher, and can be lower, but I think it's supposed to show that the national merit results were not an anomaly. A corporate scholarship for nmf (I got one MANY years ago) does not require SAT scores usually--it's based on the PSAT score. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:51 AM Flag
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ugh. I wish he had studied a bit for this. He studied and did so well in his ACTs but he didn't do a thing for this one and if he had he may have a chance to be a finalist. His index score is too low. But I think he may get the Hispanic one. The ACTs don't have these type of opportunities [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:57 AM Flag
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The hispanic scholar one is still good and many schools recruit on that. My nephew is at Vanderbilt because they have made a big push in hispanic recruiting, apparently, and he was a national hispanic scholar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:11 AM Flag
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really? How do they know. Do they look at the applications and see it? My son has an American name because my husband is American so colleges would have to see it somehow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:15 AM Flag
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Well, if he is a national merit hispanic scholar he will receive that designation by the college board, and schools will recruit on that basis, as they do for national merit scholars. My nephew has an American last name, btw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:24 AM Flag
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I'd think his guidance counselor will tell him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:32 AM Flag
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SAT score, recommendation letter, transcript [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:49 AM Flag
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Application and essay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:49 AM Flag
[ - ] Kirk Douglas is 102 years old. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:03 AM Flag
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I bet the editors of that Oscars In Memoriam reel have two versions in the works. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:04 AM Flag
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Spartacus does a body good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:06 AM Flag
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No. He had a major stroke in his 80s and he’s been in a wheelchair forever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:58 AM Flag
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aww [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:10 AM Flag
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Lust for Life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:10 AM Flag
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He could have been the poster boy for the Times Up movement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:00 AM Flag
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Seriously. He is scum to the Nth degree! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:19 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone had a parent die and inherit nothing (assuming that the surviving parent is not married to your other parent)? Did you find out before or after that parent died? 36 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:47 AM Flag
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I won't be inheriting anything other than bills. Not a surprise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:48 AM Flag
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You won't inherit their bills [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:56 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:28 AM Flag
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My parents haven't passed yet, but there's no inheritance. I don't know their wishes but at most we will split the proceeds of the house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:54 AM Flag
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Do you been being disinherited, of having a bankrupt estate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:54 AM Flag
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The English prose once again practically trips off the tongue [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:56 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:58 AM Flag
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Do you mean did our parents die broke? Or did they leave their money to someone other than us? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:05 AM Flag
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Father left everything to his wife of 5 years. He was old, feeble, lonely, and desperate for her approval. She never would have married him if she wasn't assured of a payout. I hate that my mother's money went entirely to my father's second wife. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:23 AM Flag
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Men are selfish. What else is new? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:58 AM Flag
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oh wow. please say more. never thought about it in that way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:04 AM Flag
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Not much more to say. My mother died years ago, my father remarried a woman who had her eye on his wallet. She was struggling financially when they met, and he was comfortably retired. She wore furs, bought and sold several vacation homes for them. And then he left everything to her when he died. I'm not surprised, but I'm hurt. I'm certain that my mother is rolling over in her grave at this. She obviously left all of her money to my father. I'm certain that she never imagined that none of her children or grandchildren would ever see any of her money. She trusted him, and he blew it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:19 AM Flag
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got it. i think that would be very hard. BFF's dr dad dropped his wife for his nurse. They were married for nearly 35 years. Her dad basically forgot his first family. When she would go to their home, there were no photos of her, her family, or her siblings and their families on the shelves - only of the second wife. so sad that he never made an effort and that she could not be bothered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:13 AM Flag
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this happened to my dad and uncle. Grandfather left his estate to his second wife, including the house that my dad and uncle built. Step-grandma died 8 months later and left everything to her daughter. My dad was pretty hurt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:36 AM Flag
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My father's estate is going entirely to my stepmother, and to me after her death, but she is only 8 years older than me. I don't think this is wrong -- they've been together 36 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:06 AM Flag
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You are a reasonable person. People like you are in short supply. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:08 AM Flag
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How old are you?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:01 AM Flag
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50 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:28 AM Flag
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My mother got everything when my dad died. My two half-sisters got nothing. They are still upset. My parents were married close to 40 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:29 AM Flag
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It's appropriate that your mom got everything (see below about my dad leaving everything to his wife), but it might have been nice if there was some provision for his other kids in your mom's will. I would feel a little bad if my dad left everything to his second wife, then she left everything to her kids.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:53 AM Flag
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Pp: yes it’s totally effed up and if she leaves me everything I will split it with my sisters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:08 AM Flag
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That's really good of you. I would do the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:09 AM Flag
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I didn't inherit nothing; my brother and I each inherited half of nothing. I got the piano though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:32 AM Flag
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Me. But I wasn't surprised. My dad remarried and everything went to his wife. I sometimes feel a little bad that neither of them thought when he was alive to do something like contribute to ds's college fund or something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:51 AM Flag
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how long were they married? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:05 AM Flag
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a long time. 35 years. She should get everything, but I wouldn't have minded a token gesture. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:07 AM Flag
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I did not inherit anything, but there was nothing to inherit. We had to divest of all their assets in order to support them. I tried to save a parcel of land for my siblings, but we were compelled to sell that as well. If DH gets a payout from his job at some point, I hope to give some money to my siblings. May hold back on giving to brother as he has socked away a lot of money - single, no kids. Sister is not as set and would like to gift money in order that she can put towards retirement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:09 AM Flag
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Is your husband ok with the idea of passing this money to your sister? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:15 AM Flag
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We have not yet discussed, but DH was supportive of my parents without any hesitation. He may not agree, but I am guessing that he will rather give her money to put into her retirement now, than help her out later. Of course we will discuss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:19 AM Flag
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DH is dealing with weirdness after his father's death. His father remarried, but put in his will that his 2nd wife had rights to survivorship on the flat they owned in London. It was all spelled out that if she sold it during her lifetime, half the proceeds were to be put in trust and split between DH and DH's sister. She is entitled to investment income off that trust money, but that's it. Well, we learned through the grapevine that she sold the flat and no trust has been established. Bottom line: DH and his sister have now engaged a solicitor to sort through this situation. I think they're going to be stiffed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:15 AM Flag
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oh how yucky. i'm sorry. That's the last thing you want to hear about when your father dies - that he was mislead/lied to, and now has no recourse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:21 AM Flag
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Yeah, it's a bummer. She just sold the place, using her son--DH's stepbrother--as the real estate agent and bought a less expensive place elsewhere. No one bothered to tell DH or his sister that she had even moved! He found out quite by accident. DH used to have a good relationship with his stepmother, but not anymore. He hasn't spoken to her since this happened. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:39 AM Flag
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i think LuAnn from real housewives did this to her own kids. they sued her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:56 AM Flag
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not defending, but I have heard about this situation with second wives and that they are not able to afford the taxes/upkeep on the property, yet lack money to move into a less expensive home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:21 AM Flag
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I didn't inherit anything, mom was terrible with her money and owed credit cards galore. Funny because her dad is still living and was always smart with his money. All his kids were not smart with managing money, he must have never taught them how to save and budget and avoid credit card debt. You need to teach your kids these things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 04:38 AM Flag
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We believe my mother will leave everything to her temple. She liked me least so I expect nothing from her. The for my father. He plays games with me re money now, I don't even want his money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 05:28 AM Flag
[ - ] WOHMs: what is your workout/gym/exercise schedule/routine? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:46 AM Flag
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Gym before work (swimming or cycling, sometimes pilates), running after work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:04 AM Flag
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Try to go hard on the weekends and squeeze some exercise here and there during week [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:10 AM Flag
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Run very early in the morning. 3x weekly, one of which is wknd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:30 AM Flag
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same [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:42 AM Flag
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Spin class once/week, HIIT class once/week, running outdoors on the weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:56 AM Flag
[ - ] If you traveled to London with DCs, where did you stay? And what were your top 3 places to visit? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:17 AM Flag
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How old are kids? London Tower, London Eye, Tea At Claridges, Changing of guards [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:22 AM Flag
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Also Hyde park, Harrods and Big Ben [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:23 AM Flag
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9 years old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:33 AM Flag
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Berkeley Hotel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:27 AM Flag
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love this place [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:34 AM Flag
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I go two or three times a year with DCs (used to live there). We usually stay on Park Lane which is very central, occasionally near Tower Bridge (the Shard) and sometimes in Notting Hill in an air bnb. Top 3 - depends on ages and interests - but walk around Westminster Abbey, Houses of P, cross the bridge and play at the jubilee playground/London Eye. Some kind of kid theater (War Horse if it's still playing, or Matilda, Harry Potter- walk around that neighborhood). Maybe diana playground/Kensington Gardens/Kensington Palace. If you let me know ages and interests I can recommend more specifically. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:28 AM Flag
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np: going over Christmas with 9 & 12 year old - staying in north notting hill (Ladbrooke Grove) appreciate all recommendations! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:30 AM Flag
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The Langham has a nice family suite. Tower of London, Hampton Court, fancy tea, go to Hamilton for a fraction of the price. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:42 AM Flag
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ditto tower of london and hampton court. my kids loved [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:00 AM Flag
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We stayed near South Kensington. We enjoyed that area because it was a bit away from the touristy spots, but easy enough to travel anywhere we needed to go. Also liked the prices were less expensive, and we enjoyed dinners in that area as it felt very neigborhoody. It would be like staying on the UWS of Manhattan, and travelling to midtown/downtown each day. If you stay anywhere along the blue Picadilly line, you'll be set, FYI. Top things we enjoyed: Camden market, British Museum (but not the kids lol), London Eye (kids more than us), Churchill War Room, seeing a show, having tea, service at westminster [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:49 AM Flag
[ - ] cotillion. yay or nay? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:14 AM Flag
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Big nay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:16 AM Flag
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reason? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:18 AM Flag
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For us better ways to spend our time, but if your family enjoys that stuff why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:21 AM Flag
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Further proof urbanbaby is full of women from Queens and flyover. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:39 AM Flag
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To what purpose? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:16 AM Flag
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For 10 year old DD to learn manners, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:19 AM Flag
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Manners that matter to whom? Do you really think modern families pay attention to that stuff? Even the rich people I know pretty much throw chicken nuggets at their kids' heads. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:22 AM Flag
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NP: You hang out with barbarians. I was raised with cotillion, but taught my kids manners myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:33 AM Flag
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UB is funny tonight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:39 AM Flag
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ok [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:39 AM Flag
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Very sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:39 AM Flag
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Sure, why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:18 AM Flag
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What cotillion? And where? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:25 AM Flag
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Sure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:26 AM Flag
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10 year olds taking dance classes is fun and useful, attending a fully fledged coming out ball in 2019 sounds awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:26 AM Flag
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It’s actually a lot of fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:41 AM Flag
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Yeah cuz that's what women are about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:37 AM Flag
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It's for boys and girls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:41 AM Flag
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I had to go to charm school in middle school. I already had manners but the patriarchal stuff was really off putting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:43 AM Flag
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Absolutely! I love the history of auctioning off a child's hand in marriage. So classy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:49 AM Flag
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No. I'm in the South and apparently this year they told the girls to sit pretty and the boys to stand strong. No thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:21 AM Flag
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Yuck. I'm in the South and they never told my kids this, or my opinionated DD would have been out of there. She had to wear white gloves, which she found to be insult enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:13 AM Flag
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where exactly in the south are yall? I'm in Louisiana and the cotillion here is nothing like it is in the East or the West. In fact it isn't even really about the kids, although they are in it. We have a huge party where the king (a very wealthy old man) and the Queen (a college aged girl from a very wealthy family) reign as if they are royalty and there's the whole weird show. It's only for white people, really only protestants although there are some super wealthy Catholics that have managed to get in, and you have to be wealthy. There's another club within the Cotillion Club that is the Plantation Club and is even more elite, you have to basically own one of the old plantation lands. It's sort of like mardi gras but way more racist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:36 AM Flag
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there's another club, the demoiselle club, that presents girls after their freshman year of college and there's tons of parties where they get underaged kids wasted. It's basically the same people although Jewish and Catholic families have a much easier time getting in the demoiselle club these days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:38 AM Flag
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Omg that sounds arcane. We're in Texas (so I guess it's the south, but it's its own thing) and cotillion is much like it is in the east or west, and very much like it was 40 years ago in the midwest when I was taking what we called "dance class." White gloves for girls, boys in ties and jackets, they learn some dances, manners, introductions--it's good social practice if you've got a social kid. I would never force it on a child--my DD did it in 6th grade and 7th; my two DSs refused and I was fine with that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:47 AM Flag
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haha yeah yall are southerners...technically, but I've lived in Dallas and there isn't much southern about it except the heat and fort worth definitely feels more "west." People don't dress their kids they way we do in Louisiana, South Carolina, Mississippi, etc. and there was a lot less drinking, at least with the people I was around. It's not unusual for a daiquiri machine to be going at a child's birthday in Louisiana, not so in the Big D. Most of our old South stuff are things that the plantation class brought over from England and they don't let many people in. The reason all the oil companies moved from New Orleans to Houston, or so it goes, is because the old money in Nola wouldn't let the executives in any of their "clubs." But yes, our Cotillion is something else here. I just went this past spring for the first time in 20 years and was shocked at how weird it all was and these folk spend so much money on it. It really boggles the mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:03 AM Flag
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lol. lol. lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:58 AM Flag
[ - ] Which degree is more practical: a PharmD or an MBA? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:59 PM Flag
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There's no formula. The practical and driven person will succeed no matter the degree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:00 AM Flag
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Well I've made some impractical choices in the past. Trying to change my ways now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:22 AM Flag
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People would view some of my choices as impractical, but the key is, I learned something along the way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:25 AM Flag
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Are you smart? Can you get into a top 10 MBA? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:06 AM Flag
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Define smart. I have a fancy degree, and I do well on standardized tests. But I highly doubt that I could get into a top 10 MBA for a variety of reasons. More like top 20. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:19 AM Flag
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Not worth it unless top 10 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:01 AM Flag
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Even when trying to transition to a new field? (np) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 04:38 AM Flag
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PharmD. Everyone and their mother has an MBA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:06 AM Flag
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Haha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:22 AM Flag
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MBA because you can use it across disciplines. Trump is trying to destroy the drug industry now and Democrats agree with him- it is literally the only thing they agree on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:02 AM Flag
[ - ] DD's been dating a boy who asked her to Winter Formal. He told her today they never became friends first so he wants to be friends before deciding whether or not they should date. She has a take home test she needs to submit by midnight and hasn't even started it. She's just crying 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:58 PM Flag
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What does the dating have to do with the test? Confused. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:59 PM Flag
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She has a deadline, but instead of logging on and doing her work she's crying over a boy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:00 AM Flag
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OK [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:03 AM Flag
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np I thought you meant the boy gave her a quiz to complete to determine whether she is girlfriend-worthy. That would've been weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:06 AM Flag
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wtf? He asked her to this dance but he wants to be friends first? This makes no sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:01 AM Flag
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No. Who knows what he was thinking. I kind of wish he'd have just been direct and said he didn't like her. Now she's hurt AND trying to interpret what his words could have really meant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:08 AM Flag
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ESL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:02 AM Flag
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No, not ESL. Just baffling, 11th grade boy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:05 AM Flag
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Life comes up when you have to do other things . She'll either sink or swim. Let her be upset for a while, then gently talk about how she should get her test going and she can dwell on her sadness later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:03 AM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:34 AM Flag
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Tell her to buck up! Weeping snowflake! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:07 AM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:01 AM Flag
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I am sorry. Your daughter has to grow some skin and do work [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:27 AM Flag
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He's a little shit and she's better off without him. What a jerk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:54 AM Flag
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I would tell her she's right to be upset, but she shouldn't waste her time with this guy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:55 AM Flag
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Aww I’m sorry. My DD broke up with somebody just as she was heading into finals last spring and it was pretty horrible. I agree with above poster is let her be sad but also remind her she can’t let this guy and his indecision wreck her academic career. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:08 AM Flag
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Thanks for this. I made her some comfort food. She still doesn't seem to be starting her work, but there's not much I can do about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:28 AM Flag
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Sounds like he might be gay and doesn't want to come out yet. Guys don't usually ask to 'be just friends' if girl is into them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:25 AM Flag
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That was my first thought too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:28 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:01 AM Flag
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She does not need to go to the dance with this guy. What an ass. Hedging. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:31 AM Flag
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When DD was 13, a boy said he couldn't decide between asking her and another girl to a concert. I told DD that a boy worth her time would not tell her that he hadn't made a decision - that's information he keeps to himself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:14 AM Flag
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My DD has a boy in her life who acts a lot like a boyfriend, but is in fact "just a friend" because they "don't want to wreck it by dating." My understanding is that the term "dating" implies a commitment, where is going on dates isn't so much of a thing (they just "hang out"). It's a little odd sometimes--I look at the boy she's close to and it's so obvious that they like each other, but I guess they don't want to be tied down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:52 AM Flag
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Hello- He realized he can't afford it - Pls tell her! This was an OUT - I have teenage boys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Private School raising tuition over 4% for next year - how is this sustainable?!?! In a couple years, all-in cost will be $60k. This will definitely push us out of the city. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:56 PM Flag
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Choices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:58 PM Flag
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Ok, so go. (signed public schooled Ivy graduate with 2 kids in stellar colleges also NYC public schooled). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:03 AM Flag
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Good for you!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:17 AM Flag
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OP: I'm not opposed to public school, but not zoned for a good school (had this apt before kids). Also, difficult to sell right now and need the equity to buy a new place. Will just have to wait it out a few years and sell - hoping my kids aren't too attached to the school at that point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:29 AM Flag
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It isn't sustainable and I think the boards of these schools are misguided. They are all mega wealthy and don't realize that everyone is not like them or FA. I am personally fed up with it all (but like fools, we keep paying). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:05 AM Flag
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Things won't change until it affects enough families that they are forced out in droves. Even if half the families are mega wealthy that won't be enough to sustain a school system unless they have to pay double. Hope no one actually tries that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:17 AM Flag
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If you can’t you can’t... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:07 AM Flag
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This is bothering a lot of people. For the first time in many years (my kids are in middle school), I am hearing parents complain openly about the increases. It is out of control. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:08 AM Flag
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OP: Mine are in lower school and I'm not going to be paying over $70k for high school. It's outrageous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:29 AM Flag
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I don't get why anyone would think private school was worth the money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:09 AM Flag
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Oh come on! Different strokes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:12 AM Flag
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"worth" is different to different people. We can spend it every year and not miss it, so it's "worth" it to us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:30 AM Flag
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No one buys it for value reasons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:16 AM Flag
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Been like this for at least 10-15 yrs! Nothing new. Too many with millions in nyc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:09 AM Flag
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K apps are down, so I don't really think this is true anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:10 AM Flag
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Where? Not at TTs!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:12 AM Flag
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Yes, they are down everywhere. There is still much more demand than space, but it has gotten a little easier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:14 AM Flag
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If there's more demand than space, then the tuition isn't high enough! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:21 AM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:23 AM Flag
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Not true- 2012 was the peak (of this cycle). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:10 AM Flag
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They'll keep raising prices until they find the market clearing rate, I guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:30 AM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:03 AM Flag
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This. I bet shaking hands mom would take OP's spot! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:06 AM Flag
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Omg, lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:11 AM Flag
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They said that 3 years ago at 40k. They simply become more and more dependent on rich families, who conveniently are having more kids because it is today's luxury. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:03 AM Flag
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They also admit a lot more kids on financial aid than they did before [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:24 AM Flag
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We're applying for 9th, from public, and our hhi is 275K. We told all the schools that it was a pipe dream for us due to our income and the cost, but they urged us to apply for FA. And several of them acknowledged that tuition is ridiculous, and that they want people like us and are willing to subsidize. We'll see what happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 04:14 AM Flag
[ - ] What is the mystery of this missing Colorado mom of a one month old ?? What has happened to her ?!! 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:45 PM Flag
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Unfortunately, it's probably exactly what you'd expect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:48 PM Flag
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mountain lion [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:49 PM Flag
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She was abducted by a Penn grad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:57 PM Flag
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really ? Fiance ? or Sherry Papini type thing ...? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:51 PM Flag
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np- I assume suicide from post partum depression with these facts alone but I haven't heard anything about it other than this post [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:55 PM Flag
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Link? I've been at work all day and haven't seen it on the main news. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:48 PM Flag
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Watch HLN. It's like the inflight magazine of News. They have all these stories. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:50 PM Flag
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Thanks. My TV watching starts around 10 pm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:53 PM Flag
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I usually watch CNN but I think last night I had it tuned to HLN (1 channel up from my CNN channel) because we were watching Forensic Files. It took me a few hours today to be like wow! An escaped inmate stole a van down in Georgia! And there's this 5 year old who has been stealing packages in his neighborhood! (Wait, why is a 5 year old wandering around a neighborhood?) and a pony and a goat who are best friends. HLN is like the USA purple page. 24 hours a day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:00 AM Flag
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One year old, not one month. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:28 AM Flag
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