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[ - ] S/O Mrs. Maisel having profanity. I just got into the current season of the show. Many of you who said UWS Jewish American Princesses of the 1950s didn't use that much profanity. This got addressed in an episode. She said she had been telling "blue" comedy jokes late at night that she was broken for talking in polite society. Even while saying this, she dropped some f bombs and mourned that she had not planned on talking that way. That it just came out and she never used to talk like that. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:54 PM Flag
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It's a show [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, it is a show. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:03 PM Flag
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I love this show [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:03 PM Flag
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I can't watch it. Way too annoying. The voices are like fingers on a chalkboard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:20 PM Flag
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I think you meant to say fingernails, not fingers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:22 PM Flag
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I think we knew what she meant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:34 PM Flag
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Except I don't think she knew what she meant. I was helping her out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:37 PM Flag
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When Rick Grimes chose to blow himself up at the bridge, do you think it was a sacrifice or he had other motives? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:35 PM Flag
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the more I watch the more I realise how brilliant the writing is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:36 PM Flag
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And Rachel Brosnahan is brilliant [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:42 PM Flag
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Who knew Rachel wasn't just a hooker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:02 AM Flag
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She's Lucille Ball level and I don't think I'm the only one to make that connection [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:09 AM Flag
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Season two is really stellar, imo. The back-and-forth in the first episode is just priceless. The regular script is funnier than her stand-up acts, imo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:09 AM Flag
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I'm not liking the second season as much as the first. The focus is too much on her family members, who aren't that interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:38 PM Flag
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but what a great set up with her dad, to make you understand what kind of person he was and why when he saw her what she felt [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:07 AM Flag
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ITA, but I am 1.5 episodes in. I hope it gets better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:03 AM Flag
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It's seems the definition of smarmy to me. Now that I realize it's by the Gilmore Girls creator, I hate it even more. Disliked that show too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:07 AM Flag
[ - ] MIL was just talking to me about when BIL came out to her. She said she was supportive, but told him she didn't keep secrets from FIL and he had to tell FIL. I was kind of shocked by this. This was only 2002, so it wasn't that long ago that I can say it was a different time. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:47 PM Flag
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What is shocking exactly? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:57 PM Flag
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He wasn't ready to come out to his dad, but she forced him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:58 PM Flag
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Oh, OK. I asked because I also told my DH about our son after he came out to me, even though he didn't want me to tell his Dad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:02 PM Flag
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Do you feel like everybody's sexuality is your business to talk about, whether or not they want you to? Or just your son's? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:09 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:11 PM Flag
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Not shocking. Different people have different comfort levels. Despite the calendar year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:02 PM Flag
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I'm shocked. I wouldn't even tell DH about DD wanting birth control pills if she hadn't been comfortable talking to him about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:05 PM Flag
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It's a VERY big secret to keep between spouses. I can understand. If I were the MIL, I might ask him to tell my dh within a few weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:13 PM Flag
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This. Do you keep a lot of secrets from your dh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:23 PM Flag
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I do not run and tell my husband everything that my teenager tells me. And he doesn't tell me. Usually I say "She said..." and then he tells me "oh yeah, she told me that two or three weeks ago." I *never* get upset with my husband for being the one my daughter confides in. Nor do I feel the compulsion to talk about her to him after the occasions she confides in me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:35 PM Flag
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Um, it's not the same as coming out! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:39 PM Flag
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No, in my opinion my kid's sexuality is even more of a MYOB situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:55 PM Flag
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In every coming out story I’ve heard, the kid tells Mom first. Sometimes Dad only gets told a year later. I always wondered how the mother managed to keep this from her own spouse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:14 PM Flag
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THIS. I wouldn't break my kids confidence but would strongly suggest he/she tell my DH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:21 PM Flag
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I only broke the confidence because I suspected my DH had the capacity, if surprised, to entirely upend his relationship with our son in a permanent way, if he fucked it up. I told him quietly and privately precisely because I knew my son's suspicions about his dad were valid and that he would have said or done something regrettable for a lifetime. I told DH precisely because I wanted him to be prepared for that important moment, and do whatever he needed to do psychologically to get on board for our child when the "reveal" came. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:27 PM Flag
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My cousin is out to her mom, but not her dad. Her dad would have a problem with it sadly. The whole family thinks he's in denial because it's very obvious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:47 AM Flag
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As a parent of 2 gay kids I can tell you that the world still isn't that accepting of it. So every day for a gay person who someone doesn't know that they're gay is a coming out. It doesn't happen once. It happens a lifetime. My kids never know how someone will accept their sexuality. Imagine how that must feel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:08 AM Flag
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You are still my favorite mom here because you get stuff like this that too few people do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:15 AM Flag
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+1 ❤ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:40 AM Flag
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Thanks, my kids shared that point with me. I assumed it was better than ever but they said--mom! every time someone doesn't know I'm gay I have to either decide to share that point if they're being slightly homophobic or keep quiet and not be myself. There's always a moment of the possibility of someone shunning them or worse. I still can't grasp this unfortunately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:43 AM Flag
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You just made me understand it completely. And I don't know why I ever thought it was a one-time thing. a little shame on myself here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:46 AM Flag
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Yes, I understand that. I have two gay siblings in addition to DH's brother. Plus I have a trans BIL who my older sister is married to. My BIL was married to my sister for years and had a child with her before telling her that he identified as a man and not a woman, and wanted to get a number of operations. And that was just telling his wife. It seems like a nonstop, almost daily education of the world on his gender. But I still feel like it should be up to the individual person whether to share that information with someone. You should not take away that person's choices just because you're married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:38 AM Flag
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I wouldn't keep something about our child secret from DH either. Marriage first, parenthood second. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:09 AM Flag
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Someone else's sexuality is not your business to talk about to others or force that person to talk about to others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:40 AM Flag
[ - ] Are muscle biopsies painful? Are you normally admitted to the hospital? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:40 PM Flag
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They will have to put a bracelet on you to do any kind of medical procedure like a biopsy. You're obviously not going to stay overnight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Sad about those Nuns who were stealing from the Till .... 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:40 PM Flag
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ha heard on the radio that they were going to casinos, thanks for reminding me to google [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:42 PM Flag
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I found it hilarious, not sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:42 PM Flag
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The orders in the US aren't really attracting the best anymore. You get bodies where you can get them, this is the result. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:43 PM Flag
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well they were in their 70's i'd hardly call them newbies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:45 PM Flag
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The problems started decades ago. The new ones are crazy, the old ones who stay don't have much more going for them. It's not really a surprise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:48 PM Flag
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it could be a movie...add some Hi-jinks and hilarity will ensue...kind of like The Hangover with Nuns [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:46 PM Flag
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It might end up being one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:04 PM Flag
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and this is why I am no longer Catholic, the Church refuses to prosecute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:49 PM Flag
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And not just because all of religion is all made up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:05 PM Flag
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we are atheists but think Jesus was a good guy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:07 PM Flag
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He might have been a good guy. Clearly more than a little crazy though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:11 PM Flag
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This. You can't have it both ways. If you don't believe in God, what do you think about this "good guy" claiming to be the son of God? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:14 PM Flag
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I'm not religious, but even I know that nowhere in the New Testament does Jesus claim to be the "Son of God." It's always someone asking him "Are you the Son of God?" In translation from Aramaic, then Hebrew or Greek, of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:16 PM Flag
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and what does he say? OR. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:18 PM Flag
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It's all made up from the most unreliable game of telephone ever. Passed down by illiterates and literates who chose what to include in their stories, always subtracting or adding details that helped those in power. The best religions today are basically local community support groups. I have a friend who is a high-ranking member in the Unitarian church. She basically believes in people, not an all-powerful God. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:20 PM Flag
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what's the point, like a community service organization and social club? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:21 PM Flag
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A lot of people just enjoy the community. The service to others. The serenity of weekly communion and prayer and wishing for things to be better in the world. Not necessarily a mindless worship of a God who's going to rain down riches on the most devoted. People in more progressive churches understand that community is best helped by action and not passive waiting to win the lottery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:29 PM Flag
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Lol. So basically their "service" is spent "wishing things be better in the world". that sounds super practical. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:42 PM Flag
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At least religious people genuinely believe that there is a purpose in prayer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:49 PM Flag
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As long as they don't give all their money away to coffers that are already overflowing, I don't care what anyone does. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:52 PM Flag
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Well, since there's no one "listening" it's about as productive as any other service. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:51 PM Flag
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ya I don't go to church or anything, haven't gone since my Communion so don't know much about him apparently haha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:17 PM Flag
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OR^ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:18 PM Flag
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Look at it this way, the nuns weren't going to use Church money for anything else more important anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:12 PM Flag
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They stole from the school they worked at. Parents raised money for programs and projects that never took place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:46 AM Flag
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Priests are supported, nuns aren't. The Catholic Church is a very sexist institution. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:03 PM Flag
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so then it's ok for them to steal and go to casinos [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:07 PM Flag
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Let the nuns have fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:20 PM Flag
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I like you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:36 PM Flag
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If you consider that nuns actually marry the Church and are in turn treated like chattel, they're living off their husband's money as well as anyone should be able to, in their 70s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:41 PM Flag
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I have no feelings about nuns. DD goes to a catholic school that is a cloistered convent and our interaction with the nuns are minimal. All I know is that I couldn't do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:44 PM Flag
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That's what I'm saying. It takes a particular personality to either 1. devote themselves to a complete falsehood; or 2. recognize how much money is involved in religion and go for it. I've seen a kid from a top 5 college drop out prior to senior year and graduation to become "a preacher" because that was more lucrative than finishing college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:55 PM Flag
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PP: I know, believe me. My theory is that they are unable to make it on their own although they espouse higher purpose. Religion is a drug. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:57 PM Flag
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Have you read the memoir Nun by Mary Gilligan Wong or have you seen the movie Novitiate? I don't think the latter was based on the former, but I enjoyed so many details. I'm kind of fascinated with it all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:12 AM Flag
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Neither, but I know what you mean. I think the life of seclusion would but great, but on my own terms. Not interested in prayer or praising god for the rest of my earthly life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:29 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:05 AM Flag
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np Have you read Sacred Hearts by Sarah Dunant? Novel set in a 17th Century Italian convent. Fascinating glimpse into the lifestyle as it was. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:21 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:37 PM Flag
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This! Poor old nuns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:42 PM Flag
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It is typical for the church, ie the Archdiocese to cover up ALL the theft, embezzlement, molestation etc. that is committed by priests, nuns and higher clergy. They let it go on for years and when it becomes embarrassing they pass the trash to another church. There was a case a few years ago of a priest who probably stole hundreds of thousands of $ and frolicked with sex workers in 3 boroughs of NYC. He got fired and pensioned off. These nuns were forging checks but there is also a lot of cash floating around churches and schools for them to steal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:56 AM Flag
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I wouldn't expect better from people who dress like penguins [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 08:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Do other kids do this? Mom of a 10th grader here. She messages her friends good morning every morning and then messages her friends good night every night. This seems very annoying to me. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:28 PM Flag
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I would be annoyed but in 10th grade I would liked that. I'm old and easily annoyed now! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:37 PM Flag
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My dd is in constant contact with her friends. constant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:40 PM Flag
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my teen dd is the same, but a lot of her guy friends are also calling and talking. it's a teen thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:53 AM Flag
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I feel like this is the 2018 version of, "She comes home and calls her friends on the phone. What do they have to talk about? They were together all day at school. But I can't get on the phone at home because she's on it all the time." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:42 PM Flag
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I just don't know if this is annoying behavior I should be steering her from or if it is normal and just something people don't do who are my age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:44 PM Flag
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it is very normal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:30 PM Flag
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Don't get me started...the constant snapchat photos of NOTHING ?? And if the photo/text is left unopened it MUST mean that I'm being ghosted - not that the recipient has a life outside of their screen!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:44 PM Flag
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she might just be keeping her streak up... don't bother questioning that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:11 PM Flag
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We don't allow SnapChat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:15 PM Flag
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My 7th grader does this. I find it encouraging. I was made fun of in school all the way to high school. This was pre Internet. I'm glad DD isn't called ugly by the whole class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:38 PM Flag
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Just be happy that your 10th grader has friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone been watching the Romanoffs? Potential spoilers below... 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:27 PM Flag
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I can’t believe how fucked up the adoption episode was. I can’t imagine leaving the original baby. I’d feel like she was mine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:29 PM Flag
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What happened? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:58 PM Flag
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Oh, I can. They'd been through hell and were offered a child with obvious and severe problems. Bait and switched. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:51 AM Flag
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I saw up to the Diane Lane / Piano Teacher one ..is this one after that ? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes I think there were eight or nine episodes in total, the piano one was more less in the middle [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:06 AM Flag
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Yes I watched all the episodes, despite the huge problems with that show I was always intrigued with what storyline they come up with next and the filming was beautiful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:05 AM Flag
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I'm on episode 3. I loved the episode about the Romanoff Society cruise, it was funny and then tragic. Don't tell me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:34 AM Flag
[ - ] DS came home upset about something and wanted to talk to only me. DH came out with his opinion, and I said: DS and I are talking about this. Could you just let us finish. He said fuck to me and to DS and stormed out to his home office. I went up and said: Why are you speaking to us like that? He said: Don't tell me when I can talk to my son. I said: He and I were speaking. He said: Don't tell me when I can talk to my son. DS came up crying and saying "This is all my fault." Now, the whole family is upset. How do I address this? DS is 14. 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:17 PM Flag
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question -- did your dh act like a total jerk but it's a one time thing and he just blew up, or does he pull stuff like this all the time? I would say if it's a) then he was grumpy and out of line and possibly reacted badly to feeling you were dismissing him but b) he's a jerk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:19 PM Flag
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Good point. Not all the time. He's a quant guy and he wants to solve DS's problem with a nice logical discussion of factors and potential solutions. DS was just feeling down on himself and just needed someone to listen. Having DH swoop in to discuss was so not what DS needed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:21 PM Flag
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You’re not the only parent. It’s not up to only you what ds needs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:31 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:36 PM Flag
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Disagree. DS sought her out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:05 PM Flag
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Sometimes kids need to just vent, they don't need a "solution". It was a hard talk with dh to realize we approach things differently, but now we split the kid concerns depending on what is needed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:44 PM Flag
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This. I just got an e-mail from the teacher who is his buddy who says that he has been anxious in many classses. So, this seems to be some emotional issue he's dealing with...not one of "time management", which was DH's conclusion and approach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:05 PM Flag
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did DH know that your son asked to talk to you alone? he has to respect his kid's choices about this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:19 PM Flag
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DH was in the kitchen, DS and I were in the living room. DS didn't say that he wanted to talk to me alone, but historically when we are in the living roo together and DH is elsewhere, that's because he wants to talk to me alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:24 PM Flag
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got it. my daughter is the same way with me and its been hard for my husband to learn to stay out of it (although he gets sad, not mad). He clearly overreacted but maybe you two need to talk about how you can handle in future -- he still needs to understand/accept that sometimes your kid wants to talk to just you(and similarly you'll need to leave the two of them alone sometimes). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:27 PM Flag
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Thank you. That's good advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:29 PM Flag
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i hope it helps! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:45 PM Flag
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my DH gets into this mood every once in a while, and 10 minutes later it will be over. Even then, I try to avoid the issue totally so we sneak around him as I can usually sense when its coming. If you can, try to broker the deal to get DH to apologize. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:23 PM Flag
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DH did apologize. But, DS is blaming himself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:25 PM Flag
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This scenario has happened in my family too. Dd wants to talk only to me, DH feels left out and hurt that he's not part of our discussion, gets mad and goes to his man cave. Fortunately my DH doesn't get as mad as yours. He just wants to provide practical advice to fix dd's problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:25 PM Flag
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OP here: Exactly. Part of the reason DS is so upset is that he has stayed up too late for the last 3 nights.When I'm home, I'll get him to bed at a decent hour (he just gets lost in something). DH doesn't..he works and then says: Well, I was busy. So, I probably got more upset than usual because DS is overreacting out of fatigue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:27 PM Flag
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Get the three of you together and apologize for overreacting. Then set some guidelines for what to do if DS only wants to speak to one of you. Then group hug, and move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:33 PM Flag
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You’re to blame. You were a a bitch to dh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:30 PM Flag
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not this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:36 PM Flag
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ignore this useless, non-helpful statement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:41 PM Flag
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Did you ask him why he always has to be the center of attention? My dh is like that. Has to be involved in everything and has to take over. The kids talk to me on the side when they really want to talk instead of just listen to him and his ego. He will never change, so this is just the way it works in our household. At least your dh has the ability to apologize. Mine is always right apparently no matter how bad he makes the kids feel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:34 PM Flag
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:( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:36 PM Flag
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It sounds a bit like op wanted to be the center of attention, really, and she didn't want DH to join in. If I were DH in this story, I'd be offended too. So dismissive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:40 PM Flag
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Nah. Sound like he is the kind of person who talks over everyone around him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:47 PM Flag
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np: what do you suggest she should have done instead? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:49 PM Flag
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Spoken like a man. It is not about him. It is about the child. Throwing a tantrum shows you where he is coming from. It does not sounds at all like op wanted to be the center of attention, she was trying to get to the bottom of the issue. Dh just couldn't get over his jealousy and acted like a baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:52 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:06 PM Flag
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No way. It sounds like OP was putting her son’s emotional needs first. For DH it was all about power and not being excluded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:25 PM Flag
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NOPE totally disagree. My teen ds only wants to talk to dh about stuff. I wish he wanted to talk to me but I respect that he needs dh now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:31 PM Flag
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This. "I'm talking to DS now, not YOU!" Both adults in this story sound about 7. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:44 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:48 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:09 AM Flag
[ - ] Are any Scarsdale moms on? I want to see the Macquarie text messages. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:14 PM Flag
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Why would random Scarsdale moms have the messages? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:42 PM Flag
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the guy lives there, and someone leaked them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Doctor says my aunt will die before holidays of cancer according to the doctor. My mom wants to put her on a ventilator. My mom or patient apparently has not signed dnr. She is on morphine and other meds. Will a ventilator prolong her misery? My mother is terrible at making decisions. Will she be the one who has to decide to pull the plug? I am not a medical doctor so sorry if this sounds all over the place. 66 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:14 PM Flag
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Cancer in stomach, liver, bones, and other places. Sepsis and jaundice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:16 PM Flag
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Your mom needs to pull the plug yesterday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:04 PM Flag
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I know. My mother has issues with making decisions. Anxiety ridden all her life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:38 PM Flag
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When my mom was dying (and I was on the other side of the country), the doctor told my aunt that making these decisions were too stressful for her and that she should trust her daughter (my cousin, who I spoke to almost every day during this time) to take on the responsibility. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:02 AM Flag
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Ask to speak with the hospital social worker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:18 PM Flag
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Thank you. I will see if my mom has spoken to them. This is so difficult. My mom can’t make up her mind at a restaurant, forget about a decision like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:31 PM Flag
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I understand. And, the majority of doctors don't really discuss situations. They just fly in, give you a diagnosis, and fly back out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:07 PM Flag
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Tell her no matter what is done for her your aunt will not survive this. And mom needs to make her decision based on what’s good for the aunt, not what’s good for herself or anyone else. Sounds like aunt will end up doing a lot of suffering for no gain or purpose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:32 AM Flag
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Finally found out that she signed the dnr when she was of sound mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:34 AM Flag
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I posted earlier. My stepdad didn't have a DNR and my mom couldn't "let him go." He was on life support with a vent and dialysis for 2 months. The doctors swore up and down to her that he was in a coma, but she insisted he was still aware. In order to prove to my mom that he wasn't aware, they took out his vent and asked him to say something. He croaked "Hello" ... oh my god, he was still "there" ... my mom still couldn't bring herself to let him go and he ultimately died of organ failure a week later. But he spent those 2 months unable to move, unable to recover, unable to die. It must have been torture for someone who could still think clearly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:20 PM Flag
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Is it less painful to go on your own terms without a ventilator? Will this just make it more painful. Everyone is rushing to say goodbye. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:32 PM Flag
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I don’t know but I’m sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:33 PM Flag
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Thank you. This is surreal. Waiting for her to pass is so sad. It is inevitable. I hope she goes pain free and in her sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:35 PM Flag
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My my is undergoing a lot. My dad was diagnosed with brain cancer in Sept. She lost her father last spring and my single aunt ( no children) has been suffering this long battle. The cancer has metastasized 2x over 3 decades. Sad story all around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:34 PM Flag
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My mother* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:36 PM Flag
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How is your Mom in charge of her decisions...is your mom the Health Care proxy ? no DH , no kids ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:48 PM Flag
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Sister has no husband or children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:37 PM Flag
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This is such a difficult situation. I had a long, hard discussion about this when my mother got older. I made sure she had all of her estate planning arranged including all of her healthcare directives. She had a DNR. I used to dread getting phone calls because I always feared the worst. My mother eventually passed away, but it was not a DNR situation in the end. DH and I have all of our estate planning and healthcare directives in place. Both of us have signed DNRs. It is not fair to others to make such a difficult decision. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:53 PM Flag
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If your aunt has no chance of meaningful recovery then a ventilator will prolong her misery and give her no quality of life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:59 PM Flag
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Op- this exactly. Infectious disease doctor said that he will be surprised if she makes it through the holidays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:39 PM Flag
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Yes it will prolong her misery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:01 PM Flag
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I don’t know what my mom’s logic is. She is not well versed when it comes to this. She would rather have others make decisions for her but yells at me and listens to DH (he is in medicine) My mom has undiagnosed anxiety issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:43 PM Flag
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Pull the plug. We give our pets the opportunity to die with dignity and minimal pain. We should do the same for humans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:03 PM Flag
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Talking to my mom about this just makes her angry, cry, and yell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:40 PM Flag
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Sorry. Maybe a doctor will be willing to have a talk with her?’or hospital Chaplin? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:46 PM Flag
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My mom seems to be withholding information. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:46 AM Flag
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She does not call or message unless I prod her. Then she flips out. Crying, screaming, angry, sad and all over the place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:48 AM Flag
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Pull the plug. We give our pets the opportunity to die with dignity and minimal pain. We should do the same for humans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:03 PM Flag
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Not everyone who is dying is put on a ventilator. Not sure where that even came up. If she has cancer she should be in hospice (or already is) . When you have cancer you don't nec. need one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:10 AM Flag
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Not in the hospice. She is in the hospital. Things only turned for the absolute worst these past two weeks but has been ongoing for the past half year. My aunt was very secretative and my mother seldom told us details. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:44 AM Flag
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Situation just changed. She is going to hospice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:33 AM Flag
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Ventilator is the worst. Never, never, never, especially in a case with no chance of meaningful recovery. Don't do it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:10 AM Flag
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Op-there will be no ventilator. Finally spoke to my mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:33 AM Flag
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How does a ventilator factor into late stage cancer? I'm not a doctor, but I watched my father and best friend die from cancers that had metastasized to the bones and other organs. It's not a ventilator thing. Perhaps your mother is jumping the gun a bit thinking that the next chapter is a ventilator? I don't think that's even going to be an issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:08 AM Flag
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Finally spoke to my mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:23 AM Flag
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My aunt signed a DNR when she was sound of mind. Atleast my mom is not the one making the decisions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:23 AM Flag
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We are Catholic. She does not want a wake. Not even closed casket. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:24 AM Flag
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She wants to be cremated and spread in the ocean [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:24 AM Flag
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Good thing that the burden is not on your mother to make the decision. If you want to know about spreading ashes at sea off the coast of California, I'm kind of a pro at it (I've done it 4 times). Every state has its own regulations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:28 AM Flag
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Any info is welcomed. Thank you. This will be done in the Adriatic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:29 AM Flag
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I only know California regulations. I bet the Adriatic is much less strict. Is this Italy? Croatia? Montenegro? Google to see if there are regulations that you need to adhere to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:35 AM Flag
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NP. Its against the Catholic Faith - cremation and spreading of the ash. The reason why is that the Catholics believe the body should be "one body" and buried. Not scattered. Just a little trivia for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:02 AM Flag
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My Jewish uncle was cremated. It happens.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:05 AM Flag
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My very Catholic father was cremated and his ashes scattered at sea. The earth is still revolving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:07 AM Flag
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Op-Yes, this I know. My aunt likely does not care. If I tell my mom this fact, she will freak out. My mom is still figuring out how to explain this to family who expects a wake and funeral. DH and I agree, this was my aunt’s last wishes whether you like it or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:09 AM Flag
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Np please share? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:01 AM Flag
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You have to go out 3 nautical miles or more from shore to scatter the ashes. You will fill out a form that documents the position of the boat at the place the ashes were scattered and that info is filed with a government agency. If you charter a boat to do this, the captain will have all the forms and have you sign them on the boat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:11 AM Flag
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Hospital is going transfer her to hospice as soon as possible. It is like pulling teeth with my mom to get info. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:30 AM Flag
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She is on morphine to ease the pain. Waiting is miserable. We all know her death is coming but the waiting is something I have never had to endure. My poor mother has gone through so much these past three years. She will have to see a doctor after this has passed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:32 AM Flag
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Op-question. My mother really is difficult when it comes to decision making. My aunt’s does not want a wake. She does not want a casket, just cremation. My mother thinks that she can have a funeral mass. How? Get a casket for a funeral mass? We have never cremated a family member. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:37 AM Flag
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There will be so many family members who will want to come and pay their respects and be at the funeral. My mom told me to tell no one that she is getting cremated. Whatever my aunt’s wishes are, my mom and we all will follow. This is just so new and unreal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:39 AM Flag
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It sounds like your mother wants to control this until the bitter end and beyond. It's not about your mother, but you'll have to talk some sense into her. Clearly, your mother has a problem with your aunt's wishes for cremation, but again, it's not about your mother! Good luck. This sounds like it's going to be difficult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:43 AM Flag
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She will follow my aunt’s wishes. My mom and aunt have always been hyper aware of appearances and maintaining a certain demeanor. I don’t want To dwell on it too much but after speaking to my own doctors, they think they both have undiagnosed NPD. My husband agrees. I still love them both but they are both difficult people. Family calls me for answers because my mom does not always pick up the phone (I know she is probably sick of all of the calls no matter how well people’s intentions are) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:00 AM Flag
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what we did wth my Mom, ( Catholic Italian) she wanted to be cremated. We had her funeral with a casket. Then after the funeral, she was cremated and her cremains were buried in the family plot in the urn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:04 AM Flag
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Op-thanks for the info [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:09 AM Flag
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Yes, we did this for my dad, funeral with casket (he was Catholic) the kids carried it into church and down the aisle at church, had the mass and then we did a military ceremony after, outside the church, then we went out to lunch and the funeral home people handled the cremation with the company and they give you the ashes to do as you wish. Some do burial, some do scattering, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:35 AM Flag
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Sorry for all of the random ramblings. Another issue. My grandmother has Alzheimer’s. She did not even know that her daughter had cancer, again. How do we tell her? Her husband just died, now her daughter will soon. Do we just not tell her because she will forget? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:42 AM Flag
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California ash scatterer here: Sadly, I know a lot about Alzheimer's, too. What stage Alzheimer's/dementia does your grandmother have? If she is advanced, I wouldn't even tell her. It will upset you to tell her and she won't even understand. Her lack of understanding will upset you even more because her emotions are not going to be the emotions you would expect from a mother who just lost her daughter. I would ask your grandmother's caregivers for advice. Only they know what she can and can't understand. So sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:48 AM Flag
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I would let the holidays pass without telling Grandma. See how things are with her in January. But now, with all you are dealing with - she does not need to know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:05 AM Flag
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My mom will go visit her overseas once my dad is done with his radiation and chemo. He needs to regain his strength first. What a shit show my life has become. Thank God I have a good DH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:12 AM Flag
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Op-thank you. It has become too much. Our lives have turned into some strange and sad novel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:10 AM Flag
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Nurse here. Please do not intubate. It will prolong her suffering. Yes, she will be "alive" but not really. She can get more infections, sores, she will get poked and bothered by constant care, etc. I dont want to get into the bad details but trust me. Please, make sure hospice and palliative care are involved. Make her comfortable, love her and let her go peacefully. I'm not allowed to say this at work, but it's how I feel dealing with these cases day in and day out at work. I am so sorry . Hugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:25 AM Flag
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Thank you. My aunt signed the DNR so she will not intubate. Thank you for your honest perspective. I have never gone through this. I am worried that her death will happen sooner than later after what the specialists said about being surprised if she made it through the holidays. Perhaps that is the best thing? She is seldom awake with all of the morphine that she is on then jaundice, sepsis and liver failure amid cance is bones, stomach and other places. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:32 AM Flag
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Cancer in the bones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:33 AM Flag
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NP. I was the one who made the decision to take my dad off the vent and let him die as my mom and sibling couldn't understand the medical issues or cope with the decisions (autopsy showed he had lymphoma, was not diagnosed while alive). That decision is one of the only things I don't regret. Get your aunt palliative care but don't put her on a vent, it will only prolong her suffering. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 04:30 AM Flag
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She will not be. My mom finally called to give us the latest information. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 04:31 AM Flag
[ - ] Just found out that dd got into one of her college choices. It's not her FC, but so relieved that she got a yes out of the gate. It will make the inevitable rejections less painful. She feels like a load is off her shoulders! 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Teenagers 12.10.18, 10:02 PM Flag
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I'm not at all surprised. She's fabulous! Congratulate her for me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:03 PM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:05 PM Flag
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This is huge relief to know this before end of first semester and holidays! Congratulations! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:04 PM Flag
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It really is. I'm so glad we listened to her counselor and did some safeties EA. She was getting so down on herself and the acceptance just boosted her back to her old self. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:09 PM Flag
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That's great, my DD's EA does not notify till right before the holidays so not much help there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:11 PM Flag
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So sorry. Did she do ED? That's the one my dd obviously wants, but we won't find out until next week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:16 PM Flag
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Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:32 PM Flag
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Just knowing she is going somewhere is huge! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:13 PM Flag
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Right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:15 PM Flag
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Congratulations! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:11 PM Flag
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Congrats to her! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:17 PM Flag
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s/o do you think you have a right to your dc's SAT or ACT accounts? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:20 PM Flag
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Since I'm paying to send off the scores, I always see the results. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:42 PM Flag
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np. Of course since I am paying for all of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:54 PM Flag
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What school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:04 PM Flag
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Why is that relevant? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:06 PM Flag
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Awesome!!! Believe me I know once they get in somewhere, the stress level in your house drops like 100%. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:31 PM Flag
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Another arithmetically challenged woman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:03 AM Flag
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Another pointlessly nasty person. What a weird way to make yourself feel superior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:59 AM Flag
[ - ] Did anyone not love Water for Elephants (book not movie)? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:59 PM Flag
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^^Cousins raved about it and think I'm nuts, but I got about 75 pages in and gave up. I usually only give books 50 pages! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:00 PM Flag
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I liked it but hated The Goldfinch and Crazy Rich Asians so just remember everyone is different [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:08 PM Flag
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Interesting. I listened to The Goldfinch on audiobooks and enjoyed it, mostly because the reader was great with the different character voices. I think I would have found it a slog if actually reading it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:10 PM Flag
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I liked it but hated The Goldfinch and Crazy Rich Asians so just remember everyone is different [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:08 PM Flag
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I only got 5 chapters into crazy rich Asians. So many people recommended it to me, but I couldn't get into it at all. So unfunny, for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:14 PM Flag
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Me. I didn't like it at all. There was a particular phrase that the author used on every other page, something like "I stared at him" or "She stared at him." It drove me crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:07 PM Flag
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lolz. (np) Now I need to read this to see, ha ha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:11 AM Flag
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the animal abuse in this book still haunts me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:35 PM Flag
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Me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:43 PM Flag
[ - ] How did NYC kids do on PSAT? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:58 PM Flag
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i don't have access to dc's collegeboard account, should i? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:22 PM Flag
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Up to you and your dc I suppose. Mine texted me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:59 PM Flag
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The one they take in 8th? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:38 PM Flag
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No. The one that counts that they take in 11th [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:59 PM Flag
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The one they take in 8th, if they do, is for the Duke talent identification search and it's the SAT. The PSAT, which counts for national merit scholarships in 11th grade, is generally taken by everyone in 10th and 11th grade, and can be taken in 9th grade if your school offers that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:38 PM Flag
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Smart ones do well, not so smart not so well,. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:03 AM Flag
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Since I can't brag IRL I'll share that DD 11th grade missed one on the writing section. 1500 total. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 12:34 AM Flag
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My child missed 3 (one each section) and got 1500 [ Reply | More ]
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Sophomore 1460 without prep. In good shape to take SAT next year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:02 AM Flag
[ - ] Planning a bathroom renovation and almost certainly replacing the two sinks with just one. Will we regret it? Two adults and a tween girl sharing, but we have never had two people trying to get ready at the same time, and it seems like wasted space. WDYT? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:56 PM Flag
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I would rather have more counter space. I don't want to be using the sink with someone next to me using a sink. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:58 PM Flag
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OP: Same! No way I would let DH watch me pluck hairs from my chin or something. So weird to contemplate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:59 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:54 PM Flag
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^and I will add DH and I have 2 sinks in our master bath, but we still never use them at the same time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:55 PM Flag
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A big counter and one sink is what we did in a big renovation. Never used sink at the same time. You can spend more on the faucets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:37 AM Flag
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What a disaster! This is a very bad decision. This will affect your resale. People do not like to share sinks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:58 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks, we don't plan to move ever, so that's not really part of the calculation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:58 PM Flag
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You do you. I can't remember the last time I shared a sink. DH and I get ready at the same time very, very often. I find it hard to believe that with 3 people sharing the same bathroom no one has gotten ready at the same time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:01 PM Flag
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DD leaves for school at 7:25, DH works from home, I leave for work either at 5:00 a.m. or not at all. We never all have to be beautiful and sweet-smelling simultaneously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:03 PM Flag
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So you never get ready to go to parties or out to dinner? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:04 PM Flag
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Not simultaneously, no. Sorry. If we're leaving at 6:00 I'll announce "I'm going to take my shower at 5:15, so please plan accordingly." DH is very low-maintenance -- no make-up, no hair styling, shaves in the shower and doesn't usually take a second shower just before going out when he's already taken one earlier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:08 PM Flag
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OK, that is a major hassle and your needs are very specific, but it's your life. That would never work for me. Why ask our opinions if you already have your mind made up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:10 PM Flag
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Major hassle? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:15 PM Flag
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Yep. Having to plan my time so that I am not using the sink at the same time as you. I want to wash my face or brush my teeth when I want. Enjoy your single sink and barking out your orders to your DH to "plan accordingly." Sounds fun! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:19 PM Flag
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NP. Ok, you sound a little unhinged. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:41 PM Flag
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OP: Well, I DID say "please." I wouldn't want to be married to a man who spent as much time in front of a mirror as a woman, but then I'm old fashioned. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:12 AM Flag
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I have no problem and prefer counter space [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:59 PM Flag
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Personally, I would love to have 2 sinks. My husband completely blocks the sink when we are in the bathroom together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:00 PM Flag
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OP: Mine would too, but we never are in there together except for the rare shower. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:01 PM Flag
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I can't imagine ever regretting two sinks. It's so much more flexible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:02 PM Flag
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she may have space issue [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:29 PM Flag
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I strongly prefer to have my own sink, but if you don't, then you won't regret it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:00 PM Flag
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same. surprised how much i like having two sinks but not sure it matters that much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:12 PM Flag
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I wouldn't do it, but you have made your decision, so.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:56 PM Flag
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Two sinks was a priority everytime we moved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:09 PM Flag
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I recenlty took out two sinks to put a big single in. We as a family never ever get ready together. This is in a large bathroom in VT on the main floor. We love it! Who in the world brushes their teeth together? The house has another bathroom. Somehow this is a thing for resale. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:20 PM Flag
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np: DH and I are always in the bathroom together. We don't even need to be in the same bathroom, since we have 8 bathrooms, but we use the master bathroom at the same time maybe 70% of the time. And, yes, we brush our teeth at the same time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:46 AM Flag
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If I were renovating and we had the room, I would have a separate section for the shower/toilet area so someone can be doing their thing there and someone else can still "get ready " at the sink. And I would prefer more counter space rather than 2 sinks in the sink area, with a mirror that extended across both spaces. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 03:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Salk or Lab? Which has more "normal" kids? Not just extreme overachievers? What do people think of Morton? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:53 PM Flag
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DD went to Salk, and, honestly, it's not full of extreme over-achievers. It was full of bright, social kids who wanted to be there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:55 PM Flag
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Boy or girl? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:56 PM Flag
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Salk. [ Reply | More ]
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My kid went to Lab and I think there is a range of kids. My kid was a very strong math student and weak at ELA. Back when we were touring i liked Salk better, but my kid preferred Lab and Lab was a much better commute for us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Holiday gift ideas for my mom who is terminally ill? (Sorry to be a downer). I'm at a loss. Thought cable would be a great idea since she's house-bound for now, but when I called, it's such an ordeal, we have to be there for it to be installed, the bills still need to go to her, etc etc. She has netflix and a roku, but she is TERRIBLE at technology (so something like Prime would be a nightmare for her/me). Anyone have other ideas for me??? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:37 PM Flag
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Maybe HULU also? Does she have that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:39 PM Flag
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Does she like flowers? What about one of those Flowering Bulbs of the Month things (if her prognosis allows)? Or food? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:39 PM Flag
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This is one of those times cut flowers would be better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 02:34 AM Flag
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Don't some of the TV options have voice commands so you just tell it what you want to watch? Maybe Apple TV does this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:39 PM Flag
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You could do cable and pre pay. But if no one can be there for install - who cares for her? Can all family members make pillow cases for her with special times memories? 100 reasons why I love you poster? A party? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:40 PM Flag
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love the poster idea!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:49 PM Flag
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Google Home Hub would let you push photos to be on rotation, allow her to email and text, do video calls, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:41 PM Flag
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love this idea!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:48 PM Flag
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You could pay her bills online. I would get her cable. You or other siblings could go there ONE DAY for install. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:41 PM Flag
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I would skip the technology altogether. What a hassle! Buy her a silk pillowcase and a cashmere blanket. If your budget is larger, buy a cashmere robe, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:44 PM Flag
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these are GREAT. Wow UB really comes through!!! So glad I asked!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:49 PM Flag
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Cashmere throw and socks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:53 PM Flag
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Cashmere socks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:53 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:39 PM Flag
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Amazon Echo. She can listen to music, podcasts, news, play, jeopardy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:58 PM Flag
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My mother loved a very soft bed jacket that I got from SOMA, a soft pink. Also, make certain that you get cable in both LR and bedroom so she can watch from her bed. so very sorry. Also, check with her caregiver to make sure they can be there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:59 PM Flag
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OP I'm sorry you are going through this. My mom is in similar predicament. She won't watch the TV. We got her Alexa and she can ask for classical and Christmas music. She loves that. You have to set it up. Photo albums are great too. She also loves her cashmere socks, robe, throw blanket and plush slippers - and tea. Lots of tea. She will sit all day and look at photo albums. Gl and hugs to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:01 PM Flag
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My friends got their sick mom one of those electronic photo frames, loaded up with heaps of old family photos.she lies in bed and watches it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:18 PM Flag
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streaming on an ipad is so much easier technology wise than trying to do it on your TV. you can probably add some channels via the apps and just pay for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:19 PM Flag
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Agreed. I NEVER use the TV to stream shows. It is such a PITA to type in letters with the remote control. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:48 PM Flag
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A bed jacket is a great gift in this situation... I did it and it is so useful, cozy and lovely to put on to have guests. I am so sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:27 PM Flag
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Cocaine, heroin, and some crack. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:04 PM Flag
[ - ] real estate moms - do you think manhattan co-op prices will continue to go down? We have been looking for a while and getting weary of it... found an apartment which seems to check all the boxes we want, but not in love with it, don't know if to go for it, or see if prices go down more, more options elsewhere. When do you know to go ahead and make an offer? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:37 PM Flag
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I think prices will come down more. no need to go w something you dont love [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:39 PM Flag
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Are they down now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:41 PM Flag
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A little bit, but not much, not enough. I actually found better deals 1-2 years ago when prices were overall at their height. I don't see good deals, simply put. I also don't see wages rising any time soon, so not sure how this RE market can support this. Not enough new comers buying, only those upgrading from smaller to bigger units who already had money invested in NYC or SF or similar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:10 PM Flag
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Get yourself two places you love and play them off against each other to get your price. You can easily back a seller into a corner this way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:41 PM Flag
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I fell in love with a place I saw yesterday and am also thinking about how the market will fluctuate. I heard today someone say that apts under 1.1 probably won’t drop much more but those over will continue to drop a bit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:44 PM Flag
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People upstairs from us put theirs on the market in early September at a price that seemed fair and even a bit low for recent comps in the building. Many open houses, no bids. They reduced the price 10% in November and got one bid. I think you might as well make a low offer, tbh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:49 PM Flag
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^^Brooklyn, very good school district, and from a little over a million to under, fwiw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:58 PM Flag
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I think it will continue to slow. But everything is up in the air, thanks to DJT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:01 PM Flag
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I’m not an RE mom, but I have been watching the market in my neighborhood and building. Basically, it it is priced fairly and renovated, it seems to move. Anything unrenovated needs to be deeply discounted. Buyers are not just factoring square footage, but also the increase renovation costs and interest rate hikes. I’ve seen apartments drop 300-400k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:13 PM Flag
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RE market in high COL places is not where I would invest, there is no place to go up because wages are not rising. Economy seems to be good, but wages are comparatively low given COL, there are jobs, but they are not high paying enough to afford to buy a place in NYC or SF. Not many people are coming from outside with bags of money. I just don't see the room for RE appreciation given that earnings are not getting higher overall, so my advice is don't buy unless you are absolutely sure you will live there for 10 years and you love the place, you won't make money on it and should be lucky to break even IMHO if you must sell in a few years. If you love the place and plan to live there for a looong time, go for it. I don't think you'd lose long term, it should keep with inflation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:14 PM Flag
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Places on the coast will ALWAYS retain their value. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:41 PM Flag
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They have to rise with inflation to retain their value and rise in such a way that you can take your money out should you sell without a loss. There is no guarantee of that if wages don't rise and stay the same and especially when there is economic downturn and well paying jobs are scarce. Prices dropped in NYC and SF during the last recession and some people did lose their money. Those who could afford to stay saw prices rise again, so that's why I am saying you have to be able to commit. There is no space for prices to rise enough for you to break even if you must sell 3 years later unless jobs are plentiful and people feel like their wages are rising. Transaction fees, condo fees, taxes and interest payments will eat into your equity quite a bit. That is why so many people rent for years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:08 PM Flag
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Disagree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:22 PM Flag
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Wait til next year if you can [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:39 PM Flag
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What will happen next year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Genuine question meant for the every day posters of UB: with the recent news about Trump, do you get the sense that this is the beginning of the end? I'm having a hard time getting a middle of the road perception, people are either celebrating as if his departure is a foregone conclusion but for whether he resigns or is impeached, or (looking at FoxNews) largely acting like nothing has happened at all. I'm not asking so much what you WANT to be the case, but what is your perception of what is happening based on what you are seeing and reading and hearing. Thanks! (I so, so hope this isn't turn into a crazy troll post) 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:36 PM Flag
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well, what is "the end"- if he resigns, it gives Pence a head start to running as incumbent in 2020. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:38 PM Flag
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They've got dirt on Pence too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:39 PM Flag
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That is not real evidence- just hope that he overheard the Russian stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:39 PM Flag
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In all fairness, you don't know what they've got in terms of intercepted communications. Neither do we just yet. But it seems very unlikely that he would be Manafort's pick when Manafort was hired by Russians. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:26 PM Flag
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Then Nancy Pelosi becomes VP, right? He may agree to quit or not run again in exchange for no indictments for kids or Jared. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.18, 01:40 AM Flag
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I'm a pessimist and don't think he's going anywhere. He'll lie and obfuscate and the Republicans won't do a damn thing and he'll stay and rot our democracy. Like George Costanza who just kept showing up for work after he was fired. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:39 PM Flag
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That probably better- the longer he stays in messing things up the more likely a clean sweep in 2020. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:40 PM Flag
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He would rather blow up the world that resign in disgrace or go to jail. Truly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:44 PM Flag
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I wish but honestly it's like he's made of teflon. Nothing sticks. And his base really doesn't care about anything he's done wrong. They just want immigrants out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:05 PM Flag
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I'm not sure what universe you are living in, but there are currently 6 guilty pleas, 30 indictments including 3 companies. Two people have served jail time already. Trump's former Personal Lawyer, Campaign Manager, Foreign policy advisor, and National Security Advisor all now convicted felons. And Mueller hasn't even dropped the real bombs yet. Also that skanky Russian spy made a plea deal admitting she's been helping funnel Russian funds through the NRA, funds that went straight to GOP candidates including 30 million to Trump's campaign. Have a nice day! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:16 PM Flag
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Look, if you had a special counsel looking into the Clintons or Obamas, one would have found similar law breakers and lies. To listen to Comey when he repeatedly said he has no idea who approved the start of the investigations in 2016, or on what basis, I don't see how any one can believe the FBI. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:33 PM Flag
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lol it's okay you're probably having a bad day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:45 PM Flag
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They have already had 8 years of investigation into Hillary. Nothing. No investigations at all into the Obamas. Also you're flagged. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:46 PM Flag
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Trump isn't going to be indicted by state or federal courts. He could be impeached by the new house in January, but he won't be convicted by the senate. It would be political suicide for Democrats to impeach because it will energize Trump's base. Democrats would be better off talking about the economy and universal healthcare. I think the market will tank and that will hurt Trump more than any scandal. I also think many more people are going to find out when they do their taxes they will not save under the Republican tax plan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:33 PM Flag
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^^^ Democrats should also be talking about jobs under a New Green Deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:36 PM Flag
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Signs are a little mixed but there is mounting evidence that Trump broke the law in a serious way. We don't know much about what Mueller's got but expect it to be a really strong case and when that is presented it may be the real tipping point. For example, we may learn that Trump knew about these meeting with Russians, and there may be receipts on that that Mueller now has. That would be really significant. The stripper payoffs are already an impeachable offense. Yeah the Repubs won't go against Trump as long as he is ramming through their agenda, but they are politicians so if public opinion changes, they may change too. That's why the balance (and the tipping point) are important. When Trump lashes out on Twitter it's almost always a tell that it's eating at him. Even the Trump base may change over time. Trump is beloved for being a character -- successful businessman, the Apprentice. In reality he is terrible at actual business and a con artist. The more people see that (and some in the base will), the more you might see the tide turning against him. TLDR: yes things are looking not good for Trump. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:18 PM Flag
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I wonder how much of this is also lobbying by the corporations that benefit from supply of inexpensive labor skilled and unskilled, like oversupply of desperate unemployed and H1B workers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 11:43 PM Flag
[ - ] This is your "gifted" child as he enters the world: 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:36 PM Flag
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OP: :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:50 PM Flag
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Hope so:))))))) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:42 PM Flag
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OP: It's hard for kids on the spectrum who have specific talents (in this case, physics prodigy), but struggle with social skills. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:37 PM Flag
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OP: I guess my point is that it is all well and good to encourage "prodigy" kids in what interests them, but it also would be beneficial to focus on social skills too. Kids on the spectrum can be identified early on, and socialization at a younger age can really help. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I know the link is a weird source, but it's the Columbia kid who was filmed drunkenly proclaiming how much he loves whites. This link shows he is a physics prodigy with a link to a youtube of him doing physics years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:51 PM Flag
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Well, in his defense, white people invented physics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:53 PM Flag
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OP: I personally think it is ridiculous that this is making national news. My reason for posting it is, like the Google employee with the manifesto about women, kids on the spectrum can be misunderstood in terms of their context. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:56 PM Flag
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Well, I didn't even know about him until you chose to post on him. I'm sure he appreciates the increased publicity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:17 PM Flag
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OP: It was all over the NY Post and Daily Mail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:27 PM Flag
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Ok. No. Also, these people are not kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:26 PM Flag
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OP: This male is a freshman, I think. Anyway, he is the older version of what a gifted kid on the spectrum may evolve to without a focus on socialization when s/he is young. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:28 PM Flag
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Probably full payer too.The assholes are the ones who have to pay full tuition. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:58 PM Flag
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OP: Don't know about that, but from the video of him solving a physics equation at age 13, I bet he is very good at physics in a way that will get him far academically. But the social aspect, getting along with peers, colleagues, can be a challenge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone’s kid applied to ICE for middle school last year and got in? What are they looking for in the essay? What do they need to write in the essay during the visit? Thanks 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:32 PM Flag
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I don't know the answer to this, but I imagine they want to see curiosity and expressiveness. At the open house, I remember one of the administrators recommended emailing admissions to express interest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:35 PM Flag
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Oh! Thank you. I missed this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:45 PM Flag
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OR: ICE has always been secretive about their admissions process. I was surprised to hear this said out loud, but I think assertiveness and connections work with this school. I'm guessing if you can mention someone you know there (or who went there) it would help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Any recommendation for a Baltimore hotel near the tourist stuff, preferably one with real suites (with walls and door) but not $500 a night? Thanks. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:25 PM Flag
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Klimpton. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:25 PM Flag
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In Baltimore, you really don't want to go too far from the harbor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:35 PM Flag
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Four Seasons is wonderful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 10:00 PM Flag
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