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[ - ] Have any first time applicants heard from a private school yet? In or out? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Preschool/Kids 01.24.09, 09:50 AM Flag
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helllllo.... 3 more weeks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 10:00 AM Flag
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yes, 2 in [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 10:04 AM Flag
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1 admit. 2 w/ls. psd seems not to want to try for feedback elsewhere. its OK. admit is in top 3. but can't help but wonder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 10:34 AM Flag
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well they must all be Parochial schools then b/c everyone else sends letters out 3 weeks from now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 11:03 AM Flag
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parochial hasn't even started yet, with the exception of St. Ignatius early decision. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 12:36 PM Flag
[ - ] father offered repeatedly to lend us money (we never asked). finally, we said we would love to take him up on the offer. he said no. wwyd? none of his financial circumstances changed that would have changed his position. truly he was just being an ass. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:41 AM Flag
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EVERYONE's financial circumstances have changed somewhat inside the last several months. Your dad's included (unless his dough is in his mattress). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 10:03 AM Flag
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What do you mean wwyd? Shoot him? Steal the money? There is nothing you can do except carry on and never ask for money again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 10:35 AM Flag
[ - ] Our dd goes to Brearley and we live on the upper upper east side (120's) and we don't get downtown much anymore. Went to a Karamu celebration at Little Red with some out of town friends (their niece goes there) and was blown away-- SO fun, festive and diverse--it really felt like the school community was coming together and it was such a great mix of people. We have NOTHING like that at Brearley--it made me feel sad. My daughter drummed with a Japanese band and jumped rope with the world champion double dutch team. Is the school as great as it seemed? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:27 AM Flag
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damn. Sounds great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:37 AM Flag
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Thanks for being honest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:37 AM Flag
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We are at Brearley and very happy-- we don't look to our school for this kind of thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:44 AM Flag
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ew. sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:45 AM Flag
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I know. Brearley parent body mostly seemed obsessed with exmissions and have no regard for anything else. It was a big turnoff for us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 10:04 AM Flag
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np: typical UB post. CLearly you know nothing about the school. Signed, Brearley mother and alumna who looked long and hard at downtown and more progressive schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 05:16 PM Flag
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Not true. I know several people (parents, teachers) at Brearley. I think it used to be a very diff school/diff crowd a decade ago but the school has changed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.09, 02:13 PM Flag
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Yes but your dd is learning so much more than those LREI kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 10:01 AM Flag
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and less aware of anyone else or things that matter in life/world. Brearley girls have major attitude problems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 10:07 AM Flag
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ITA. The girl who went to Brearley from my dc's preschool was a major brat with parlor trick parents who loved to quiz the kid in LOUD VOICES for all to hear. And, no, I'm not jealous; my kid's erb was higher than hers (only know that because the mom ran around bragging about that, too). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 10:11 AM Flag
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sounds like they really got your competitve juices flowing! brearley thought the kid was smart too. calling it parlor tricks betrays how much it all got to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 10:35 AM Flag
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LOL. No, they were parlor tricks. Very much like Alex and Simon in RHONY--only worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 10:46 AM Flag
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well, apparently she has more going on than that since Brearley accepted [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 02:02 PM Flag
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International [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 06:57 PM Flag
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and LREI would be a majot waste of money-teachers looked like crackheads [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 02:13 PM Flag
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we wonder about this very thing. Who knows what our options wil be, but we like both B and LREI for very different reasons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 12:40 PM Flag
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My LREI kid loves school and is genuinely compassionate and concerned about her community. She took the ERBs last year (LREI administers them in 4th grade--) and her scores were very high. She LOVES to read and reads at a HS level. The school is able to handle both her strengths and weaknesses and she is thriving and never bored. I honestly don't understand why Brearley parents always put LREI down-- I work with a woman with a dd at Brearley -- she is so invested in her school being the "best" and she doesn't miss an opportunity to tell me how weak LREI is academically. Why do B parents care so much??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 01:14 PM Flag
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np--OP is not putting down Little Red at all. Why don't you recognize the nice things she is saying about your child's school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 01:41 PM Flag
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I don't think the poster meant the OP-- I think she meant some subsequent posts. But I gotta say-- my daughter is at VCS and it is true some Brearley parents can be vicious! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 02:18 PM Flag
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I know!! We're at Friends and my dd's best friiend is at Brearley--- they are so MEAN about it!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 02:29 PM Flag
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There is no post above from a Brearley parent putting down Little Red. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 04:01 PM Flag
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There are people posting that kids at B learn alot more then kids at LREI... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 05:14 PM Flag
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And I am sorry to say it is probably true. I used to be a teacher there and is a lovely school, but academics are not top notch. I think is especially lacking for a very bright child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 05:59 PM Flag
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My combined and extended family has alot of experience at a variety of NYC private schools--including Little Red and Brearley. My super smart nephew was at LREI and is in his last year at Yale now-- it was NOT lacking for that bright child! My older daughter loved Brearley but her younger sister hated it (and moved last year to LaGuardia) and would have had a much better academic experience at LREI. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 06:13 PM Flag
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It sounds like your nephew has done well. I still think the curriculum is weak in some areas. Also, typically there are only one maybe two really bright kids in a class of say 18-20 kids. I think kids need to be challenged by their peers, and have heard many LREI parents of very able kids complain about this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 06:30 PM Flag
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Maybe disturbing to private parents. My DD reads at HS level too (3rd grader) and she is in public general education. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 02:15 PM Flag
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It's not at all disturbing. I'm aware that there are kids learning to read everywhere in the world. My dd is not in private so she can be the only one who reads at advanced level, it's other things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 03:53 PM Flag
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That just means she's a smart kid. What does that have to do with anything? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 06:07 PM Flag
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B parents dpon't care so much. It's the parents of kids at schools with inferiority complexes that care so much. My kids are at ECFS but I see this all the time, particularly aimed at Brearley and Collegiate. They're top notch schools academically and otherwise. Whay does that bug you? Your kid can go to Harvard too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 05:18 PM Flag
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Well, you as per your own admission, you don't get downtown much and now you obviously see why you should. Be grateful for the education that your child is getting and recognize that school--no matter how great, can't be all things to you. Don't be sad; do your job and get out and expose your child to all the wonderful diversity that a great city like this has to offer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 07:20 PM Flag
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The Brearley i went to in the 70's and 80's was a much different place-- far more community minded and concerned with social justice. Its true that now there is little in the way of celebrating diversity... but if that matters to you, speak up! Start a committee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.09, 08:36 AM Flag
[ - ] wwyd? dc is happy and fine at a pretty good public school for K, and we just got word from a private school we'd applied to last year that they might have spot for 1st next year. we really liked that private school (was FC and we kept in contact w/ AD after being on wait list), but now dc is happy in the current situation, and we feel it's a good school. changing schools might be disruptive (dc went to 2 different preschools, btw...now very happily adjusted to new school, and i kinda hate to change again.) not sure how to decide this. any thoughts? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 01.24.09, 09:19 AM Flag
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at this age, dc will survive switching schools just fine. it really comes down to which school you like better and, if private, whether you think it's worth the money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:21 AM Flag
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WTF!? Did you call the school that WL you last year to say you were still in the game? Didn't they make you redo the ERB and so on? I think your post is FAKE [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 10:02 AM Flag
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ITA. Fake. The wls close once K starts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 10:05 AM Flag
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from op: not fake. why would someone bother to write a fake post like this? looking for objective advice. they didn't ask for new ERB. i called in sept and they asked if we wanted to roll over application to 1st grade. they've asked for new interview (yet to have) and teacher evaluation. dc happily settled into current school, just confused now about what to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 12:58 PM Flag
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NAME THE SCHOOL THEN. Many of us were SO after rotting on never ,moving WL's last year so name the school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 05:14 PM Flag
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np: I am guessing a progressive that does not require erb like MCS or Bank St. Both DOAs there are accesible and encourage you stay in touch with them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 06:07 PM Flag
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could be packer - they don't require erb for reapp in 1st [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 07:02 PM Flag
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My dd spent K in public and then moved to private for 1st. I would go private if you can swing it. I don't want to offend any public school moms, but I personally see great differences. The learning is deeper, the community is more thoughtful and my dd is getting a different childhood from the one she would have if we stayed in public. I know many people would not agree, so I'm just telling you my experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 04:01 PM Flag
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this is total crap--the private school is for YOU. the "learning" is not "deeper" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 05:21 PM Flag
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np--The curriculum in many private schools is deeper than that of most NYC public schools--especially in history, science, grammar, writing, vocabulary, foreign language, computer instruction. (An example: my dd was taught ways to evaluate the credibility of websites as sources of information in 5th grade.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 05:35 PM Flag
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It is deeper. I've been in both with my child and there is depth that was not there in public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 05:45 PM Flag
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we are in private -know the publics -and you are full of it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 05:52 PM Flag
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But I didn't just know the publics I was in both with my dd. I understood the mandates and the testing. I guess you did not and don't feel the difference, but I am sure there is a difference in both. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 06:06 PM Flag
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Unless the public school is SO bad that your DC's personal safety is in jeopardy, private just isn't worth it, despite the brainwashing that goes on over this board. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 05:47 PM Flag
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think long-term. what is 4th and 5th grade like at your ps? what is the plan for ms? if these answers are not solid, then go for private. The differences become apparent in the later grades. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 06:06 PM Flag
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Here is the thing - you'll have to change him after 5th anyway - it might be better to go private where it at least goes up to 8. Kids do adjust. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 07:03 PM Flag
[ - ] is this normal? when i'm feeling stressed, overwhelmed, sad, or just needing a bit of moral support from dh, he gets mad, shuts down, gets frustrated, tells me to get over myself and stop being negative.he is super-unsupportive, and this makes me feel so much worse than i already did. honestly, i'm not really high maintenance or super-stressed, and not constantly complaining/needy, but sometimes would love to have someone tell me "hey, it's going to be ok. i love you. you'll figure things out..." (last night i was feeling tired, overwhelmed, getting sick, and just kinda sad...trying to find right balance of new baby, career, etc.. dh reacted by telling me to stop being so negative and got mad...sigh...this doesn't feel healthy.) 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Newborn 01.24.09, 09:14 AM Flag
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You sound needy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:16 AM Flag
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ok. maybe i am i guess. feeling depressed. somehow i keep hoping that dh will be more supportive, but i guess that's unrealistic in a marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:23 AM Flag
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do you think he may be projecting? i.e. he is feeling a lot of pressure, stress, etc. and feels like there is no one to support him and so he lashes out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:23 AM Flag
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maybe. he does feel pressure, stress, too, and i'm totally always there for him to offer support, but he just keeps most of it in. sometimes i think it's that we were raised in very different families. he is 1 of 5 and his parents can't stand each other. his mom is very needy/manipulative to get attention. my parents are still happily in love 40 years later, always good to each other, etc. (feeling like maybe therapy could be good for dh & me...) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:28 AM Flag
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when the two of you are not upset, drop kids off with babysitter and have a serious talk and ask him what is going on -- don't start with why are you not being supportive -- explore therapy, etc. after having a talk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:31 AM Flag
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thanks. he just got home. appreciate the advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:34 AM Flag
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Does he come from a "buck up, get on with it" kind of background? Or is his family a TOTAL mess. Bet it's one or the other. Either can't deal with neediness because weakness isn't permitted or, alternatively, had way more than enough growing up and can't deal with it from you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:28 AM Flag
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i think you're right...but his family is kinda both of those things, his mom is a bit of a mess, and never got emotional support from her family or her dh. my family is very supportive, so nobody really gets crazy upset. (dh just got home. gotta go...) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:33 AM Flag
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my dh is kind of like this, but i think it has to do with his upbringing. his father was abusive, so he never learned from him how to be sensitive and caring, and his mother was the classic co-dependent, who never did anything to change her own situation, just constantly tried to guilt everyone to feel sorry for her. which is a huge turnoff, and so that kind of behavior pushes buttons for dh. but i think in general men tend to shut down when women cry because they don't know what to do to make it better. they want action, not talk. kwim? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Have heavy dark circles despite 7-8 hrs sleep daily, its partly genetic. What is the best, most effective dark circle repair cream that you have used? And how quickly do you see results. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 01.24.09, 08:48 AM Flag
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Could be allergy? Doc recently told me that's what causing my dd'd dark circles. Worth checking out I think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 08:52 AM Flag
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as far as I know there is no cure for dark circles. I use a good concealer cle de peau. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:24 AM Flag
[ - ] First time parent--ds turns 1 yr old shortly and I am freaking out about MMR vaccine at 12 months and potential autism link. Did you give your child the MMR vaccine, and what research did you do prior? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 01.24.09, 08:44 AM Flag
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you realize that the doctor who 'researched' MMR and autism has been discredited and is under investigation for ethics violation. He was preparing an MMR vaccine of his own to replace the one being given to children and paid parents to give statement on their children's problems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone get feedback from Bank St or ECFS? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 01.24.09, 08:41 AM Flag
[ - ] why so quiet? by now people are beginning to get feedback. you'd think the joint would be jumping? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 01.24.09, 08:21 AM Flag
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Most feedback will be given next week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 08:26 AM Flag
[ - ] DC can solve the rubiks cube in less than 5mins aand I plan to show that off at Hunter interview 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 01.24.09, 08:14 AM Flag
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You should, if Hunter had any interview. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 08:25 AM Flag
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?Hunter does have a second round [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 11:07 AM Flag
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lol, not a parent interview. Not even individual child interview where the child has a chance to tell the teacher his talents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:00 PM Flag
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LOL. Good luck with that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 08:27 AM Flag
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Mine can eat two hot dogs in three minutes. I plan to show that in the interview. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 12:29 PM Flag
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mine can do an amazing choke hold on his older brother. he's gonna knock your kid on his ass! ha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 07:51 PM Flag
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shut up............ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:10 PM Flag
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That's amazing! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 10:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Flamesuit on: I am only sending dc to private bec of private's ability to accommodate dc's specific needs (too advanced). When DOE lowered the cutoff to 90 for G&T and got rid of accelerated curriculum, that made the decision for us. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 01.24.09, 07:52 AM Flag
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G&T NEVER had an accelerated curriculum. Just "enriched". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 07:55 AM Flag
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DOE said they were going to make the cutoff to be 95 and allow accelerated curr. Then, they changed their mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 07:58 AM Flag
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A second tier private will have roughly the same intellectual peer group as a G&T. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 07:59 AM Flag
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I think the flamesuit is made of FAKE material. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 08:01 AM Flag
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Why? She's right about g&t; a good number of the kids aren't even gifted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 08:02 AM Flag
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most kids in private aren't really gifted either. she's in for a surprise. signed mom of 3 kids in different schools, 2 private, 1 selective public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:02 AM Flag
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but the curriculum will not be the same [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 08:02 AM Flag
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You could not get into a decent G&T last year with a score under 95, so the lowering to 90 made little difference. In District 3, even PS 166 is filled with 97+ scorers, including lots of 99's. I don't know if things will ease up this year -- it sounds like it might, due to more room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 08:02 AM Flag
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Right, so they have all these smart kids but they're teaching the SAME things and at the same pace as gen ed kids. Then, what is the point of having G&T? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 08:08 AM Flag
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I think most teachers would disagree that the pace is the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:03 AM Flag
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Actually, my friend and I compared - one in a g&t (desirable D2) and one in general ed (D2). It really was the same things, same pace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 10:50 AM Flag
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you are obviously unexperienced, with a young dc. you just have no idea how things really work. its all philosophical and speculation at this point. come back and talk to us in a few years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:05 AM Flag
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^^inexperienced [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:05 AM Flag
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no flames here. just make sure the private is a good fit. many will say that they accommodate advanced learners, but don't do much, in reality, to challenge or encourage them. and even though there are a lot of high erb kids at the privates, most won't turn out to be advanced in any meaningful way. good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 08:17 AM Flag
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np In our experience with our dc who's tested as gifted, the level of accommodation in private totally depends on the teacher--even once admin and guidance counselor are involved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 08:30 AM Flag
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exactly. op is still green. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:06 AM Flag
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so silly. you really think there aren't sibs, legs and other connected dcs at every single private in the city who wouldn't score above 90 on the olsat? then you deserve what you get. another dimwit fleeced out of $32k a year. oh, and we have a dc whom i'm sure is just as advanced as yours (made the citywide cutoff) and who is at gen ed. they are "accomodating his specific needs just fine." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 09:09 AM Flag
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well I know a few dc's who are miserable in gen ed. It alld epends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 11:34 AM Flag
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Don't you know you make public families look low rent when you resort to name calling? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 01:09 PM Flag
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Hey - I hear ya. Am in the same boat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 10:02 AM Flag
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It doesn't matter cut off is 90 or 95. Your DC can't get popular district unless score is high(97-99) anyway. I don't know anybody who got spots with low 90s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 05:10 PM Flag
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you are in for a rude awakening [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 05:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have a crockpot they can reccomend? What features should I look for? Getting one today. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 07:13 AM Flag
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Doesn't matter, they are all the same [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 10:39 AM Flag
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Just get a simple one, we've had an oster for 10 years and it works perfectly. Some are nicer to look at if you plan to store it on the counter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.09, 10:41 AM Flag
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