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[ - ] what are your thoughts on home birth? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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Entirely positive. I had a wonderful home birth and that's how many of my friends/acquaintances have given birth. You'll find a lot of kneejerk ignorance about it on this board, at times, but studies show home is every bit as safe as hospital with a CNM in attendance. It was SO wonderful to labor with total freedom of movement, to not be strapped to a fetal monitor, to push in the tub, and then be sitting half an hour later in my own bed, baby in my arms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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to me? SCARY!!! but I know people like it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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And I find the idea of giving birth in a hospital scary. Staph everywhere, unnecessary interventions, wires from every orifice, greater than a one-third chance of a normal labor ending in cesarean--scary!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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now you sound just as knee-jerk as the people who automatically oppose home births. I gave birth in a hospital, didn't get a caesarean, no staph infection, no interventions, the only "wires" anywhere were the one in my back because I chose an epidural. And when my baby was born with the cord wrapped around her neck, I was pretty glad I was in a hospital. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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LOL, listen to you--I was responding to the person who said homebirth was "SCARY!!" And your medical ignorance is one of the things I find so scary--cords are wrapped arond the neck in 30-40% of deliveries. It's not the least bit concerning the vast majority of the time. Happens in homebirths all the time, with no ill effects whatsoever. But your lack of knowledge and research into the subject is pretty typical. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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np: lots of babies have the cord wrapped, and a midwife can lift it off as well asn an OB> i am NOT anti-hospital birth, its jstu that people have this idea thta midwives just chant and wave herbs around when in fact they can handle most births as well as an OB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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ITA. My dc born at Cornell had cord wrapped around her neck, and all the OB did was unwrap it in about a second as she came out. My dh could've done it just as easily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 06:34 AM Flag
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it doesn't take a obstetrical degree to deal with a nuchal cord. In fact, midwives deal with this situation *better* than drs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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great option for moms that want it. harder in this country b/c docs/hospitals aren't as equiped as they could be to support it. And my shallow concern is that it would be really messy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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it's not bad at all if you give birth in the water. There are other tricks too, like putting clean sheets on your bed, then a shower curtain liner, then more (old) sheets. So if you get the sheets dirty, you just strip them, toss the liner and have a clean bed underneath. There are also lots of chux (waterproof-backed) pads that you use. All in all it's fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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oh, in my brain i know that it would all be OK. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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Funny, having had two hospital births, I would love to have a home birth/natural delivery and THEN be in the hospital for a couple of days to be taken care of. I really appreciated having to do NOTHING and being somewhere totally removed from ordinary life for a couple of days before getting home and dealing with the chaos. No matter how much help you have, if you're in your home, you're the boss, which comes with a certain amount of responsibility for figuring out what needs doing and telling people to do it. Who needs that as you recover and bond? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 06:38 AM Flag
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Really??? I absolutely hated the post-partum care at Cornell. I could not wait to get out of there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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There wasn't much "care" to speak of, I just liked being somewhere where I had nothing at all to do for a couple of days. I liked my roommate the first night and got a private room the second. I sent my db to the nursery for that night, since I figured it was the last time I'd spend the night entirely alone for a very long time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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How about feelings- scary, risky, fringe-hippy. Clearly not for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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Beautiful experience, as long as everything goes right. We had db #1 in a birth center with a doula, and our db ended up being transported to another hospital with a NICU. After that experience, we had db #2 in that hospital and low and behold he wound up in the NICU too (for different reasons) and I'm so, so, so, incredibly grateful that we had the NICU right there when we needed it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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I think its great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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Watching "The Business of Being Born" made me desire one immediately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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I'm pretty amazed that people don't realize that many common problems that occur with birth are CAUSED BY hospitals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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I like the concept of not giving birth in a hospital but I would not want to give birth at home either. I know in other countries they have "maternity clinics" which are entirely for women giving birth. You can deliver with an OB or midwife and there are all the emergency hospital things that might be needed. OTOH, you are not surrounded by sick people, you're allowed to take your time in labor, far fewer intervantions and it's much more home-like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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stand alone birth centers -- manhattan used to have Elizabeth Seton, i think there are some on other boros. they are rare here b/c of insurance issues, i believe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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Haven't had one myself but many friends have. A beautiful experience and none of them would change a thing. BTW, a few of them have had things 'go wrong' that were able to be handled by the midwife just fine. A couple did transfer to the hospital when needed, but everyone happy and healthy. A great option for many families! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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I found out since my insurance only coveres a % of "major medical" I could easily end uo owing $2,000 or so to the hospital after giving birth (like a friend of mine witht he same insurance did). So it seems tempting to try a "home birth".... its like earning $2,000 in 2 days or so. Or if I'm in the hospital, what will they be giving me and charging for that I don't even need? I hate US medical system. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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Well, you need to find out what your insurer's policy is on homebirth. I have Oxford, and it covered my homebirth 100%. All I paid was a co-pay for a sonogram! It was brilliant. But they're not all that good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 01:57 PM Flag
[ - ] we're considering IVF, anyone have good experience with that? tia 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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My twins and I are very happy with the results. What do you want to know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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well, the IVF process itself sucks - painful, exhausting and it can take years to lose the additional weight. But if it works, it's all worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:00 PM Flag
[ - ] After giving birth did you thank your dr/s or nurses in the hospital? If so, how? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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"thank you!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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thanks so much for railroading me into that induction by telling me my baby was 9 lbs! Here she is, by the way, doing great at 7 lbs 1 oz, thanks! Oh, no problem that the horribly painful induction and early epidural led to a section. Here's a plate of cookies. Enjoy Boca this winter! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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Yikes!!! Sorry for your terrible experience [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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oh jeez i'm sorry about all that. what a bummer. this makes me think more about home birth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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it's the best. I had my second at home :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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this makes me happy to hear! this is how i plan on doing it. did you haev a midwife or doula or was it just you and dh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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no, I wouldn't do unassisted. We had a certified nurse midwife, and a doula. We also had our older child there! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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wow you are me EXACTLY! Except mine was 7 lb 12 oz. Definitely doing a VBAC next time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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Yes. We had a running joke with the Dr about Crocs, so we bought her two pairs. Also, gave the head nurse a $250 gift card (DB was in NICU for 2 weeks) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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I freaked my doctor out by hugging him. There were some potential complications with my son and he handled everything beautifully. When we got the genetic "all-clear" I grabbed him in a big hug. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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I got my doctor a Fauchon gift basket. I felt very close with her and she did a great job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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Thanked my doctor and his staff, but not the hospital staff. The nurses sucked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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perfect gift, after my first daughter, to the nurses and my doctor - a woman!- this dvd "the story of mothers and daughters" i've watched it many times since myself (got it for my mom too) www.thestoryofmothersanddaughters.com And what i did was ask for a discount for buying 4 and saved $4 each - they were very sweet about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.08, 03:06 AM Flag
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SPAM......this is the second time this was posted! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.08, 04:27 AM Flag
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ewww. thanks for the alert. How gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.08, 05:00 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm so sick of Hillary and her egocentrism. I voted for her in 2000 and 2006 but she's lost me now. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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Egocentrism? Explain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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The Dems have more important things to do right now than to pay her debt and make sure her feelings are soothed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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It's not her feelings that need to be soothed. It is half of the democratic party (you know, the 18 million people who supported her in the primaries...) Many people feel that Obama was not the best candidate and need to be convinced that he is worth supporting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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Then Obama needs to make the case for his own virtues. Paying off her debt, basically apologizing to her voters for having won--those have nothing to do with it. Her defeat was not some singularly horrible, sad loss, worse and more painful; than any other loss in history because her voters feel so deeply. She just lost. And it'd be the same for the 18 million people who voted for *him*. (Whom Hillary fans seem to assume would have automatically switched to her, since they keep saying, "She'd be winning by 20 points right now!") Hillary and her people ran as hardball a campaign as anyone, and if they'd won, they'd be expecting the other side to get over it--and rightfully so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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If you hadn't noticed, Hillary is supporting Obama 100%. She is campaigning for him. And paying off her debt isn't apologizing to voters for having won. It is SOP for the winning candidate to help pay off the losing candidates debt. Why should Obama be exempted from this practice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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SOP? Examples? Is Obama paying off Edwards' debt? Is McCain paying off Romney's and Huckabee's? Also, I don't think that saying she wants her name placed in nomination--which will play in the media as a floor fight and show of discord a la Kennedy-Carter--is supporting him 100%. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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ummm.....she's not the candidate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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what the hell are you talking about?? did you post this 6 months ago and it just showed up now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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[ - ] does anybody know at what age it is appropriate to teach a kid downhill skiing. My DD is 3. Is it to early to start this skiing season? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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most of the mountains don't have ski school until 5 yo, but the little one lift place near us starts lessons as young as 2yo. i know several 3-4yo who tried skiing this past winter. i'd say go for it if dd is interested. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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where is that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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or: the place near us is in woodbury, ct. but there's a similar mountain in westchester about 1 hr outside the city, where my neighbor takes his dc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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Woodbury CT? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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Friends started their db at 3 yo and he loooved it. We're going to do it with our 3 yo this winter for sure. If they don't like it, don't sweat it. Try again next year. The important thing is good instruction and good waterproof, windproof, warm clothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:52 PM Flag
[ - ] How do I post a nanny job on here (for my nanny)? I don't see a childcare board. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 08.07.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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i am looking for a nanny - would you please tell me a little about yours? thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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Are you still looking for a nanny? We are trying to find a new home for our wonderful nanny (start ASAP) and I'd be happy to tell you about her if you are still looking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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Hi my name is Afyia. I have eight years experience in childcare. I am CPR/First Aid certified and is available full time. I have great references upon request and can be reached at 917-753-2443. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.08.09, 01:17 PM Flag
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AM available full time. Thank you, Afyia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.08.09, 01:59 PM Flag
[ - ] brownish spotting and then completely dissapears for 2 days now, period 3 days late, achy as all hell, negative p. test this am...ttc for 7 months....test would be positive by now, right? oh and my lower right side, near ovary is achy and crampy feeling for days. tia. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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probablly late period :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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aw crap. thought you'd say that. why lord. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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don't worry. It was happen soon--sending good vibes your way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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I didn't get a positive for either of my girls until a week after my period was due [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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this is very encouraging, thanks :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:47 PM Flag
[ - ] At what grade is homework appropriate? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 08.07.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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our school is "alternatively structured" and they start in 2nd grade. we are told that it should not take more than 30 minutes and that if it is causing all sorts of anxiety or problems to talk with the teachers and let it go... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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our school starts it at 3rd grade. 30 min per night from mon- thurs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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Our school starts in K and I think 2nd grade would be better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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in my opinion, not until middle school (which is usually sixth grade) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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really? i think some basic stuff like reviewing vocabulary words, or reading for X minutes, etc. should start earlier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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I think reading for pleasure is more of a lifestyle thing than a homework thing. And I honestly don't see the benefit of homework before middle. I undestand that others do, but OP asked... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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I think kids need to know how to write personal essays, works of fiction and research papers beyond what can be written in the classroom before middle school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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You think a 5th grader should write a research paper? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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np: I think they certainly be able to understand how to start organizing their thoughts to be able to write one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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That isn't waht respsonder said however. She is in favor of 5th graders writing research papers that require the research to be done outside of the classroom hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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I'm the poster and yes, I think 5th graders should learn how to research subjects and how to write a paper using what they've researched. I'm not talking about 5-page papers but maybe 1 or 2 pages. And I'm not talking about following MLA standards for bibliography either - that's for 6th grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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my dd wrote a 15 page research paper in school last year -- 1st grade. research was done at school, and included interviewing people, looking up facts about her topic, etc. she didn't have to write 15 pages -- but that's what she ended up doing. GREAT exercise and terrific results. her school starts homework in K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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15 page research paper in 1st grade - is that Anderson? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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Single spaced or double spaced? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 08:40 PM Flag
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handwritten, with illustrations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.11.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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when kids can do it independently, so I would say 3rd grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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I think 2nd grade for real homework. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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If a child cannot do it 100% on their own, it should not be assigned. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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my ds had homework for K. It was to read, practice writing, and to do some basic workbook stuff. We made it fun not a chore and it was never an issue. (But I'll be the first to admit that what he thinks is fun and what other kids think is fun can be very different.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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I think homework in K is absurd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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yep, my dc had it too and it was a giant PITA. first grade HW was a breeze though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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homework should never be a breeze -- it should be challenging, at whatever grade it's given. if it's so easy, then it's busywork, and is valueless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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You are kidding, right? Practicing writing or reading is never valueless. Not all homework needs to be challenging. This is not college or high school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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okay -- practicing writing letters and reading doesn't need to be challenging -- i modify my above statement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.11.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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OK. I think he actually got some good out of it. Not the least of it was discipline. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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^^OR [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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DC got homework starting in K. It was all torture. I think 2nd grade is the earliest for homework except for math, where drill and practice make a difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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what about drilling and practicing penmanship? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 01:20 PM Flag
[ - ] where did you find the most unique piece of decor (furniture, accessory) for your db's bedroom, and what is it? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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I bought this gorgeous chandelier for my dds room [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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at that cute little flea market in Paris? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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no at the cute little internet store with it's home base down south [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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Oh Christ, I just assumed this was a joke! You're serious about the chandelier? vomit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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why - its probably so adorable. love chandeliers - would put them in every room if i could afford it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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Fish mobile from Negril, Jamaica [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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I'm not being snarky - but never put a word to help out unique. If it is unique - then it means one of a kind, so it can't be most one of a kind. Unique always stands alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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OP: I appreciate that, truly. I hate when I am unknowingly making grammatical errors. Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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whew, soemtimes people get so upset. I"m like you OP, I appreciate it when someone kindly points out something like that to me. Have a great day and happy shopping! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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A circa late 60's, live oak framed, gorgeous needlepoint of an' Eden' style girl, popping a wheelie on a bmx bike [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 08:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone else have three under 3, or thereabouts, and no help? How do you keep your home clean ... get meals on the table ... get the kids out for exercise ... and still find time for the occasional shower? I am truly stumped and beginning to panic. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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we padded the floor of their room and put up a gate. it's all about containment so that you can go crazy and do fun things like dishes and laundry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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op: thanks for responding. we've done that too, but, they cry and scream when the gate closes -- btdt? how did you deal? I feel like I am totally abandoning the older 2 to deal with the baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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that was me. it is very hard. i couldn't do it all. when i had #3 we ended up getting cleaning help every other week. i don't know if i could've managed without it. what are the ages of your kids and are any in school/classes? i'm happy to give any tips that i've learned through trial and error. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:37 PM Flag
[ - ] do you have better orgasms by yourself or with a partner? 39 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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with partner [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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hang on a minute, let me go check... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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self [ Reply | More ]
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partner [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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myself, or oral. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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I assumed that oral was what she meant by partner. [ Reply | More ]
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if not, willyou come over to my house and teach me how to do that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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canine genes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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I was just trying to be specific. I have equally intense orgasms by myself or with a partner IF we're talking about oral. With sex no. (meaning, I never have them with sex.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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I can't orgasm with a partner, except (rarely) oral. It makes me very sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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honey, you are NOT alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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It feels like I am... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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never had an orgasm from intercourse in my life. very very very common to reach climax only with clitora stimulation (oral, manual, mechanical, whatever) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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I'm the dh below- if you are having intercourse and being stimulated manually would you not consider that an orgasm during intercourse. (I'm kind of realizing the answer as I write this... "from" versus "during" I guess is the answer...) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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clever boy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:24 PM Flag
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I'm a little slow sometimes but eventually I get there. -or [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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Sorry, a dh here and I'm surprised/confused. Is it really true that many women don't orgasm during intercourse? (I was never a player. I really had only long term relationships so my experience is limited to only that half dozen women.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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most women don't. many women pretend to in order not to hurt the feelings of a partner they love [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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wow. I think I'd be more bothered that she couldn't be honest than that she didn't orgasm. -or [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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yeah, it's tough but true. Ladies? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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BTW, 'orgasm' is a noun not a verb. What she didn't do was have an orgasm, reach orgasm, achieve orgasm, or enjoy an orgasm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:25 PM Flag
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from Random House Dictionary 2006: –verb (used without object) 5. to have an orgasm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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Bet that was put in there recently due to widespread misuse. The language is going to pot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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You think language should be static? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.12.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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big talker. you wouldn't be so happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:27 PM Flag
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did you even read the post to which you are replying? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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I think she's saying that although he imagines he'd prefer honesty but she doesn't believe he would, so she wouldn't be honest. This is exactly the conundrum - lack of trust and communication equals bad sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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I'm "him." (I'm just surprised that the poster used both "big talker" and "you wouldn't be so happy." I really don't think my post had that kind of tone.) I understand your point. I agree 100% that really good sex requires good communication. But in my experience the best sex also requires intimacy and intimacy requires trust. If my lover (which is from here on my wife) and I can't communicate honestly with each other about what we want and what we enjoy... I don't think we'll ever be at that higher plain. (I'm not a real "eastern" kind of guy but you know what I mean.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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Yes, but I get the impression that the majority of women on here don't get down to the nitty gritty with their partners. My husband and I are able to carry on a mutually satisfying marriage on all fronts because we are straightforward with one another. That is the exception rather than the rule. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 07:40 AM Flag
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Fair enough and I think you are (unfortunately) right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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I also think that the bikini wax, manicure, and highlights crowd that hangs out here is not so big on authenticity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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None of those are my thing, so I'll not comment, but I think a woman is at her sexiest when she comes out of the bedroom with tossled hair wearing my button down shirt as a robe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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Your g-spot has to be in the right place to get stimulated, and you need to know when it is being stimulated. I didn't figure it out or even know about it for years. Fortunately, before I met my dh, I 'got it.' I can give myself an O this way with a dildo. It is a different feeling orgasm than a clitoral one. I don't know why, but it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.10.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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these days, by myself. unfortunately, the chances my dh and i get to have sex, i feel like my mind is preoccupied with a thousand other things i should be doing at that moment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:07 PM Flag
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After the course of Sentia pills I can achieve orgasm due to intercourse, so - with partner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.08, 04:31 AM Flag
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this stuff works? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.08, 05:34 AM Flag
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They are different. With dh it involves touching, kissing and always penetration. Obviously much more satisfying than serving a body function need with a dd, always fast and satisfying nonetheless! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.10.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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Kind of hard to have them with partner when partner does not want sex. so the answer would be, me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.10.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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I have never had an orgasm with any partner ever. It's always been really nice but I never seemed to get there and experience what my partner was. Over recent weeks I have been reading up on relaxation and appropriate toys and after setting aside some quite time on my own I gave it a go. The first time I was a little slow but after a while I experienced sensations I never even knew about. A few days later I tried again and I was a lot quicker, OMG it was wonderful. I don't think I had an orgasm either time but it feels like Im getting closer and closer each time, can't wait to play again.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.09, 02:43 AM Flag
[ - ] OK. I subscribe to a weekly magazine from overseas and pay through the nose to get it. In the past I've noted that I haven't been receiving them and then the nanny (from this foreign land) produces a stack. Last time I said that I didn't want her taking my mail - thank you - and I would certainly pass them along when i was finished. Today she left for a week's vacation and I noticed a new mag in her bag. I never go in her room, but I went up there and there are 6 others by her bed ! I am now pissed. That's not OK, right ? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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of course it's not ok - it's disrespectful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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disrespectful to look in the employee's bag in her room, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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I don't think that's what happened. She said that she noticed the mag in the bag and THEN went upstairs to check. I would have done the same thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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correct. I saw it, she saw that I saw it, and then she walked out and I walked up into her room (first time I have entered without her permission ever) and 6 weeks worth are right there on her bedside table. When i think about it... she took them, read them , and then couldn't even be bothered to return them ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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It IS disrespectful and I already said not to do it and not only did she ignore that, but she takes the magazines for weeks, reads them, and them KEEPS them ! I was very happy for her going on vacation, but now I'm seething and she's reading the LATEST copy of MY Vanity Fair Italy !!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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give her her very own subscription as a gift for her birthday or winter holidays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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no way - then you're subservient to her. she's bullying you and taking advantage of the fact that she knows you don't want a confrontation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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Correct again. I hate a confrontation... I think the disrespect is galling though and I'll have to "man up" on this one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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good luck. I also hate confrontations (expect with DH :) and would have tried exactly what you did to resolve it - offering to give the mags to her when you're done. the fact that she chose to ignore this very nice offer says that she thinks her voice matters more than yours. Which wouldn't be a big deal except that she works for you and is tasked with taking care of your children. You don't want her overriding your voice there even more. Best of luck to you - I definitely feel for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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girlfriend said that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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I didn't go in her bag. It was in the outside pocket of her bag and visible to her and I when she sheepishly said, "This is the last time !" and blithly walked out the door ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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how would you react if a girlfriend did this? you'd be annoyed, right? so how can expect not to be annoyed when an employee does it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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I'm very annoyed and have to sit on it until she returns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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I have never had a nanny, but if it were me, I would fire her. It feels weird and passive aggressive and why have that sort of attitude watching your most precious children? I say kick her to the curb. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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what is 'through the nose'? is it really a lot? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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you're totally missing the point. the point is her nanny is stealing her mail. not cool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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this is not the same as stealing her mail. if it's not too expensive, i'd suggest that she just order her nanny an extra copy. there's something about magazines and newspapers that messes up people's sense of personal property and theft. i have a similar situation b/c i am responsible for ordering magazines for our company. everyone from the mailroom people to the reception area to the higher ups thinks it's ok to "borrow" the magazines. they take them home, they keep them in their desks, they don't return them for months, moreoften than not. it makes me very upset (partially b/c i want first dibs and partially b/c it makes me look bad). i've learned to just accept it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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that's not a private copy in someone's home, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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it's over $250 a year for a sub. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Is clan=based hunter-gatherer lifestyle good for Ivy admissions? DH is a bushman but I feel this is a disadvantage on applications. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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Kalahari prep had good Ivy results last year, but if you're not in Bechuanaland pre-K, good luck getting in [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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DH's family gave one of the main huts at KP, so not worried about that, but DS can barely hold a blowgun. Grades will be an issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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VBA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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ok, seriously - what language is this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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sorry! I thought I was posting on the Tribal board [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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lol I'm with you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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only if you let your children CIO, potty train in infancy, and never ever nurse! These actions will provide the proper balance to his primitivism [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:24 PM Flag
[ - ] What happened to Pug Mom? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:21 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a bad headache, am pg and my ME ME ME ME ME MIL is coming over with my very loud SIL. GOD HELP ME 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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are you the one who just invited them over? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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no is there another??? We should start a support group [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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LOL mine too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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I'd tell them you just spoke to your gyno who advised you to go lie down in the bedroom. close the door and read a book. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:44 PM Flag
[ - ] How many of you use/used the pacifier in the first few months? When did you get rid of it and how? My 1st Dd is 2.5 and still has it only to sleep and I cant' get rid of it now I"m avoiding it for my 5wk old dd - but she's a good sucker and seems to need it 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:17 PM Flag
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we used it for one dc. we just took away cold turkey before age 1. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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how did taking it away go? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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one or two bad nights but that was it. they are very adaptable about stuff like that at 10 mo old [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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I used it with my first dd until she was 3yr old. She gave it up in one day when I scared her. I offered it to my 2nd dd but she was a finger sucker (which is worse). She gave that up when she was 3.5yr. I'm pg with a boy this time and we will see what he likes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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how did you scare her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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she woke up with a small rash (like prickly heat) on her cheeks and I told her that it was from the pacifier. She tossed it then and there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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asshole [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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oh please..it worked [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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need I repeat myself? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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you need to take your meds and chill the hell out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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np: take the stick out lady. We aren't all perfect like you (bullshit) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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np: a bit dramatic aren't we. Take your meds lady. Not like she abandoned her dd in the middle of the highway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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ds used one a lot for 4 months and then started spitting it out and so i didn't give it to him anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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just remember that you can change any bad habit in 3 days. 3 crappy days, but 3 days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Anybody been to Spa Castle in Queens? (The enormous Korean spa) I want to go by myself or w/ a girl friend. Is it fun or tacky? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 08.07.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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just the name makes me giggle [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:17 PM Flag
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my friend LOVED it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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Link please? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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It was a very interesting experience. Kind-of like a mini-indoor-water-theme-park. Everyone walks around bare foot. Lots of nudity inside the locker-room (separate for men and women) - not for the shy or squeemish. Not exactly the "relax and be pampered" environment I was expecting. Kinda like Splash-Mountain meets Disneyland. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.08, 11:33 PM Flag
[ - ] my almost 2yo boy is wild. it seems he has a very small attention span. is this a phase, or ADD? he will sit and do sticker books or a puzzle, but after 5 minutes, he's ready to run around again. I'm exhausted! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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totally totally age appopriate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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ita. it's frustrating for a parent but it's very normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:17 PM Flag
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mine is almost 3 and nothing has changed much! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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