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[ - ] Who usually writes the school report for K applications? The prev year's teacher or current teacher? By the time you send the applications, they will only have been in the new class for a month. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 08.07.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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current teacher [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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how do they get to know the kids in only a month? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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they do. Last yr we had a teacher confer. in early Nov. and I couldn't believe how well they knew and got my dc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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They write them in Dec, 3 months into the school year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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It works out. They don't actually send in the forms until early December. At our schools the 3s teachers have no input at all - the 4s teachers do everything. But by November they know all the kids well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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PSD reviews the reports. But 3s teacher has no input - which I found a bit sad as DS's 3s teacher was a big fan of his. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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do you get to see the report? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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Not at all and I was close with the PSD. Even 4s teacher who really liked DS didn't hint at what it would say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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I felt that way too, but I think if the 3s teachers like your kid, the 4s teachers will like him/her too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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at my school it's the current teacher along with the educational director and they get input from the previous year teacher if needed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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Current teacher & they send it in Jan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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I didn't realize they send them so late. I was thinking they go along with your application. This is better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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They are written by Dec & generally go out over the break so they are there when schools get back the second weak of Jan [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:45 PM Flag
[ - ] my 3 1/2 month old ds is in a refusing to nurse phase. he's constantly breaking off to look around, screams etc. i've resorted to trying to give him a bottle which is less of a battle. Any btdt? Will he grow out of it or is he telling me he's finished with nursing? I'm seriously ready to throw this breastfeeding thing out the window and move to formula. TIA 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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this is very normal at this age. the baby can finally see the world and is interested. he may also be trying to space out feedings. for a bit, try to bf in a dark, quiet room when possible. it is not selfweaning at this age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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he's only taking about 3-4 oz from the bottle which doesn't seem to be enough at his age. i was told 5-6 oz per feed. he's definitely hungry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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spread feedings out and he will eat more at one feeding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:17 PM Flag
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Stop the bottle, go back to nursing on demand. He knows his stomach better than the ped does. We are not all alike. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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Nursing strikes are common at moment of developmental leap. Buy a copy of Kathleen Huggins' book "Nursing Mother's Companion" You'll thank me later [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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He's telling you that he has a brain and is interested in his surroundings. It is not a problem. You can try to sit in a quiet room with nothing on (tv) and see if it helps. But, he isn't finished with nursing. He'll eat when he needs to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:48 PM Flag
[ - ] i wonder if dd is playing in the toilet. i wonder if i should go check. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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i wonder if children really can drown in the toilet ? maybe you should go check. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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good idea. i'll google it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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you beat me to it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:21 PM Flag
[ - ] My handwriting is terrible. DH has nice writing, but I don't see him writing out these applications. Do the admissions people care if you attach a typed page with the essays or should I offer up sexual favors to DH? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 08.07.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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I think if you write like a chicken, then type. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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I typed them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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I printed the information requested by the forms (name, date of birth, etc.) but attached a typed page with the essays. If you don't take up more space that way it's fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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That is what I did [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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Latter. Typing is impersonal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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Type them and try to fromat it so when you are all done you can slip the application essay sheet into your printer. Save the promise of sexual favors for good parent interviews. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:15 PM Flag
[ - ] i'm completely freaked out - in my dream last night, my 2 year old ds kissed me and i was aroused!!!!!! has this happend to ANYONE Else who is not a danger to society? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 08.07.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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normal, normal, normal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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i cant even tell my husband and i feel funny with my ds now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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Dreams are weird, just try to forget about it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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Dreams are different than waking cognitive thought, obviously. In dreams, "arousal" could mean something else, as could your 2 year old. The brain does a lot of crazy shit while we sleep. It's nothing to worry about. And don't feel funny around your kid! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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Agree w/ above posters. Dreams can be pretty F@#%ed up! Don't sweat it. Probably all the talk on this board about kissing on the lips got to you in your dream. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Interesting. I posted a WWYD about dh's emotional affair last winter asking for advice when after randomly checking and finding nothing for months, I came across a questionable work-related e-mail with a flirty undertone from the same married with dc reportee. I only got flamed for being too paranoid with low self-esteem or ITA's. Where is the advice?? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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Why were you checking his email? You might be making too much out of nothing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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well, what were you hoping for advice about? do you want to hear that it means nothing and not to worry? or, do you want to hear that you should hire a private detective? not being snarky, but as the quote goes "advice is what you ask for when you already know the answer but wish you didn't" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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What do you expect from UB? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:31 PM Flag
[ - ] [-]Pediatrician Poll: Give name, location, and rate from 10 (recommend to everyone) to 1 (can't wait to find a different one) Also any reasons for rating. Oppedisano, Riverdale, an absolute 10 Dr. Gold, Tribeca Pediatrics, 10! 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 08.07.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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Prezioso, Pediatric Assoc 10 (and I like all the associates) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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ditto this. also heard great things about riverdale pediatrics-all three docs there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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where's Pediatric Associates? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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E. 34th Street, by the tunnel. They are always available. I, thank God, haven't had too many emergencies, but when I did, quick call back, they always take me and are nice. My girfriend's kid did have some health problems and loves them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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Wow. I find them always too busy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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that's because they're great! I love Prezioso but I must say that I'm getting a bit fed up with how busy she is. On the other side, she was the one who caught a disease my dd developped early, therefore making sure she didn't develop other major problems [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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She was booked once for a 9 month- frankly, I am comfortable with the others and went with one of them. Then back to Prez for the 12 month. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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Micahel Rafinnan, Park Slope, one million. (OK a ten) BUT he's a family medicine doc so not actually a pediatrician. But that means he can be mom and kids' doctor which is great for the big picture. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:11 PM Flag
[ - ] just potty trained dd. been about 3 weeks. noticing yesterday and today that the inside of her labia are very red and she complains that it hurts when I bathe her. Also, I've noticed she has a bit of an odor there as well. Any suggestions on what I should do? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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teach her to wipe herself better. change her underwear more often. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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sitz bath [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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you mean like what they told me to do after I had a baby and was leaving the hospital sitz bath? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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first she may not be wiping. 2ndly wash her with nonscented soap and don't let her sit in the water for long. My dd gets red and pain down there after her baths. Ped told me what I just told you..I also put vaseline for the redness. It helps [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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^^also teach her to pat herself dry instead of wiping hard with hard tissue paper [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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use diaper rash cream, don't stay in the bath too long, use only mild, unscented soap, make sure she dries completely when she gets out of the bath (leave her without undies for a while after the bath) and, most important, wipe her properly after she pees. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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but properly does not mean hard. Just dab dab. Sitz baths are frequently soothing but do need to be brief. But yeah, a sore vagina is a sore vagina, no matter what caused it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking for a low-key LI town with great publics and a Jewish community...how are Plainview, Garden City, Syosset, Laurel Hollow, Rockville Centre? Other recs? TIA 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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Syosset is great [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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E. Northport [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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RVC is a great town to live in but I can't vouch for Jewish community, as I am Catholic and it is the seat of the diocese. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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muttontown [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:09 PM Flag
[ - ] After exhaustive research I am sad to inform you that despite all the work I made a bad choice when I purchased my vacuum cleaner. Electrolux Harmony, thumbs down. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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I LOVE my Dyson!! It actually makes me want to vacuum to see all the gross stuff it gets up! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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I HATE HATE HATE my Dyson. Worst purchase, ever. Big, bulky, not intuitive to use. I always break out my old vacuum instead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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Really? I really like mine - just bought it about 6 months ago. I like that I can go from vacuuming the floor to the stairs without having to change vacuums. It's pretty light and easy to get around. Do you have an older one? Mine is the "pet hair" which really does pick up hair from our black lab and black cat! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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General Topics 08.07.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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call me a happy Miele lady ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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x2 (but I'm no lady.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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Miele is the way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 08:13 PM Flag
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Eh. I don't love mine. I like the way it looks. But it's not the best vaccuum, I don't think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 08:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone been to the science musuem in Queens? Any good? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 08.07.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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many times, my kids like it a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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i heard it was really great [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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just went today! it's very good. how old is your dc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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General Topics 08.07.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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many times, it is great and the zoo is right beside it - just walk over, really cute fun zoo too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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New York Hall of Science is very good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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great. been there many, many times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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Awesome; it won't fail to engage your kids or you. The new(ish) science playground is amazing and the zoo is very nearby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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We are members. It is an awesome place to bring your kids to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 06:50 AM Flag
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love it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 06:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone used Barnard Babysitting for a part-time sitter? How did you check references? Did you ask for a drivers license or passport number or social security number? Did you do any kind of background check? My gut is telling me somehow I won't know anyone in common with these student so want to cover all my bases. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 08.07.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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i worked for Barnard Babysitting (and Bartending, but that's a diff post) when I was a student and if I still lived in Manhattan I wouldn't hesitate to hire the young women . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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I use them for evening sitting and all the girls I've gotten have been lovely with lots of babysitting experience and good references. In general, I find that college girls willing to give up their nights for an unglamorous job, are pretty down to earth and responsible and like kids. The references I call are usually the family they sat for all the time in HS or the year before in college and the moms usually gush with relevant details about these girls. I've been far happier with college girls (Barnard and otherwise) than other sitters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:20 PM Flag
[ - ] I know this is not PC but stay at home Dads really bug me. 64 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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the one i know bugs me too. [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 08.07.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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i wonder.. lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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tritto! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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I don't know why? If the wife can earn more $$$ and they want one of them to stay home, why not the dad? This is reverse prejudice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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^^I know one and he's great with his DD. He's a musician and when he has a gig it's at night. He has a great relationship with his dd and the other moms [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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My husband is a musician and if it not a very part time thing then he has frequent sessions during the day plus what does this guy do when he gets home at 2 and has to be up at 6 for the kid? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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he gets up. He is out early with her at the park, takes classes, ect. He's more active with her than some of the moms I know. We call him one of the gals..he's really nice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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blah blah blah - most of them are weirdos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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blah blah blah yourself. I don't judge a family who chooses to have the dad home. If you feel like they are weirdos then you know what you have to do right?? stay to yourself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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Me too! All the ones I know - admittedly not many - seem to have very "fringey" personalities. Good dads though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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You people make me sick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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sorry. but we speak the truth lady [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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I think you mean sir. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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was thinking the same thing. truly i dont mind stay at home dads just the one i am referring to [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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Congratulations. With your post, this board has just reached a new low. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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welcome newbie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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nope. been here quite awhile I'm ashamed to say. I think this is pretty low. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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lower than the racial insults - ethical insults - i dont think so [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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np - I don't see the difference between the two. It's all bigotry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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if this is a new low - this is your first day on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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no. see above. I'm actually amazed at the venom of the posters on this thread. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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i think most are joking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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I know it's not PC, but stay at home mom's really bug me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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Really, and you know who I really can't stand? Stay at home jews. And stay at home black people. And work outside the home Latinas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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but you I like. -np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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snort signed sahm latina [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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Stop making me laugh out loud at my desk! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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unless they're working in MY home, 'course. those I like! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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Paint me with the same brush. I find them a little annoying myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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any particular reason? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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well, the few I know seem a little angry, lazy and all knowing rolled into one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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same one i bet!! yes - [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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SAHD here. I love staying home with my three kids while the wife is out there making money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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yup, weirdo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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You know what bugs me? Not having a parent stay at home with the children even though one income would be more than sufficient. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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oh boy. duck my friend [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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nice try newbie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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newbie? no - sorry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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Oh gosh...let me help you adjust your thorny crown. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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THANK YOU. ITTTTTTA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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wow. that i truly and completely not PC. i don't usually see un-pc posts here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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I love that my dh stays at home with our new son. He will care for him much better than anyone we could hire. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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really? Do you ever resent that it is not you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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It is hard to leave for work in the morning when the two of them are playing and giggling, but I don't resent him because I have to work. I always made a lot more $$ than he did and it made sense for him to stay home. I worry that he will become bored, but we'll cross that bridge when we get to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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Ditto. My DH just left his job to be at home with my 5 y/o DD and 3 y/o DS. It's better for them, and much less stressful for me than when we had a nanny (she was great, but there are always employer-employee issues). I was home for a year total (6 mos after each DC), now it's DH's turn. And I don't think he's at all "fringey" (whatever that means!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:50 PM Flag
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Gay or straight, single, divorced or married, or do you distinguish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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Anyone who doesn't do as she does is weird, fringey, irksome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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jealous? is your dh a smuck? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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Do you know that schmuck is the yiddish word for penis? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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And even better that Schmuck is the German word for jewelry? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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And bling is the native american word for getting screwed in a real estate transaction [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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I know this is not PC but I thought this post was funny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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-- I mean the chain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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the one sahd that i know is totally cool. but what weirds me out is when a dh is on here. always thought of it as a girl forum [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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there used to be a complete and total loser who would come here regularly and post: dh here. any questions? soooo annoying! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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maybe that's what did it for me lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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My husband stays home. He rocks! He's so good with her. I'm so glad she gets to see that kind of gentleness in a man. I feel very lucky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 09:36 PM Flag
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You are crazy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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I'm a WAHD. Does that count, or am I still bugging you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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I had a bf who knew I was OK with either parents staying home since it depended on who made more $ at the time of the db.... we were pretty young. He ended up maybe even purposefully not doing well in college, I dumped him eventually for current dh. Point is, the guy was a loser and he always wanted to be sahd, but it was just cloaked laziness!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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Your statement implies that being a stay at home parent is the easy life. Do you also believe that SAHMs are lazy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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My DH sold his company a few months before ds was born. As part of the transction, he signed an eight year non-compete that prevents him from working in the only field/industry where he has experience. So SAH made a lot of sense for him. When he gets a new idea for a business, he will go back to work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 03:20 PM Flag
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My DH is SAHD and most people find him wonderful. He is very active with DCs, arranging playdates, volunteering at school, etc. I make >$1 million a year, so makes sense for us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 04:50 PM Flag
[ - ] It may be the pg but I called Dh up and told him to invite his sister and mother over today. I see my MIL maybe 2 times a yr and his sis maybe every 2-3 yrs. I hope they don't drive me nuts. Cross my fingers 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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Why oh why? I cherish the times I don't have to see my MIL. My SIL is not that bad, but my MIL is crazy. She lives in her own world and no one else is invited! I wish you luck!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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thanks..I just don't know what short term craziness I was going through when I suggested he invite them. It meant the world to him so I will suck it up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:16 PM Flag
[ - ] would you send dc to pvt if you could afford it? if yes what would be your rationale? 84 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 08.07.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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I do and I went to private school (parochial) and public. My experience with public (as well as my dh with NYC public) was horrible. Our local public schools (D1) aren't great..so it was private for us [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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what pvt schools would you recommend in say Bklyn & Westchester county? where did you go, were you happy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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I went to school in Manhattan. I wish I knew of schools in Brklyn and Westchester but I don't. I have heard nice things of brooklyn friends and poly prep. I know there is another called St. Anns but don't know anything about it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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parochial. yuck. that's hardly private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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idiot parochial IS private. Where there is tuition to pay that is private not like the city is picking up the tab. Don't be such a snob. No one asked you for your opinion so blow your snobbiness out your ass [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 03:51 AM Flag
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np. i'm not a snob, but i'm also not a hypocrite. there's no way i'd pay money to an institution that is against divorce, birth control, gay rights, women's rights, a woman's right to choose....oh, and then there's the whole creepy priests diddling little boys thing. no thanks. btw, this is a public bulletin board. posting one's opinion is the whole point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 05:37 AM Flag
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NP: I frankly don't see how anyone could pay a dime for any education with an association to an organized religion. It's craziness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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Parochials are not "private", they are run by an organization. She is misinformed, tuitioin does not mean private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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No, you are wrong. Parochial are schools run by the archdiosis. There are catholic privates in nyc (Marymount, Sacred Heart), but there are 30+ tuition like the privates and do not define themselves as "parochial". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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i can afford it and i don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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me too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:23 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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I would put sending dcs to private above all other non-essential spending. NYC offers some of the best schools in the country and a bunch of mediocre public options (a few schools excluded). It seems obvious to give dcs the best I can afford. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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NYC has the best public school system in the country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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LOL!!! It has some of the best public schools in the country, but that is a far cry from having the best system. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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it has both. The public systems in other large cities is pretty terrible so it is not high praise [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:03 PM Flag
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large cities yes, but plenty of suburban systems way better than what we have in NYC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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That is so far from the truth. The public school system here it horrendous, especially in Brooklyn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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It's not great here in the Bronx either, though there are some very hard working people in the system. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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it does? Then my experience with our public schools and my dh experience tells me a lot about what you consider the best system means. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 03:53 AM Flag
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General Topics 08.07.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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i was fortunate enough to get a private education all the way through - even though it came at a great financial sacrifice on my parents part. while i don't believe it made me more successful (professionally or financially), i do think that the substance of my education was more in depth, more thorough and more individualized and that my peer group was on a higher level which was ultimately more challenging. I believe as an above average (but no where near top student) I was better prepared for college - in terms of course levels completed, study habits and writing skills - than most of my classmates who were top students at public schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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ITA! This was my experience exactly! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 02:46 PM Flag
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tritto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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interesting. dh went to private school, i went to public and i'm by far the better-educated of the two of us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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Probably not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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You know I would agree about the quality of education offered in pvt school. Whether one can afford it or not, pvt schools are there for a reason.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:17 PM Flag
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yes, as an alternative to public schools. Many people who could afford it have better things to do with their money, though. It's not like the private schools produce more successful people than public schools (if you keep your comparisons within a group of socio-economically similar families) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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is professional success really the best measure of the education one received? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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What else do you get an education for? If you do not intend of using it down the road just drop out and don't bother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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NP wow lady, you are the difference between someone who is well educated and someone who is poorly educated [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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ita. some of the most educated people i know make less than a lot of the "successful" ones [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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this is such a horrible attitude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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you guys are funny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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It is not about success, it is about being well educated and able to understand and appreciate references, political issues because you have more than the basic knowledge of world history and events, literature, art. No one here send their dcs to private to be an Ibanker you need no education for that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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Tom-a-to, tom-ah-to. There are more well educated kids graduating from public schools than from private schools. Same spiel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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hmm. some of the adults i know who went to nyc privates fit this bill and some wouldn't get a cultural reference if you spray-painted it on the side of their fendi bag. i some dumb, dumb people who went to tt privates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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The two people in NYC that I know of who went to private, and are now sending their kids to TTs, are the people in my life *least* likely to know, or want to talk about, 1) events happening outside of the US, and 2) cultural events. I don't even both calling them to go see a ballet, or concert, because they usually just have no idea what symphony is doing what, etc. Seriously - I love them - they're my friends, and they're funny, and they're good shoppers, but they aren't the most curious/intellectual people I've bet. By a mile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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I find the complete opposite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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Yes, we do, We both went to private and know first hand that the education is phenomenal at the top new york privates, there is no better reason than this IMO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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Yes. Smaller classroom size. More attention from teachers. Not getting lost in the larger crowd. Better facilities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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But those are all the least important aspects of private school, the level of education is far more significant [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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To me, I equate individualized attention to the level of education. I am assuming that a young child will grasp more, or a teacher will be able to find developmental points easier in a small setting, versus a 30 person class. It's a generalization. I think that OP's question is general. It's not for everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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Teacher mom here. Imo, class size is a HUGE issue for me. I can do wonders with fewer than 20 children. Once I get more than 22, everything suffers... I would take a pay cut in oreder to have smaller classes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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np - It depends on the kids' abilities too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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Teacher mom here: I can work wonders witha range of abilities in a classroom if I do not have too many students. Sometimes you actually can teach better with a mix. Class size is 3,000 times more important to me than anything other than an administration that supports me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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That just means you are not a great educator. Or maybe just not qualified enough to teach larger classes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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Not teacher mom, but answer this: given a choice of small class or large calss size, is there anyone who would ever say they had a DC that would be better off in a large class size? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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yes, of course. You have many more opportunities to find real friends and it is easier to avoid the kids you don't really like. There are many social advantages of being in a bigger class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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Maybe for some. It just turns me off when I toured large class sizes and see the groups of DCs in outer space, not doing anything, or goofing around. There's just not enough the teachers can do to get their attention. And this was at multiple different classes and schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:57 PM Flag
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You do have to blame the teacher for that. I had excellent teachers in school even though my classes were large nobody goofed off. And the ones that did goof off were hardly noticeable in class. I agree that the students have to be a little more willing to learn but hey, that's why you have parents that have to keep their children on track. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:00 PM Flag
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It really depends. Are you talking about 20 kids in a class vs 36? Or 12 kids vs 24? And, yes, there would be circumstances where I would think that dc would be better off in a large, but not unmanageable, sized class [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 02:57 PM Flag
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Absolutely, but only if we could comfortably afford it. I wouldn't do it if really stretching would affect our standard of living. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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We can but dc got into a public school we love so that's where dc goes to school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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Never, and spouse and I are both Private school / prep school, Ivy League educated professionals. We love our children's public schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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Ditto here! Certainly not in New York. I'd pay to avoid the NY scene. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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Teacher mom here. I would send my dcs to the best school available (taking their personalities, etc. into consideration) in the area in which we lived, if I could afford it. Whether the institution was public or private would not matter to me. There are great public schools in some places and there are third-rate privates. As far as NYC is concerned, I was born and raised here and went to private. I have taught in both public and private for over ten years. There are a few very good public schools and I have atught in some great and some mediocre private. I would not consider sending my dcs to the public schools we are zoned for. Dh and I make a good living, but as private school tuition for 2 awould be a stretch, we are looking in the burbs. The thought of living the city makes me sick, but I will do it for a good public school system. So, if money were no object, we would stay and see if our dcs managed to gain admission to a good private school--no question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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I am not a teacher, but this reflects my view. Although, based on our financials (which are pretty healthy) I am going to make a plan to find a good public situation and then if one of my kids needs a new environment, I'll take it from there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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I could ditto all of this, tutored and taught in top and alternative public and private schools for 20 years. I am happily sending my dd to a great public school. I would say the biggest difference between public and private is that public school teachers can't teach the level of writing that private school teachers can (just think of reading 60 papers versus 165). the math, science and history are totally similar. Better writing and more drugs are not worth $35000 a year to me, but I understand why it would be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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But of course there are public school teachers and schools with great writing programs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:07 PM Flag
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yes, that's sort of my point [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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which publics do you like in the city? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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CPE 1, MSC, SMSa, HCES in Manhattan and know families loving their school and communities at 166(g&t), ps9, ps199,ps87 and others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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Writing instruction sucks at 166 GT whether hte parents know it or not and the school is barely GT - not because of kids but because teachers don't know how to make it gifted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.11.08, 03:48 AM Flag
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I'm a HS teacher: LaGuardia, Hunter, Beacon, Stuy if you are lucky to get decent teachers, Lab is OK (math not so good), others [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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It is not true that the science or history taught in most public schools approaches the level of that taught in most private schools. You are really ignorant if you think this is the case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 08:33 PM Flag
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np - I think that at the HS level they are, whether a top private school, a top suburban public or a top NYC public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 09:16 PM Flag
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I like that you call me ignorant when I have taught at the tt public for years and tutored kids from tt private for 20 years. I am telling you the math and science is not different at public and private to make it worth the $$. The history is in general, but not always, better at private and the English is usually much better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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^^^meant, of course, for the person 2 posts above who called me ignorant, not for the one directly above who agrees with me about math, science and history not being that different [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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do tell. which are the privates you like and which do you think are mediocre? from the inside i'm sure it looks different [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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DC is at a TT. If you ask the parents there, they'd say OUr child is getitng a wonderful education. Just amazing, We're so pleased. bla bla bla. But it's not all that great. It's okay. It could be better. It could be worse. But the parents don't pay that much attention. They'll tell you that their kid is learning how to build a medieval castle when their kid pasted two pieces of paper together in tehe sahpe of a bridge. (just an example). I don't think most parents are such good judges of the quality of their chldren's education. I'd lvoe to know where the psoter/teacher thought the good / mediocre schools were. Because I think my TT is okay, but it's often cited as a school which gives children a "wonderful education" and I think everyone is either cracked, or has drunk some mighty expensive Kool Aid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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I read your post with interest (and the medieval castle thing made me LOL). We knew two guys in college who went to a very exclusive east coast boarding school and both were C- students. Meanwhile my dh went to public school in Alabama and was the top of our class. How much better can the education really be? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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Your children hear the word "medieval" in school. There are about one million children in New York city for whom this will not be true. One word obviously does not make a good education, but many children are short-changed by not learning about so much in the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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Do you really think that no NYC public school child has ever heard the word "medieval" in school? Not at Anderson, not at Stuyvesant, not at Townsend Harris? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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I didn't say that no child in a NYC public school would hear the word "medieval" during their time in school. I said about a million would not (a guess, of course). That leaves about a hundred thousand kids who may the word, although I would venture very few of those kids will hear it in elementary school. My point is that I feel our kids are short-changed when it comes to content and I think content makes a difference whether a child likes school or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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as in sh$t, dude, he went all medieval on his a$$? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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Oh my - so just hearing the word "medieval" count as the great piece of education in this case? That's a very high bar you TT's are setting, LOL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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What don't you understand about "one word does not make a great education, obviously"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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np - Face it. You made a dumb comment. Try again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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I totally understand what you meant by the medieval comment.. and it's very true.. There are many public schools that don't teach as many "worldy" types of things, instead they stick to the basic curriculum which does hinder children, especially those in underserved communities.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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ITA with teacher mom. We are sending dc to best school we got into which happens to be private. Public options did not pan out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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Yes. DH is legacy, had good experience, we have a good chance of getting in, he is still involved with alumni council, etc. He would like ds to have the same opportunity. Unfortunately, we cannot afford it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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Underserved children in public school will not know the word medieval and other words, facts, like it. But all mc urban children will. So if private is offering nothing better than the word, that's nnot really enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.11.08, 03:54 AM Flag
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We CAN afford it, but we don't. Public is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.11.08, 04:32 AM Flag
[ - ] is it me or does anyone else feel that this board has gotten very snobby lately. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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it has always been snobby, under the guise of liberal egalitarianism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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this board has always been bitchy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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It has always had a huge element of snobbiness [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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it just seems to me that it's gotten worse lately. more liberal, more snobby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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I've been here just a few weeks but man, I can't believe some of the garbage people feel comfortable spewing here. Anonymity is not a pro-social system, I guess. The wort is on display. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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^^worst (but all the warts too) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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Maybe it's the heat and humidity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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that could be. maybe people are nastier in the summertime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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The intelligentsia are gone for the summer, leaving the trolls of UB to wallow in their own muck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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