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[ - ] if you love your ob/gyn, who is it? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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Anita LaSala at Columbia [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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agree, i had her too, she is great [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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Kurt Christopher. LOVE HIM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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me too, he delivered both my dcs and he is great! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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Lisa Eng [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:39 AM Flag
[ - ] does anyone have a realtor/agency in ct, stamford area? thanks. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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I don't know your budget but for upscale try www.raveis.com [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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Yes, Todd Auslander - coldwell banker. Very nice guy. Not too pushy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:13 AM Flag
[ - ] 5 week old baby has the hardest time pooping and when she does it is little hard balls. dr. recommended 1 tsp of karo syrup 2x a day in bottle. still not helping. anyone have any other suggestions? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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Are you nursing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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ahh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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Oh back off perfect mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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Breastfed babies don't have hard poops unless something's wrong. Legitimate question. Why so antagonistic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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np: maybe b/c you responded "ahh"??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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a littl eprune juice in the bottle with the formula. Mine was the same way and nothing helped her - it was rough until she got regular. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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i'd try some water in the bottle. also heard that sugar water is good but i've never tried it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:17 AM Flag
[ - ] Interested in hearing from people who have moved from NYC upstate. Looking for cute towns not too suburban but still within driving/train distance from the city. Considering Cold Spring, New Paltz, Beacon. Really want to live in the Berkshires, but it's too far from relatives. tia 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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think everything looks cute but have heard that drugs are an issue up there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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I live in New Paltz and absolutely love it. I take the train to the city to work 3 days a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Are there any SAHMs who would be interested in babysitting? I live on the UES and need a few hours a week in my apt. alone without the twins! Anyone interested? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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You should look to see if there's a Yahoo group for a local parents group and maybe post there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:59 PM Flag
[ - ] i have been very coy with my crush when it comes to texting and flirting, but he came over sunday night with a bunch of people and i got all nervous and started getting this weird feeling - like my head was going to explode. i wish i would have flirted with him instead of being so shy! then i texted him that night and the next day and fell out of my coyness and was a little to blunt about wanting him. afraid i scared him away even though his responses don't necessarily indicate it. i just feel like i should have played hard to get a little longer and i can't stop thinking about it 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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how old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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that's exactly how it felt. like i was in high school again. i swear, i don't know what came over me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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are you the woman who is about to jump into the affair with the crush ? the one who almost got caught texting ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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oh my god! I totally know how you feel!!!!! I have suuuuuuuch a crush on this kewl guy in my office. oh my god!!!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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You mean OMG!!!!!!!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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OP sucks because i was being very basic with the texts - with hints of stuff thrown in there. now after sunday night and monday's text i feel like i came on too strong and he won't be interested in texting me. i know he'll still want to get together with me, but i feel like the challenge for him is over. he is out of town all week and i want to text him but won't because then i'll look as desperate for him as i really feel. it is consuming me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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get a good therapist now and cut the crap [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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why? why such the downer? this is the first time since i met my dh 16 years ago that i have even looked at another guy or flirted with anyone. why can't i have some fun? i am in a lackluster marriage and i'm tired of the mom thing. i need an outlet [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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No, my dear, you need counseling. Either work on restoring the luster to your marriage or get out of it. Too bad you're tired of "the mom thing". That one's for life. In fact, even Mr Lackluster is for life since you decided to have kids and therefore will always have to deal with him one way or another. The only thing that your current actions can achieve is to make things worse. You are not a child. Have whatever thoughts you want but control your behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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it's good that you know so much about feelings. and you probably know how to deal with every situation that comes along in your life correctly. sorry if i don't. came on here because i obviously have no one i can talk to about this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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it is sad how out of control you seem to be. can you not see that the giddiness isn't a good thing but that weird giggly feeling when you're in an uncomfortable situation ? like giggling at a funeral ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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that's probably what it was. but, when i look back on it i just wished i could have done it differently, not done it at all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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you're not behaving in a way you want to be acting. Go cold turkey... end whatever you think it is. Channel Cher and think "Snap out of it !" when you think he's just that spark you need. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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i really do want this. that's the weird thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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I say this because I was there. You can end it when you get to the realization that this is a Lifetime movie you're working toward. Imagine whichever B-grade actress you want doing what you are doing and realize you deserve better for yourself than this... whatever this "is". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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that's not convincing enough. this attraction has gone farther in a month than i have ever imagined [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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gone further in what way ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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in that i never thought i would be interested so badly. dh & i have been sexless for three years. i just started having sex with him again when i got attracted to this guy. it's been a trying marriage and we stayed together because of the kids (which really wasn't a good thing, because they were being "taught" the wrong way to love your spouse) and mostly on my part because i was a sahm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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You really do write as if your marriage isn't important anymore. If that's the case, just deal with it and tell your DH that you're out and moving on. Do this full-on. Is he worth the romp but not the end of your marriage ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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maybe the romp will make me jump out of my marriage. i am just starting to work again, which was a fear of leaving him before now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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so you're prepping yourself ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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maybe so. i seriously am only having sex with dh because of the sexiness i feel from this other guy. and actually, now that i might be getting closer to really having sex with the guy, dh kind of grosses me out again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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I felt sorry for you, but now I'm starting to feel for DH. You should be honest with him. You've got one foot out the door. Does he know ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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i know. "grosses me out" was a little strong. but i really don't want to be having sex with dh. i'm just doing it for me. dh has no clue now that i would leave and mostly because he thinks we are "working it out" because we are having sex now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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I think you have the wrong board. Try seventeen.com [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:14 AM Flag
[ - ] Yes. Good eye contact. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:04 AM Flag
[ - ] To the daycare trolls out there. I have one thing to say I had both my mom was a stay at home mom until I was 12 and then went back to work let me tell you I had a better relationship with my mom as a working mom then i ever did when she was a SAHM. I talked to a lot of my friends who had WOHM and SAHM and it is pretty consistant that the relationship between working mother at dd's is much stronger then the SAHM and daughter. I thought this info was pretty interesting. What do you ladies think? 36 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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my mother was a SAHM when I was young and WOHM when my brother was young. She was a happier person as a WOHM and my brother got the better deal. It all depends on whether the mother is doing what she wants to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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FYI I am not trying to stir the pot or anything, but isn't it interesting if you take a look at it. My mom was a crazy b<>:h when she stayed at home, always trying to please everyone and lacking the stimulation of an everyday life I think it really hindered her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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lol, one thing in my life as a SAHM I am not lacking is stimulation! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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are your kids in school f/t? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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one is and one is in pre school several mornings a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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Do you have a nanny? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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I would think working for other people would be much more challenging when it comes to pleasing everyone. At least at home SAHm are the boss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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as a WOHM, i am always allowed to go to the bathroom alone when i need to. at home, not so much. very few adult bosses are as unreasonable as a toddler. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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my mom was sahm until I was 7 and in school full day. she was an awesome sahm - the kind who was part playmate part preschool teacher. Nonetheless, i think the best thing she did was go back to work and that as i got older our relationship would have deteriorated had she continued to sah bc she would not have had an independent life and i was a very independent child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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How odd you believe this. How can you possibly speak for your mother and determine whether she had an "independent" life? All of us - SAHM and WOHM are dependant on some things and independent of others its absurd to assume that on anyone else's behalf. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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i'm speaking only for MY mother and what i know about her - not at all speaking for all sahms. and i don't presume it at all, we have discussed this many times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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I see your point on this OP. My mom was a teacher and I felt very cared for and loved by her -- granted her hours were very civilized but I knew she worked and I went to after school programs etc (PS she was single) and never felt "cheated." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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I am a teacher and my dd goes to school where i teach. I love it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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Generally, you will present a more logical argument if you resist using anecdotal data that is comprised of your experience, and your friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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Yup. Exactly. Especially when it's obvious to everyone (but you) that your friends were aware of the answer you were seeking and gave it to you. You were looking for confirmation, not opinion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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but that totaly undermines all arguments on UB! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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OP here and I never once asked with a predetermind answer rearing its ugly head. I was actually thinking of doing a stratigized random sampling of the community I live in to see what the finite statistics say. Like I said my mom was a SAHM and a WOHM. Did you ever hear what I was? Nope you just thought I was a WOHM. Would you like to ask now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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Well obviously you are a statistical anaylyst but you SAHM! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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I WOh 4 hours a day, and my mom takes care off dd, during that 4 hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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Meh, I think a forum like UB is fine for a little anecdotal chatter. There can often be a lot of truth in cliches. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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but what she's saying is that she sees a trend among her friends and she's wondering if others experiences are similar. she's not saying that her experience makes it a universal truth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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I think I don't really care about you or your friends. I make the decisions for my family based on our economic need and the needs of my family. Can't say I'll be rushing back to the corporate world just on the off chance that my dd will have a "great" relationship with me based on your compelling story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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Yawn. UB has no middle anymore. Either dumb vacant responses or trying way too hard to pseudo intellectualize and clever everyone into a corner. What happened? It used to be so much fun on here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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Sorry, I think OP's post is the pseudo intellectual crap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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np: How so...? She is stating her opinion based on her experience. It's not dogma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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A post like hers only serves to divide. "it is pretty consistent that the relationship between working mother..is much stronger than the SAHM..What do you ladies think?" Frankly, if you think makes for good conversation, I'm glad not to know you in real life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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or: I think you're getting a tad worked up. And relax, we don't have to be friends IRL. A notion that makes you eternally grateful, no doubt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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ITTTA, It's all Wal Mart or PSP (and they are far more irritating...) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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I think you're trying to justify outsourcing your parental responsibilities as a result of your narcissistic need for self-indulgence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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not op: what about the moms that need to work to supplement HHI? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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Most of the time, they really don't NEED to supplement their income, they just choose to live beyond their means. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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so it's better to be a sahm and live in a trailer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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If it's come to that, you really shouldn't have had children in the first place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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i feel bad for your dc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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Why? Because they're not overindulged with material "things" as a result of my parental guilt for abandoning them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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shut up already [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 08:36 AM Flag
[ - ] Why does MIL insist on everthing being on her terms? She spends 3 weeks with other son's kids and can barely stay 4 days with ours; initially refused to visit at all but insisted that I bring dd to her for a week; now she's insisting that she bring dds to BIL's (1.5 hrs. away) for hand-off to my mom (who then has to drive them 1.5 hrs. back home) rather than letting my mom simply come to our house. Every time she visits she insists on preparing elaborate meals that she serves at 10:00 pm. We're typically in bed by that hour. DDs are absolutely bonkers by then. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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I find when people shy away from spending similar/equal time with grandchildren/friends/kids it is generally because they are not as fun or easy to be around. Its really that simple. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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Wow, harsh! Is BIL very near to MIL & so she doesn't have to put herself out much? Sounds like she is basically selfish & doesn't want to go out of her way. My Dad is like that - will see the kids when it is easy for him (here anyway) but won't do anything out of the ordinary to see them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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I know. Its funny how people are always looking for elaborate excuses and explanations for something so basic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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That is not always the case at all. I know several families where the parents treat their grown children and grandchildren completely inequitibly for no reason, leaving out some really fun and easy to be around people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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Because you let her. Feed your kids when you normally feed them and put them to bed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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totally. if she wants you and dh to sample her stuff after then go ahead. she does sound like a handful btw! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone seen/used both Emily Blake and Dorothy Greenbaum for a bris? Trying to decide. Used Blake last time but not sure if I should switch. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Newborn 08.07.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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Nope, but Phil Sherman was amazing (so fast with the boy he had no time to cry). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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Phil Sherman is the exact opposite of Emily Blake. if you like her style you will hate him and vise versa. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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What's she like? I'm the one who appreciated Phil's speedy hands above. Every other bris I have been to has been torture, with baby screaming, use of clamps, sometimes even strapped to a plastic platform to immobilize. My main concern was my boy's comfort. I wanted him off the breast for the least time possible and Phil made that happen. We're Reconstructionists but didn't mind his pedagogical differences. Spouse is a pediatrician and preferred this approach. In fact, he refers even non-Jews to mohelim if baby does not get circ at hospital and parents want it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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OP: Blake was really mellow and sweet and lead a beautiful service. Sends it to you via e-mail first so you can print it out for all your guests to follow along. So moving it made me cry, with stuff about his future, etc., and his name/hebrew name on first page, etc. Just really warm. HOWEVER, she did strap ds gently to a board in a back room first and apply the clamp.. so he was held down for a long time and started crying right then, through the whole thing. Brought out on board (covered in blankets), it was done, he was unstrapped and given to me. But there was a lot of crying b/c he was confined for so long. Want the nice service of Blake with the quick snip of Sherman. Where to find it?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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Beats me but maybe you could write want you recall from Blake's service and give it as your own speech. My boy was on my breast while Phil spoke, then on a pillow in my father's lap sucking on a hanky corner dipped in wine as Phil spoke more. Husband held his legs for the 5 or fewer seconds of the snip itself. Handed to me immediately to get back on breast while the dancing and singing went on. Then we went into another room and Phil showed us how to do after-care. It all depends on what's most important to you. PS is not part of our ongoing spiritual life so his remarks were not pivotal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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I have the entire service printed out from last time, so I guess i could do that. Have heard that PS is cracking jokes about "working for tips", etc. the whole time, and talking about how great he is, etc... so that part I'd love to avoid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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Definitely an egotist but an artist with the knife. He'll tell you where he's cutting if you want to take a peek. Brit milah requires no invitation, you know. Attending is a mitzvah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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I have been to many brises by both and phil sherman will not give you the warmth of Emily. He is a show man and it's his show. But Emily did my son's bris. I didn't want the board so she didn't use it. I held my son until the actual sniping time and then my dh held him during the sniping part. We did get my son nice and drunk first with the gause dipped in wine (at emily's suggestion) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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Sounds as if she's willing to be flexible! Talk to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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Thank you so much for your reply - perhaps this is my answer! Did she put the clamp on beforehand and everything? She told me that essentially the real circ. occurs before the baby is even brought in (when she clamps it in the other room) but I really hated how long he was held down/clamped. Maybe we can do it the way you did. Was she fine with that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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Oh no, now I don't like that Idea at all. If she needs a clamp, she's no Phil Sherman. If the circ is happening at some other time/place really then the ceremony feels like BS to me. I couldn't do anything that led to more than a few seconds of crying so I'm back to Phil. Nobody else out there who does it freehand?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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So interesting. I used Blake and agree with the feel BUT my son slept through the whole thing! Didn't cry at all. And she had him on the board but he was comfortable and sleeping. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.08.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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Definitely use Dorothy Greenbaum then, fast procedure and moving ceremony [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.21.09, 06:19 PM Flag
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Let that poor boy keep his foreskin, please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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Go start your own thread. None of us are taking this bait. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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Thought Dorothy Greenbaum was fabulous. Warm, kind, made everyone feel comfortable (and we had a lot of gentiles at the bris). Phil Sherman puts on a show, it's rote. Seen him a ton of times and he tells the same jokes each time, zooms through it. Don't like him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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ita about Dorothy Greenbaum. She was wonderful. My OB attended and he was amazed at what a wonderful job she did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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OP: To both of you - did you feel like she rambled on and talked about herself a lot? That's one complaint/comment I heard from another person who used her. That is was not "schtick" like Sherman, but that she just "rambled" a lot. Was the service itself nice? Did she put the baby on a board at all or just brought out and put on a pillow? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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Didn't like Greenbaum. Thought she was a little too showy for me. She was nice but left too much skin on when she did my friend's son's circumcision and now they have to get it redone at a year old. I hear that's common. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.21.09, 04:49 PM Flag
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DON'T DO IT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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snip snip... Off with their heads ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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Best Mohel: Dr. Eric Diamond. Loved his service. Great circumcision. Baby didnt cry. Has a list you can follow on his website Moheldr.com His list makes it easier to buy all of the things you need. I didn't want to think about all of the stuff last minute... I knew how to plan for everything in advance. My sister also just used Dr. Eric Diamnd. He did her Bris out east on Long Island and he didn't even charge her more to go there. I thought he was very fair. We both thought he was great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.21.09, 04:47 PM Flag
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i used emily blake for my ds and i LOVE her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.21.09, 04:52 PM Flag
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DO NOT use Dr. Emily Blake. We used her for my son's bris in 2010 and she did a horrible job and left most of the foreskin on him. When I called her to tell her that three different pediatric urologists said that my son needed to have it redone, she basically shrugged and said something to the effect of "These things happen. It's not the first time I've had this problem." She took no responsibility and this is her CAREER. She didn't even apologize. I DID NOT ask her for money nor did I mention it because money wasn't and isn't the issue. Having a conscience and taking responsibility is the issue. Now 1.5 years later, we've had to redo his circumcision at the hospital. My poor baby had to be put under anesthesia, will be bandaged and uncomfortable for a week. He can't go in the water/pool for six weeks. She even twisted the skin and it had to be corrected. I hope no other mom (or dad) has to experience what we just went though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.12, 05:36 PM Flag
[ - ] I need some help. Please no flames... I need to hire a decorator on Long Island. She/he would need to help with everything - from picking tiles and cabinets and floors to helping buy funtiture and window treatments, ect. and I have interviewed a few. I think we have 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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Oops - continued - Thos whole think is NOT my forte. I have interviewed a few and think we have picked one. I just need to see if the price is crazy or not. How much do ypu think is about right to spend? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 09:51 AM Flag
[ - ] The tier system is NOT a UB invention. It is something worth paying attention to 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 08.07.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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Why and why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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why is it not a UB invention? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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The reputation and academic ranking of the private schools in NYC well outlives your lifetime. You should always pay attention to everything that concerns your dcs education, that's why. Do you think Yale is the same thing as sending your dc to a low ranking state college with no challenge for your dc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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hoo-boy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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Too honest for you? Good luck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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Could be - I got into Harvard from one of those 3T NYC schools after all (and without connections or diversity either) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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The private school system needs folks like you. Luckily there seems to be an endless supply of people like you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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oh yawn [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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I went to Yale & would never think that my dcs should automatically go there. There are literally hundreds of small liberal arts colleges that might be a better fit. Anybody who cares more about status then their own dc's needs is just stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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And there are plenty of state colleges that are not "low ranking" and offer a great education for a reasonable price. Outside of the Northeast, there is much less of a focus on this whole concept of "top-tier", private education. I grew up in the Midwest, where everyone went to public school and almost everyone went on to public universities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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It's not the status that a lot of people care about, it's the connections and the luster it adds to a resume. If you're wealthy - as you probably are - you can afford to be indifferent to connections and extra luster because you already made the money. i wonder if rich liberal minded people realize how they are despised by everyone else. Your enlightened state of mind is entirely a functiuon of your freedom from teh ordinary woes of working people. Have you ever heard the phrase limousine liberal? If I had money I certainly would not be giving it away either, but I also wouldn't be getting on my high horse about my bogus cash-bought [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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I invented the term limousine liberal sweetheart [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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NP: I went to a dreaded state university. Somehow, I actually managed to get an education and did not have to turn to a life of crime post-college. I don't think where I went to college was the same as going to Yale but fortunately, I don't feel the need to make endless comparisons. There is always something better. What you may find even more shocking is that today, I have quite a few people from HYP who actually work for me. I don't care and they don't care. You shouldn't either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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of course you think you are well educated, who here thinks they are actually poorly educated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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Where in my post did I saw I was well educated? I said I "managed to get an education." I also acknowledged that is certainly better than what I had out there. I wish people would respond without completely twisting other people's posts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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^that there is certainly better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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I wasn't twisting anything [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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So where in my post did I say that I think I am well educated? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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You probably are well educated. One need not go to HYP or any other Ivy to be well educated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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np - You can write, which certainly makes you *sound* better-educated than most of the ninnies posting here, including the TT grads who can barely construct a sentence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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NP: No, but some state schools might be better (more challenging) than Yale. Sure pay attention to the "tier" system, but take it with a huge grain of salt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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I can't say that I agree. Take myself: I am a Columbia grad. I am certainly not one of the fortune 500, but I do very well. We own a great townhouse and a summer home and have very few financial worries (of course my husband also works but truth be told most years I make more than him). I am happy. I have friends. And I did not go to a fancy school before Columbia. I was in a public school in New Jersey then public school in NYC. Now this is not to say that the TT schools aren't wonderful or that I wouldn't want to send my kid to one of them. I'm just saying that it's not the be-all-end-all. There are plenty of successful people who did not go TT and plenty of TT alums who are unhappy, poor or failures. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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Who is say you wouldn't be even more successful if you went to a TT private. Maybe a villa in Italy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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Who is to say that she wouldn't have become less successful if she had gone to a TT private? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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OR: Maybe in many different scenarios I might have made more money, but no way anything would make me happier than my current life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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only to a point. For example, I personally think progressive education is far superior to traditional education, yet 6 of the 7 so called TT schools are traditional. So, for my family, Fieldston was our FC b/c it is the best of the progressive schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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I'm still confused as to progressive vs trad when it comes to high school. What makes Fieldston or Dalton HS more progressive than Collegiate or Brearley? And what about Hunter HS or Stuy? Traditional? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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np: I think that many schools have adopted elements of progressive education while still having a traditional structure. Dalton is progressive by nyc standards but not truly progressive. Progressive education has a lot to do with letting each student work more independently and individualized, more hands on work, more accommodation for different learning styles - things like open classrooms, independent study, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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Hunter and Stuy are traditional. Fieldston HS and Dalton HS are not as progressive as their lower schools. Progressive tends to focus on process instead of here's what we want you to learn. For children who are really motivated, progressive works well because they will push themselves and do more than they would be asked to do in a trad classroom. For kids who are not motivated.. well, they're happier, but they tend to learn less. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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Why is Hunter HS traditional? And if Fieldston and Dalton aren't progressive, what high schools are? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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Hunter elementary is progressive; the high school is traditional. Nothing progressive about it. Calhoun is a progressive high school. St. Ann's is also, I think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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I know of a history assignment at Hunter High School to write from the point of view of a child of 14 at the time of the American Revolution. Isn't that a progressive approach to a topic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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np - Plus there are no requirements for senior year, except for PE. Seniors can pursue any interest they have basically - though of course most take the usual AP classes and such. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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Oh, they still have APs. That's not progressive. Fieldston has dropped them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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Actually, Hunter HS is (I believe) also dropping the AP designation on some classes, or trying to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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actually, it's a stupid approach to a topic, if you think about it. To do it properly, you have to be writing some version of fiction, creating a personality, creating reactions, etc. Sorry, but that's creative writing, not history. Which might be okay if it were taught in English as part of a unit on writing historical fiction, but it's not. Anyway, I've seen a version of this assignment as early as 4th grade. The girls who love to write but are not necessarily the best writers, go on and on and on in the most boring way. The boys suffer through it. If you are a child who takes writing seriously, you want it to succeed as a piece of writing and it's actually quite hard to do that with a first person piece of historical fiction, where the main point is to show that you know the history. It's a bad creative writing assignment and a bad history assignment. It's "pseudo - creative." Parents really have to think what it would be like to do the assignment themselves before they talk about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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But is it a progressive approach to a topic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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Stupid assignments transcend progressive vs. traditional classification. It's neither progressive nor traditional. If I had to classify it, I'd call it traditional trying to be progressive. The assignment is inauthentic in that it does not engage the child through the child's actual interests. It is not process oriented; it's product oriented. It's not experiential the way progressive often is. But it's not traditional either, because it's not actually teaching anything. It's traditional in that it depends on memory retrieval (remember facts about the Revolution) but it tries to dress it up with so called "creativity." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 08:18 PM Flag
[ - ] to single woman looking to have a baby. Check out single moms by choice. Great resource and good way to meet future/present moms in same situation. Dont worry about what others think. there are a gazillion women who are in your same position who live in the city and doing alone (some with twins). Also I dont want to jinx the natural way but as someone who adopted, you should at least explore the possibility doing the adoption paperwork at the same time since the paperwork is extensive 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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ITA - if she is interested in having two kids, I always counsel people to start both routes. (We adopted and then I had a miracle pg - but then aren't all pregnancies miracles?) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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Yes, I actually have checked out SMBC. I also have the book written by the woman who started the group, as well as another book called "Knock Yourself Up" which is a great book. I have learned a great deal from both of them and have found that there are indeed quite a lot of similarly situated women. Again, thanks for the support. Oh and as for adoption, I am interested in that as a possible option down the line and have definitely not ruled it out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 10:16 AM Flag
[ - ] hmmm. thanks. that might work! 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.07.08, 09:44 AM Flag
[ - ] hmmm. thanks. that might work! 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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