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[ - ] Is there anybody on UB with a dc who is less than brilliant? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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both mine are merely average students, but they are kind and honest, which i think is more important than brilliance and certainly in short supply among adults. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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mine is kind and honest -- and brilliant. (-; [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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My DD is just average, does ok in school but with a lot of extra help. DH always says that he was a C student in school, very very average, and a surgeon now. G&T is not required to succeed, just hard work [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:39 AM Flag
[ - ] I'll never understand those with HHIs in the 200+ who can't make ends meet. We have HHI of approx. $130k, 28% goes to housing; 15% goes to childcare; we live on the rest, incl. paying taxes; and we still manage to give 10% net to charity. 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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our hhi is double that and we still only live on 40k-50k/yr [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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monthly mortgage/rent? daycare? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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no mortgage or rent, we paid off house, just an interest bearing account to pay pur annual property taxes, no day care, i work from home part time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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where? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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major metropolitan city in the south [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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well then, you're not the average NYC poster, are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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wow, you clearly do sound like the average ny'er, how brilliantly in debt are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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hotlanta, charlotte, nashville -ish? Not surprising you can live on that much there - esp with no housing costs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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ita, so much less $$ than nyc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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first, who said i was the average ny'er? this is a general board, the post doesn't mention ny'ers, so get off your high horse. second, i'm guessing you've never been to any rich areas of the south, you probably think its all poverty. do you have any idea how much property taxes are in the south? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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don't let them get you all fired up sweetie. They think NYC is the center of the universe bless their hearts. Don't even try to defend the lower cost of living - just enjoy and know that they are eating their hearts out.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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true, i'd probably be resentful too if I were in debt from living above my means on credit in a shoe box apartment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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but the shoe box is a manalo blahnik! lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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Not everyone in NYC lives in a shoebox... our brownstone is 4 floors - total 6 bedrooms, 3.5 bath and our backyard was on a design show. We are in debt only because we got married in 2006, renovated/gutted the brownstone and had a baby in 2008. If you can make it here... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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did that post make you feel better about yourself? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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i buy below my means, i pay cash. and i earn that cash in a southern wage market. you are just proving OP's point, that people think in absolute terms, rather than understanding percentages and habits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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people spend more than they make [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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Where do you live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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I think it's pretty clear based on the $3,000/mo. housing tag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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umm, is it? where do you think you are posting, the national real estate board? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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can you understand that everyone's expenses, primarily housing, differ? or is that too complicated? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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op: Your housing is supposed to be 28% of your gross income. Ours is. Is yours? Or have you rented/bought more than you can afford? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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np Our percentage varies. Based on this year's hhi, its about 15% of hhi for both our homes. Will be closer to 28 next year, I'm sure. Glad we didn't buy OTT fancy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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So, what are you buying with what's left over? Why can't you make ends meet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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Didn't say we "can't make ends meet", but we do pay very high taxes and have two kids in private school. Doubt Obama will be stupid enough to increase them as he promised/threatened in light of the economy being in the tank, though--so that's something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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"supposed to be"? maybe in the 70s. housing expense as a percentage of gross income has increased substantially in the past few decades, and most agree that, especially in higher housing expense cities like new york, the percentage of housing expense to income is substantially higher than the national norm. (and no, we did not buy more than we can afford -- our total housing expense, including maintenance, is only about 15% of our income, factoring in average bonuses over the last several years; even excluding bonuses, our expense is only about 27% of our base income.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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depends where you live. hard to find family size apt with doorman in nyc for $56/yr including maintenance. also have to consider very $$$ private schools [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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dependson your definition of "family size." your kids can share a room. they can also go to public school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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ITA. Posted above about our housing costing about 15% of our hhi right now. Our apt is decidedly not family size (1100 sq ft 2 bed) and kids share a room. No doorman. Hhi was 1mm last year, but will obviously not be anywhere near that this year. Very happy we've lived beneath our means for several years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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You can find 2 beds in outer boros for $800k and under with mtc. of $1k and private schools for approx. $20k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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The best privates cost well over 30k now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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So, on a HHI of $200k, you should be able to afford one tuition and 2 bed apt. in outer boros with approx. $6k/mo in after-tax $$ to live on. If you have 2 dcs, you still have $4,500 to live on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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Because they live in NYC. Taxes are 45% of your income, and rents, groceries etc. are extremely high compared to the rest of the country. Good daycare centers are few and far between in NYC (and impossible to get into), as well, so if both parents work, you pay a ton for a nanny. Walk in someone else's shoes before you judge them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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ITTTA... taxes and cost of living is WAY higher in NYC. We make $200K and it ain't easy. Own a brownstone, rent 2 floors live on 2... have a nanny. Our taxes are low in Brooklyn but if we took our HHI and moved to the south like the OP, we would have a compound with an estate staff :-P [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 10:34 AM Flag
[ - ] Wow, I am christian and sick of all the christmas bashing. I stumbled upon this piece and think the author sucks! Her tone is so condescending, and as a muslim I feel like she just doesn't "get it" about Christmas! 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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OP: trying again here (GRRRR) I am really worked up about this! http://www.babble.com/Would-having-a-tree-betray-our-faith-A-Very-Muslim-Christmas-Hadeel-Masseoud/index.aspx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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why should she "get it"? do you , as a christian, "get" ramadan or diwali or passover? she seesm pretty reasonable to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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she had a snotty tone about those of us who actually DO feel that "jesus is love" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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no, she didn't. she was concerned that her child, who si not a christian, is being indoctrinated in the majority religion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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I just feel like there is an assault on those of us who feel like Jesus is important--her tone was like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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if there is, it isnt' gettign anywhere. the vast majority of americnas stil identify as christian. she is from a minority religion adn culture -- one that has been gratuitiously bashed, in words and in deeds, for years. you can handle it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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np-ita [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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i am catholic, so i'm basically on your side, but to be honest, it's really rude for you to expect anyone to "get" your religion. Besides, people will always bitch about Catholics. I don't care what they think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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i can't be bothered to go read that post, but it seems to me, that if you are as christian as you claim, you might want to practice turning the other cheek, practicing removing the log from your own eye first before getting in a hissy over the spec in your neighbors eye, etc... Why would you expect others to "get" Christmas? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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The tone of her article was really bashing christians and christmas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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how so? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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the comments by her Jewish friends--she seemed to be condescending towards her dc's comments about Jesus [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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who cares...so she had a snotty attitude. why are you going out of your way to read what other groups think about your group's holiday? puhlease. you don't have enough to do or worry about already in your life? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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Hey, she put it out there in a major publication! I felt like it was relevant to comment about it on here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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i think what you don't like is that she has a problem with xmas being pervasive, and sedctive to children. you think that's good, she thinks its bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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nnp--nail on the head! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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i think that is a common sentiment with the minority religions. and i completely understand it. i don't feel attacked in the least. i understand that their own ability to pass along those values to their own children feel attacked. i empathize with them, but i don't feel attacked by them or "sick" of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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so what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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sick of christianity and "jesus" being taboo amoung the "urban" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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its not taboo, its boring, but tell yourself whatever you need to [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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at least, your type of christian is boring, the type who is easily offended, name calls other people...give me a good christian scholar, and maybe some interesting conversation will happen [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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Most Christians don't practice what they preach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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you sound like a junior high kid complaining how un-liked you are...Jesus didn't promise you popularity dear, in fact, he promised you quite the opposite, that you would suffer in his name. so grow up and carry your own cross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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I am getting flamed here, but did you read her piece? Am I just reading too much into it? OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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I think if you were in her position, trying to teach the love of Jesus to your Christian children in a culture where Christianity was the minority, and they were seduced by another major religion's festivities, you might feel a little resentful yourself. Try to see through her attitude and understand her point, rather than becoming the bigger be-littler. And expect to be flamed if you "attack" others in the name of Christ. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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np: You obviously didn't read the piece. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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my point has been all along, i don't need to read the piece. look at the spec in your own damn eye for pete's sake. don't come onto these boards about how self righteous christian you are, and proceed to tell me that other people suck and mistreat you for being christian. my point is, the way you talk, you aren't representing the king of peace, so don't come onto this board self righteous as if you do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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np-while I agree with you, I also think you should read the piece. As a Jew living in the South, it really hit home with me and I thought it was very well-written. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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wow, take a deep breath. All I wrote (np) is that you obviously didn't read the piece. The writer in question sends her kid to a Baptist school where they go to chapel every day. The scenario you describe is completely unrelated to anything in the article. (The fact that I am not a Christian and have no intention of representing anyone, has nothing to do with my comment.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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nnp: i did. and i thikn the point a lot of responders are makign is that OP really doesnt "get" waht its like to not be part of the majority religion, and want your child to follow your religion, not the majority one. christmas is unavoidable in the US. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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Wow. I didn't much care for her approach but not because i felt she was anti-Christmas or anti-Christian. I just think she is like so many parents today. Unwilling to take the difficult stand and tell their kid, "No." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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and i wonder why she is keepingher kid in a church school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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NP-The author lives in Atlanta. Very common for good preschools in the South to be Christian (I know, I am a Jew living in the South). Also, her kid is what--3, 4? He is hearing about Christmas everywhere, they are likely having xmas related activities at school for weeks. It's not like telling a kid he can't have the candy at the register--our culture is obsessed with Christmas and it isn't that easy "to say No" to a young kid who doesn't yet have a grasp on his identity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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fair point about atlanta, and it sort of underscores the author's issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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np - you sound like the most resonable person I've seen on UB in a long time. Come to New York, oh southern Jew! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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Exactly. It read like she was the only one with an identity issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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Sounds like she does and that's kind of the point. She doesn't want her child to have an identity issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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But you don't do that by being some maleable "every person." You do it by celebrating your own culture. You do it by making your holidays special, not by buying your kid more crap just to go along. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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oh please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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What is so bad about this article? The author struggles with cultural and religious identity. Many people have to deal with that. We are agnostics and celebrate Christmas and read about Chanuka and Kwanzaa. About christmas I tell my dcs that we celebrate the birthday of a very special person who had lived many year ago and became a very wise man and influenced a lot of people with this teachings about love and charity... I also talk about the Muslim faith... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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np: I have to say that I don;t need to read the piece because you sounds a little crazy right off the bat. You need her to "get" Christmas? What's there to get? I celebrate it and all but it's not exactly that complex. DS came home the other day saying he had to be good because Santa was watching. This bothered me alot? Who told him this? Not me. I'm ok with the tree and presents but I'd just as well leave Santa and Jesus out of it. But it's impossible to get away from all the craziness. Whatever the writer said, I'm guessing I'd agree! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.08, 05:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Any child psych moms on? 4 YO DC's self portarait on the page only takes up half the space but it's all very porportioned. All the other kids nearly drew off the page. Hmmm...just curious not lamenting. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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get a life... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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remove stick from your ass [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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that type of drawing indicates the child has a very hovering, anxious mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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lol! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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General Topics 12.19.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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you are lucky it is half the page. At dd's daycare, most pictures are stuck in a corner and about 1/10th of the page , which is totally norma; [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:17 AM Flag
[ - ] need to relocate outside of manhattan. dh works on wall street. which would be better financially? ridgefield, nj or brooklyn heights? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 12.19.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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Brooklyn Heights is a very short commute if you work downtown [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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Easier commute with Brooklyn Heights but better schools in Ridgefield. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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Two completely diff kinds of places. Are you looking to stay urban or go suburban? And ITA about the schools...you could do K-HS in NJ with no concerns (public that is). You'll need a car in NJ. I don't know anything about Ridgefield but there are other nice places in NJ that, while not urban, still offer "walk to" things to do (stores, library, schools etc). It might be hard to go from a place where you could walk to everything to a place where you can't get around without a car. How long is DH willing to spend on commuting? And how much space are you looking for? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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We'd like to get a 3bdrm-2bath for about 2200-2500 a month. He's willing to commute to Wall Street about an hour each way. I'll have a car either way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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I think you might want to come and look at some places in person, because you will most likely experience sticker shock. My friend pays $3500 for a 2BR/2Bath in BH and it's not an over the top/fancy apartment. I would look at houses in Metuchen, NJ and consider spending more $ for a 2BR in Hoboken. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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BH is just so much cooler and probably cheaper since you won't need a car there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:20 AM Flag
[ - ] i am the woman from yesterday who kissed the coach. i just wanted to give you all an update. forgive me if i seem like i'm belaboring this, but obviously, i cannot speak with anyone irl and you all were really helpful yesterday, so i feel as if i owe it to you to tell you that we saw each other again at a practice and it seems like everything is going to be fine. we spoke to each other (in a friendly way) with others around and their was nothing weird or awkward in the air. it looks as if i'll actually be able to put this behind me and be a better person. thank you all for yesterday and not letting me have it (too badly, anyway) feeling not so terrible today. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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^^oops, should be "there," "there was no weirdness." sorry. i may be morally loose, but i have good grammar [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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so you are going to get off scott free. congrats! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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not exactly. i will always know that i was weak, selfish and almost betrayed someone i love more than anything. on the other hand, i feel very lucky to know that the only one i actually did hurt was myself. please don't think i am proud of myself, or feel as if i pulled something off. i feel bad and ashamed of myself, but really like i had a near miss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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i was hoping you would feel that way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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there is anothe poster on here who brags about her hot lovers. i am not that person. i know i have a lot to work through and that any extramarital relationship would only make my life worse, not to mention hurt my family. now the hard part starts, trying to figure out what i thought this man was going to fix and then trying to fix it myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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good luck! sounds like you got some fixin' to do (as do we all!). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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sigh. . . wish i had more friends like you IRL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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oh - if i were your IRL friend i would have smacked you upside the head and then made you buy drinks for me for a year so i would keep my mouth shut. now, get to work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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:-) Happy holidays! you are damn funny! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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NP: try not to think about it when you look in the mirror. that is when my guilt always got to me the worst. No matter when, if I looked in the mirror and saw my eyes it would remind me of what a fraud I was to my own beliefs and values. I hope that doesn't happen to you when you look in the mirror - just try not to think about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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"get off scott free"? She didn't commit a crime!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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yes she did. UB code section 666: being a dumb ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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Don't beat yourself up about this. You tried it, came to your senses and can appreciate what you have. You sound compassionate and smart to me; I wish you were my friend! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:00 AM Flag
[ - ] I have very wavy thick hair and have a small face, I need someone in nyc who can fix me. I have never had a good haircut. Can anyone recommend someone who can do this for under 100 dollars? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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Not under 100, but oidad salon will give you a great haircut. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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Do you want to wear it wavy or do you want to blow it out straight? I go to Salon Ishi (55/Park-Madison) and pay about $100 for a hair cut (with Susan) -- I have thick, wavy hair, but I straighten it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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Over $100, but my hair and face are like yours and Maria at Valery Joseph Salon gave me the best haircut of my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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can you describe how she cut it? I am so in need of someone who knows how to do this! how much was it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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It was over $150. She did not add layers but cut it kinda angled at the bottom and slightly away from my face. Above the shoulder length. Can't explain it better than that, but the best thing is, even though she was expensive, I can go 4-5 months between haircuts and it still looks great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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melissa at devachan is about $115, but im sure there are others there that are a bit cheaper..they deal with only curly/wavy hair [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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GO TO DEVACHAN ON BROADWAY SOHO. SLIGHTLY MORE THAN $100 BUT WORTH IT. ASK FOR ANNA AND WAIT TILL SHE CAN DO IT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 01:36 PM Flag
[ - ] what are you getting dh for xmas? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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flip mino HD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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what's that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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eww, i'm not sure about the HD feature, but the flip mino is the most awesome video cam on the market (so cheap and so easy to use) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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you tried the HD one? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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i didn't know there was an HD feature, i don't think ours is HD, but i really wouldn't know either (we bought the flip mino b/c we are retarded with electronics) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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HD one only just came out early this month. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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np: EXCELLENT choice. i have one and i love it. never use the big video camera anymore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 02:49 PM Flag
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Cashmere sweater from J. Crew (he thinks mine are "so soft!" -- I feel like telling him: "there are MUCH nicer ones out there!"). Was also going to get him the Top Chef cookbook, but it's sold out online -- if I go to B&N before the holiday, I'll get it, but otherwise he'll have to do without! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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PS3...yes, really! And a guitar case, and wireless headphones so he can play that awful PS3 without me having to listen. New baby on the way, and the blueray on the PS3 is supposed to be great. I have a feeling we'll be spending lots of time at home, watching DVDs at night! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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iphone/ipod alarm clock docking station & a new camera lens [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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nada [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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are you Jewish or was he naughty? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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np: naughty? did someone say naughty? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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exercise bike, sunglasses, he likes tea so a tea pot [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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Gorgeous photos of children; tix to horrid concert which he absolutely loves and ugh I will go w/him if he can't find anyone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 02:48 PM Flag
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I love the concert tix idea, thanks I think I'm going to steal it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 02:51 PM Flag
[ - ] what do you think of the name Noah? I am unsure how I feel about it. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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i LOVE LOVE it.. i also LOVE Noel [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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I also like noel but dh does not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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noah is nice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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I prefer Jonah, similar sounding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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Like it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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So overused right now. And most people (that I've come across) do a horrible job of finding a name combo that flows well with Noah IMO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:51 AM Flag
[ - ] want to get dd (teen) a nice but not too expensive necklace for xmas. I like Tina Tang's stuff, but not what she has this season. Can anyone recommend something similar? tia 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Teenagers 12.19.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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Helen Ficalora [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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check out:http://gkdesigns.com/ like Helen Ficalora but much less $$. I always get compliments on my necklace and I think a teen woudld like it too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 12:10 PM Flag
[ - ] I just laughed really hard reading a post about someone's dh coming home drunk and the poster having a complete hissy over it. maybe I am too relaxed but I really do not think it is such a big deal if dh (or I) go out drinking once in a while. On occasion it happens, people have too much - who cares. It also cracked me up that half of the people responded assumed he was cheating or with a whore - really??? really??? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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that post was ridiculous, who are these people? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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that is what I was wondering. Well, at least I got a good laugh out of it! That's often why I come on here. ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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ditto thats for sure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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I agree. Who are these people? No wonder there are so many divorces if people can't cut their spouse any slack at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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i'm with you. one big drunk a year, or 2 or 3, isn't a big deal assuming there's someone watching the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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For me, it depends on the circumstances. Usually no biggie, however, if he said he'd be home at 10 and stumbles in acting nasty at 3am I'm a little p*ssed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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i would be LONG asleep if he came home at 3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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I was, but let's just say he didn't quietly slip in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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op - I agree with this - it bugs me if dh says he be home early and gets home MUCH later than he said he would. But, I get annoyed more due to being worried he is laying in the street somewhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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My DH does this from time to time and I don't mind (and I trust him) -- but I do care when he's useless and hungover on the couch all the next day! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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This drives me nuts too. The only other thing that bugs me is that I worry about him getting home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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ditto me and hangover/couch sitch irks the shit out of me. My theory is pull yourself together or don't go out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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Plus he's usually smelly, too (from sweating out the alcohol)! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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Oh, and he likes to say: "At least I took out my contacts!" (that's his "baseline" for drunkeness -- he seems to think that if he can manage to take out his contacts, then he must not be that drunk). I sometimes feel like telling him: "I'd rather that your eye be dry and scratchy if that meant that you'd be a little less disgusting right now!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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Yea, the smell bugs me too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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here here!!! Considering any time I have had a few too many I seem to be the one to get up with dd and seem to rally. I guess all are not created equal - my dh does not function well on a normal day without drinking if he does not get enough sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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I totally agree. I don't mind if my dh goes out every once in a while and comes stumbling home. I think that an occasional night like this reminds them of when they used to be young and carefree, and it makes them happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 10:48 AM Flag
[ - ] Aiden, Braiden, Hayden, Jayden, Kaiden, Raiden, Slayden. Make it stop!! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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MMMMM Raiden is a good idea. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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why not Radon? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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Slayden? Seriously? If you made that up, go post it on BabyCenter and you'll be responsible for creating a new made up name! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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Came across it on Thinkbabynames.com [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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i love Aidan [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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its actually a name that's been around for a long time. these others, not so much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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Too bad everyone went nuts and started adding different consonants in front of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:06 AM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone tell me how taxes work if you live in NJ and work in NY (Manhattan)? Do you still pay all NY taxes? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 12.19.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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You have to file tax returns in both states - the taxes taken out in the state you work counts towards wht you would owe in the state that you live in - so you do not double pay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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Darn... oh well... I guess that money is gone no matter where we live. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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yep - sorry! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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thanks anyway :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Today is one of dd's teachers last day - I did get her a little gift for her last day/holidays. Could not screw my head on this morning and left it at home. Ok to ask director to mail it to her? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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No, but it's OK to ask for her address so YOU can mail it to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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OK, didn't know if it would be weird for me to ask her for her address. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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Explain why. If director is uncomfortable, she can offer to send it for you. But I wouldn't ask her to mail it first. That's presumptuous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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np It is NOT OK to ask for a teacher's home address! Better if OP can get home to pick up gift and take it to teacher at school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:38 AM Flag
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Op her e- I thought it would not be OK to get her home address from her. I it is just a gift card so I was thinking of putting ht stamp on it with ehr name an djust seeing if the director would send it. Due to weather will not likely be able to get home before picking up dd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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np: I think that's fine if it's all stamped and ready to go, except the address. You can ask explain you didn't want to ask for home address, so would it be possible to mail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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i think that's very reasonable. it's not like you're asking director to package it up and take it to the PO and wait in line, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 09:00 AM Flag
[ - ] oh noooooooo SNOW 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 12.19.08, 07:30 AM Flag
[ - ] when did you tell your nanny you were pregnant with #2? I am nervous to tell her because we will have to move which means I will be letting her go and she knows it. We can't stay here because in a 2 bedroom in NYC and need more space for another. TIA 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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Lots of pople in NYC have two dc's in a 2 bedroom. Did you say to her if we have another we will be moving? Do you know where your moving to? and when? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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np ITA. I do. And I'll likely have a third in a 2 bed (unless dh's bonus is magically the same as usual and one of three neighbors wants to sell their apt--which they likely won't in the near future). Know people with 4 kids in a one bed (which, I think, is nuts, but it happens). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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pretty early, but it was a situation where that told her she had soem job security even after the older one was in school every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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Don't wait too long. I waited because we had been sharing nanny and had given the other family the option to keep her w their #2 and were waiting for their decision. In the meantime, a lot of moms at preschool found out so by the time I told her, she already knew. Thankfully we had a good relationship and we were offering her to work for us exclusively so it ended up fine, but it was definitely awkward. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:39 AM Flag
[ - ] I put out some lambchops to thaw in the sink for about an hour. Is it OK if I put them back in the freezer? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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not if they have thawed out. big no no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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still frozen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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they did not thaw out. Just out for an hour a so. Is this OK to put back in the freezer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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i personally would ere on the side of caution and not put them back [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:42 AM Flag
[ - ] lettign nanny go: interested to hear from moms who decided to SAHM after being WOHM, was nanny devastated??? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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depends on so many things: relatio nship you have, how long she's been you. how you tell her, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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