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[ - ] So my dh; that cannot hold a job since db was born, because he doesnt want to.Parties behind my back when he does have cash. Makes himself seem like a victim in front of his parents,getting evicted cause the landlady cant stand his behaviour and tons of bad things..has told me to shut up crackhead and meant it, i dont do drugs and i seem tired because im doing all the work at home.. im so broken on the inside and feel these were the break up words to our short lived marriage..flame away or advice on btdt? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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how old is db? how long have you been married? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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db is is going to be 11 months , and married before she came into the world [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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1 day before? 1 year before? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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2 months before , we have known each other for 10 years [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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dated for 10 years or friends? when did your relationship become romantic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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well we were friends first and then became lovers a year later , he moved in with me and made my life hell cheated etc etc , 3years later i broke it off and in 2005 we found each other again and began dating , alot better second time around, alot happier, but still the problems underneath it all and then pg in 2006 ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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this is exactly how UB is now broken. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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which part? posting to every board? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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yes and the lack of coherent sentence structure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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if you dont like it read another well grammered post - hag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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exactly what I mean. The troglodites used to be confined to toddler. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:38 AM Flag
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***boring*** but yet your using all your 2cent words on someone who could care less for your education lesson [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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Whay did you mayy him ? What are his good qualities? has he always been like this or is this new behavior? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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well he was shitty person before and when got back together he seemed to clean up his act , when i found out i was pg he had a job and things were going smoothly, until she was born then everything went sour. hes one of those mama's boys and still is. im hurt cause i feel like this guy has no respect for me. i guess im closuring the relationship here to be stronger for myself and my beautiful db. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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Board whore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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you must be bored [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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Leave him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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Sorry you're going through a tough time, but it really does sound as if you should leave him. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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i really want to becuase i think he has no idea how hard it is to work and pay for evrything on his own,(hes never lived by himself) and since hes sitting back and reaping all of my rewards without any regrets. what hurts mostly is that he meant it, i mhight look worn out becasue i have no money to do anything other than work , eat, sleep in a home and take care of both of them. i feel soo stupid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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np: He sounds like a loser and you are only stupid if you stay with him and let him drag you and db down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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op: i agree , im soo depressed to realize my marriage is over and my poor db that loves her father will have to be totally alone with me now. why is life soo hard? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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Both you and db will be better off in the long run. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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i think im scared cause i have no family at all.i never wanted to have a baby and do it all on my own [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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you never wanted it, but you went out and picked a loser and had a baby with him. I am not flaming, just telling you to look at how you did exactly what you say you didn't want to do. you must look at that, and try to figure out why. this will help you from repeating this over and over again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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GET SOME THERAPY AND AL-ANON, WOMAN! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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for some reason therapy does nothing but bring me more into depression, and his drug problems doesnt bother anymore , i think i have to leave this man, thank you for your advice though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:48 AM Flag
[ - ] UB: your site is messed up. whenever I try to reply to a post, it takes me back to log in. I'm already logged in! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Site Feedback 06.06.08, 07:20 AM Flag
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I think I have figured this out. It's a really long thread, right? Is it the Florida panhandle thread? That happened to me last night on another thread. They must have a character or lenght limit or something. Obviously they need to fix this.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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no, it was the post saying UB killed something very special [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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oh. odd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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They don't like criticism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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hmm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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looks like it's working again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 04:13 PM Flag
[ - ] My 8 week old didn't poop at all yesterday and hasn't pooped yet today. He used to go at every feeding. Should I be concerned? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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you need to tell us whether he eats formula or breast milk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:28 AM Flag
[ - ] UB...your site is messed up! When ever I hit reply, it takes me back to sign in 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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happened to me last night. don't know why it's working for me now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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np: I replied above as well. I think this happens when the threads get really long. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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I couldn't even respond to posts w/ no replies. it's a bug that UB needs to iron out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:29 AM Flag
[ - ] help! 3yo dd refuses to use the potty - says she's scared (of what specifically, i don't know). will sit on potty and the big toilet but won't actually pee. at my wits' end. help! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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I suppose you've already tried the M&M thing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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This must be a phase, as my fully potty trained 3yrold ds says the same thing, "I don't like poopies," or "I'm afraid of poopies on the toilet." He did this for a week or two... but it went away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Will anyone else be at the Manhattan School for Children for K next year? We got in off of the lottery last night. I'm so relieved I could cry. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 06.06.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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Congrats! We didn't apply but must be a great feeling to know where you are going! What was your zoned school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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Thanks. We are zoned for 75, but MSC has always been our first choice. and it's very close to our apt too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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Congrats! What was the deadline for accepting the lottery slots? Curious how that will match up to G&T. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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It is June 13 for MSC, not sure for D3 but probably the same. What's the news with G&T? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:40 AM Flag
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Wow - that is crazy! People will need to accept without potentially getting G&T slots? There is no word on when they will even be mailed! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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I'm sure there will be movement on both fronts throughout the summer. I'm just so glad I don't need to be a part of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:42 AM Flag
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I think you will know G&T placement beforehand, and need to respond by the 13th as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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From your lips to god's ears...I just want to freaking know already! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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NP: DD got in but we're still waiting on G&T. Anyone know if registering at MSC then takes you out of the running for G&T? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Would let your DH to a half summer beach house share (presumably without you). 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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why would he even want to do that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:14 AM Flag
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exactly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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as long as he takes the dcs! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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I'm not married to a single guy in his early 20's. My dh wouldn't even want to, let alone find a group of people who would to share a beach house with him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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ditto; makes no sense [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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This reminds me of my colleague, who, when asked his gf to marry him, he made the condition that he could still go out with his buddies on New Year's Eve. He had other similar, immature conditions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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whoa, I hope your colleague didn't marry him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:40 AM Flag
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the guy was my colleague. His gf did marry him. Go figure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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desperate! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:42 AM Flag
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I think she was looking for security and maybe a father figure for her ds. He's not the greatest role model, of course! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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How old is he? Is there anything about him that makes him attractive to women? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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They've been married for years now. He was about 30 at the time. He's fairly good looking, and on the surface, he seems kind and considerate, but he's a bit of a con man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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doesn't sound like, but marriage/fatherhood sometimes changes men for the better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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He stepped up in some ways; in other ways he didn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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I couldn't reply below, so I'll answer here. Yes, he did. As I'm writing this, I'm realizing that, perhaps, the gf knew what she was getting and was just being practical. Who knows? I'm single, and maybe I'm too choosey, but, but I would have told him to get lost. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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Did he get his way with his conditions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:42 AM Flag
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No, why??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:50 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm not sure I will be able to work much today. Too happy it is Friday. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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ditto. too happy we finally have a spot at a good public K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:35 AM Flag
[ - ] do i need to get any extra head support/padding of an infant car seat (i'm getting the graco snug ride one) for my newborn? tia 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Expecting 06.06.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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depends how tiny db is. i used the snugli, b/c my dd was too small. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:40 AM Flag
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used one for a week or two - seemed to hold her in better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone seen SATC movie? I saw it last night and had very mixed feelings. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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I thought it was really overrated. Some of it was downright annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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Saw it and LOooooooovvvved it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:29 AM Flag
[ - ] Dear UB: You killed something very special when you reformatted. It makes me very sad. I know your intentions were good. Sigh. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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i agree. i don't get this new site. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:02 AM Flag
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what's to get? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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it's impossible to have a really good conversation anymore. since the column is narrower the different replied are way too long, and you can't follow the whole thing as easily. plus, the replies stop indenting about 6 or so replies in, and so after that it's just a big mess [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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I agree...and the other site sucks too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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what is the new site again? yoube.com? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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The other site is youbemom.com. And yes, I am trying to see how fast they suspend this account. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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the main issue that ha killed the iste is the multiboard posting....no specialization. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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i have been a reader, but not a poster, of urbanbaby for years now. i really like the new format as it's so much easier to check into the sections that i really care about. i'm only starting to post , today actually!, so perhaps i haven't experienced the same frustrations that you all have [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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I'm with you. I like this sooo much better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 06:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know of a good nanny agency? Craigslist is not working for us TIA 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Expecting 06.06.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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and you've asked all your friends and all of the nannies you respect for names? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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and your doormen- they are a great resource [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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We used an agency called Teachercare and hired a great nanny through them. We actually loved all the candidates they sent us and were impressed by their prescreening. This was about 3 yrs ago, though...not sure if they are still around, but you could google. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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we used teachercare when we first moved to the city in 2004. very impressed with the candidates, but none of them seemed very committed to being a nanny for more than a year or two. The best resource used to be the childcare board on UB. I guess it no longer exists? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:12 AM Flag
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www.nynannyfinder.com (or maybe it was nycnannyfinder.com). I liked it for two reasons: first, the fee is much lower than most agencies, and second, you get to view a video of the candidates, kind of like a dating service, which I think is much better than trusting an agency to send you people sight unseen. It cut down a lot on the interviewing process. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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I have used two great agencies- one is called Abby Nanny. You can reach the owner at CZDLutz@yahoo.com and the other agency I used was Pavillion. Both agencies do a great job. Pavillion is expensive but, they did find me a stellar nanny and she stayed with us for 6 years. My current nanny / housekeeper I found through Abby Nanny which is less pricy, CZDLutz@yahoo.com, and we love her ! Both agencies interview nannies and check references and do a personality profile and have optional criminal checks... these are both very thorough agencies. There are other good ones too but, some agencies don't check references and lie a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.14.08, 11:51 AM Flag
[ - ] what happened to youbemom.com? Where did it go? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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still there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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not for me. its not loading [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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i there right now, it's there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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np: do you have internet explorer on a pc? (I do and was fine yesterday am, but not since) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:39 AM Flag
[ - ] Which GPS do you have? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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the one that came with my car [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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