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[ - ] Am I crazy for liking Marymount best of all the girls schools we saw? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 06.24.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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No if you prefer the feeling to the other schools and academics are not high on your list why can't you go where you want? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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Are their academics really that much worse than the other girls schools? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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Using 'worse' or 'bad' to describe any of these schools (and I have experience in some of them) is inaccurate. You will get a much better education at marymount than your average public suburban school. Will your dc be burning up the academic world? no, but is that really that important to you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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It isn't Brearley but a dc from marymount is not a stooge [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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Quite a few MM girls do better in college admissions than Brearley girls, though overall B admissions are stronger. It's not like the academics are not there at MM. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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which is what I said [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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No, you are incorrect but what you want to believe is your own business [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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Some MM girls will do well in a school like MM but receiving an A at MM and an A at Brearley is a very different thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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Not my cup of tea but then maybe mine is not yours! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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I think choosing a school is choosing an environment that is going to best bring out your dc's strengths and support their weaknesses - and that means not just academically, but socially, artistically, athletically, etc. Sometimes, even a really smart child does better in a more nurturing versus a very competetive environment - some kids do better being "the best" in the class at something, rather than by competition. All these NYC privates give an excellent education and all have some students that excel academically and go on to top schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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Dd is friend with a dd that goes there. Friend used to be very shy but the school seems to be fostering her confidence and she is really starting to come into her own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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I think so but then that is just an opinion [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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No... You're crazy for expecting to get useful advice from UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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We also loved it. And don't listen to these people who say the academics are sub-par. It's a great school. It probably leans a little more traditional than some of the other girls schools, but it also has a warm, nurturing environment. Go with your gut and please don't get hung up on all that "TT" nonsense. I promise you, MM has its pick of high-scoring kids these days and great teachers to educate them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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Marymount is a great school and know several families there. They love it and feel it is a warm happy place. From a Brearley Mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 02:36 PM Flag
[ - ] how many playdates does your 3yo have? we don't have amny (my son is in preschool) and i wonder if that is normal 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Preschool/Kids 06.24.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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I don't keep track of playdates like it is a dance card [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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answer the question. Why be snide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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OP:yes, thank you NP. why bother to press reply? are you just looking for someone to hit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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to hit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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None then, none now (age 6) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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A lot, but DS is very social and so is our nanny. In the winter they are more structured with plans in someone's home. When the weather is nicer, it seems to be more about meeting up at the park. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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one every few weeks, maybe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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Nanny sets up lots of playdates for 21 month old. Was ordering camp nametags for older DC today and saw "call me" cards so made some for nanny with DD's name and nanny's cell phone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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Ds is in daycare all day. Unless he requests a playdate with someone, I'm not scheduling one. Weekends are our time together. Older ds on the other hand has a playdate outside of school every weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 12:36 PM Flag
[ - ] The problem is that only a small number of dcs are really going to be exceptionally bright, but all mommies think their dc is a genius. Impossible. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 06.24.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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All mommies also think their dcs are the cutest [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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np-but mine really is the cutest and a genius. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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That's absurd, I don't know anyone who thinks that or even want it. Smart yes, genius absolutely not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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I have three. Two very smart, one more so than the other and a third very happy dc who is kind and gentle but isn't going to win any prizes for saving the earth any time soon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:32 AM Flag
[ - ] I may get flamed for this, but ds is an only child by our choice. I was 37 when I had him and we are happy with our family. Co-worker today basically lectured me when she asked about us having more kids. She really went off about how she couldn't believe I'd subject ds to being an only child. I know a lot of people feel that way but I was really upset to have to listen to it. Other moms of only dcs out there who have dealt with unwelcome lectures? 43 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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All the time. It's all I can do to not roll my eyes and tell them to STFU. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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she is incredibly inappropriate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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I care about as much as what someone thinks about my family planning as I care about what they think of my new blouse [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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Deal like you would anything else unwelcome. Just nod politely and change the subject asap. No need to go off in a snit just move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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OP - this is what I did, all with a smile. Inside, I was appalled [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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good for you, just try to remember where its coming from. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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I've gotten a couple about having my 3rd. People are rude and nosy. I know it's not fun to hear their stupid opinions, but just try to ignore. You know you are doing what's right for your family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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Why do people care if you have a 3rd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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because they are nosy a-holes! same reason they care that the op only has 1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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I got a few lectures from relatives while I was desperately trying for #2, but couldn't stay pregnant. I finally told one of them - "You are so right, but I'm now barren. Lucky for me DH isn't Henry the VIIIth." With a crazy person smile. Word must have got around, none of them ever asked again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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wow! THAT's inappropriate. Unless your family knew that you were desperately trying, they did not deserve that kind of a reply IMHO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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NP - I think the intrusive people asking deserved it. People know no boundaries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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oh come on, they lose their immunity from rudeness when they *lectured* her about a very personal matter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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Actually, I think they did. Even if we didn't plan to have another, my cousins and aunts had NO right to tell us that we were harming our DD by not providing her with a sibling, or to tell me I was letting the family down by not having another child - who was sure to be a boy this time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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ew, that is gross! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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Yeah, this while I was suffering through so-and-so's third baby shower, etc. In my family, you keep having babies until you have a boy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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itda. Good for OP. They were insensitive and prying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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You're kidding. I think they TOTALLY deserved it. None of anyone's business, people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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ITDA. I LOVE her response. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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cool word, barren. did you stop her in her tracks? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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She just blinked, all confused, because I was smiling so widely. I always wonder what people think your response would be when they are attacking your life and your choices in the most "helpful" manner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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I wold have said told her I had no uterus and couldn't have another dc and then see how she reacted [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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I've never got a lecture, but people do ask all the time if/when we're having another. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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it's not just you. i get the opposite argument (why are you having so many, why would you want to harm your kids by having them so close together, etc). i just ignore. i'm happy with my decisions, dcs are happy, i'm not going to change things b/c of you, especially taking into account the inherent rudeness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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wow. people are unbelievable sometimes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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People are so rude. I really only wanted one dc and was constantly defending that decision. I am an only and I do not at all feel like I was "subjected" to anything. In fact, I am very much aware of how many opportunities I had because I was an only. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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I tell them I had bc and chemo put me in menopause. That shuts them up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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Barren OR above: Let's hope it does! I think there's a big difference between people just making conversation and getting lectured about it - I have no idea why people think they have any right to tell others how to manage their family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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A few months back I was suddenly getting lectured by taxi drivers, strangers on the street, people at school with large families, etc. It was like a cosmic plot against me. I would just nod and say "Maybe." Sadly, I DO actually want another but I don't think it's in the cards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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I have a 2 yo and am going to turn 42 - i just tell people i'm too old if they try to ask. That also shuts them up. I also say that we're thrilled to have him and feel so lucky to have one. People are such A-Holes for asking anything. you SHOULD tell them to STFU. Pathetic, nosy people need to get a life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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I also went thru IVF and don't want to do that again - a bit dangerous at age 43 and we already have a perfect dc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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We just can't afford it living on the UES - we would have to move, pay more for apt, maintenance, nanny, classes, STUFF, tuition, etc. Commuting would suck - I want to see the one child I have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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I am 42 also and the reason I prob won't have more is a mixture of age plus my illustrious history of infertility and m/c. I get so pissed at times that I just tell them the real reasons I only have 1 dc and that shuts them the hell up. If only that would teach them to mind their own business, but I doubt it does. Some people have no capacity for higher thought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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I am astonished that people have to put up with "lectures" about a personal choice. I've had people ask if I was going to try for a DS (I have two DDs), and I've said the factory is closed. Subject closed. I cannot imagine berating someone or putting up with a berating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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Next time reply: "Me thinks thou feels I give a shit about your opinion." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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^^Me feels, thouu thinks...; ) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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REPORT THIS PERSON TO HR for harrassment. Idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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I find this unbelievable, and I would be very indignant to say the least. My only DC is adopted (and it is obvious), and I'm 51, so maybe that is why I've never gotten that particular form of rudeness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 03:28 PM Flag
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My sister called me selfish when I told her we planned on only having one. When a stranger does it, I tell them two of our children died (lie) and that usually shuts them up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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Like you, I had my one and only in my late 30s (39), but I've never been lectured on it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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Sorry you had to deal with that. I hope you told her where to go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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I can't believe the rudeness. what's wrong with people?? No one's business but yours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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After I got married my dh and I really wanted a baby, but it took 7 motnhs (I know, not that bad, but I was really worried). Ppl kept asking if we would have one but I told everyone we might later as if we weren't trying, b/c I didn't want to give the whole story in case I was infertile or whatever. Now I am so careful because you don't know who is trying and can't, it wasn't that bad for me but still very hard to worry about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.25.08, 09:06 AM Flag
[ - ] What do braxton hicks feel like - pressure or actual cramps? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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is it TT? than first cramps, and overall pressure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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what does TT mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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sorry, op. could not resist. ask again on the newborn board [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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She's on the general topics board, meanie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:29 AM Flag
[ - ] cool, fun places to take a 8 yr old, 3 yr old and 2 yr old, not more then 3 hr drive from manhattan, tia 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 06.24.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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any hotel pool [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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I've always wanted to go to sesame place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 05:02 PM Flag
[ - ] would you trust hotel babysitting service? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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Trust but verify [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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I only used one once, but the sitter was so great, I wanted to bring her back to NYC with us. I also used an sitter service when we were visiting a town in NH and the sitter was very nice - young 20s girl, DS had a nice time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Can I get some first steps to building a web site for my small biz? All advice appreciated - thank you. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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Check out this site. I found it very helpful when starting my business. There are some great articles on website design. http://www.startupnation.com/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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^^here's a link to the website section - http://www.startupnation.com/steps/66/create-successful-website.htm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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Thank you! I have to laugh though, I just opened up the home page and it is riddled with coding language and a big error report! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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Odd. It was so good a few months ago. I have some other resources bookmarked (I think). Let me check. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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thanks so much - I am trying to get over my fear of this technical stuff [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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I recommend outsourcing initially. I am going to wind up buying a template (for about $800) and then make updates myself. I wanted something I could manage on my own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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Yes this is my plan too but is the template really $800? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:46 AM Flag
[ - ] 96 ERB enough for sibling to tt school? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 06.24.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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Yes. Though I know Spence dinged a sib with 96 (who knows why). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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Yes, my dc's score (last year). In at TT. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 10:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have recs for hotel in Miami with 1.5 yo and not over $150/night? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 06.24.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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Savoy in Sofi - on Ocean and 4th. Quiet and on the beach and in the heart of everything. There is no restaurant for dinner (lunch only) so it's quiet at night, but tons of places to go outside of the hotel [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:22 AM Flag
[ - ] Am I crazy, but of all the girls schools we saw, liked Marymount best. It's considered bottom of the heap here, right? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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nope, Hewitt is, Marymount is a step above. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:19 AM Flag
[ - ] 96 erb enough for sibling at tt school? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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Trinity and Collegiate yes, Dalton or HM maybe....Brearley and Chapin yes, Spence maybe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:20 AM Flag
[ - ] just got our rebate check. i feel an obligation to spend it :-) this is so exciting for me. money to splurge for no good reason. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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I want mine! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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i'm salivating. don't know what we want to buy but i'm really excited. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:20 AM Flag
[ - ] Should I bother going to look at a FSBO that's overpriced by about $50k, or wait till they list with a realtor and inevitably come down? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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go now and put in a low offer because there are no commissions involved - you never know [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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why do people do this...so dumb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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people overprice even with realtors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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Might as well. A lot of people (most?) think the way to go is to float the price they want, hoping that someone will bite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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Can I get some first steps to building a web site for my small biz? All advice appreciated - thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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too many people think it's still 2005 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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sure - bother to look and bother to bid. Just say, "look - keep looking for a buyer at your price and we'll keep looking for a home at our price. If you reconsider in a month or so, call us - who knows, we still be in the market" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:23 AM Flag
[ - ] are there any junior sized bathingsuits that are not bikinis? I took my 15 yr old shopping yesterday and all we could find -- old navy, mandee, target, marshalls - were bikinis; Where should we look? She wants a tankini and i don't want to spend more than $20 on a suit for her 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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you want a bathing suit for less than $20? Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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Maybe a dept. store (Macy's, Lord and Taylor) - with a sale, it could be close to $20. If you're willing to spend a little more look at Land's End or J.Crew. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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Also try a sports store (Modell's, Paragon, etc.) -- brands like Nike or Speedo may have something her style (although not in that price range). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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target has tons of tankinis [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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look on the Speedo website, also Lands End, LL Bean, etc. order a few and then return [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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