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[ - ] Looking for ideas of things to do with my 5 yr old dd. I'm getting some solo time with her since her sister will be in school. In NJ. Thinking of local zoo, but not sure if there's something else. Want to give her some options. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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where in NJ? try van sauns park in paramus -- zoo train, merry go round, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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great minds think alike.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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where in nj? van saun park is perfect for that age: zoo, carousel, and playground--and pony rides. can't get much better than that for a 5yo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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OP: in montclair [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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do you mean on a regular basis? library, pet store (more local than the zoo), we sometimes walk to the florist and buy flowers, baking, arts&crafts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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OP: just to make the day special since it's just her and not her and her 3 yr old sister. Also trying to think of a place where she would enjoy because it's more her age than her sister's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone else think Wonder Pets is awesome? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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love it, though the plot lines get repetitive over time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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the phone -- the phone is ringing!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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teamwork! [ Reply | More ]
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This is see-wee-ous! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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This. Is. Sewious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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i got sick of it. now the backyardigans is brilliant!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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totally love the backyardigans though today's episode scared my 2.5 yo a bit. love the music. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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the secret agent one? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:40 PM Flag
[ - ] what is with this site? i refresh and get posts in different orders every time? anyone else? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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you have it sorting by most active- click 'sort by recency' in the settings box, then save as default, then use myd efault [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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Select "sort by recency" on the right side. Click "save as default." Click "use my default." [ Reply | More ]
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you have to check sort by recency in your settings, then click on both save as default and use my default [ Reply | More ]
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op: thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:34 PM Flag
[ - ] I have ALWAYS had trouble breathing even during very mild exercise. Ever since I was a little kid. Was never overweight. Now, I'm trying to exercise every day and get into it more and it's making it really hard to exercise. I can't run more than a mile, not because I get tired, but because I can't catch my breath. Is this normal?? How can I exercise if I can't DO anything? TIA 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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this will get better as your heart gets stronger [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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what should I do to make my heart stronger? I need a plan! Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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This OR has no idea what it is that's the point you need to get a physical including heart and lung tests, breathing into that tube thingy and an EKG maybe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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cardio. but before you start you should see a doctor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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I think you're way overdue for a trip to the doctor! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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I go to the gyno for a physical exam every year, where they check my breathing and BP, blood test, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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Go to an internist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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OK thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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I would get a check up just in case but your breathing will prob get better as you work out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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you may have asthma or even allergy or exercise induced asthma. Please see a doctor about this before trying rigorous exercise. It might come down to an inhaler or something, but see a doctor. Trouble breathing is no joke. I had asthma as a kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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ITTTA, signed, MD mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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MD mom--could there be something wrong with me? I am afraid that I'm going to go to the doctor and they're going to say, you're out of shape, go exercise, suck it up. But I've been like this since I was very little. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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np: I'm not an MD, but it could be an issue with your heart. I'm not trying to be alarmist, but there could be something with one of the valves and whether it's allowing oxygenated blood to go backwards instead of forward to the rest of your body. It's probably not serious since you've been like this all of your life, but it could be something that could get worse if you don't get it checked. (I say this because my FIL who was very athletic suddenly had trouble exercising and it turned out to be a problem with a valve. It was fixed and he's back to normal. Granted, the dude's 70, but still better to have it checked out just for peace of mind.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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interesting... thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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except OP has had this her whole life... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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exercise induced asthma would be my guess, not a big deal, easy to diagnose. Get thee to a pulmonologist for pulm function testing. treat with an inhaler before excercise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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^^^MD mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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OK, what doctor do I go to? I have a CNM who I see yearly for pap smears, etc, but I don't have a regular doctor. The health plan at the university where I work has a drop in clinic for acute situations, but I feel like I need a GP, but I don't have one really... TIA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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Are you pacing yourself? Its not supposed to be an all-out sprint for 60 minutes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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no, no, I jog reallllly slowly so that I can go longer rather than faster [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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like 4 mph? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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yes, like that. Like a 12 minute mile, approx. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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That is 5 mph which is very fast for a beginning runner. Try 4.0 or even 3.5 and it will make a world of difference. BTDT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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OK, thanks. I honestly don't think I can run any slower than I do though... I am 6 feet tall and have very long legs and a long stride, if that makes a difference. I'll try to slow down, but you can only run so slowly! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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OP I am 6 feet tall too! I think our size really makes a difference when it comes to speed and endurance. Try brisk walking at 4.0 and alternate with mini "sprints" at 5.0 I bet your endurance is going to ramp way up in no time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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OK! Thanks! That's the kind of plan I need to try. Interesting, huh? I always feel like I'm working 2x as hard as everyone else just to move my lanky limbs. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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In my 41 years I have never had this conversation with another tall woman - it is so true! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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i'm just like you. my solution, if not the healthiest, is just not to do aerobic stuff that really does that to me. i walk, bike, but not the heavy aerobic speed/routes. i do yoga. frankly i feel like that's good enough [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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ITA that you should see a doctor about this. Very strange. You might also want to do some yoga that focuses on breathing. It's possible that you are just holding your breath during exercise. I have to consciously keep my breathing deep and even while exercising: four counts in, four counts out. When I have to go to three in, three out, that's the speed I want to keep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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OP I am very into yoga and do it several times a week in a class. I've gotten much stronger and more flexible, feel great, but I still can't do anything that involves aerobic activity for more than 10 minutes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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If your doctor doesn't take you seriously, find one that does. You should really get yourself checked out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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OK thanks. I will [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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you sound mildly asthmatic [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] stepmoms of teens? i need some advice 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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i'm a stepdaughter who became one as a teen, and all i can say is sorry. esp. if they're girls. but what advice do you need? i think it can sometimes work out great but tread lightly, don't try to be too good friends, but be open to them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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and never, ever play yourself against them with their dad. sorry, all this is unsolicited. what is it you wanted advice about [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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oh, dh and i present a united front. but, you know. the childrearign is never equal and i tend to be the bad guy [ Reply | More ]
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i need advice making a 'pact' of sorts abotu consistency with exdw [ Reply | More ]
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ohhh, you mean discipline-wise? hmm, i have no experience with that. do you get along with her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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i have no problems with her. we're not chummy, nor is she someone i would be friends with, but she's not crazy or anything. wants the best for dd in both households, knows that dd can be irresponsible. she's a fair woman [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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i guess i'd agree with your dh on what you want the plan to be from your perspective, then talk with her about it openly, listen to her ideas, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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i almost feel like i need to speak directly with her-- i am a little weary of feelign like a 5th wheel when i am co-raising her dd. maybe this is just a power thing on my part, but it's she and i who are doing the work [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:39 PM Flag
[ - ] my mom thinks her role is to do everything for everyone. she wipes my dd after she pees! (I put a stop to that today, she is 5 already). I ask her to at least give my kids a chance to try things on their own before doing everything for them. Its my childhood all over again, she used to do my homework for me unless I took it from her. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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does she cut your dad's meat? wow! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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no she's not like that with him, he was always very dominant and she struggled to be dominant herself so she never babied him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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interesting... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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Oh, just let her. She's grandma now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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we have the same mom. she still tells me what i should say to this person or that, as if i couldn't do it on my own, etc... i have very low self-esteem when by all outside measures i should have high, and i think this is one major cause. if your mom is w/ your dc's often, i'd talk to her too. if not, prob. no harm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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^^^cause of low self-esteem in that growing up (and still) i had someone tell me how to do everything as if i couldn't possibly figure it out on my own, or it would be the end of the world if i made a mistake trying. really sends a negative message to a kid imo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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that's why I want her to back off a bit and give them room to figure stuff out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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gl! (this would not work w/ my mom. old dog new tricks....) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Repost again (sorry, not used to new setup): Can anyone recommend an A/C cleaning company? I skipped it last year -- can't really do that again... 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 05.22.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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I bet any cleaning service would offer that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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OP: I think you need an A/C service team, don't you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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for central air yes, call any central air installer. for units lots of heavy duty cleaning services would do it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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Yes, I have units -- PACs, as opposed to window units [ Reply | More ]
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^^^PTACs -- the big room units that are permanent [ Reply | More ]
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We use Cottam heating and air for that purpose. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks. Tired of getting ripped off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Will this pillow (http://www.hableconstruction.com/shop/cart.php?target=product&product_id=17091&category_id=548) look okay on a white couch? (The pillow's background is "natural".) 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 05.22.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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This is at least your second post about a PILLOW! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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It's my second post! I waited a few hours before reposting (and since there's no more autofill, I changed the post!). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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$100? vba? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:53 PM Flag
[ - ] dd has been in speech therapy for 2yrs. we are stopping next week. we love speech therapist and she toldme yesterday that she is 6 weeks pregnant with twins. dd is a twin. i would like to get her a thank you present and something for her as a congrats on her pregnancy. i need ideas. tia. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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i would write her a nice note but i would be careful getting her something for her twins since she is still so early on.... maybe wait a few months and send something off her registry... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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i was just going to say that. signed, miscarriage mom. [ Reply | More ]
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op: i was not going to get anything for the twins. i wanted to get her something for her during the pregnancy. did anyone get anything, lotions, etc, that they liked and would recommend. sorry i was not more specific. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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how about a really great light weight decorative type of colorful funky scarf.....brings life to maternity clothes. Not so keen on lotions as gifts because smell is soooooo personal. Gift cert to Medical Massage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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Spa / pedicure gift certificate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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A personalized drawing from DD is the best, plus a gift card "for the babies." She can always use it for whatever no matter what happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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A beautiful set of personalized stationary [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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prenatal massage? gift certificate to a store to buy some maternity clothes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Did we discuss Denise Richards? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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I cannot believe how much child support she is getting. $52k a month! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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Plus $60K a month in alimony, but she's doing the show to support her family... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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She and Charlie deserved each other. They are both vile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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both tax free!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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no but the post had something on page 6 about her -- sheen said she gets about $55,000 a month in child support and that she's getting $65,000 a month in alimony for 10 years and that she gets a cut of his sitcom, which is said to be worth about $25 mil... (he also produces it, i think) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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TAX FREE!!! [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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np: That's actually quite a generous settlement considering they were married only 3 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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she's no saint, but i'm sure that he wasn't an easy one to be married to [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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ITA, but she knew that getting into it. It wasn't like he had been some saint that turned into a monster once married. Just saying that it's a good deal for a short marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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what about all those awful allegations she had made? any light on that? I always thought she was a twit, but I also remember his name had come up during the original Heidi Fleiss bust back in the 90's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
[ - ] How would you cope with 3 kids under 3? 1 + twins? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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plenty of xanax and some live-in help... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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I couldn't ever - that's why my 3 dcs are 25, 21 and 7 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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how old are they? i had three under three (no multiples though) and it was hard at first but got easier once we got into the hang of things. that being said, it takes a lot out of you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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Twins will be 3 and a newborn [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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^^so far it's been pretty manageable with the twins alone and I figure they'll hopefully be potty trained by 3 so maybe things wont be THAT bad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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This was me. Twins were 2.5 when the baby was born. I got live in help and I stay at home. It's been great but hectic. I thought one would be a breeze, compared to infant twins but it's been harder since managing toddlers is far more time consuming that a baby who sleeps most of the day. [ Reply | More ]
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my plan is to go back to work 2 days/week and have live-in help but still need some type of preschool for the twins [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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I would sell at least one on the black market. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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i would get help. gl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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good lord. just get through these first few years adn then it'll be fun & good. but for now, hard. hav ea cocktail and sit back [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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I just found out I'm pregnant with #3 - and I am already overwhelmed (my oldest will be 4). Can't imagien your scenario! [ Reply | More ]
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My oldest was 3.5 when I had my 3rd dc. Get help lined up. As long as you have a babysitter a couple afternoons a week and plan on having groceries delivered and use drugstore.com for toiletries you'll make it through. Really try to have everything setup so you don't need to go to the store ever. And forget about the kids' nutrition for the first year. just feed them what is easiest for you. you can get back to healthy food later. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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op dumb question here... were you alone the majority of the time with all 3 except for when your babysitter arrived or did the older 2 have school/activities to go to while you managed the baby? If the did have places to go, were you the one taking them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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I say to get a babysitter because I didnt and I think it would have helped a lot. The 3 yo was in preschool 3 mornings a week. Other than that it was just me and the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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you rock [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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^^I would highly recommend getting your twins into preschool at least a few mornings a week. They will like having a place to go where they don't have to deal with the baby. [ Reply | More ]
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good point [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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I know someone who had triplets when DD was 18, and she is the calmest person I have ever ever met. She said the first year of all four was mind numbing. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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18 months or 18 years? how hard (either way!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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1. a good double stroller with a toddler seat. 2. School every day for the 3 yos, at least one or two extended days. 3. afternoon/evening help to help with bedtime (ie dinner, bathsw, reading stories) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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any recommendations for the stroller? TIA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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I think th eonly one that does this is the ABC buggy.....you can also look at the Valco (sp)....I believe they have a toddler option...the one that sits on front is more stable. The MBUD was working on one, but might not have it yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:43 PM Flag
[ - ] First time car shopper here. Any thoughts re Toyota Sienna vs. Honda Odyssey? Also, what is considered "good" in terms of MPG? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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they're both about the same -- you just have to see who offers you a better deal... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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well, we just agonized over car purchase and ended up with a used prius and i have to say it was a good choice, get a hybrid if you can. you won't regret it, so so so so much better mileage and at this point with gas prices, not to mention the good for the earth thing, it's a good choice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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Thanks, I need to get a vehicle for both kid crap and also for gear on film shoots for work, so I think I need the space of a minivan. But I definitely do want to get the best mileage possible... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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