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[ - ] I purchased a refurbished MacBook in 2011 and it died a month ago, I'm using an old HP and not loving it. Is it true some MacBooks are better than others depending on the year? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 11:46 PM Flag
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I just texted a family member who used to repair MacBooks. She replied, "Yes, absolutely it makes a difference!" But she doesn't remember which years or model types are the better ones. She suggested you Google for that, or else ask about it on a message board for Mac computers/Apple products. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 12:17 AM Flag
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Oh wow, thank you for asking your friend! I will look up the Mac forums. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 03:09 AM Flag
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I have a 2011 MacBook, yes they are better and last longer but the problem is that these MacBooks already reached end of life. The last os update was high Sierra 2 years ago [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 12:17 AM Flag
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That MacBook had a long good life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 12:33 AM Flag
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It’ll be missed for sure. It died when dd was doing a math program online: it couldn’t take the elementary school math I guess! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 03:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Design moms: I have a bunch of artwork at home, most are watercolors or prints, nothing expensive but they're meaningful to me. Problem - two large watercolors (by same artists, similar style) are in light frames with white matting, most of the rest are black frames with black matting. So they don't look good arranged together. How to solve? Should I go all light with white mats? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:16 PM Flag
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^op - cont- I guess white matting gives an option for frames too, eg I could have bronze and different colors? while still maintaining a cohesive look...? On the other hand the black matting/background looks dramatic and really makes some of those colors pop :/ Please help! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:17 PM Flag
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What color are your walls? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:19 PM Flag
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op - walls are a super light greyish/coffee kinda color, maybe greyish white? but we plan to move house next year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:32 PM Flag
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Since you are moving next year, I’d live with them in the less-than-ideal state they are in now. You never know if you may regroup in your new space. I’d be annoyed to redo it again in a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 11:38 PM Flag
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Switch to white. Only do white mats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:28 PM Flag
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op - what color frames? should I have all matching/same frames or does it look better to mix it up a bit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:32 PM Flag
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op cont - if I remember right my frames are all from Ikea. But I need to get at least one painting custom-framed since it's an odd shape [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:33 PM Flag
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if you are trying to save money you can get a custom mat that will fit your art, sized for a standard frame size. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 01:09 AM Flag
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op - also, I have a 2019 calender with cute square impressionist pictures. Is it super tacky to cut out some of the pictures, frame them and hang them somewhere private eg a bathroom? how about entry hallway? or kiddo's room? (he's 3 and likes impressionist art and we've got a few books on artists) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:35 PM Flag
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of course it's not tacky. Seriously, put up the pictures you like. It's your house! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:39 PM Flag
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NP- agree! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 11:34 PM Flag
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I used to rip out magazine images and just tape them to the walls, when I was young and stupid. Once a friend came over, noticed this, and I said I know how tacky this is. She said, "It's not tacky, it's tapey. "Worth the embarrassment just to hear that line. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 01:35 AM Flag
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I'm doing this with a book of a photographer i like. His work is 8k a picture and Im not ready to spend that much. So one 30 buck book and 4 frames, and I'm happy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 01:37 AM Flag
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a thin wood frame with white matting would also look good without being too matchy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 11:01 PM Flag
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Keep mats same, different frames prob better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 07:18 AM Flag
[ - ] With really young kids, the only problems I saw as the "poor mom" are 1) not having money to go to events with classmates, 2) being embarrassed if your kiddo goes to a birthday party where the gifts get opened in front of guests, and 3) never being able to reciprocate invites your child receives. As they get older, it's more things like the kids insisting their friends always have food, and you don't. Even though you do have food, so that feels frustrating. There's this part where DC went from thinking it was awesome to sleep in the living room, to being embarrassed, to develop an apathy because it said nothing about her and everything about me. When really little, it's just believed when I said there wasn't money for that. Maybe I'd get told about the money in a piggy bank or told we should get a lemonade stand. By a later age, there would be bargaining. (How about I don't do a,b, or c so there's money for that?) Eventually, my protest would be dismissed, and I'd get told it didn't matter that I didn't have money because I never had money, and whatever was wanted would be again asked for. It was like this weird mix of entitlement for stuff and disdain towards me developed. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:14 PM Flag
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I hope this post puts in perspective the people who think that a $650K HHI makes them "poor." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:17 PM Flag
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Op: I'm not poor, either. I understand what she's saying. It's "poor," and not poor. My kids think we're poor, and we're only lower middle class. She's upper middle class but knows her kids may be considered poor by their classmates someday, because there's a big difference between being a top income for the USA, and the top 1% of a high cost of living area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:32 PM Flag
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Are you talking about your personal situation? I was the "poor" kid in private. Have you tried straight out telling your kid that they don't have to be in private school, to get exposed to stuff they can't afford. That if it was such a problem for them, maybe they'd be better off in public. That was the implicit threat my parents had over me. I knew it, and I never asked for anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:26 PM Flag
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That's an odd threat. Did you ever say, "Sure! Put me in public, where I can be normal!" Sounds like your parents were misguided. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 01:44 AM Flag
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NP: What's wrong with being exposed to what you can't afford? I found it motivating. It gave me a glimpse of a different life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 02:29 AM Flag
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As a poor kid (on food stamps/in welfare housing), I struggled but there were always kids worse off than us. We were able to double up with other families to stay in housing. NYC has loads of kids in shelters--are your kids in a shelter? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 11:51 PM Flag
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I was the poor kid in with the rich kids. Their summers were spent in tennis camp, mine working at some shit job. However, my parents made it a point that what these kids had wasn't theirs...it was what their parents had given them, and that work ethic counted for much more than sports camp. I've gone on to be in the top 10% in net worth in the U.S. I hope my peers did well, but I did it on my own coming from far less than they. Your kids will adopt your attitude. If you're embarasssed, they'll be embarassed. If you are proud of who you are, and not what you own, they will be the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 02:29 AM Flag
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This......my dc is at a private and we’re poor (upper middle class); we have had none of these problems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 02:53 AM Flag
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Poor? Choke sputter cough... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 10:22 PM Flag
[ - ] what age does a reward chart work? DS is 2.5, I want him to pick up toys - if promised a sticker he'll do about 5min before losing steam, I need to keep reminding him and even then he gets distracted and starts playing with the toys. Sometimes sticker doesn't motivate him much either so I offer a dried fruit. I'm thinking of getting a toddler timer so we can play "beat the clock" - any other suggestions? What's worked for you? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:10 PM Flag
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I think you're overly ambitious for a 2 yo boy. Five minutes of cleaning up is more than you can expect of....a 12 year old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:16 PM Flag
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At my kids' daycare they sang a cleanup song when it was time to put stuff away. It worked for us at home too (we would do it with them at first, just so they got into the habit). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:19 PM Flag
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At that age, songs and games worked better for DCs than rewards. We had great success with that horrifying Barney clean-up song. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:36 PM Flag
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For room cleaning up I think you need to give them enough time to do it at their speed. The goal is that she cleans up before getting to do something fun, but it is not a race. I say this as a parent of a 5 year old, and I only have cleaned up after her if she is sick. Of course, I do a deep clean or organize the closets and drawers every few weeks, but don’t let her see me doing it. As far as she knows, if she doesn’t clean up her toys it means she doesn’t value them and we will donate them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 11:20 PM Flag
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He's 2. Sing the clean up song. Whatever he has out should not take more than singing the clean up song a couple of times, or else it is too much for a 2 yr old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 02:16 AM Flag
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We used the clean up song and the teamwork song from wonderpets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 02:24 AM Flag
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This. Clean up several times a day, before each nap and meal, at least. Clean up only takes a minute unless you let DC take all of the toys out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 08:37 AM Flag
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At that age I usually cleaned up with him, using whatever was planned next as a motivator: "After we clean up, we can read stories!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 02:20 AM Flag
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You’re nuts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 02:46 AM Flag
[ - ] parents with bunk beds - do your kids fight over top bunk etc? or are they happy with them? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:07 PM Flag
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Happy. 5 yr age difference so there was no question [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 01:30 AM Flag
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It was pretty simple. The older got the top bunk, mostly bc the younger was too small for the top and the older gets first choice in some things. eventually they got their own rooms and older has a regular twin bed and younger has a loft bed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 04:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Are the public schools in Scarsdale, Great Neck, and Rockland County worth moving for? How many kids are in each class? Is the curriculum more expansive than the NYC public school curriculum? Thank you for any insight. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:49 PM Flag
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First of all, Scarsdale/Great Neck and Rockland County are not comparable Second, you're not moving because they are better than the NYC public schools. They're not necessarily better and in many cases the NYC schools are better. You're moving because being in a particular town guarantees you a spot in these schools, whereas in NYC you are applying for the good schools and its a crap shoot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:53 PM Flag
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This. We are going to apply for older dc and if not happy, off to milburn we go! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 01:38 AM Flag
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Why are you mentioning two towns in two completely different areas and then an entire county? Scardale and great neck are indeed v good. What town in Rockland are you referring to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:56 PM Flag
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I don't know. A friend told me to look at Rockland County. What towns have good school systems? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:57 PM Flag
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homes in rockland are 50% less than scarsdale area. schools are good, but not intense like scarsdale. no train line to manhattan keeps realestate prices down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:00 PM Flag
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in rockland check out schools in clarkstown, peirmont/nyack, suffern and pearl river. they were all very good, not sure if things have changed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:02 PM Flag
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anything should be less intense than scarsdale. Clarkstown (new city) in rockland is one of the top school areas. maybe piermont too, think tappanzee school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:58 PM Flag
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I'm Asian (2nd gen), and my kids are biracial. If we were to move to suburbs, we'd look at Scarsdale/Larchmont/Rye. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:08 PM Flag
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Class sizes in Scarsdale in elementary school are capped at 22 from K to 3rd grade and 24 for 4th and 5th grades, but many classes have fewer children, I.e., fewer than 20. There are several levels of classes at Scarsdale High School, I.e., 5 different levels of math for Freshman. Also, there is a coordinated approach since it is one school system and the elementary schools follow similar curriculum leading to one middle school and one high school. In NYC, elementary schools do things very differently even in the same neighborhood and there is no coordination between middle schools or high schools so that the level of preparedness and course offerings between schools differs greatly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 11:50 PM Flag
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Spanish starting in 2nd grade. Lots of bells and whistles EC's. Nice facilities. Green space. Entire community buys into (demands?) a top education. More "forward looking" than other districts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 01:19 AM Flag
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^^Friends in elementary there have not had more that 18 kids in a class every year. ^^ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 01:21 AM Flag
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^^ Scarsdale Elementary Art Curriculum: Elementary Art Curriculum The elementary art curriculum focuses on integrating aesthetics, studio art, collaboration and art history in an engaging, creative, and imaginative environment. Many projects and discussions incorporate art with the classroom curriculum. Technology works seamlessly in supporting lessons through the use of SmartBoards, as well as desktop and laptop computers, chromebooks and iPads. The technology staff and computer room are also a resource for the art teachers and their program. Art history/aesthetic visual discussions make frequent use of projected images. Students observe and discuss various aspects of the images, such as color, space, line, and form; how these images make them feel; what they see; and what they like and dislike. Knowledge of the artists and the society they were part of also plays a role in students acquiring an understanding of art and the context in which it is created. Studio projects relate to concepts covered in the visual presentation and discussion. While students work on their studio projects images are displayed for continuous reference. Students have access to computers in the room to look up questions or other artists as they work. Elementary art teachers have designed a core group of subjects and artists for each grade, which creates a base curriculum that is consistent throughout the District. Building on that core of subjects, teachers include additional artists to enhance the core curriculum. The elementary art curriculum is shared with Middle School and High School teachers so they know what students have previously studied. Here is a summary of District-wide grade level core subjects as they are related to art history, aesthetics, and culture: Kindergarten: Africa and Wassily Kandinsky. First Grade: Cave art (prehistoric), Alexander Calder, and Henri Matisse. Second Grade: Landscapes (i.e Japanese gardens and scrolls, Chinese bamboo brush paintings, Western landscapes), Romare Bearden, Henri Rousseau. Third Grade: Architecture (comparing architecture from various cultures and time periods, i.e. palaces and sacred spaces from the East and the West), Antoni Gaudi, Louise Nevelson. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 01:26 AM Flag
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Frankly, the fact that Scarsdale provides this much detail about their curriculum should tell you alot: https://www.scarsdaleschools.k12.ny.us/Page/150 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 01:28 AM Flag
[ - ] Class gift question: if your dc has a head teacher, an assistant teacher, and a student teacher, how does your class allocate the class gift ? What percentage to each teacher ? And if there is a paraprofessional for one student, do all parents contribute towards her gift ? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:28 PM Flag
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what grade? type of school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:33 PM Flag
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Pre-k nyc public [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:35 PM Flag
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we received amounts from $10 a family up to $100. it was all over the place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:43 PM Flag
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My question is: how do class parents generally decide to “split” the money among the teachers ? Our class is proposing something I find extremely inequitable / unfair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:22 PM Flag
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what are they proposing? I would prob do 70% teacher 25 % asst 5% para and small flat dollar amount to student teacher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 11:04 PM Flag
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Basically they are proposing to give the assistant ( who is really involved and pretty much does almost the same job ) half of what they want to give the head teacher. Personally - I don’t get this at all, but I’m beginning to see that I’m in the minority. It’s a gift - I’m sure their salaries already reflect the difference in their job titles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 11:12 PM Flag
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I would not do half, but could split 60/40 if you thought asst was very good and involved [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 11:21 PM Flag
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NP: When my kids were in Pre K each family just gave the teachers their own gifts (no class parent/group gift), but we, and most people I spoke to, always gave the head teacher and assistant teacher(s) the same exact amount. A student or someone who is part time, of course, would get less. Sure, the Head teacher has more responsibility in terms of being charge of curriculum, dealing with the school administration, etc., but as PP said, that's already reflected in their income. In terms of day to day in the classroom and interaction with the kids and the parents, it's pretty much all equal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 11:27 PM Flag
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Not in the same situation, but I would do 60/40 to the head and assistant teacher, and nothing to the student teacher or paraprofessional (the latter of whom I would think would be taken care of by the student s/he is assisting). If you really wanted to be nice to the student teacher, maybe something like $25 off of the top for him/her and then the 60/40 distribution of what remains. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:05 PM Flag
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Thank you, I am inclined to agree about the para professional, however in the spirit of the holiday I’m ok with giving her something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:24 PM Flag
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NP: In my experience, most paras really do interact with all the kids (depending on their own student's specific needs) and are seen by the kids as another authority figure in the room, so definitely nice to acknowledge them even though they're not necessarily there for your own kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 11:05 PM Flag
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+1 most para end up by helping the other children too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 11:06 PM Flag
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I would split it 70% - 30% giving the para $25 gift card. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:32 PM Flag
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Op: nothing for the student teacher ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 11:00 PM Flag
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np; very little for student teacher. often they are only their for 8 weeks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 11:02 PM Flag
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This one is there for the rest of the year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 11:10 PM Flag
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really, the same student teacher. that seems unusual. I thought they were often assigned 8 weeks to fufill their graduation requirements [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 11:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Is the resale market for condos in Brooklyn as terrible as I am hearing it is ? Considering putting a 1BR on the market this spring, sell it or continue to rent it out ? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:25 PM Flag
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this depends on specifics - neighborhood, quality of the apartment, size, etc... Williamsburg is doing great right now for instance as is Clinton Hill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 12:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Tipping question - I have a pilates instructor who is an independent contractor at a studio so I pay her directly. Am I supposed to give her a Christmas tip and, if so, how much? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:05 PM Flag
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No. Give her a candle or something small only if you want to express your appreciation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:17 PM Flag
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Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:25 PM Flag
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I would not. I don’t believe everyone I do business with deserves a Christmas “tip” from me. Teachers, and those who do a service for my building, sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Several months ago I had a falling out with my sibling. We have always had a rocky relationship and after many, many years I am just done with all of the drama. I am sad we have not spoken but I actually feel relieved. She just reached out to me recently to let me know my niece had minor surgery and followed it up with the niece would like to hear from me and my dc's. We will give niece a call but I really don't want to deal with sibling who I will need to go through to speak to her. Best way to get handle that quickly and without incident? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:05 PM Flag
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How old is niece? Does she have her own phone? If so, call her! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:08 PM Flag
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Just 7 and does not have her own phone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:08 PM Flag
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My own communication with my sibling is extremely attenuated, but, yes, you should take the High Road. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:10 PM Flag
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Yes, you need to call. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:20 PM Flag
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Have your DC's initiate the call. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:36 PM Flag
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+1. Just have your child call and ask to speak to her cousin. After they are done talking, you take the phone and speak to your niece then tell her you love her and hang up when the conversation is done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:00 PM Flag
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But does she really love her? Seems like not enough to be willing to deal with her mother. Not flaming, just saying is that genuine? My father and his sister didn't speak for 10 years. I was really hurt that my aunt would allow my father to get in the way of our relationship. An aunt that really loved me, or so I thought, would have fought for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:20 PM Flag
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Who cares? When it comes to kids, we tell them what they need to hear to feel safe, secure, and loved. If you can't do something that simple... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:39 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:00 PM Flag
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You say you are done with all the drama so don't get sucked back in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:44 PM Flag
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This is a very controlling move on your sibling’s part. If you don’t call you look like the bad guy. She’s pulling you back into the drama and using her kids to do it. I recommend sending a card, you can send her get well wishes without having to engage with your sibling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:59 PM Flag
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Or, she’s reaching out to get in touch. She making the first move. He kid misses her cousins. Why assume her intentions are bad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 11:02 PM Flag
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FaceTime with your kids sitting next to you so you can do a group call. Keep it fun, kid friendly, brief, polite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 03:29 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anybody else get zits on their neck? I do and nothing seems to help. My face is fine its just my neck that gets big ugly zits that take forever to heal and fade. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:02 PM Flag
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Have you tried something like this? Works great for my teen kid. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B075QNC39Q/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:04 PM Flag
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I second "pimple patches" I use them on my neck too. Look for reviews that say you can wear during the day and are invisible. I use "mighty patch" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:32 PM Flag
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I'm 42 and used to get huge ones on my jawline and around my ears but they've gone away in the last year or so since I have been taking supplements for hormone balancing. I think they must have helped. You might have do some investigative work. could be hormones, some gut thing (try a probiotic?), or maybe your scarf or coat is irritating the skin there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:37 PM Flag
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What supplements do you take? Is it your OB/gyn or GP that you see for it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:45 PM Flag
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Usually the jawline/below the ear ones are hormonal. You may need a prescription for spironolactone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone get an interview at Regis? I saw they had more Reach kids pass than ever before 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:42 PM Flag
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Generally 15 or so REACH kids matriculate at Regis each year out of a class of 135. So plenty of room for other kids as well. REACH is an amazing program and produces some really successful students. It should be used as a model to increase minority student enrollment at SHS and privates. Three years of intensive prep to make students ready to succeed in challenging high schools is better than just lowering the standards at the high school selection time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 12:32 AM Flag
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My son is a freshman and there are about 20. Most ever I think. It’s great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 12:46 AM Flag
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^ and I agree - these kids were not let in with lower standards. They’re equal to other kids in ability and possibly much more hard working. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 12:47 AM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 01:15 AM Flag
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How do you find out how many / who are the REACH kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 01:06 AM Flag
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Regis publicizes the program and announces each year how many REACH graduates have matriculated at Regis. The program also reports its placement at other schools. In terms of who were REACH kids, that is up to each kid whether he wants to tell people. Some of the graduates are quite happy to publish testimonials [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 03:29 AM Flag
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Why would you need to know who? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 07:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Our daughter started preschool this year, and the school is okay, but we feel that many things could be better. So we applied to a few other schools for next year, but won't know the admissions results until the end of February, as they are all ISAAGNY schools. The current school is sending out re-enrollment contracts in January. What do people usually do in this situation? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:31 PM Flag
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I’ve taken the chance to not pay and hoped that if I wanted a spot at current school there would be one. It’s really whatever you are comfortable with [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:19 PM Flag
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Thank you! Yes, that's what I think we will do! Did it work out well for you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:38 PM Flag
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Yes, we got into the other school. Also, I’m pretty sure they would have had room for us [ Reply | More ]
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There's so much going on here that you need to process. Why don't you like your current Preschool? Will the others really be better? They're all kind of the same (yes, I mean even from Epispocal down to Washington Market). Are you planning on applying for private kindergarten? You really need your preschool's support... if you are telling them you don't like it and end up staying, then you are at the bottom of their list when applying out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:54 PM Flag
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This. Really, its all play and learning. Unless your issue is a safety one, stay where you are [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 01:32 AM Flag
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Well, I only applied to one other preschool and they sort of, unofficially conveyed that my DC would get in. So I let re-enrollment contract sit, until I heard from that school. Little bit stressful, but it worked out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 01:28 AM Flag
[ - ] xmas gift help: my son is a college freshman, lives in a dorm. other than useful gifts (clothes, etc) i'm having a hard time figuring out what to get him, especially as there is zero extra space in his room. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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Gift cards? itunes, amazon, restaurants near him: chipotle, subway, starbucks, etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:24 PM Flag
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OR: I thought of that but he's actually fine for money (for a variety of reasons). its like, here's a gift of me paying for something that i already pay for, in some ways. a local restaurant might be appreciated, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:26 PM Flag
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Concentrated laundry detergent and a roll of quarters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:30 PM Flag
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Tuition payment for spring semester! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:30 PM Flag
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already done (for next quarter) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:34 PM Flag
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Then xmas is settled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:06 PM Flag
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Since he appears to be fortunate enough to have everything he needs, why don't you just ask him? We don't know his personality or tastes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:35 PM Flag
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believe me, I have. i guess i am remembering that when i was in college my mom was always good at giving me something that made me feel good. a cozy sweater or beautiful mug , just something that would become a bright spot in my day, and i really can't think of anything that he would experience the same way. but yes. its individual. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:39 PM Flag
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Is there some sort of spirts oriented experience near school, like a zip lining course? Or an Escape the Room thing he could do with his friends? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:51 PM Flag
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oh that's a good thought! I will look into that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:01 PM Flag
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good headphones. I teach college, and a lot of students seem to have those bluetooth ones that cost btw $200-1000. Over the ear, not earbuds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:37 PM Flag
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+1,000 and/or Noise Canceling headphones for studying [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 01:01 AM Flag
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OP: thanks, i had thought of this and then forgot it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 12:48 PM Flag
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Bake/cook him something. Good food is so scarce in college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:51 PM Flag
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Is there a concert or something he’d like to attend ? Maybe you could get tickets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:31 PM Flag
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my teen wants noise cancelling headphones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:42 PM Flag
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Don’t do it. Reall not safe to walk around hearing zero outside noise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 12:48 AM Flag
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Chocolate covered esspresso beans. Those things are the best treat during a late night study session. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 12:33 AM Flag
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I'm a little confused, isn't he going to be home for Christmas? Also, he doesn't have to bring all his possessions up to his dorm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 02:08 PM Flag
[ - ] S/o post below. I am not a Christian. Is it crazy for me to spend $300 on Christmas tree + $100 more on ornaments? lol 61 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:08 PM Flag
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Sure. It was a pagan thing anyway. Didn't become an popular Christmas symbol until around the time of Marin Luther. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:10 PM Flag
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^^Martin [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:10 PM Flag
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^^ and "a" popular thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:12 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks.. I read the Jewish OP below. I also belong to different religion but I always thought to have Christmas tree at home during Holidays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:14 PM Flag
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It's festive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:14 PM Flag
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np: i know a lot of non-christians that have them (and not just non-religious cultural christians). its fine if its what you want, but you may get questions from some people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:16 PM Flag
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Growing up my mom said they didn’t have a tree but a big painted branch they would decorate. It never ocurred to me to ask if it was a money thing or a foreign country thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:23 PM Flag
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Sure, it was originally a pagan thing, now it’s a Christian thing. Is OP a pagan, though? I think it’s a bit weird to have such a huge, expensive tree in this situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:49 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:52 PM Flag
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It’s an everywhere thing. The expense aside, if she wants one, she should just do it. What would be weird is to have a nativity in her yard or on her mantel. That is religious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 12:42 AM Flag
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I mean, that's a ton of money for a tree. I got mine for $65. How big is it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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good point. if its your first one maybe go on the smaller side so you don't also have to buy a zillion ornaments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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OP: I grew up liking Christmas tree. We never had one while growing up. I bought my first tree for $60 to keep it in my apartment. We moved to big house this year so I bought full size tree. It’s 7 feet tall and 63 in in diameter. My old tree was looking tiny in big living room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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np - I have a gorgeous 8ft tree in my house, paid $75 for it. What in the F kind of tree are you buying for $300. You are getting ripped off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:36 PM Flag
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OP: I am talking about pre lit artificial tree. I bought it from Bed bath and beyond. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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Ah. You could have specified. Well in my opinion that's even worse. (1) half the loveliness of a tree is the smell and real appearance and (2) that's a pretty cheap artificial tree and I'm guessing it doesn't look great. Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
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Np- I have always bought real trees but last year was the final straw. Every single needle fell off before Christmas. We’re still finding random needles a year later. Some friends (they’re empty nesters) were getting rid of their faux tree and we took it. It’s pre-lit and took less than 10 minutes to set up. DONE. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:16 PM Flag
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It's so much safer than real. You can get the oil to make it smell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:37 PM Flag
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I bought some Christmas pine/fir scent thingies you hang that I have received compliments on. I will not go back to a real tree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:42 PM Flag
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Weird flex. Who cares if OP's tree doesn't meet your standards of loveliness and smell, tree police. We are all very impressed with our clearly superior tree standards! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:54 PM Flag
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Ok, yeah, that's why everyone didn't understand. That's perfectly fine then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:37 PM Flag
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NP: That's still a lot of money for a 7 foot tree. But if you've got the money and don't mind overpaying, go for it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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Most artificial pre lit trees are in range of $200-$300.. Where do you find 8 feet tree for $75? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:44 PM Flag
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that is probably for a live tree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:46 PM Flag
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I'm the $75 poster. I wouldn't use an artificial tree. Mine is a real tree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:56 PM Flag
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I would not spend that much and I am Christian. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:50 PM Flag
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Tree seems very $$$, ornaments not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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Why not? Because you’re not Christian? Eh. How many peeps have a Buddha figurine and aren’t Buddhist? I say go for it. You’re not decorating a cross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:11 PM Flag
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A 7 foot Buddha statue? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:56 PM Flag
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I have a 7 foot menorah, and I’m not Jewish, I just think it’s festive and fun! It was very expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:02 PM Flag
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Neither am I; I spent $90 on a Whole Foods tree. It looks nice and smells nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:11 PM Flag
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$40 at Lowe's and the ornaments are the same every year, even if they cost $100 initially. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:35 PM Flag
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We called them a Hanukkah Bush. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:54 PM Flag
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Good price for an artificial pre-lit tree that height. And doesn't matter if you are Christian or not, if you like it and it makes you happy - have at it! Supremes have even said that Christmas is sufficiently secular, and I'm guessing the vast majority of people outside of the bible belt or religious communities celebrate Christmas because they just do, not because of the religious reasons. (Although of course there are the people who make birthday cakes for Jesus and have their kids sing to him on Christmas so... :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:57 PM Flag
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Wow, I’ve never heard of a birthday cake for Jesus, and I grew up catholic! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:10 PM Flag
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NP: my fundamentalist BIL and my sister do this. They don't do a tree or exchange gifts. Just a birthday party for Jesus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 08:24 PM Flag
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Those poor kids. I hope they escape when they get older [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 10:10 PM Flag
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Absolutely not, we're not christians either and celebrate it as a pagan tradition. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:19 PM Flag
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What other pagan traditions do you celebrate? Are you raising your kids to be pagans? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:27 PM Flag
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Np- Halloween! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:33 PM Flag
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Of course! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:41 PM Flag
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Easter is also a pagan tradition [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:34 PM Flag
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Not the Jesus bits, of course. The Spring bits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:41 PM Flag
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we celebrate Autumn Equinox too, it's my birthday [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:35 PM Flag
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I don't enforce any religion on my child, he's free to chose for himself. we're traditionally from a muslim country, he knows a lot about judaism, chritianity, and islam. he likes the mystical parts of all 3 but considers himself an atheist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:37 PM Flag
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Of course, if you don't "enforce" any religion (or participate in any religion) you get an atheist. (Also, in my experience, if you go to Catholic school in the 80s, FWIW.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:47 PM Flag
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and I don't have any problem with that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 10:54 PM Flag
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And neither do I. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 11:03 PM Flag
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I imagine there are a lot more agnostics than self professed atheists. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 11:27 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 12:14 AM Flag
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OR: I'm agnostic, suggested that DS might be one as well since he liked the mystical parts, he deliberately disagreed. [ Reply | More ]
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Is there mysticism in agnosticism? I imagine there can be to a degree, but agnosticism from my point of view is more about just not knowing. Atheism, on the other hand, is the affirmative view that there are no deities. [ Reply | More ]
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yes, you're right, I sometimes say I' an agnostic and sometimes a deist, know the difference but still claim both out of indecision as sometimes one feels the right one sometimes the other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 08:07 PM Flag
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does any of these apply to you? I mean what do you call yourself? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 08:08 PM Flag
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I'm agnostic. I'm not mystical nor do I subscribe to any belief system. I don't care about any of it really nor do I have any feelings about it. I like some of the stories and traditions for what they are...stories and traditions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 08:23 PM Flag
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exactly, they are just stories and traditions :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 09:40 PM Flag
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Is this a faux, pre-lit tree? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 01:03 AM Flag
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Not Christian either. Agreed, tree worship came from Teutonic pagan rituals that got incorporated into German Tannenbaum Xmas rituals. Decorating a tree is a way to appreciate nature and celebrate a winter festivity. My family saved all our ornaments (as girls, we crocheted some), and year after year we would acquire 1 or 2 during vacation or just because the decoration seemed worthy of the moment. So now the tree decorations are family memories which we drag out once a year to admire and remember, then put away until next time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 01:30 AM Flag
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I tried it both ways -- grew up in a Jewish family that did not celebrate Christmas (although Christmas was everywhere). My own Jewish family does Christmas (to an extent) with our Jewish extended family -- way more fun that way. What someone call "appropriation" on the earlier post, I call "melting pot". :) [ Reply | More ]
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It is crazy to spend this much, because it doesn't need to be this expensive. Religion of any kind has nothing to do with this. Your propensity for overpriced luxuries does. You can get a smaller tree and cheaper ornaments or just string some cheapo lights on your window. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 08:39 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a new friend I like a lot -- she invited me over for the first time to see her Christmas decorations, she is a Martha Stewart type, very elegant and into design and hosting. I am Jewish and have no experience with Christmas trees -- can I bring a beautiful ornament or do some people like to stick to their own decorations? Thanks for the help. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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I think she would welcome a nice ornament. I think few people want to stick entirely to their own old stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:02 PM Flag
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That would be lovely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:03 PM Flag
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If she is a Martha Stewart type...she will most likely prefer a nice box of chocolates than an ornament. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:05 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:36 PM Flag
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Bring wine, something edible, or a small plant - poinsettias are nice for this time of year. I find that people want to pick their own ornaments and/or have already received a zillion of them so are already cutting back on ones they don’t like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:32 PM Flag
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Agreed. Don't bring an ornament, unless you know her taste. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 02:10 AM Flag
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If someone specifically invited you over specifically to "see their Christmas decorations" I think bringing an ornament or decoration is a perfect idea. Everyone is different, but our tree is a collection of ornaments that we've gotten as gifts, things the kids made, ornaments we've gotten on various vacations over the years... so each one has a memory, and that's part of the joy of decorating the tree for us each year. If you can find something that reflects her interests or something you both have in common, that would be special too. [ Reply | More ]
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*used specifically twice. oops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:38 PM Flag
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I think it's a lovely thing to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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Bring her a driedel ornament. I would love it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:27 PM Flag
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If she’s like this, she probably has a specific color scheme for her ornaments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:47 PM Flag
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You are nice. No one is giving me anything for Christmas ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.19, 01:23 AM Flag
[ - ] Are the sober moms here? I was at a party had about 3 glasses of wine, i still feel like shit today, mostly from the loss if sleep. I just want to stop all together, but i keep going back because i feel lije a stick in the mud if i dont join in. I do realize no one gives a hoot. Drinking just kills me overall healthy feeling, why can i not remember that? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 07:48 PM Flag
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I have cut way back, but when I do occasionally drink it’s hard for me to remember that my tolerance is A LOT different than it used to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 07:53 PM Flag
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I used to be in the sober mom group here. but now I sometimes drink. would prefer to not drink at all but it is very hard to cut it out completely. can you go a month or two w out and then just have a glass or two? cut it off at 2 when you can [ Reply | More ]
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Really no one cares. My friend has slowly given up drinking. She just couldn't handle it anymore. As we age, it really is harder and harder to process. She drinks ice water or a selzer with lime or something at parties. No one says one word. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:03 PM Flag
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I am your friend. I am totally happy and not embarrassed to drink a Diet Coke at a bar or party. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:53 PM Flag
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Just stop at 2 glasses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:04 PM Flag
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Why not pick a non alcoholic drink like seltzer and lime or ginger ale and drink away? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:04 PM Flag
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I'm sober because I'm a bonafide alcoholic. I agree with the poster above though about aging and the creeping inability to process/tolerate alcohol. At some point I imagine you'll say enough is enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:08 PM Flag
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Because you're an alcoholic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:22 PM Flag
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Have you read the Naked Mind by Annie Grace? If you want to quit her book can likely get you there. I drank a bottle of wine daily for 25 years and the audiobook got me able to quit. worth a try. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:25 PM Flag
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agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:27 PM Flag
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I will give it a listen [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:31 PM Flag
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I find these authors capitalizing on issues that are very logical. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:31 PM Flag
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true but when you hear it broken down in a certain way, it makes an impact [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:37 PM Flag
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OR maybe but the book worked for me when nothing else did, so there’s that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 08:58 PM Flag
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totally [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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It's not just logic that Annie Grace presents though, it's a lot of science as well which people really eat up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.19, 09:28 PM Flag
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Me! Almost 3 years :-) I felt exactly as you do three years ago - and did a 100 day experiment. Never went back. It wasn't always easy at first but it was so worth it. I don't miss it at all now. People love Annie Grace's book, but there are SO many great resources out there - super inspiring. There's a book coming out soon by Laura McKowen called We are the Luckiest, that's supposed to be excellent. There are tons of bloggers and podcasts too - my favorite is the Bubble Hour. When I first stopped I read a lot of Belle's blog and website called: Tired of Thinking About Drinking. Stopping drinking was the best decision I ever made, and I don't think anyone would have said I had a "real problem" - I was just ... f'ing sick of it. [ Reply | More ]
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