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[ - ] it's not really fair that only alcoholics get free support groups every day 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Zzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
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They're so lucky. [ Reply | More ]
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You can rent out your local VA hall or church any time you want. [ Reply | More ]
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It’s not free. They pass a hat. [ Reply | More ]
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ok but it's one dollar [ Reply | More ]
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Isnt there a narc anon group for free? What group would you like to start? [ Reply | More ]
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a depression group, or annoyed by SIL group [ Reply | More ]
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emotionally abused adult children or spouses [ Reply | More ]
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Lots of people get that [ Reply | More ]
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where [ Reply | More ]
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everywhere [ Reply | More ]
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I go to a grief support group. It's free. Nothing about any of this is fair. You're too old to believe life is fair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:34 PM Flag
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You can start a support group for anything you like if you're willing to put the work in. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Is 7 years a big age gap? I’m 33, he’s 40, neither of us has kids so we’d be starting a family together. He just seems so much older than I am.... 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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LOL...ok [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:08 PM Flag
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Not at all. Maybe you are just immature [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe? [ Reply | More ]
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It shouldn't be, but at a certain point age becomes just a number, so if you feel he's already "old," you may want to keep looking. Find someone who's more aligned with your interests and energy no matter what his chronological age. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: He seems kind of low energy, but maybe he’s always been that way. [ Reply | More ]
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Is it Jeb Bush? [ Reply | More ]
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not an age thing then. i'm over 50 and have tons of energy and when i was younger i dated older and even much older men that had high levels of energy including a guy in his mid-40's that did triathons, and a 50 year old that went to the gym and was fantastic in bed. [ Reply | More ]
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DH and me have a 6 year gap. I love it. [ Reply | More ]
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Me and DH are 21 years apart. He has more energy than me. [ Reply | More ]
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Dh and I [ Reply | More ]
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Esl? [ Reply | More ]
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+1 I don't get it LOL [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Best Christmas gift for a 75 year old man. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Newspaper subscription [ Reply | More ]
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I'm getting my dad a wine club subscription. Done it before and he loved it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:10 PM Flag
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I turned 55 and joined the National Geographic wine Club. Runs about $700 a year if you accept all the shipments (quarterly at around $170 a pop) but I must say I've really enjoyed it. I've been ordering chardonnay at lunch for years not wanting to stray, and it's turned me on to a lot of other vintages at reasonable prices ($12-15) [ Reply | More ]
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Does he have a kindle? that you could set up so he could borrow books for free from library [ Reply | More ]
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A tombstone [ Reply | More ]
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A hooker [ Reply | More ]
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Viagra [ Reply | More ]
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Watergate Re-looked-at by Bindlesiff Buttekins [ Reply | More ]
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Depends [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Best place in NYC for a gift certificate for vegan or healthy food/desserts? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Vegan Divas, Candle 79 [ Reply | More ]
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I think both closed [ Reply | More ]
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because vegan food sucks [ Reply | More ]
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^I used to have to go to those places for work with my boss. Yuck. [ Reply | More ]
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Candle 79 is still OPEN. A great restaurant. [ Reply | More ]
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I don’t think candle 79 closed and it’s vegetarian. [ Reply | More ]
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same shit [ Reply | More ]
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Ugh [ Reply | More ]
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whole foods [ Reply | More ]
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Nix and dirt candy are upscale excellent vegetarian restaurants. [ Reply | More ]
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By Chloe . Food is great [ Reply | More ]
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+1000 most amazing food and desserts. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Stepmom here. Would you be ok if your Dh's 26 year old son lived in your basement temporarily? A great kid, but he doesn't appear to be looking for work and I'm worried this is going to be a long term thing. 85 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:01 PM Flag
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If it were your own kid would you allow it? Or are your own kids perfect? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:03 PM Flag
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Op I would allow it but would be much more insistent on my kid getting a job locally while they look for permanent work. That was the deal when we decided to let his son move in, but dh is not holding him to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:04 PM Flag
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The issue is with DH, not the DC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:07 PM Flag
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Op What's with the snark anyway? You're ok with an adult child living in your basement who does not seem in any hurry to be looking for a job? You would not be at all concerned? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:05 PM Flag
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You need to let DH deal with his kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:07 PM Flag
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Op I am letting him deal with it, but the problem is he isn't and this is my home too. I can't go into my own basement and I'm fine with that for a short period of time, but if this goes past 6 months it's going to be a real strain on our marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:12 PM Flag
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He is dealing with it, just not how you want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:17 PM Flag
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OP, do you work? [ Reply | More ]
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Op Yes. What does that have to do with anything?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:06 PM Flag
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It is relevant. And please do not complain about others' snark when you say this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:07 PM Flag
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Just wondering if he would be in your hair during the day if you were at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:08 PM Flag
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everybody asks on this board because if you aren't bringing in $$$ you don't get a say [in some people's minds] [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 04:23 AM Flag
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How old are you? [ Reply | More ]
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Op 48 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:33 PM Flag
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Would I be overjoyed? No. But I support my dc and I expect that you should treat this kid like your own. Fwiw my dc have a step parent and that parent treats them like they are bio kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:05 PM Flag
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Op This has nothing to do with not treating my stepson like my own kid! What parent wouldn't be concerned if their own child was living in their basement, going to work out at the gym every day with a personal trainer, not getting a job that they promised to get, plus has a dog and a cat that is living downstairs with him. I love my SS but this is a strain. I wanted to watch a movie downstairs today but we couldn't because he's down there with his girlfriend doing god knows what. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:09 PM Flag
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Of course that's all true but you specifically put it in the context of 'step' child, not regular dc. Fwiw my the stepparent of my dc does not preface any discussion like this with 'step'. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 01:18 AM Flag
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NP Give it a rest. She is being clear on this board because it will matter how people will answer. We can't tell her to tell her son to get himself a job because as a stepmom she can't do that without causing problems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 04:33 AM Flag
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Is his bedroom off the living room. I think you need to let your dd watch a movie with 8 of her best (and loudest) friends next weekend. Be clear with him that the movie room down there is communal space and you guys need it on the weekends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 04:32 AM Flag
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As long as there are no drugs, no hook ups, and an end date by which he moves out or starts paying rent. He does his own laundry, and if he joins the family for dinner, he helps with cooking or cleaning up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:05 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:08 PM Flag
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You want to control a 26 year old man this way. Of course he will have sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:14 PM Flag
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Op We have an 8 yo dd in our house. We wanted to let him know the pizza was here and I had to stop 8yo from going downstairs to tell him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:15 PM Flag
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because he was having sex? [ Reply | More ]
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Op They were in the bedroom and not answering. She wanted to go down and get them and I said no. [ Reply | More ]
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Does he have a lock to his door? Eek [ Reply | More ]
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^And is she loser trash? Tattoos? Does he have tattoos? [ Reply | More ]
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Op She has tattoos, yes. She's a nice girl though. We like her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:23 PM Flag
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I figured. None of my friends have tattoos and none live in their parents basement or date people who do. Does he have a degree? I think after Xmas DH needs to review the plan with him. He needs to check in on the job search and ask for contributions to the household forcing him to start driving for uber or working at walmart or something. [ Reply | More ]
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Op He has a degree. He's been given everything his entire life and I'm afraid he has no work ethic. Dh says he talks to him, but SS scoffs at the thought of getting a job. He rolls his eyes or snaps at his dad not to talk to him like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:29 PM Flag
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Op Yes..it's a bedroom in our house. It wasn't made for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:23 PM Flag
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If you want to have sex, get an apartment. What kind of loser trash girl would go home with a guy who lives in a basement of his parents? Not one you want around your kids. You're saving the woman by saying no overnight guests. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:16 PM Flag
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Op He doesn't even ask us. He just announces it the day before. Dh doesn't say no and I don't want to be the bad guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:32 PM Flag
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I'm surprised a girl wants to come over...do you live in a mansion? [ Reply | More ]
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Op No, but 9,000 sq feet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:53 PM Flag
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If house is that big then you don't need the basement. [ Reply | More ]
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Op We have a movie theatre and a gym that I would like to use. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 01:12 AM Flag
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^It's a drop down screen with a U shaped sofa type family room that we like to watch movies in. Not a movie theatre per se. Plus I store clothing down there and I feel awkward going down to get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 01:14 AM Flag
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I’d be fine with it. Let DH deal. [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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It’s fine, have a heart. [ Reply | More ]
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Op I'm having a heart. I'm allowing him to live here in my home. I said sure, no problem. There is no end date. He is not paying rent. He is not looking for a job. He cooks dinner occasionally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:10 PM Flag
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You sound like a peach. [ Reply | More ]
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Op You sound unable to relate to things outside of your realm. You probably don't have step kids or you don't have room for someone to move in with you so it's not something you would ever have to even think about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:14 PM Flag
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It was your choice to marry a man with kids. If you cant take the eat . . . [ Reply | More ]
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Op Adult children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:19 PM Flag
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I'd let him stay. But, I wouldn't let it disrupt our lives as much as I would if it was just a visit. For example, I wouldn't make my kids stay quiet until mid morning or afternoon. We'd eat what we eat etc and it would be up to step DC to adjust to us. [ Reply | More ]
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Op Of course I'm not going to kick him out, I'm just concerned and wondering what other people might say to dh or suggest. [ Reply | More ]
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The problem is you are not coming from a position of caring about the kid, rather caring about your basement, and DH likely realizes it. [ Reply | More ]
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Op I care very much about him, but he agreed to one thing and is doing another. [ Reply | More ]
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^and we may need to put our house on the market so I'm very worried about damage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:22 PM Flag
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I'm a step mom, mine's turning 24 soon. Honestly, I always make the mistake of trying to figure out what to say to DH, how to get him to see problem. I think it's better to STFU as much as possible. DH gets it isn't ideal. DH and step Doc's mom are 1000 times more worried than I am. I think you should be welcoming, live life. Easier said than done. [ Reply | More ]
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Op I am STFU. I'm venting here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:20 PM Flag
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There you go. But, you phrased it as a question. You shouldn't be shocked people answered as they did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:24 PM Flag
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Another stepmom. I agree. The messenger gets shot. Just make sure your finances are separate so there’s at least that boundary with DH parenting choices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:36 PM Flag
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Op Our finances are not separate. That would be very complicated after 10 years of marriage and seems bit aggressive to do now that his son has moved in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:43 PM Flag
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Imagine how this could go: step son doesn't move out, any time soon. He has bills to pay. Expensive like another car. Or he gets a girl pregnant. DH will pay. Which means that money isn't being used the way it could be if step son wasn't living in the basement again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 01:11 AM Flag
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Either OP is a troll or she is the architypical stepmother. [ Reply | More ]
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Op Oh yes, I'm just pure evil for being concerned about this. Why not just let him live here permanently? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:16 PM Flag
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Op You can't tell me you would not be annoyed. He promises to get a job then doesn't look. Sleeps until Noon, has an obnoxious dog that after 2 weeks had already caused about $1,000 worth of damage to our basement. I can only imagine what 6 months will look like. I can't go downstairs in our finished basement which is an extension of our home. He doesn't clean up after himself. Listen, I love the kid, but this is not what I was expecting his stay to be like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:18 PM Flag
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I would have a housekeeper clean it and he either needs to get a job to pay some rent or do chores for you/shopping/etc. And I would never have allowed a dog in my home. You are more tolerant than I. [ Reply | More ]
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Op We didn't know the dog well and had no idea that he was untrained. He has terrible separation anxiety when SS leaves the house and howls and barks at the basement door the entire time. The housekeeper does clean it but I don't now why he can't pick up after himself and do his own laundry. That was the deal as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:26 PM Flag
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So who does his laundry??? [ Reply | More ]
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Op Our housekeeper twice a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:30 PM Flag
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That shit needs to stop ASAP. Let him run out of clothes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:32 PM Flag
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wow, he'll definitely never leave. Sounds like a nice vacation. He doesn't even have to clean up after himself or do laundry!? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 01:03 AM Flag
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This, OP, I am 43, married with two kids, but would like to come vacation on my own in your basement. Sounds fantastic!!! No housekeeper for him. I suggest you sell your house and move to a much smaller house so that it doesn't have a basement paradise for him. I'm sorry. I wanted to quit college and move back home because I was unhappy and my mother said no way. So I do think tough love is a good thing but your dh has to be the one to do it. I'm sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 04:29 AM Flag
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Op His kids couldn't ask for a nicer stepmother. Why is there the assumption that I hate his kids or that I'm mean to them? I can love them and still be concerned and irritated about this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:31 PM Flag
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This board hates stepmothers. Try posting again without sharing that detail and see how different the replies are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:34 PM Flag
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Op Always the assumption the stepmother broke up the marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:41 PM Flag
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That. Also if there's anything wrong it's somehow the step mother's fault. Child misbehaves or is unhappy? Blame the step mother. Ex wife unhappy? Blame the step mother. Second marriage not pure bliss? Blame the step mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 01:16 AM Flag
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Stepmother here. But, it does change how you interact with someone if you are the mother who raised him or the women who married daddy when he was 10+ [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry, meant that for the reply below. [ Reply | More ]
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Did you post about this a while ago? Is this the one who wanted you to drive him to the train station or bus or something? [ Reply | More ]
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I remember that too [ Reply | More ]
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Op No [ Reply | More ]
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I would be fine with it. The most common living arrangement for 18 to mid-30s right now is with their parents. It sounds like there's some lack of communication between you and DH if you don't really know what Ss's plan is. [ Reply | More ]
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Only if he agrees to look for work. My DSC has bounced back a couple of times to get back on their feet. [ Reply | More ]
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Seduce him and tell DH. DH will get rid of him. [ Reply | More ]
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26, hm. Kinda sucks but I wouldn't say anything. That is your husband and his ex's long term disaster. Maintain boundaries. [ Reply | More ]
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were you the OW? [ Reply | More ]
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were you the OW? [ Reply | More ]
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My friends son finished law school , passed the bar and hung out in her big house for 5 years until he went to work. Beware. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 04:35 AM Flag
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These people responding are clueless. Don't do it. My older step brother sounds exactly the same. He moved in and pulled a lot of horrible stuff, not to mention loafing around, disrupting the house and it took forever for my parents to kick him out. It will not be temporarily. He wants a place to squat and do nothing, and act like a child. He is 26 ffs. Way too old for you to feel guilty about this. Say no. I would rather get a divorce than be forced into this situation. You will be tearing your hair out. It could end your marriage anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 07:24 AM Flag
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And I just read you have an 8 year old dd at home. Hell no! Def do not do this. I lived this life, but as the 8 year old. I am still traumatized. I won't go into details but why on earth you feel guilty for not letting a man heading towards age 30 crash for however long, is beyond me. Don't let these UB responses get into your head. UB does hate stepmothers. I would just say no, end of discussion. If Dh forced the issue I would leave him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 07:28 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone done a bullet journal? It looks cool, but will it be a lot of work? I need something new, as I am finding using my ipad/phone/etc are onerous. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Ouch. the Intro video killed me. How can that be efficient. I have been using 2Do for years. On my commute, I review my 2Do lists, reorganize, etc. On the commute home, I review again, make the list for the next days, reflect, etc. So on my commute to work I plan for the day, and on the commute home, I reflect on the day. Also meal plan and online shop during the commute. [ Reply | More ]
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What's a bullet journal? [ Reply | More ]
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written to do lists, some go OTT with beautiful content/drawings etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone on here ever been to a Scandinavian country for Spring Break? Wondering what the weather would be like in March. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Really? Wear a jacket idiot. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm going in May and am concerned about the same thing, since it's considered shoulder season. Also you need to think about hours of daylight then. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Describe a TT Christmas: 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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ASPEN: where the beer flows like wine. [ Reply | More ]
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True, but only if you own a house or stay at The Little Nell. [ Reply | More ]
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St. Barths....sunshine, swimsuits and fun! [ Reply | More ]
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St. Barth’s [ Reply | More ]
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Jinx! [ Reply | More ]
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Buy me a coke [ Reply | More ]
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Good TT feedback before x-mas eve. And a partridge in a pear tree. [ Reply | More ]
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Sana Fe [ Reply | More ]
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Gstaad [ Reply | More ]
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Christmas at home and leave for a fabulous vacation on 12/26. [ Reply | More ]
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On your own island [ Reply | More ]
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Christmas Eve at a family member’s place in town. Christmas Day at huge Park Ave co-op, then jet off to Aspen for four days of skiing, followed by a week in Barbados. Large tips for staff, bulding employees and garage men. Thoughtful gifts for family and year end donations for TT annual funds and alma matters. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How to turn a friendship into a romance? Help! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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There are literally 500 movies that show you [ Reply | More ]
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You don't. There is either chemistry or there isn't, unless you are a man than you have more control over suggesting a romance. If you are a women forget it. [ Reply | More ]
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I would think it would be the opposite. Why is it easier for a man? [ Reply | More ]
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PP Because a man who is interested in a women can suggest a more romantic relationship. Perhaps she's interested but is waiting for him to make the move. If you are a women and the man is not expressing romantic interest than he is simply not interested. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:02 PM Flag
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Watch every Hallmark movie that you can. Ask the Duchess of Cambridge, it worked out for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:09 PM Flag
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Sometimes you cannot [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:31 PM Flag
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BJ or quickie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 12:13 AM Flag
[ - ] Should I move to NYC from SF? I'm 6'2", in my mid 20s, software engineer, net worth of 20 million, and born upper middle class. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:52 PM Flag
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So many layers of Fake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:53 PM Flag
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Putin, get off of UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:02 PM Flag
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yes, NYC is best city to be single. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:53 PM Flag
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Sure. Do it tomorrow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:53 PM Flag
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No. It’s a tournament. I’d move to Maui [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:53 PM Flag
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Is it hard to be that tall as a woman? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:54 PM Flag
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op: I'm a man [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:56 PM Flag
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No your not. Your a troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:57 PM Flag
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ESL Mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:32 PM Flag
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why are you on UB? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:57 PM Flag
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op: I enjoy browsing anonymous forums [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:05 PM Flag
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NOT OK [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:35 PM Flag
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Do you have anything going for you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:58 PM Flag
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lol nerd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:58 PM Flag
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Yes, you will have women falling all over you here. Shallow, only wanting you for your money, but you'll have a good time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:59 PM Flag
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Female? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:05 PM Flag
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Cold weather alert. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:08 PM Flag
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are you gay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Help. Need to get my fashion-forward DH a 'fun' bag for work, etc. DH is in advertising at a very hip firm with hip clients. What do you think of this bag" https://www.mrporter.com/en-us/mens/thom_browne/two-tone-pebble-grain-leather-tote-bag/886255 Too corporate, or ok? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:52 PM Flag
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Yes, buy it. In fact, I'm worried his career will suffer if you don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:54 PM Flag
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Thanks for the feedback. I thought it was cute. I was here a few months ago asking abut tote charms for DH's tote bag and the moms here ripped me a new one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:59 PM Flag
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Wait, I thought you were joking. I can't tell anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:00 PM Flag
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That's a bag of a different color. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:09 PM Flag
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Isn’t it easier to just murder a penguin and stuff shit in its hollowed our body? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:00 PM Flag
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*out* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:01 PM Flag
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What's with the red, white, and blue penis on this thing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:03 PM Flag
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logo of the designer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:12 PM Flag
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If you buy him the bag and he likes the bag, you may as well start calling him Caitlyn now.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:04 PM Flag
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That really was uncalled for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:13 PM Flag
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You're cute when you're indignant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:20 PM Flag
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It was completley called for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:20 PM Flag
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I sooooooooo hope this is a joke, but I'm afraid it's not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:06 PM Flag
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It sounds like y'all ended up marrying accountants and lawyers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:15 PM Flag
[ - ] why are there so many fat nurses 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:48 PM Flag
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Stress. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:49 PM Flag
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Disfunctional health care system [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:50 PM Flag
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Lazy. They have all the CNs do the work [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:54 PM Flag
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Because it’s a 3rd tier profession and doesn’t attract ambitious people [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:52 PM Flag
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Notice the doctors are not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:56 PM Flag
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Nurse covers a range of jobs from some requiring only a little training after high school to a PHD. So, not always third tier. Some nurses make more money than some doctors make. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:07 PM Flag
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You are replying to a troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:10 PM Flag
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Long, irregular work hours [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:52 PM Flag
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Odd hours. [ Reply | More ]
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They like pie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:52 PM Flag
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Odd hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:53 PM Flag
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the same reason Dr. Zizmor has zits [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:54 PM Flag
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Night shift work leads to weight gain. Google [ Reply | More ]
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Hospital cafeteria food is delightful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:06 PM Flag
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Same reason there are so many fat patients [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:10 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:32 PM Flag
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Rescuers often ignore themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:13 PM Flag
[ - ] I posted before about someone who doesn’t pay the bills for professional services - the owner of a firm and I do contract work for him. He texted me with a new assignment and I responded by letting him know I need to be prepaid for my services and also asked what happened to the previous work I completed. He never responded. Did he think I am an idiot? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:46 PM Flag
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That's what you get for working for Trump. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:48 PM Flag
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Let’s not politicize everything. I have no idea what his political affiliation is, i don’t care either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:49 PM Flag
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Oh, sorry. I just assumed... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:51 PM Flag
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That is what you get for working for Jared. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:07 PM Flag
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Take him to Small Claims Court. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:10 PM Flag
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What's important is if you think you are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:12 PM Flag
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No, and I won’t do any work for him unless I get paid for the previous job, and I get prepaid for the current offer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:17 PM Flag
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Right answer. Stick to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Soon to be Ex H just announced he won’t be able to take or even see the DCs for 6 weeks. WTF!! 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Do we have the same ex DH? Mine does stuff like this. Fast forward a few years and now he wants more custody [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:57 PM Flag
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Mine complains he doesn’t see the DCs enough and then pulls this crap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:02 PM Flag
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How old are your DCs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:03 PM Flag
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5 and 7 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:07 PM Flag
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No wonder. Now they are out of the toddler stage and he can park them in front of the TV [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:12 PM Flag
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EXACTLY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 01:19 AM Flag
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So he pays more child support then? To cover the days he would have been feeding the kids, etc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:06 PM Flag
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I make more money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:13 PM Flag
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He should still have to pay X per day he doesn't take the kids. Get this enforced. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:17 PM Flag
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Doesn't work that way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:16 PM Flag
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That's exactly how child support works [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 12:02 AM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:12 PM Flag
[ - ] When I was younger, my mother was my worst bully, mainly because my father cheated on her and called her names (fat was one of them). I remember she would say things about me not being kissed when all my friends were, say that boys didn't like me, and that I was a failure because of my grades (most of the time she would disguise these insults in conversation. She would say these things so confidently and make up places were she heard it from. After we would fight, she would become a cuddly mom and I would feel loved. But quickly after we would have the most terrible fight again. The cycle continued over and over. For a long time I had body issues, self-esteem issues, and was overall an anxious person. Things are better now but I was wondering if anyone else had a similar experience... How are you doing now? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:36 PM Flag
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she's borderline. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:48 PM Flag
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She was probably gaslighted by her DH and took it out on the person lower on the totem pole, poor OP. This is really awful, but I think the real root cause of the problem is the father who poisoned the home. However the mother was bad too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:51 PM Flag
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This is me. I went no contact last year. Best decision I ever made. I’m still close to the rest of my family (2 brothers and a nice but passive father). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:53 PM Flag
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^^I was hospitalized for anorexia, by the way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:04 PM Flag
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You are describing my childhood with my mother. Loving at times but also undermining. Interestingly and similar to you, I had/have weight issues- was buliminic in high school- and anxiety. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:59 PM Flag
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#metoo. My mother was awful. She would say, when I was 10, “I was never as fat as you when I was your age”. It didn’t take me long though to fight back. Once I became about 13, she would say “I would never talk to my mother the way you talk to me” and I would say, “you would have if you had yourself as a mother”. It went on and on. Funny thing, I was the only sibling that could take her in. So when she starts up with me, I tell her to shut up or I’ll put her in a home. Once she was blathering at me and I put her in bed and took away her walker for a few hours so I could get Peace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:13 PM Flag
[ - ] If I go into Fairway UWS, on Monday night at 730 PM , or within 3 blocks of that store, would i find Nut Free cupcakes ? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 10:34 PM Flag
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IDK [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:06 PM Flag
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Yes - they have a whole section of packaged "school safe" cupcakes and cookies. It's on a shelving unit near the bakery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.11.17, 12:45 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone been to the Round Table at Nightingale with the Head of School. I didnt sign up for one, I wonder if this is bad that I didnt participate in one ? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Are there any left? Sign up ASAP. I prefer to attend things b cause I would rather know that I did everything I could and let the chips fall where they may. It may not help, but if they are choosing on the margins you never know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:03 PM Flag
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Do they fine you for not attending? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:15 PM Flag
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Np: No fine but it could be seen as a lack of interest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.17, 11:51 PM Flag
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